MiaB:
"Each time he get paid he'll always lie to mum that they've not pay them, he always appear pitiful"


Sit your mom down and tell her the truth

I agree with you.

All you need do is call your wonderful and hard working mum, not in your brother's presence though and let her realize the lie the guy is living.

Thereafter, wait for a feedback from your mum. What's the girl also doing fir a living? She can't become a leech on the woman too.

Think ahead of what other thing that brother of yours can do to add to his present job, or a new one outright.

All the best. Never allow the situation to become a tug of war between you and your brother!

You had better allow your mum to give help to anyone among you she chooses.

Shun the shit you are feeling now, because you are already hating and envying your brother.

Aplaudez:
I'll be as brief as possible, please pardon my errors!

It happened that my brother get married after impregnating this girl, and six months after the wedding the two parent of the girl died, so it's been my mum taking care of everything and we're fatherless too, the wife is a teacher in secondary school, but my bro Is managing In one hotel.

Each time he get paid he'll always lie to mum that they've not pay them, he always appear pitiful, always telling you about the weakness of his family, I'm just in my mid twenties with my National diploma awaiting to further my education by June, it's affecting the house, mum don't have time for we other siblings again, any money gotten is given to my brother and his wife, yet he'll come back and appear pitiful again!

Dear friends, please what can I do, it's affecting my mum, she doesn't ware better cloth yet she's a federal worker!

please help a friend!

you are in your mid twenty so you are not too young to start your home as well. Go and marry

Word. I have noticed the same thing myself.

Mrkumareze:
Leave them alone oh. First son and mothers seems to have spiritual oath .. there's nothing you can do to separate the two... ask others if you doubt the inseparable relationship existing btw mom n their 1st son

Dear friend, Please this matter is domestic in nature but since you have this facts concerning his source of income, your mother should call him to order and you guys,should talk about it... #JustSayingMyMind.

Aplaudez:
I'll be as brief as possible, please pardon my errors!

It happened that my brother get married after impregnating this girl, and six months after the wedding the two parent of the girl died, so it's been my mum taking care of everything and we're fatherless too, the wife is a teacher in secondary school, but my bro Is managing In one hotel.

Each time he get paid he'll always lie to mum that they've not pay them, he always appear pitiful, always telling you about the weakness of his family, I'm just in my mid twenties with my National diploma awaiting to further my education by June, it's affecting the house, mum don't have time for we other siblings again, any money gotten is given to my brother and his wife, yet he'll come back and appear pitiful again!

Dear friends, please what can I do, it's affecting my mum, she doesn't ware better cloth yet she's a federal worker!

please help a friend!

You're just in your mid twenties means you can't work? even teens are working and fending for themselves talkless of mid twenties you and your brother are not making your mum happy

Persuade your mother to stop rendering financial support to him. The truth is your mother is not helping him at all because he is being childish by asking your mom for money

Is his(your) mum complaining?

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Well said

Gforce2019:
Nah wah o! This marriage things don turn to complete fraud. I think it is high time EFCC start investigating people to know their motives of marriage....

So many wrong motive...
this innocent mother that suppose to be eating the fruits of her labor on his son... One olosho don dey use am as puppet against his family....

The lady wey go put undue burden on me after marrying her is not born....

We will either manage what we have or you Waka...

U no well I swear

lmao

Eze2000:


OP I have gone through this trend and seen all the answers to you. I'm a frist son too, though i lost my parents too early in life i have other relatives and trust me, the position of a first son carries weight you cannot begin to understand.l

Don't confront your elder brother, as some tell you as that could lead to big trouble if he sees it as disrespect (I don't tolerate that shit and I have 4 fully grown brothers one of whom is a top official in a big organization in Lagos and another is finishing his Ph.D. in London). Take this adive I have quoted above.

Cutting off your bother is not an opinion though. No mother will sit back and watch her first son suffer. Among many things, traditonally, he is her protector in her husband's home not the other sons. He should find a job and be a man

You have spoken like an experienced elder. Coming between mum and her first son will not end well for him, he is her light and his condition worries her and she will be praying that it gets better.

Despite losing your parents at an early age, you will still feel the presence of mum as a first son time to time and believe that the prayers she offered on your behalf as protecting and guiding you and your siblings, that's the kind of bond he doesn't understand.
Kudos sir.

Cheredeux:
My married jobless, or my jobless married elder brother. I think the later should go.

Seriously this guy is in need of advice not English teacher.

SexynSerious:
just check out his moniker. by their monikers you shall know them.

anyway, that's by the way. so beautiful thing, how are you doing yourself?

I'm good thanks, you ain't female?

iTearHerToto:
See my baby.. Where have you been?? It's been years

after snubbing my mentions today you finally responded. Or maybe i don't spell your moniker right. Why the wrong use of emoji

StarUp:


What do you know... A parent can be under a spell to use the child to drain him/her of hard earned money at old age...

To drain the parent of their money through sickness or accident and not through joblessness, right? I believe in spell but if you ask me I would say the guy does not have a job because their are millions of jobless people in Nigeria (although God can do wonders). And the mother have a benevolent heart,hence we could say the guy is taken advantage of that. The woman can choose to or not to give her son. That is why I believe mummy is not under spell.

all femme, my dear.

just as friends … nothing naughty

IdreamOfUnicorn:
I'm good thanks, you ain't female?

iTearHerToto:
Op is indirectly begging for money help. Nairalanders let's contribute and help a frustrated soul

shut that your trap!
You think that is an isolated case ba?

I have a similar case.

All these first born males of our generation are very lazy!
Waiting to Acquire property like they have leprosy and can't work!


Mtchewww!

If you hear My own what will you say then?

How much you Wan contribute self.. Mtchewww

The young man said, the thing is affecting his mom negatively despite her good job, but you no read that side.

Pst!

iTearHerToto:
See my baby.. Where have you been?? It's been years

i missed you. But truly are you SmellySperm

Op u can look for something to do n also help your brother to get a job if u can. It is not easy to be jobless n be asking n begging 4 money from anybody. I know how u feel but take it easy so dat it will not cause enmity btw u guys

yesloaded:

It will do him go if he could make use of this advice.

I learnt how to generate income for myself when I were just 16yrs, dad & mum very alive then taking good care of all my financial needs but I choose to be useful to myself.

Honestly, that's if he sees things from this angle or else it won't make a single sense to him. Youths (majority) are increasingly becoming lazy and less active when it comes to taking charge of their own life, they don't understand the abundant joy that accompanies bein able to pay your own bills by yourself even when you have willing and able parents to do that for you especially when you attain the mark 20.

SexynSerious:
all femme, my dear.
just as friends

oh no worries just checking, hope you're good

KingSatan:



FUNNY CAPTION!


SOME PEOPLE ACTUALLY CAME IN HERE THINKING ITS A CASE OF INCEST. LIKE HIS ELDER BROTHER IS HAVING SEX WITH THEIR MUM.

DON'T LIE.

You should see a psychologist.

My advice to you is this,
1. Tell ur mother that she is not helping him by taking the whole burden off ur brother. That she is rather aiding his joblessness and unseriousness by what she is doing. Any man that takes a woman home in marriage should be able to cater for his family.
Mum and relatives can support when he has issues but not being totally dependent. She should encourage him strongly to find something doing.
2. Let her know the consequences of neglecting the need for care and attention for her other children because her supposed first son brought home a woman he is not ready to cater for.

tnx. follow back pls

IdreamOfUnicorn:
oh no worries just checking, hope you're good

And how is that suppose to be your concern? The woman who gave birth to you is also your elder brother's mother. You are only envying the lady impregnated by your brother. I advise you mind your business before your elder brother will realise your role and give you the lesson of your life.

Must you expose and bring your family issue here. This is social media for God sake.

Aplaudez:



He later quit the hotel job due to the mumu reasons he gave mum! now he's jobless.

I just pray for you not to experience such when you are married. But the truth is that marriage consumes a lot of finance to the extent that over 80% of the employed ones struggle to match.

Go and double you hustling bro, your mum cannot meet her own personal need not to talk of the needs of you guys.

The earlier you realize this, the better.

iTearHerToto:
Op is indirectly begging for money help. Nairalanders let's contribute and help a frustrated soul

comments like this makes me wish for the dislike button.

StarUp:
Op, you want to hear the bitter truth? It's either your mum or your elder brother or the both of them are under a heavy spell. If you are a Christian, advise them to go for deliverance in a specialized church or prayer mountain... After you finish the spiritual aspect, then advise your elder brother to go look for a better job.

Rubbish