Well done for this. Don't mind that talkative with her PhD she still lack common sense.
Bravo

Daeylar:

Rubbish.
There are many people who are do not have a cordial relationship with their fathers due to how badly their fathers may have treated them and not because they were terrible children.
Not everyone subscribes to tolerating abuse and their abuser because "regardless of what your father might have done to you in the past. Your father remains your father" SMH
Some people are actually strong enough to break from from their abusers even if said abuser is their father.


Helen paul should just have said that she forgave her father for raping her mother and moved on. All the extra talk wasn't necessary. No one would have blamed her if she had chosen to hate him for what he did to her mum. Neither would it have made her a terrible child (if that is what she had been taught and that is what she feared)
Congrats on her degree

Daeylar:

Rubbish.
There are many people who are do not have a cordial relationship with their fathers due to how badly their fathers may have treated them and not because they were terrible children.
Not everyone subscribes to tolerating abuse and their abuser because "regardless of what your father might have done to you in the past. Your father remains your father" SMH
Some people are actually strong enough to break from from their abusers even if said abuser is their father.


Helen paul should just have said that she forgave her father for raping her mother and moved on. All the extra talk wasn't necessary. No one would have blamed her if she had chosen to hate him for what he did to her mum. Neither would it have made her a terrible child (if that is what she had been taught and that is what she feared)
Congrats on her degree

Great comment

AleAirHub:
Well done for this. Don't mind that talkative with her PhD she still lack common sense.
Bravo

Can you really blame her? When the society tolerates abuses and violence against women. And something is seriously wrong with our curriculum. Education is not just about the course of study, it's about progressing mentally and be able to see things for what they truly are.

When a PhD holder starts ranting about having a good relationship with her rapist father and any child for any reason who does not is a bad child. Come on, Helen, really? 100 shades of f! Up!

femi4:
It doesn't really matter. Both the product and the mum are affected in our society. People should be allowed to LET IT OUT and let others draw strength from their experience

I say it again, there is NOTHING new under the sun. Going public motivates others like her to know that they can be the BEST irrespective of their background

Well, if her intention is to inspire people who have similar experience, it was not properly channeled. The only thing she managed to do was to trivialize rape and stupidly call out others who may not be having a relationship with their own fathers.

A father is meant to protect and provide for their chidren, if they do the opposite, just being the sperm donor does not free them from accountability. And every victim has a right to choose whatever path they wish and their decision should be respected. They are not terrible. Helen in my humble opinion is the one with the problem.

PeacenLove2:


Well, if her intention is to inspire people who have similar experience, it was not properly channeled. The only thing she managed to do was to trivialize rape and stupidly call out others who may not be having a relationship with their own fathers.

A father is meant to protect and provide for their chidren, if they do the opposite, just being the sperm donor does not free them from accountability. And every victim has a right to choose whatever path they wish and their decision should be respected. They are not terrible. Helen in my humble opinion is the one with the problem.

It depends on how you see it. She preaches FORGIVENESS despite all.

You are one of the problems of the society, depression everywhere cos people can't LET IT OUT anymore.

FORGIVENESS is now seen as a sign of weakness

femi4:
It depends on how you see it. She preaches FORGIVENESS despite all.

You are one of the problems of the society, depression everywhere cos people can't LET IT OUT anymore.

FORGIVENESS is now seen as a sign of weakness

Nothing wrong with forgiveness, my dear. Forgiveness is not the same as tolerating bad and criminal acts, going further to call those who go a different direction is again an absolute disgrace.

You calling me the problem of the society is a sign of laziness on your part, quick to call others names just because things don't go your way. Grow up my friend. Once you misdiagnose a problem, you will be far away from the cure.

Bossjakande:
if d man apologies is okay cos we dont know wat mum do DAT led to rape.

Stupidity.... this is the most useless comment on this thread. You should be ashamed of yourself.

I just tire ooo. How I wish there is law that can really nail those behind child abuse I will be happy because maybe I for report someone from my family too.

PeacenLove2:


Can you really blame her? When the society tolerates abuses and violence against women. And something is seriously wrong with our curriculum. Education is not just about the course of study, it's about progressing mentally and be able to see things for what they truly are.

When a PhD holder starts ranting about having a good relationship with her rapist father and any child for any reason who does not is a bad child. Come on, Helen, really? 100 shades of f! Up!

MelaninGold:

Stupidity.... this is the most useless comment on this thread. You should be ashamed of yourself.

PeacenLove2:


Nothing wrong with forgiveness, my dear. Forgiveness is not the same as tolerating bad and criminal acts, going further to call those who go a different direction is again an absolute disgrace.

You calling me the problem of the society is a sign of laziness on your part, quick to call others names just because things don't go your way. Grow up my friend. Once you misdiagnose a problem, you will be far away from the cure.

How did she tolerate criminal act. Do you know Helen's age? Do you know whether the man had suffered or still suffering from what he did?

Don't just come here and write based on assumption. You are not in her shoe, you are not in her head.

She's found HEALING in forgiveness and that's the ultimate.

AleAirHub:
I just tire ooo. How I wish there is law that can really nail those behind child abuse I will be happy because maybe I for report someone from my family too.

There are laws o, my brother. They are just very weak.

The other big problem is the family themselves. They just pretty much want to settle privately and frustrate prosecution. It's a big challenge in this clime.

femi4:
How did she tolerate criminal act. Do you know Helen's age? Do you know whether the man had suffered or still suffering from what he did?

Don't just come here and write based on assumption. You are not in her shoe, you are not in her head.

She's found HEALING in forgiveness and that's the ultimate.

Now if that's her chosen path, it's okay. I respect that. What is not alright is her mentioning that those who choose not to toe her path are terrible children because no matter what their father is still their father.

You speak of depression, my friend. What Helen is selling up there is major cause of depression for thousands of victims who have been abused by close relatives, not seeing a clear way to break away from their abusers because they have been fed the crap that they are tied together for life no matter what. That is wrong. I really dont even care if Helen chooses to have her rapist dad babysit her young children. In saner climes, this man would be a registered sex offender. But just because he may have wept and said he was sorry, all should be forgiven and forgotten.

Rapists do it over and over again especially when there are no serious consequences. He will just weep again and say he is sorry at the end and everything will be fine and dandy.

Again, Helen may have found her healing, it's the belittling of other people's feeling that's not right. And of course, trivializing rape. Rape is not and will never be okay. Rapists who are remorseful must learn to carry their cross.

That's right.

You're right jor. Many of our parents & family members has really failed us during our upbringing. People that's suppose to serve as a guide end up turning to predator.
Wetin me suffered for those people hands eeeh. I will never allow my children to undergo that never.

PeacenLove2:


There are laws o, my brother. They are just very weak.

The other big problem is the family themselves. They just pretty much want to settle privately and frustrate prosecution. It's a big challenge in this clime.

Some things are better left unsaid.

AleAirHub:
You're right jor. Many of our parents & family members has really failed us during our upbringing. People that's suppose to serve as a guide end up turning to predator.
Wetin me suffered for those people hands eeeh. I will never allow my children to undergo that never.

Respect, man. Respect.

Some things are better left unsaid

Bossjakande:
if d man apologies is okay cos we dont know wat mum do DAT led to rape.

There should NEVER be an excuse for rape
Also apologizing for raping someone does not make the act more acceptable.
If a man apologizes after raping a lady/girl, the violation does not suddenly turn to mutual sexual consent between 2 people
RAPE IS RAPE!

PeacenLove2:


Now if that's her chosen path, it's okay. I respect that. What is not alright is her mentioning that those who choose not to toe her path are terrible children because no matter what their father is still their father.

You speak of depression, my friend. What Helen is selling up there is major cause of depression for thousands of victims who have been abused by close relatives, not seeing a clear way to break away from their abusers because they have been fed the crap that they are tied together for life no matter what. That is wrong. I really dont even care if Helen chooses to have her rapist dad babysit her young children. In saner climes, this man would be a registered sex offender. But just because he may have wept and said he was sorry, all should be forgiven and forgotten.

Rapists do it over and over again especially when there are no serious consequences. He will just weep again and say he is sorry at the end and everything will be fine and dandy.

Again, Helen may have found her healing, it's the belittling of other people's feeling that's not right. And of course, trivializing rape. Rape is not and will never be okay. Rapists who are remorseful must learn to carry their cross.

Helen Paul is not a truthful individual.

She said her family members mocked and called her a bastard. Many times she's said her mother single handedly brought her up. So obviously she doesn't even know where this so called father is. I can assure you of that.

She found no healing and infact feels blinding resentment towards the criminal who she never met. I remember how this short rat judged Stella Damasus then a widow about changing husbands like panties. Just as ruthlessly heartless as the criminal whose seed she came from

She may just be as criminally minded as her rapist dad. Her family members would not have called her a bastard if any one of them knew her dad. The criminal obviously raped her mum and fled, that's why she has that weird first name as a surname..

Stating that children who do not reconcile with their rapist dads is really appalling. Particularly because I am damn sure she doesn't even know hers let alone getting apologies from him

It's all BS and lies.Nobody wept, nobody apologised. This is damage control. She couldn't stand the bashing after she spewed her product of rape trash.

Just like others I see a super dumb individual and indeed wonder how she bagged a PhD.

Which way Nigeria?

Afonja007:
with your dry jokes,popularity wey you dey look for your rape story don help you getr more naa so rejoice

which of your familik members popular reach am....mumu

seunprodigy13:
which of your familik members popular reach am....mumu

Popular for spewing senseless trash. A bloody product of rape. Like father like daughter. Disgusting criminals.

vicben27:
l read this all through l never saw where she mentioned rape. please let's be mindful of how we Structure our topics

Right here on Nairaland we all read where she tagged herself a product of rape. Describing her father as a rapist. Maybe you missed it.

MelaninGold:

Stupidity.... this is the most useless comment on this thread. You should be ashamed of yourself.

He could be one of them you know. Imagine trying to justify rape.

MelaninGold:

Stupidity.... this is the most useless comment on this thread. You should be ashamed of yourself.

ignore

Deji63:


Popular for spewing senseless trash. A bloody product of rape. Like father like daughter. Disgusting criminals.

what av u made of ur life mumu 'product of noble birth'

seunprodigy13:
what av u made of ur life mumu 'product of noble birth'

I have at least not ruined the lives of my children by tagging them potential genetic rapists and criminals.

I also am not a 419 PhD holder with no sense who justifies rape in a desperate bid for damage control.


Double sure it was one very short armed robber that committed the crime and fled. That explains Helen Paul's repulsive height.

What I have made of my life is honourable. Being a disgusting product of rape is not one of them.

Deji63:


I have at least not ruined the lives of my children by tagging them potential genetic rapists and criminals.

I also am not a 419 PhD holder with no sense who justifies rape in a desperate bid for damage control.


Double sure it was one very short armed robber that committed the crime and fled. That explains Helen Paul's repulsive height.

What I have made of my life is honourable. Being a disgusting product of rape is not one of them.

you are talking trash as usual.... Who cares what u ve become.... Do you feed anybody here or Helen Paul.... Mtchew

God help you dear