lol true@above

bring ur own food if u dont like it , or tell him ur not hungry , or even better yet buy ur own food

girls will never get satisfied, that is why i love rolling with women. well, since you love classic food, you should know how to cook them or buy them. coz i need somebody to take me to grandma risi not only iya risi. local food are good and your guy must be a good guy.

i wonder what kind of food you buy yourself with ur money! by the way, do u eat the buka foods. why should buka food be a basis for the relationship? look beyond material ok! its well

This jesusfreak eats the food her boyfriend buys her but then complains he only buys bukafood.

Chei,now I see why our men are running to white girls!

if you no like buka food, why not cook a meal to let him know that its not only economical but hygienic to et home made meals. am not suggesting that you should be his cook, but trust me, if all you do when you come around is wait for "mama put" meals, am afriad, you are not a wife material.

This gals,na how we wan please them,you no like buka food,you still dey chop am na wetin sef,why you nor dey buy your own food or bring food for am,this na anoda day matter oh,see wahala,I dey wait for topic,my boyfriend only buys me second hand clothes.

lol

@ topic.

Understanding is one of the key to a successful relationship. Try and understand him very well, then u'll get to know when to talk to him and what to say.

But why do u think u can cook nice food for both to eat, instead of going to nice place to eat nice food. His house is nice enough to prepare nice meal for nice ppl to eat. I really don't see this as an issue.

It is so unfortunate that instead of cooking for your boy friend, u are busy complaining of buying you buka food, you should be happy that he even thinks of buying you food.

Your work does not give you time to go and cook for him, if he decide to marry u nko, will your work gives you time to take care of house chores. Make out time before it becomes too late.

You better go and buy kitchen utensil and start cooking before another person takes over. You are making yourself a visitor in your boyfriends house. Enjoy!

My God!!! i can´t stop rolling .Una go kill me with laff here ooo.Such post is why i like spending my time here anyways jesusfreak is food now is important to you than Love? I thought it is being said that Woman shall not eat by bread alone Are you sure you love this dude or u are just lusting over him?Well Seun has said it all.

@saintchux, youv'e said it all.

Since i don't really know what BUKA food means. so i will assume it means cheap food or flies-infested food.
I never eat at any man's house. When I go to a man's house, I'm there to have Sex and nothing more. full stop.

saintchux:

It is so unfortunate that instead of cooking for your boy friend, u are busy complaining of buying you buka food, you should be happy that he even thinks of buying you food.

Your work does not give you time to go and cook for him, if he decide to marry u nko, will your work gives you time to take care of house chores. Make out time before it becomes too late.

You better go and buy kitchen utensil and start cooking before another person takes over. You are making yourself a visitor in your boyfriends house. Enjoy!

well said

Mula:

Since i don't really know what BUKA food means. so i will assume it means cheap food or flies-infested food.
I never eat at any man's house. When I go to a man's house, I'm there to have Sex and nothing more. full stop.

osanobua!!

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I guess dating a person like me will totally put you off, because I prepare my meal at home myself.

I did not blame the guy because he knows what he's capable of and he did not want to go beyond the limit. And what you do not know is that may be a guy you never likes to show off his wealth. Buying locally prepared for you does not mean he can't afford to buy you what you want. Have you forgoting that situations brings about reactions.

May be in the past he has done lots for a lady who later left him without turning back. He may be trying find your weakest point.

A person like me, whenever I am in a relationship if my spouse request for a certain thing; i don't run off to get it for her. I always like to see the best of patience she has and when she never expected it, I always surprise. So people play games in the best way that soothes them.

Note: Relationship is not all about giving, according to your words; you sound more demanding. And besides that I have come to notice that most of the ladies and growing girls of now a days they readily expect from any guy who will date them to provide for their needs. Most of them don't think of giving back.

Whenever you are with girls if you hear what they say about their guys honest you will be sorry.


My final say for today is that if you can be patient with the guy. I believe you will enjoy him.

What would you do about me then, all I do is face the PC all day, study? I keep to myself most of the time because I need silence. Boring? I know you would say so but if you learn to appreciate what I do and you will realise that  you will succeed in getting me off what I am doing. And in the process I will create time for you.    


If you can be patient and stop eyeing material stuffs and expect little from him when it comes to financies. Try to make him know what you want and whenever he tried encourage him and show appreciation. I wouldn't say you should leave him to himself. Just be patient.

This gal na food she dey find,she nor dey even think how she go take uplift the guy life sef,na wah for una oh.

there is no aspect in relationship that does not matter.may i know how long you've be moving out with this boy?cos i believe once in a while u take the girl out to a nice place just to make her happy,it is not going to take all your money and the one outing will not closed his bank account.

my advice to you is that when next you are going there buy food stuff and prepare there, do it twice to thrice with this he may liking be giving you money to prepare food whenever you are there.

Are you the type of girl that don't like cooking?if not, try it.

Ok, so he buys you buka food. Maybe he just rates you at that level.

You didn't say whether he actually takes you to the buka for both of you to dine there. Maybe he's too ashamed to be seen with you even in a buka!

So he probably sends you to go and collect the buka food for both of you to eat at his place.

I think we should be told,

I wonder what you have bought for him before, atleast he buys you something

na me dey buy for my boy friend . lucky you

@mula

Since i don't really know what BUKA food means. so i will assume it means cheap food or flies-infested food.
I never eat at any man's house. When I go to a man's house, I'm there to have Sex and nothing more. full stop.

I wish every girl was like you.

unserious girl! What stops you from branching at the market and coming to cook for the poor boy just ONCE! All you can think of is food!
Only God knows what other thing you ask for, food, recharge card, clothes, pocket money. . . no wonder naija guys prefer to marry at 40!

some people are desperately missing buka food you are there complaining about it.

Of all the things to complain about sef na food? You work why don't you do the buying?
the way you sound sef you don give up for the relationship, just do the guy a favour break up so he advance in life

u dey form levels abi. ''my boy friend buys me buka food'', see as you write am sef.
when he does not have enuf cash, u wan make him thief?
abi u sef no fit carry am go mr biggs abi which local champion restaurant dey your area?

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my boyfriend and i have been going off and on for sometime, i admit that the fault is mine but here's what he's fond of doing:

Off and on?? seems you guys have a lot to work on and deal with. And when you admit its your fault, i'm beginning to feel for this guy ooh, honestly

each time i go to his place and i tell him im hungry, he buys me food from the local bukateria!

Should i assume you're like hungry almost all the time you visit?? And dear, since you like it the civilized way, what stops you from telling him to escort you to somewhere where you can get the "i makwa ndi anyi bu (do you know who we are)" food. The guy is cutting his coat according to his size.
A reletionship takes two, if you eat at home before visiting, save the money he would have used to buy you "buka foo (whatever that means)" for three times, believe me you'll be able to afford a nice place once in a while.

at first i tot this was spposed to be an infrequent thing but i noticed that he never buys me food from nice places. Undecided Grin u can call him an "iya basira Boy"
i really don't like such food and he makes it seem like im fronting

You sound a bit ungrateful, if you know you don't like the food and he only has the money to afford that, then darling why not stop complaining of hunger. What would you have said if you met someone that says "go into the kitchen (an empty one for that matter) and findyourself something to eat"
The guy is your boyfriend for crying out loud, he should try as much as possible (which he's obviously doing), but until he's placed a ring on your finger, don't expect him to turn to your dad overnight

though he doesnt mind when his friends take us out for a treat in nice places.

Infact i'm liking your guy more for each minute. Of course he doesn't mind!! no be condition make crayfish bend?? he too likes nice restaurants but the fact remains that he can't afford it. I'm sure he's a student as yourself, struggling to make ends meet, but you want him to serve you heaven in a dish. Girlfriend comm'on wait till he's in the position, if he doesn't then we'll be talking. Believe me, a million girls will wish they were in your shoes, some don't get at all but they're still grateful, praying for a better tomorrow and being understanding!!!!

in general
Some of us ladies, do not know what we ave until we loose it. We have our legs in a house but wish we were in the house next door. Believe me its not always as it seems. Why won't you prefer a "a buka plate of food" given to you in love, than the whole "happy bite" in misery??

Tell me something . . if this guy was arrested for armed robbery tomorrow, because you pushed him to the edge of making some and crowning you the queen, where will you be?? will you honestly stand by him??

Many girls end up in unhappy homes today, Cos they were biting more than they could chew, they wanted it all, thereby giving blind eyesb to true love knocking at their door-steps, while the patient one will finally be eating the fruit of her labour Please do not be a victim!!!!!!!!!!!

Here endeth the lesson,

Nna mummy, another long treatise again but bang on point!

The guy should have shown this ingrate the door since. The guy is her boyfriend and NOT her parent, if she's hungry she should ask her mother for food and stop putting her problems on others. Is she not ashamed that she follows the guy and his friends to "nice" places to eat? Is this not a sign of the wrong kind of woman to be associated with?

davidylan:

Nna mummy, another long treatise again but bang on point!

The guy should have shown this ingrate the door since. The guy is her boyfriend and NOT her parent, if she's hungry she should ask her mother for food and stop putting her problems on others. Is she not ashamed that she follows the guy and his friends to "nice" places to eat? Is this not a sign of the wrong kind of woman to be associated with?

ver funny

cute,na wa o.
That was a great write up.
I wish this boy would save his money and stop spending it on a girl that'll eat his buka food and do waka with both hands behind his back.

donjohano:

Here endeth the lesson,

davidylan:

Nna mummy, another long treatise again but bang on point!

The guy should have shown this ingrate the door since. The guy is her boyfriend and NOT her parent, if she's hungry she should ask her mother for food and stop putting her problems on others. Is she not ashamed that she follows the guy and his friends to "nice" places to eat? Is this not a sign of the wrong kind of woman to be associated with?

Exactly my point . . this is one of the many reasons some guys run from long-term relationships, Cos some of the girls not minding the guys are strugglers themselves, will want the guy to provide things that their parents couldn't afford in years.

The girls will now from carrying one hairstyle for three months, want to change hair styles every week, she wants to eat out on daily basis, yes ooh, the latest jeans is out and the boyfriend has to provide

And when the guy unfortunately is lacking . . "that's when one happy Nkechi and her boyfriend" enters the discussion of the day!!! At the end of the day, the guy decides to use and dump the girl Cos he cannot cope with the all-of-a-sudden "daddy" title he's been assigned. The same girls complain of how wicked the guys are

We really have to choose, either to walk pass, or make a way for someone else to walk . . you can't just eat your cake and expect it to be in your palms, or can you?? NNNNNOOOO

babyosisi:

cute,na wa o.
That was a great write up.
I wish this boy would save his money and stop spending it on a girl that'll eat his buka food and do waka with both hands behind his back.

I had that thought at the back of my mind sis. just didn't want to be seen as a wicked person. But now that you mentioned it, i second the motion with both legs