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tenmariner:
What made u settle for someone with so much age difference when u know quite Alright that your sexual urge lies on a hot grizzled male adult. Maybe u were trying to eat your cake and have if.

Thank God u admitted that u still look forward to repeating the se.x with your colleague which has totally defeated the rationale behind this post.

My advice: seek for a very remorseful divorce for the sake of your husband's good behavior towards u. Funny thing is that the so called colleague will kick your asss should u plan to have him for yourself... This scenario reminds me of the movie: confession of a marriage counsellor.

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

BlueAir:
not to me. It was 80/20 consolation /advice. A single statement can crash the validity of a story

mark2sunny:


Her husband has to forgive her first before God's forgiveness. That guilt will never go away until that is done. However, that might be the end of the marriage. That's what a good man would do. That way she can explore sex.

Saffi:
Men cannot handle cheating partners mentally like women do and that is just the truth. If you tell him now, the thought of you opening your legs to another man will constantly play in his head when he looks at you, which will eventually ruin your marriage. As a woman, if you cheat on your husband, you must take it to the grave otherwise you have yourself to blame.

To the sex part, encourage your hubby to look appealing for you. Work out together, eat well, mould him into the man that you want him to be physically. Tell him what you want him to do in bed. There’s only so much you can do, but for the sake of your vows and your home, good sex is really not worth it. You have to mentally train yourself to avoid temptation, that is the only way to stay faithful. And realistically most couples go through this at one point, so don’t beat yourself up too much. Dust your shoulders and do better and do not risk your family and your marriage for prick again. It is a temporary satisfaction and You will regret it.

virgoquin:

A problem shared is half solved.
I don't see anything wrong in her coming here seeking for advice.

Nigerians are too religious sha they feel prayer is the only solution to everything.

So if she prays without killing the root cause which is lust she will be free

monimekaz:


eleyi tun ti gbe feminism werey kan waa

virgoquin:
Why don't you encourage your hubby to enroll for gym classes.

You didn't find him sexually attractive and you still went ahead to get married to him.

sleeping with another guy outside your marriage doesn't worth it at all. Highest fifteen mins pleasure and the rest days you live to regret it.

You have to take a bold stand to let go of the other guy outside how sure are you sef that you are the only one he is sleeping with.
with all the kind of disease flying around town

MrBrownJay1:
You have to be honest with WHO YOU ARE... Aka a betrayer of trust, a woman lacking virtue and integrity. And the earliest you accept that, the better it will be for BOTH of you. Why waste time pretending to be who you are not, pretending to live a life that ain't you. What you need is right there at work....so the choice is yours: be miserable for the rest of your life OR be honest and free yourself from this charade you call marriage.

I won't even dwell on how I would feel if I was that man and getting to find out the above by myself...

mabea:
It may be sweet now but i can assure you that you are on a highway to destruction if you dont discipline yourself. Besides you are already under a curse.

LarryBee1k:

Oluromantic post=77891135:
Women hardly let go of a guy who's very good n strong on bed. I'm talking from experience.

better stfu. Cuz you're clueless.

Oluromantic:

What clue do you have. Basketbrain

LarryBee1k:

Women deal with emotional connection not dicking prowess. Sorry I was harsh. I just find your post ridiculous. �

And you thought I've not considered that already? You have a poor mental intelligence..you can't analyze simply.
Some girls have been emotionally connected but got disappointed by the small dick and poor sexual prowess. No girl will get down with u if she's not emotionally connected with you but it doesn't end there...that's my point.

truthsayer009:


How is the husband going to find out if she doesn't say anything?

JasonScoolari:
One of Saffi points I find catchy is "Men cannot handle cheating partners"

I certainly can't.

Shelumiel:
Madam, when you share a problem of this nature on social media , you are sharing your problem with three kinds of people: the good , the bad and the perverted . The lady in question needs Godly advise and there is one good place where you see plenty of that : in the church or the bible , not online

DeeMain:


I don't like what I hate! What do you hope to achieve by posting this here?

This woman, Marbella003, is at least honest and good intentioned though she fell to sexual temptation, so let's cut her some slack please. She's already feeling guilty and haunted by her action which is why she came here for advice. Please let's not add to her pain.

The Pharisees and the crucify-her gang should park one side abeg. She asked for help and advice not mobbing.

Nobody holy pass.

He/she that is without sin should cast the first stone.

Marbella003, go home and sin no more. That's what Jesus told a woman caught in the act.

See a good sex therapist on your sexual issues with your husband. There must be a middle ground.

Best wishes.

Bigcake:


Shut the fvck up. There is nothing wrong in seeking for advice on social media. It gives one enough room to scrutinize the plethora of advice that pours in. She must not necessarily take all of it.

cococandy:
We are polygamous in nature.

Go with the flow.

I saw what you did there.
Giving dudes a taste of their own medicine, innit?