is cheating d whole penetration thingy or is a simply kiss as bad?

Romantic, sexual thoughts and kissing including penetration all conclude as cheating!

my dear, if sexual thots sums cheating, then we r all guilty!

LOL - True that, but impure thoughts about another person while married is considered as cheating, whether u are honest about it or not - some even take it to the next level and invite the other person round

kissing another man is cheating on ur own man cos if he does the same his also cheating on u.

kissing another man simply means u are SERIOUSLY contemplating CHEATING on your husband. PERIOD!

budx:

kissing another man simply means u are SERIOUSLY contemplating CHEATING on your husband. PERIOD!

So if your wife/girl/man told u she kissed another man you'd ask her when she was planning on cheating on you abi!

PLEASE

I seriously agree with Adetife.
Whn you have impure thoughts about someone else other than your partner - is cheating.

But kissing someone else is definately cheating.

Sweetie, you really need to address the issue surounding the reason you had to kiss someone else otherwise thats how trouble starts o.

What about kissinf your own brother or sister?

No. Just Like Its Ok To Weep, But Not Cry

at IBDAt

u are reading me wrong. the question was does kissing mean cheating. and i was answering that specific question which in my opinion means NO. when people say i left my boyfreind cuz he cheated on me they dont mean "cuz he kissed another girl" do they. ofcuz id be upset if my wife told me she kissed another guy for a multitude of reasons prime of which would be that her feelings for me are being questioned by that act and ofcuz the resulting whittling down of trust (cuz who knows who's next ). however i believe cheating really means actually having sex with someone else. some people get very angry to the extent that they feel like killing someone who may have hurt them. does that make them murderers? i guess not.

the act is hurtful and surely raises many issues in the relationship. especially personal issues for the lady who may have kissed another guy. but one thing she didnt do is cheat on her husband.

@budx - Okay, it is your personal form of understanding of the word and situation but personally i agree with Adetife - U say kissing another is seriously contemplating cheating - I say that point was crossed from when she was thinking and/or fantasizing about said man, let alone putting herself in a position that it could escalate. Cheating can be in the form of thoughts and kissing, but most people generally don't break-up over kissing but strict rules and conditions are thereby impossed to prevent escalation as well as discomfort/distrust.

I would be interested to know how people that are in committed relationships, but agreed to wait till marriage b4 having sex would deal with their partner kissing someone else.

If you find your husband kising another woman what would you call that?

Apart from a simple hug or hand shaking, any other body contact is regarded as cheating.

How dare my a wife does that to another man!

It is simply and outright cheating there is no other word else to describe it.

like i said earlier, its a bad and most definitely a hurtful thing and i do see it as something that calls for a re assesment of the status of the relationship and for the lady to reach into herself and answer a number of questions. e.g what made her go that far with someone else? does she still love her hubby and seriously wants to keep her relationship wth him alive? nonetheless i dont think she has committed ADULTERY with someone else. i believe CHEATING in a married sense is ADULTERY- a voluntary SEXUAL INTRECOURSE between a married person and one who is not his or her spouse.

as for non married , no-sex couples as u pointed out IBDAT , i dont think that makes much of a difference as to the effect on the relationship. its still the same hurtful act. i agree with you that people make rules so as not to escalate or have their relationship torn apart by some silly act of one party. sometimes people find themselves in a situation where they almost loose track of rules they may have set up wth their lovers or allow "horniness" and poor judgement take the better of them for one second ,but quickly realise that they may be making a huge mistake if the go ahead with it and knock themselves back to reality. i sincerely dont see a kiss under such circumstances (or any at all) as equal to CHEATING.

some say sexual thoughts of any kind is the same as cheating. this is equally shocking. if u are watching porn then u are CHEATING with all the folks in the movie? if u fantasize about having sex with someone then u have cheated on ur lover? i wonder how many people have cheated on their lovers with beyonce and halle berry. its all the more interesting that u can cheat on ur lover with someone and the person ur cheating with doesnt even know it. LOL.

sexual attraction to someone else doesnt automatically disappear when u are dating someone. people simply try to take control of it by respecting the fact that they are in a relationship and do not want to undermine the importance of what they have with that person. you CHEAT on someone when u have sexual intercourse with someone else but there are a number of silly and stupid things u can do which may mar your relationship or call for a re-evauation of the relationship e.g kissing someone else.

@budx,
I PRAY THAT YOUR HUSBAND (If you are female) or YOUR WIFE ( if u are male)
WILL SERIUOSLY BE KISSING ANY OPPOSITE SEX SHE FEELS FOR. AMEN
if you dont want that to happen you better change your stands b4 my prayers start to work wonders.
Kissing Leads to so many thing, the only thing in front is the thought of doing it.

does kissing mean ur cheating?, lol

YES oh, because what if u can't help urself?, or stop ur self in time, u go waka d whole 9yards abi? kissing is mouth penetration,
On a serious note, it deoends on the boundaries u and ur partners have around ur relationship, whilst we may be sitting here typing our butts off, saying it is cheating, if ur guy sees cheating only as u having sex with another guy and u get away with kissing, then we are wasting our breath

If he doesn't then u know, he will see it as cheating. so y u asking us?, whether he finds out or not is another topic

at LEVI2ME , i honestly hope u are able to read!!!!!!! i dont see any part of my posts which says its okay to kiss someone else when ur married or dating someone. if anything at all i specifically say its wrong. nonetheless i strongly urge u to go ahead with your paryers. cheers.

Kissing someone who is not your partner is cheating!

Stop all this bla bla bla

it is cheating can't u see?

Pardon me if am wrong, but isn't kissing supposed to be done by two who are having something intimate, else we all can just walk the whole street kissing whosoever come our way. aint it.

Lets be frank to ourselves, we all know "kissing" another man, while you have one at home is cheating and there's no other word to describe it, be it for whatever reason the kissing was done.

thanks all 4 ur candid thots and views on my post. we r all entitled to figure OUR OWN SIN. as 4 me, i'd pitch my tent on budx side. a kiss lies on the depth of passion involved. i know it may offend my husband but actually and honestly speaking, we girls enjoy a harmless flirt once in a while cos it kinda makes us feel hot. i'm a sagitterian and love living life to the fullest. i would never let any man ENTER me but i can kiss if i like.

my husband enjoys MTV Base and channel O at late nights, and i make fun of him enjoying all them bum shakin. i also made a promise to give him a treat on our next visit to the states. The Treat: inviting a bootilicious bombshell to our hotel just 4 him.

anyways, to some i may sound crazy but thats how my hubby and i are. we live with fun and have 2 sons.
kissing while married, as a means of cheating, is relative.

i enjoy my vibrator and i don't think its cheating. do u?

@poster
I think you need to be checked

LOL cooljade. i wish a lot more people would be as realistic as u seem to be. i still cant get over the fact that THINKING about sex with someone means ur cheating. Good Lord i wonder how many unfaithful lovers we have out there on that point. however cooljade, i still dont know about actively pursuing a kissing mate to flirt with. LOL . but then again if its the understanding u have with your husband then waaay to go girl cuz many relationships have varying degrees of boundaries.

can i kiss u sometime though? LOL just kidding.

i agree with budx,i think it depends on the understanding you have with your partner for example Will Smith and his wife have an open relationship which allows them to sleep anyone they like if the permission from the 2 so it depends but personally i think kissing na cheating

It depends, on your relationship.

Hun?

The relationship has nothing to do with the kiss. If she kisses a man then she has kissed a man let's forget about relationship here.

it depends on the KISS i mean it was just plain kiss dats alright but not wen it was passionate

@Poster

If you see your husband kissing another woman, how would you feel; does he have to penetrate her before he has cheated on you?

If kiss other men, you had better not disclose it to your partner or else your relationship would become past tense.

WHAT KINDA QUESTION DO YOU PPL ASK THIS DAYZ?

does he know that you have a vibrator?

a pek cn go bt as 4 kiss hel no!