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Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 11:31am On Oct 02, 2010 |
not that long distance like that. am in akwa ibom, she is in ife(oau |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 11:41am On Oct 02, 2010 |
not that long distance like that. am in akwa ibom, she is in ife(oau |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Mitchelin(m): 12:31pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
This here is my view, first and foremost,distance relationship is not recommended for most people (save the real matured in mind,temperament,and emotional disposition, do you honestly possesse these attributes here enumerated?). Secondly,no matter what anyone thinks or opines a woman that ask for financial aid consistently and irreverently (for lack of a better term) is not to be reckoned with. In Nigeria,you'd be regarded as a "mugu" or better yet "maga". Having gone through your post, I'd say that her asking is consistent with her inner being, the character that you'd see should you make the grave mistake of tying the knot with this damsel. She'd leave you at the drop of a hat nay pin,should (God forbid) you happen to fall into a serious financial quagmire occassioned by you possibly leaving losing your job or the like. And another thing you kept mentioning was your basing the seriousness of the relationship you have with her by the calls you make to her parents, news flash! that don't mean jack when the rubber meets the road, that you are in cahoots with her parents does not preclude a disastrous outcome in your relationship, remember you are getting married to her and not her parents!, this issue brings to the fore something I said here a while back, bout dating girls still in school while you are out and employed or whatever, moreoften than not it's always a sad story, more for the guy than the madam. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 12:57pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
@Mitchelin, am not really bother about the distance for now. we communicate a lot . and i think i can trust her well, is just that she is diffrent compare to when i was still in sckool with her,. she doent really ask for money like this , bt since i started work(and i still do some business with my work), i dont usually hide anything. i tell her all i am making and all the prospect. then, she normally feels she should get a share of the profits . when i got the job, she asked me how much she will be collecting , i only laugh at the matter. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Orikinla(m): 1:00pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
Long distance or short distance, you have to pay for her service. Or is she not servicing you? |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 1:16pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
so, becos you make love to your gf, u have to pay her for that. den, i shud go for ashawo den. seriously, we are planning to settle down together. and so, thats the diffrent, |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 1:25pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
so, becos you make love to your gf, u have to pay her for that. den, i shud go for ashawo den. seriously, we are planning to settle down together. and so, thats the diffrent, |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by pharmking: 1:58pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
It seems the poster haven't dated a lot or is still not in the real world. You can't buy love with money. Make sure the girl love you for you and the way you go about it, I'm not sure you will get the sweet end of the rod. Don't change the previous relationship you have with her by bragging about the money you are making and this and that. For now she is not your wife so you shouldn't share you money issue with her. You should back out and tell her that things are getting rough so you are concentrating on making your business successful. Then try to continue the way it was when she doesn;t ask your for money and see where things will go. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 2:03pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
yes, havent dated so much cos i havent seen the need. plux, i like to keep one girl at a time. i guess, am going to adopt Pharmking approach. thanks guys |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Princek12(m): 2:48pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
Poster, Did you use your money to woo her initially and subsequently into a relationship? Even after you entered into a relationship with her, did you offer to continually give her money without her asking you (I mean before she started asking for more money)? If you answer yes to at least one of the above questions, it appears that you are reaping what you sowed, and she may have also entered into a relationship with you solely or primarily because of money. My best advice is to tell her you have no money to give her, and see whether she behaves differently towards you, or whether she will end the relationship. That would be essentially conclusive proof that she does not love you, and that she is in this relationship just for the money. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by bolof2000(m): 3:09pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
hmmmm, ok |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by pharmking: 5:13pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
bolof2000: I see. Dating doesn't mean you have to have sex with the girls you are involved with in my book. It means get to know them, hang out and do activities together to determine compatibility. Sex is later stage, . unless you wanna hit and run!!!! Keep one girl at a a time is when you know for sure the person is serious about you and you about her and you know for sure in the next six to one year you will get engaged with the person or marry the person. In your case you don't even know what the girl is been up to since you left college. You might just be the wallet for her. You don't know if she is serious about you. So find out if she is serious about you before you waste your time and become heart broken. In the mean time get to know other people because you might have better options than her and her greedy behaviors |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by 2sexy(m): 10:59pm On Oct 02, 2010 |
at poster, pharmking has said it all. This is Nigeria and you should open your eyes. I was once like you . The mistake you are making now,if not quickly curb, will be disastrous at the end. How? She is very aware that you have not dated much and she is taking advantage of that. Showing a Nigerian girl too much love should be done with caution. Only a few of them are good. She is in school and you are sending her money, another mistake you are making. how? dont be surprise one day when she tells you that another guy had sex with her. You see everything about your present situation reminds me of the same mistake I made and it is obvious that you have not even had sex with her, have you? My advice is that you should put a complete STOP! to money giving first find out if she really loves you. That is the most important thing to me, not beauty. You should be thinking of investing your money in a profitable venture because that job you have now will not be yours for ever. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by babaijesha: 2:03am On Oct 03, 2010 |
You have to learn how to say NO to demands that is not in your best interest and the relationship as a whole. Its simple and straight forward. Learn to say NO, its the first rule to learn in to be successful. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by biola44: 2:29am On Oct 03, 2010 |
to every smart girl there's always a corresponding maga! |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Nobody: 6:15am On Oct 03, 2010 |
@Poster if not for Caution.I should have insulted you , Can you explaine what you just post to your mom or dad or your sister and see wat they will say,Am not sure you went to Uni in Nigeria,I wonder how you see road take type but you never see what she was using u to do.Please can you come toast me,Am also a female, |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by yusuf2(m): 7:16pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
@ poster, i think there are enough replies here 2 help u with ur next step, i've alm ost been a victim omt time. i started to date an undergraduate immediately i got a job and just 2 weeks into d so called relationship, she outrightly asked me 4 money & she would'nt tell me what she needed it 4, i just smiled at her, told her i would see her later, it was like magic, all d the feelings i had or thought i had 4 her just dissappeared in2 thin air, i never saw her, called her or replied any of her sms after that day. then i swore i wld never date a lady that isn't independent financially ever again or a student. i'm not advicing u 2 dump ur girl, poster, dont get me wrong, u just have 2 open ur eyes a little bit wider. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by femmy2010(m): 7:21pm On Oct 03, 2010 |
True talk.
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Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by deniyor: 8:59pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Maga, pay up! That's your role. She has someone else servicing her so her sexual needs are taken care of. She has another person taking care of her emotional needs. If you want to continue being a part of her life, the only available slot is the financial bf. I know it's not much but its still something. I'm sure she will prefer if you dont bother talking to her or her folks on the fone. Just send the money and you are good to go. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by luap: 11:48pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Get used to it. Women will find a way to bleed you dry. When they done with you, the will flush you down the toilette. Just watch yourself. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Fredoh(m): 12:29am On Jan 14, 2016 |
ShyOne:God bless you ma. And I'm so happy that this is coming from a lady. I feel touched cos I'm going through a similar shit right now. That's why I'm awake by now looking at Nairaland. I feel I should create a topic for mine too. Some weeks into the relationship and she's asking for money. Nothing she has done for me yet. Some girls think guys have to pay for sex but I don't belong to such category. Besides I haven't had sex with her but I do believe I should spend on my woman at will. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Fredoh(m): 12:33am On Jan 14, 2016 |
yusuf2:IHonestly, two weeks and they are asking for money. |
Re: My Gf Always Asking Me For Money This Day by Sarah20A(f): 6:58am On Jul 20, 2017 |
Just tell her how you feel, make her understand that you just started this work and you have to save for the future. never forget to let her know that she's also included in your plans (if you are planning to marry her )make her feel you're doing this for the both of you.remember to let her know how special and helpful she has been from the beginning of the discussion. |
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