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|He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Adaego5(f): 8:33am On May 05|
Help! I Am In A Serious Dilemma!!
Please what does it mean when a man tells his woman that he is not connected to her?
I was in courtship with this guy late 2017, we were working towards getting married. we broke up sometime in 2018. Since then, it's been difficult for me to love again. I really loved him and could go extreme for him.
He has tried going into other relationships same as me but non worked. So we decided to give us a shot once more, I was happy and felt whole again.....
He is very principled. Now he is saying that he doesn't feel that connection between us. He said I am everything, intelligent, smart, beautiful, hardworking, a graduate, Godfearing with good home upbringing, from a god background, tall infact taller than every girl he has come across but he just doesn't feel that connection between us. When it comes to qualities, I am better than every girl he has met. He went ahead to tell me of a girl who he felt that connection with but she broke his heart. I am shattered and devastated once more.
Its easy to say move on, but easier said than done. It took me months to move on, i was only able to by trying to hate him. One of the reasons why I really loved him was because he never tried taking advantage of me as I am a virgin.
He never for one day talked me into it unlike some other guys I have met.I have been so good to him, he confessed that no girl has loved and treated him like I did. I have been trying to understand this whole connection thing.... Where am I going wrong. I am not a boring person, there is no boring moment with me. Most guys I have met always tell me that I am priceless and some keep coming back but I find it hard to like them.
I only keep remembering the beautiful memories we shared.
I am so devastated..... I really wanted us to work things out ..
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by 0ppa(m): 8:50am On May 05|
Let forget the endearing words and now travel to reality. I have a question for you before I proceed farther: has he had your feminine glories?
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by sherylbakky: 8:54am On May 05|
Adaego5:Wen u are connected to someone - It means u are attracted to their inside, more than their physical look. A successful relationship can only occur wen there is physical n emotional connection between two people.
Have u ever met someone n u discovered immediately that u av some tins in common?
Have u met someone who u immediately clicked with? Might be in school, a colleague or even total stranger.
These are examples of the connections we are talking about.
Adaego5:I wud av said he's only trying to find a flimsy excuse but wen I saw this, I know what he said might just be true. This may be as a result of not being connected to u emotionally.
Let him go, u'l soon meet that special person that will cherish u.
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Adaego5(f): 10:16am On May 05|
0ppa:I don't understand what you mean by feminine glories
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Amanee: 10:22am On May 05|
You may be everything to some people and yet nothing to others. It doesn't mean you're flawed or something is wrong with you, it just has to do with preferences. If I were you, I wouldn't be bothering myself with who loves you or not because you can't control those things. Live your life the way you want and be with the people who want to be with you.
You've broken up with the guy since 2018, he doesn't deserve the space he's taking up in your heart in 2019
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Richy4(m): 11:18am On May 05|
I just broke the 17th commandment of the 'Bro codes' by telling you this...He used the olden days break up line on u written and endorsed by Adam himself from the beginning of time .. It is called " it's not you, it's me" breakup lines...
Just look at all the qualities he highlighted that u got... yet... Those qualities will make any man take u to see his mama in a heartbeat...
Please start shopping/looking for another man dear.. u are not the one for him...
MY only guess will be that While he was with u during the trial period , he has some one else to whom he was trying to compare both of u together... he has made up his mind and has made his choice and u were not that choice ... it is just to let u go gently without hurting your feelings...and if u are still in that relationship let him go... u don't need a prophet to tell u what's gonna happen...
FYI it got nothing to do with what you have done.. it's just that u guys were not compatible... it's like any other breakup... but the difference is that he will accept everything as his fault..he will highlight your wonderful qualities... then blame himself for not connecting with u..in fact blame everything that was not going well in your relationship on himself....
I might probably pay some fine for exposing this ..
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by mikkyjagga1(m): 11:24am On May 05|
In as much as you might have put in so much effort and have love for him I believe you should let him go and dont force things, it has nothing to do with what uve done or who ure.
Sometimes some things are not meant to be, look up to God and wait for him and you will understand why things didnt work out in the future.
We are limited in our abilities but the almighty God has great and better plans for us!
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by AntiBrutus: 12:00pm On May 05|
1. You loved him because he never tried "taking advantage" of you as you are a virgin.
2. Now he is telling you he feels no connection to you and you are crying?
He actually feels no connection to you, that is the reason (1) happened. Minus him being a whole lot self controlled
Well, the young man told you the truth, you should appreciate that. When he looks at you, he doesn't feel that rush. He doesn't struggle to suppress erèctions.
You might appeal to a man's eyes, his intellect, but not his loins. I don't know which is more important to them, but somehow they always tilt to the one who has all or the later.
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Chubhie: 1:07pm On May 05|
You should be encouraged that he is honest with the way he currently feels about you. This signal is a genuine call for you guys to work on improving the situation.
Do you see any attempt from him to get that spark back? When a man truly loves his woman, the signs are very viable even to the blind.
With all those qualities of yours above, Don't you think you honestly deserve better?
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Acidosis(m): 2:13pm On May 05|
He is not sexually attracted to you. Forget everything you have heard about emotional connection.
When a man is not sexually attracted, there is nothing on earth you can do to change his mind.
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Adaego5(f): 2:58pm On May 05|
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by rosalieene(f): 3:53pm On May 05|
hmmmmm it is well oooo
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Michelle55(f): 4:19pm On May 05|
If it's not working out like it should, let it go sweetie. Don't force it to avoid regrets, just know that some people are in our lives to give us sweet memories and experience, you've had your own share of good memories with him. Don't taint it by forcing the relationship to work,let go dear!! Yours truly will definitely waltz into your life and you will see reasons why it never worked out with the people in your past
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by AdolfHitlerxXx: 4:24pm On May 05|
Stop wasting your time and move on.
Never force yourself on anyone. Believe yours will come.
The gal below in GREEN tried to force herself on me, i refused and she married an uglier guy.
I instead chose the one in PURPLE.
All that glitters isn't gold my dear.
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Pilot4Airbus(m): 4:24pm On May 05|
Shey na Until he deflower you... come run.
Then you join the “men are dogs” crew
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by davillian(m): 4:24pm On May 05|
Broke up with you
Missed your pussycat came back and smashed it again.
Please he would still come for the third time don't allow him smash.
That dude of yours has a GF.
Let's live connection out of this.
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by cr7lomo: 4:24pm On May 05|
... story for the gods
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Firstorderwizard(m): 4:25pm On May 05|
Op, this your market no go sale. Tonto Dike and Regina Daniels we know.
Adaego5 we knoweth not
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Kingluqman: 4:26pm On May 05|
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by cr7lomo: 4:26pm On May 05|
Just tell us that u are marketing urself for a husband on this forum
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by namiji2598(m): 4:26pm On May 05|
if u can't understand this his simple English then u can't understand him at all
what's new in the English
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by janejive(f): 4:26pm On May 05|
Forget him, he is a time waster
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by boiz2men(m): 4:26pm On May 05|
The connection is sex... Whats the difference between great friendship and relationship?
The difference to me is SEX. And that might be the connection missing
If you have had sex with him.. He is tired of it
Move on. Dudes got another if the latter is the case
Warning to all NO-SEX-BEFORE-MARRIAGE-CREW
Its a gamble.... You may or may not lose him.
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by Poorboy: 4:26pm On May 05|
It's like I read somewhere you said your are a Virgin
Don't you think that's the connection he is talking about?
Let him drill and see the connection between una......
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by destinychildolu(m): 4:27pm On May 05|
I smell scam
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by zclass(m): 4:27pm On May 05|
give him a sloppy deep throat bj. if he insists its not connecting, pour hot water on him.
he'll come here to complain and we'll all take side with you.
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by kingjrofficial(m): 4:27pm On May 05|
So we should believe all this articles about ur sef
[code][/code]Ur Tall, God fearing, a graduate, virgin, good home upbringing, bla bla bla
Just ignore him and move on...
If those qualities u mentioned are true, then some one better will come ur way
|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by nairalee: 4:27pm On May 05|
I'm sorry but i think I understand.
I once dated a girl who meets almost all my qualities I need in a woman but ended up breaking with her cos she was not appealing to me sexually. You must admit that sexual attraction is one of the most important considerations in dating and marriage.
The reason he hasn't taken advantage of u is probably cos u don't appeal to him sexually that's why he's talking about lack of connection
Just let go because it's not something he can just turn on like a switch.
Trust me, you'll move on. There is nothing that time cannot heal
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by ipobarethieves: 4:27pm On May 05|
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by franchasng(m): 4:27pm On May 05|
Op, I am sorry to say this to you, the guy is right, he isn't attracted to you and therefore no connection.
I will use myself as example for you to understand my point.
I have met so many girls and ladies, but there is this two or three super hot ladies I met, my friends were all like oh boy, this girl is hot, this girl is this bla bla bla...but the truth is, I know they are pretty, etc, but honestly I never felt attraction to the point of thinking about having sex with them. And let me tell you, if your man doesn't have that sexual feeling towards you, the relationship will never work. It is safer that he is sexually attracted to you, makes move to devour you, but then whenever he makes the move, you disagree, and he comes back to his senses and you guys stop than for him not to ever have that sexual urge or make sexual move towards you, its a sign of no attraction.
Two out of these cute ladies I am talking about are what every guy would want, even me wished it was possible to maybe marry someone and not have sex with her, maybe I could have considered one in particular, but I told a friend about it, and he laughed at me like kilode guy what's your problem
I like this lady so much but no sexual feelings....and she is a v.....I have never tried kissing her cos I have never felt like and one day she tried to initiate it, it was funny to me....it was kind of weird to me so I playfully stopped her, not because I am a born again oh, but I feel no connection/sexual attraction towards her despite her beauty that every of my friend keep screaming of...but in other areas we are so cool....but sexual/emotional feelings, no!
So I think that might be what your guy is passing through....a lady maybe so beautiful, have wonderful shape but then you as a guy won't even have sexual feelings towards her, and then another may not be as beautiful, but anytime you see her, you feel like tearing her into pieces
A man may like a lady because of her good character, family background, her class, her looks but he will still not have sexual attraction towards her. A man may hate a lady's character, background, etc, but has a strong sexual attraction towards her.
The reason for this, I can't explain....so don't cry much, let him go, and allow yourself appreciate another person that values you
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|Re: He Said He Doesn't Feel That Connection Between Us by namiji2598(m): 4:29pm On May 05|
cr7lomo:i see it too bro
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