Dolphin01:

The sad truth is that you can't do without greeting your fellow human beings in this part of the world-Nigeria.
The challenge to scale through is how do you overcome the I-Don't-Want-Greet-People stuff.
You just have to eat that frog.
Let me give you a task...Tomorrow just muster courage and say 'good morning ' to your colleagues as you resume work....And tell us the feedback.
You can't do without greeting in most Nigerian cultures. Even to the extent that if a person farts,the person will be greeted.

fonzie2u:
I am an intovert to the core,i even avoid my family and friends. I just love being alone,i also dont really get angry or emotional cause things dnt get at me.

I am hardly on social media,i hide my status and pictures and comments and just love to be anonymous.I love my space,privacy and a quiet environment,i dont feel lonelyor bored even when i may need people.

In the office i relate with my co workers but maintain my private life,no gossips,complaints or abuse.

My colleague saw my certifications and ws surprised,because i dont show that i know.

I just love being in the background unnoticed.

QueenSekxy:

Definitely one of the above.
But then, even when I was little, I still had those characters.

It's too bad that people don't even know that I'm a daughter to a popular man in our society. Cos i avoid going out with my dad/mum so that i wont get to meet people or greet them.

QueenSekxy:

Woow. Thank you

UyaiIncomparabl:
You're very normal. I'm like that too.
I even hate seeing people around me or want to visit me because I feel they disturb my peace and it annoys me a lot.

I can even pretend not to see someone so I don't greet that person. I think I have mental issues.
Anyone who comes to oppose my point will be thrown into the fiery furnace.

QueenSekxy:

Greeting people has a way of connecting you with them or making them become friends with You, cos, they will always get to talk to you when greeting starts coming.
That's what I try to avoid.

QueenSekxy:
Goodmorning all.
Please, I have this character of avoiding people in real life. I avoid talking to people or even greeting people.
I'd prefer taking a longer path than meeting someone I know through a route that's closer to where I'm headed.
Last two week, I changed route from my normal routine path of reaching the destination of where I work cos, someone said I always pass him without greeting
I'm kind of worried cos it might affect me in the future.
I'd stay indoor and pretend to be sick rather than see a visitor at home.
How do I stop this? Thank you.

zynzyn:


You seem to have been hurt a lot by people!

Abcruz:


The bolded above is a very wrong mentality.
Being courteous is different from "familiarity".

I am also an introvert and I strongly value my space but whenever I come across people I always endeavor to exchange pleasantries. It doesn't make me big or small neither is it a free ticket of friendship to strangers.

Greeting is just an expression and nothing more. politeness and courteousness are priceless ingredients of an introvert learn it!

Dolphin01:

How far the task? ( I once greeted a White guy 'how far' on an online chat,he was like what is how far....I told him that is how we say hi in Nigeria.)
As a Warri guy,we grew up to like greeting,what we call 'hailing'.And it is all fun.Life is too short to be too serious and stay detached. If you see two Warri guys exchanging banters,it is all fun.
I really want you to overcome this challenge you are facing now.There is no problem without solution

UyaiIncomparabl:


Thanks for your prescription. How do I practice silence and thought management? Are there books to read on that?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Thanks for your prescription. How do I practice silence and thought management? Are there books to read on that?

QueenSekxy:

I'm trying. The advises have been of help.
Thanks alot.

MiddleSpot:



I've walked this road. You need to change your perspective about people. I. E that people aren't just troublemakers but come with blessings only a relationship can bring you in contact with.


It begins by confronting whatever happened in the past facing it and making peace with it. Forgiving is the door that leads to wholeness. This is how it's taught is psychiatry.


In a room alone or front of a mirror. Point your finger and begin to say to the situation like it's a person pointing your finger, saying you hurt me badly, you did this and this and that and it hurt me real bad. You really hurt me, open up all that transpired. Do this each time you feel introverted for some time. Shouldn't be more than 3 weeks if done right, multiple times. As your heart opens up, the situation should release its grip, freshness will come in and you can begin to walk a different path.


Environmental gmfactors also induces this. Jesus how I wish I can type to explain


If you can hide your number and give me a call, I want to say something.

BarrElChapo:
Hahahahahaha therapist you wan continue the counseling in private.

MiddleSpot:




Hey bra... you've been onto me...

BarrElChapo:
Nice moves tho #SmoothOperator

MiddleSpot:



Na ain't like that bro. Trust me I'm a patriot. Still have trouble struggling with the droves of ladies flocking me round at church. Some messages are better delivered in verbatim.. Aka voice call. Resolved a marriage headed for the rocks this week, it was via call... 30mins and both couples felt crisp after we all spoke. BTW its kunleweb here

BarrElChapo:
Oh you hahahaha. You ain't gonna kill me bro tell me what was the issue in the marriage ? I need some gist this evening.

P.S. how do you joggle multiple accounts on here with ease ?


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MiddleSpot:



Ah well


Mozilla


Safari

Chrome


You dig?


Well i should respect confidentiality. Rather we should. Just a years marriage dude was heartbroken, working on his papers to live the country and codedly ditch cause he wasn't getting closure and lacked the perks a romantic relations should provide. Well calmed him and spoke with wifey... And she just needed a third party to help her relax, monitor her own actions and what motivates them.introduce new routines and strategies to boost the energy levels in their relations. Open healthy pathway for them to communicate and operate a fam first relationship and that was it. God took control. They felt anew. And we parted ways.. Pitchikom

BarrElChapo:
you are cracking me up ... But why the pitchikom. I don dey suspect you. But I do wanna believe this story but you'd have to keep monitoring their progress right.. It can't be a one off thing ?

MiddleSpot:



The traveller only. Impacts and.. Ove on less he becomes an intruder. Pitchikom. Familiarity contaminates process many times. We must trust the sustainability of processes to people themselves, this way we can be healthy intercessors and not intruders, lest we become an additive, accessory and interfere in the healing and bonding process. It's going to kinda become a drag of they jump to me every now and then. Hence jumpstarting the gaps and pointing them. In the right direction is adequate to effect a change and induce lasting impact.



The moment I speak with people in issues like this, I disconnect and. Move. On. Otherwise needless attachment would form.

BarrElChapo:
Wooow woow, you have spoken well sire.. Nothing truer than this. So you do this often ? As in a career or just for something you developed yourself in?

MiddleSpot:



I do this often.


Okay lemme gist you. I was studying my bible some months back and I started to feel uneasy like I was flogged. So I left the pastors office in the church I just took a bus to no where stopped and in the course of trekking I saw what providence brought me out for... An accident occurred and instead of people helping Nigerians brought out camera phone to take photos. Trekking four buildings away I turned... Got a cab got him in. He fell. From a bike. The entire frontal face fell exposing the skull. Had to calm him. Still the blood gushing out, ran frantically, disturbing traffic from hospice to hospice. Bro I became an assistant surgeon thanks to my medical field exposure... It's along story. Story short he breathed his last breathe at the nick of time right when I dropped him on the hospital bed. He calls with cheers despite a distorted face.. Will try to make a social media campaign for a facial reconstruction surgery for him soon.


So we do these or rather should do this often as seeds of God... So it's a life essence for me. I developed myself into it.

MiddleSpot:



I do this often.


Okay lemme gist you. I was studying my bible some months back and I started to feel uneasy like I was flogged. So I left the pastors office in the church I just took a bus to no where stopped and in the course of trekking I saw what providence brought me out for... An accident occurred and instead of people helping Nigerians brought out camera phone to take photos. Trekking four buildings away I turned... Got a cab got him in. He fell. From a bike. The entire frontal face fell exposing the skull. Had to calm him. Still the blood gushing out, ran frantically, disturbing traffic from hospice to hospice. Bro I became an assistant surgeon thanks to my medical field exposure... It's along story. Story short he breathed his last breathe at the nick of time right when I dropped him on the hospital bed. He calls with cheers despite a distorted face.. Will try to make a social media campaign for a facial reconstruction surgery for him soon.


So we do these or rather should do this often as seeds of God... So it's a life essence for me. I developed myself into it.


I think of myself as God's physical body that reaches out to the world. This is our responsibility as Christians.

BarrElChapo:
Yeah. That's the essence of Christian ity 'Compassion'.. Without it would but utter nonsense

Seunosewawife:
I think you have to see a psychiatrist. This can only mean two things, either you're just an attention seeker or you have mental issues. I think I'll go for the latter.

MiddleSpot:



I read your thread. Do you know they say habits form by doing things repeatedly overtime for a period of 20days. Begin to let people win you in arguments voluntarily not proving your right.


Declutter your mind by changing the movies you watch and friends you hang out with


Stay away from controversial circumstances


Make new friends new company, do things differently. If you do this, mental flexibility will be developed and you can see people as they are right or wrong and accommodate them better


Finally, learn to be responsive not reactive. Wait till you hear the last word from people before you talk. Practice silence and thought management. Do not let your thoughts roam and rule you over.

MiddleSpot:



Sharp. What's up with you. Asari and. NK have been entertaining us. Buhari has stopped. Entertaining us for some time.