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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by BYallthentic: 8:05am On Apr 22, 2019 |
It is well I was in a similar situation many years ago when I wanted to get married My family was not in support of me marrying my wife! I had to go on a 3-day fasting retreat and God spoke to me to go ahead! I did! Some members of my family grudgingly attended.! After the wedding I had to apply diplomacy, prayer and show of love to all members of my family (my family is quite large) Today we are living in peace and splendor There are other things I cannot say here about the outcome of the evil doers and tale-bearers originally pulling the strings of discord! As Kingdom beings we walk not by sight, feelings or emotions Shalom |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by jrusky(m): 8:07am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Possibly there are more to the issue I will say try as much as you can to really find out why I'm sure you will ends up understanding the reason that is my advise. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by fof1: 8:08am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: WHAT IS D PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE TO ACCEPT THAT ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE, WE HV DIFFERENT LEVELS OF STRENGTH. WHAT IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH ME OR U IS VERY POSSIBLE WITH OTHERS. ACCEPT IT OR KEEP QUIET FOREVER. A DEPRAVED SOCIETY WE ARE IN IS NOT COMPLETELY OURS. U BELIEVE OR NOT LIFE GOES ON. IT DOES NOT ALTER D BEST OF D TRUTH OF LIFE. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 8:09am On Apr 22, 2019 |
agabaI23: Ogbeni, i read d post very well. The Q i have for you is that why havent u tasted d kpekus for 7years ?? Dont give me any religious B.S |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by agabaI23(m): 8:18am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Budex40:He is not a dog. He is religious and it is against his faith to Bleep before wedding. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Psoul(m): 8:21am On Apr 22, 2019 |
This OP na guy man ooo....I don't even understand what he was trying to see. Tell us the issue u are having with ur popsy so that we can proffer better solution to u. This ur half baked story no make sense to me oo. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Ugosample(m): 8:26am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Olu20090: lmao they don't interfere my black arse how many igbo mother's are happy with their sons marrying Yoruba women I'm a Lagos kid, and I have seen this play out again again and again over the decades of my existence on planet earth. The family will throw spanner in the works if the Igbo man want to marry his Yoruba heartthrob It's even worse if the man is from anambra. so what are you saying? interference is an African patent palava 1 Like |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 8:26am On Apr 22, 2019 |
agabaI23: I think his Father has COGENT reasons for asking him to do that.... Let me tell u something , do u know that there are some ladies who dont have Vaginal Opening Infact, some have vaginal opening but no uterus. They dont menstruate. You'll never find them buying sanitary pads. if they strip naked , they look exactly like normal(hairy, clitoris, and fine shape) but when u want to chook preek, u'll b looking for the hole upandan. They'll b telling u no Sex until wedding cos they know u cant go back once u've married them..... So, OP take time to conduct thorough research on your G.F and also talk privately with your DAD. Trust me, these Old Men sabi wetin we no sabi. Nevertheless, ur Father might just have a hunch about the whole thing. Talk to him. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by adekaden(m): 8:49am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Dear OP, After reading your write up, I have two questions for: - are you richer than your dad? - I want to confirm if he has been controlling your life before now. Thank you |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Viking007(m): 8:51am On Apr 22, 2019 |
[s] Budex40:[/s]Long piece of crap. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Sam2310(m): 8:51am On Apr 22, 2019 |
tosyne2much:according to OP. She passed away last year February. Marriage26, na so ba? |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by megareal: 8:53am On Apr 22, 2019 |
ZIMDRILL:He skipped some link words but from my understanding, his mum passed away last year or previous. The first excuse was that he couldn't get married so soon after his Mum's death and he waited...... |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 8:55am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Viking007: OK |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by hustla(m): 8:55am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Marriage26: Lol. Your dad has low self esteem Sorry to say And you dated for 7 years without penising the girl? It's either you don't know how to knack and are hiding under the guise of religion or your manhood has issues ... Or you be 1minute man Lol Nawa |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Bluntemperor: 8:58am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Young man be careful.Its in your interest you have Parental blessings over your marriage Covenant as it's biblical.I have carefully read all the antics on this post,but you are dancing to those who will come to discuss your problems than solution.Even a mad man has a friend. For your marriage to be lasting let your father be,get his intimate friends to talk to him,it will surprise you his fears.what an elderly man sees while sitting down,a young man on ten storey building will not.i wish you well brother. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Conqueror89: 9:01am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Marriage26: I commend you for trying to break the family yoke/curse of paying a bride price before pregnancy, living together with your wife to be and attempting a wedding. When something good of this nature is about to happen the devil always come in with another game plan. Your father is been used as an antagonist against you' not his fault though'. Pray and fast bro. With GOD all things are possible. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Sam2310(m): 9:05am On Apr 22, 2019 |
hustla:maybe he dey knack other girls, come dey preserve the one he want marriage. But is possible say na virgin self which is not an offence. Here in North i stayed, u go see person dey preserve his finance for like 10 years self but e go dey knack olosho evertime, while the finance go dey busy dey cover her face with black veil abe na mask i go call am self. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 9:09am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Ugosample: I don't know or have ever met any Igbo man that want to marry a yoruba woman....never. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by maxiuc(m): 9:13am On Apr 22, 2019 |
HitSong:they guy absconded from his nysc assignment hehehehe Las Las everyone Na scam for naija 1 Like |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Ishilove: 9:18am On Apr 22, 2019 |
robosky02:Robosky02 |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Ugosample(m): 9:20am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Olu20090: you see what I am talking about? from this, you have proven that you will attempt to scuttle your son marriage if he wants to matty Yoruba and you say IGBO dey free on the subject matter lol if you were born and raised in Lagos (not that you immigrated from elsewhere ) you will know that such unions are very common I have Yoruba in law aplenty 1 Like |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 9:22am On Apr 22, 2019 |
This is what happens when you have a very possessive father. He thinks he owns you and can dictate who you should spend your life with and when. Some parents can make like so miserable for their children. When they push them to suicide, they'll start shedding crocodile tears. Oga follow your heart. Your dad will come around. Afterall i doubt his own parents restricted him this much. 1 Like |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Jessyjack(f): 9:23am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Marriage26: my dear, your father wants you to repeat an evil family pattern..... there's something he is not telling you.... I will advise you prayerfully go into this wedding arrangements because I have seen situations where people broke evil family patterns without enough backing via Prayers and they ended up not enjoying the marriage as they didn't live long or the marriage scattered for no reasonable reason or they began to experience serious financial problems after marriage that made them return to square one...... engage your father in a serious talk and ask him what is in family that makes people not to marry honorably.... then you can ask your pastor to join you in Prayers or any genuine pastor you know.... you should also tell your fiancee your family history so she will join you in Prayers...... speaking from experience o.... you can DM me if you want to.... |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by andycom(m): 9:31am On Apr 22, 2019 |
lonelydora: this is the problem with you guys, Bleep fathers blessing. what about orphans, who blesses them? All you need in this life is God's blessings that's all. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Donald3d(m): 9:39am On Apr 22, 2019 |
helpee: Thanks for your input Sir, but consider this : 1. There are people, who stay married for 20+ years but eventually divorce, take Jeff and his wife, the Amazon billionaire for example. 2. In some scenarios experience does not necessarily mean "experiencing what you would like to have", it can mean experiencing what you wouldn't like to have .What am I trying to say, take for example if you have seen Nigeria all your life and have lived in poverty but get a chance for an all expense paid trip and a good job, a good house to America, or a well developed country, wouldn't you jump at it ?.Or if you have lived in Ajegunle in a one bedroom apartment all your life but someone blesses you with a free duplex in a developed area of Lagos and a car wouldn't you take it . ? Bottom line, I see girls around, even on the internet.Its become considerably easy to differentiate from the bad,good,better and the best ones. 3.I have seen good and bad marriages around me all my life, I have seen the ones that have lasted and the ones that have broken off in a short while, I have weighed them all, closely monitored them, taken note of the ingredients that made the ones that stayed strong.I am not claiming to be all knowing, but a lot can be learnt by listening and observing to the things that happen around you .Experience they say is the best teacher, but what most people don't add to that saying is that the experiences does not necessarily have to be your own. My point is no matter how good or bad people are, marriages can still fail. The bottom line is that there are some key qualities one should look out for, that cannot be neglected. Once those qualities are present, both parties in the marriage should be ready to be committed to become better people everyday, be committed to making things work.As I said I am not all knowing, couple all those with God's grace and guidance, seeking His wisdom everyday you won't fail . 2 Likes |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Donald3d(m): 9:41am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Marriage26: I like that part, sometimes God gives us what we need to solve a problem, but we still "stress him", keep praying but you also have to act physically too as you said . Be strategic, be bold.Faith without works is dead |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by blesoh(f): 9:44am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Marriage26:If all efforts don't work out please go ahead, he will realize his mistake How can a father ask his son to impregnate someone's daughter 1 Like |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by blesoh(f): 9:45am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Emescot:Huh? |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Donald3d(m): 9:47am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Donjazzy12:As much as we should respect our fathers, the bible for a reason said we would leave our fathers and mothers and cleave to our wives. As experienced as fathers are their decision for YOUR life may not always be the best.They are humans too, they make mistakes. |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by ImaIma1(f): 9:52am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Donald3d: Marriage26 please go with this advice. Not all parents act in wisdom, they just act according to their selfish interests and try to show that they are boss. Forget all that getting father's blessings or whatever and elder sees sitting down nonsense. Sometimes they use it to manipulate their kids. Act like a man not a kid that is scared of his papa |
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by shaqur4(m): 10:08am On Apr 22, 2019 |
Olu20090: You don't know what you are saying most you bring tribal issue to your talk. Advise him stop saying rubish |
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