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7 Selfish Habits That Can Ruin Your Relationship by ashantemoore(f): 10:57pm On Jun 11, 2019
Relationships are not so simple; our feelings, life experiences, and background can all influence the way we associate with others, and as a result, can determine how well these relationships work. There must be a state of agreement that guarantees harmony in a loving relationship. Relationships should be built on empathy and kindness towards the person you are in it with.

Nothing makes a relationship more lopsided than selfishly fixed attitudes. We are humans, we deserve things for ourselves every now and then, but we tend to be self-indulgent at some point in our lives, mainly when we want something badly.

Nonetheless, there comes a time where we exceed the limit of our boundaries and become too self-centered, and when these selfish habits become a persistent occurrence in a relationship, it’s doubtlessly time to take note of them and stop them.

These are some of the selfish habits that can ruin your relationship:

HOLDING A GRUDGE
Conflicts are bound to arise in every relationship, but the way and manner we resolve these conflicts matter a lot. When conflict surface, it should be discussed, apologies should be made, and everything should go back to the way they were between couples. No one should continue to carry around the anger and resentment because it can quickly become a habit that can convey sheer frustration that can’t get anyone anywhere.

Holding grudges can make your partner to start trying so hard to connect and communicate with you because they start feeling like they’re being ignored. Also, once you have forgiven your partner then it’s important to not keep rehashing the issues.

PUTTING YOUR NEEDS BEFORE YOUR PARTNERS
Dominating a relationship with your needs and wants burdens your partner with loads of expectations. Putting your needs first can cause significant pain and hurt for your partner. Denying the feelings of your partner and having trouble believing that their needs and wants may not be the same as yours is unacceptable in a healthy relationship. It can be classified as a manipulative and controlling behavior or selfish habit that can cause serious problems when the suffering partner is unable to take it anymore.

BEING INCONSIDERATE
If you do things without considering what your partner might feel, or don’t pay attention to his or her feeling as long as you get what you want; you need to stop, take a moment and reevaluate things. Taking your partner’s feelings and throwing them aside can ruin your relationship. It only proves that you don’t consider their goals or thoughts and only want what you think is best. Being so inconsiderate will only make them resent you in the end.

BEING TOO RIGID
Relationships usually are all about compromise, you can’t have a healthy relationship if you always come off as been rigid; not flexible to change or compromise. Having an open mind about what your partner wants is very vital, so you don’t seem selfish and inflexible.

You can change your fixed attitudes if you really want to so your relationship can become healthier and more loving. Communicate effectively with your partner and apologize if you feel your behavior is unacceptable. Your partner will surely appreciate your honesty and work with you to boost the relationship. Compromising in your relationship is very important when it boils down to what you need to make things work better between you.

NOT CONSULTING YOUR PARTNER BEFORE MAKING A DECISION
When you believe you know what’s best for you and your partner without talking to them first, then you are doing something wrong. Your partner’s opinion should always matter to you; shun the urge of having things done your way or having to control every aspect of everything that happens in your partner’s life. Trust your partner to make decisions too after all the relationship is built by the two of you being a solid team.

Acting impulsively, overbearing, or self-obsessed are traits that can make you disregard your partner’s needs, and this can ruin your lovely relationship.

YOU DON’T APOLOGIZE WHEN WRONG
Always blaming the person, you are in a relationship with during an argument can destroy their trust in you, as well as their confidence.

One way to kill a relationship fast is by never admitting that you are wrong or feel remorseful even when you know you are wrong. You make your partner feel bad when you don’t own up to your mistakes. When you never swallow your pride to say you are sorry because you think you’ll be taken for granted or risk being seen as an idiot, you will be perceived as a selfish person in the end. Understand that to stay in a healthy relationship; equal blame should be shared when things go wrong.

YOU NAG CONSTANTLY
Displeasing situations presents itself all the time, but when dealing with the one, you love you should learn to handle such situations responsibly without nagging. Nagging constantly when you don’t get what you want is a terrible habit that can be very frustrating and irritating to your partner.

Attacking your partner when you get upset or don’t have your way with things is going to put stress and tension on the relationship that the two of you enjoy. The truth is no one wants to be with someone that acts irresponsibly when they are upset or told NO.

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Re: 7 Selfish Habits That Can Ruin Your Relationship by Exempted: 11:05pm On Jun 11, 2019
Number 1 is the main factor here....

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