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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by oshaosha2014(m): 5:19pm On Jun 13
Your husband is not a man. All you have in your house is a fellow woman.

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by CorperKola: 5:19pm On Jun 13
Bossjakande:
smiles
Maybe the guy should clarify what he meant by instruct
Most times in my house if na dat kind package, my mum would knw b4 hand. So there wud be no need for instructing anytin
Or the guests wud ask my mom themselves for food b4 she start serving or mayb my sister can help her serve too
Buh even if he instructed her, Are u seriously saying that its bad for a husband to instruct his wife or what are u saying exactly?
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ibkayee(f): 5:23pm On Jun 13
HBB1:


That's the order of life.
The buck stops somewhere.

God did not question Eve, he questioned Adam!

A head should never lord it over people he is responsible for-- that's positional leadership, which is weak. He is supposed to lead. He is on the front-lines, he is the most responsible, the most caring, the most selfless, he sacrifices for those he is responsible for.

Any association where there is no assigned "head" is doomed.

Marriage is not a competition, its a partnership-- 2 people should be more effective than when they are single. 2 people working towards a common goal.

Not everyone governs their lives by the bible

Also, when someone is being appointed as the the ‘head’, that’s not a ‘partnership’, it’s a hierarchy. And that’s ok, if that’s what both people want, if you like it for yourselves, I love it cheesy

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by 5ublime: 5:24pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
D Man has warn her to stop calling him by his name stil no change d man has never called the wife by her name...
Were they having this issue before they got married or after he got a job?
What has name got to do with anything?. Sigh.

African men die in their 50s because of their stupid ego.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by NdiaraIGBO: 5:26pm On Jun 13
sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

I support everything you have said here BUT you African ladies also have to stop the mumu multiple birth (more than 2 children) that you are having all over the place knowing fully well that most those children will grow up into poor adults because our tiny national economy cannot sustain our ever ballooning population! Bringing a man doing well down financially!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 5:27pm On Jun 13
5ublime:


I know your type. You enjoy dating foolish girls that have no future that you will just put in one shop. All they'll be doing is "issok like that" to any of your decisions.
For your information my gf is a graduate very smart ful of wisdom and productive beautiful stil she respects me she know her work she knows the work of a man ..get dat into u head

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by NdiaraIGBO: 5:28pm On Jun 13
5ublime:

Were they having this issue before they got married or after he got a job?
What has name got to do with anything?. Sigh.

African men die in their 50s because of their stupid ego.


You kill them all with your stupid multiple births (having more than 1 or 2 children in this day and age).
And you are good at ambushing the weak souls with s..x

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Jsst: 5:28pm On Jun 13
Hmm so many sides to it
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by 5ublime: 5:31pm On Jun 13
oshaosha2014:
Your husband is not a man. All you have in your house is a fellow woman.


I'll rather be a 'fellow woman' in a happy home than become an egoistic cunt in the name of "man of the house"

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by HBB1(m): 5:31pm On Jun 13
ibkayee:

Not everyone governs their lives by the bible

Also, when someone is being appointed as the the ‘head’, that’s not a ‘partnership’, it’s a hierarchy. And that’s ok, if that’s what both people want, if you like it for yourselves, I love it cheesy

Sorry about the Bible reference...

Have you lead a team before, have you ever been a head of anything? Did it mean you were superior to your colleagues or you were the most "responsible'' for any happenings?

I have lead teams of people older and younger and nothing changed. We were teammates, partners and we helped one another.

But whatever works for you luv, cheers! wink
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by 5ublime: 5:32pm On Jun 13
NdiaraIGBO:



You kill them all with your stupid multiple births (having more than 1 or 2 children in this day and age).
And you are good at ambushing the weak souls with s..x
what is this one saying?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by CorperKola: 5:32pm On Jun 13
Angelfrost:
I find the topic/heading of this post very dumb... And quite "Nigerian"!.. Refined and successful men like Fela Durotoye, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Otedola, etc, will actually laugh at the falsehood... Why do poor men, and money miss roads in this part of the world think so naively?

I believe we addressed this issue of stereotyping... All women are not the same, just like all men are not the same. You don't paint all members of a gender with the same negative brush because of 1 or 2 bad experiences.

Respect, or lack of it, is not exactly a trait directly linked to one's financial status: A naturally disrespectful person would be that way whether rich or poor... That's like saying humility comes from lack, while wealth compels arrogance.

All I am saying is: Your friend's wife is probably naturally disrespectful, not necessarily because she is wealthier than he is.

...And I sense he needs to up his game and work on his self-esteem... That kinda includes you OP.

Marrying a woman financially better than one is, doesn't mean that will always be the case. With determination and unity of purpose, the husband can even become financially better (Ask Fela Durotoye).

Conclusion: Ignore the topic, and marry that good woman regardless of her financial stautus if her character is pure gold. Most evil and saucy ladies don't have a dime to their name... Same for men too.


The chances are not good
Women that are better than the husband and are respectful are like like 10%
Meawhile all the examples i have seen have personally been very traumatic for me.
Men jst have a general rule to protect themselves
Its very necessary to have a general rule
Wow i am jobless today o
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Nasri100(m): 5:33pm On Jun 13
NdiaraIGBO:



You kill them all with your stupid multiple births (having more than 1 or 2 children in this day and age).
And you are good at ambushing the weak souls with s..x

God will not forgive anybody that bring in children they can’t take care of.

This madness has been going on for too long in This country and people wonder why we are in this mess.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by 5ublime: 5:33pm On Jun 13
NdiaraIGBO:


I support everything you have said here BUT you African ladies also have to stop the mumu multiple birth (more than 2 children) that you are having all over the place knowing fully well that most those children will grow up into poor adults because our tiny national economy cannot sustain our ever ballooning population! Bringing a man doing well down financially!
Are they impregnating themselves? Shop [b]here [/b]for brains

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Reeses: 5:33pm On Jun 13
sassysure:

U can never be half of who he is. When u see his type out there, u will only wish but your slow mindset will never allow u to grow.
slowpoke and dunce.
U write like a gateman.



Lmaoooo ouch!!!
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by chinchonglee: 5:34pm On Jun 13
henryobinna:
no, don't tell her

Experience is d best teacher so i wont tell her
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by sammyesx: 5:36pm On Jun 13
the elders always say that " when a man marries the wrong woman even the devil leaves him alone

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ornicus: 5:37pm On Jun 13
ibkayee:
Wtf is this obsession some Nigerian guys have with washing their underpants though?

Naija equivalent of swallowing I guess
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 5:39pm On Jun 13
trapQ:
Polygamists?? Hahahaha.. and you think men in polygamous marriages have anything to gain? Lol.

What if the husband of the woman you quoted just prefers serving his own food?Some people are like that.

Let me give you an instance. My mother rarely ever goes to the market. And I mean it, she very rarely goes. Most of the time my dad does. This has been going on for the longest time. And guess what? It's my dad choice. And it doesn't mean he's jobless or emasculated, no. He's infact a very very busy man but he doesn't joke with his stomach and takes his little time off to head to the market and get what he wants. When someone hears it they'll probably think my mom is a bad wife but it's far from that.
one of my academician friends is like your dad too, he used to go to market to even buy food ingredients

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by CorperKola: 5:41pm On Jun 13
GogobiriLalas:
I hate men like you more than the devil...all male feminists should be killed and their carcasses fed to dogs. You don't know what the eff you're saying.
Hanhan this is too much naw
They deserve pity not hate and destruction naw
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by oshaosha2014(m): 5:42pm On Jun 13
Who literally has the cunt here madam

5ublime:


I'll rather be a 'fellow woman' in a happy home than become an egoistic cunt in the name of "man of the house"
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Kolping: 5:43pm On Jun 13
A man should know what his goal is in life and where he is going. This must be done first before finding a woman who will want to help him achieve his goal. If as a man you have not got your act together, you might fall into a situation where the woman will dictate to you where to go. The man is the leader in the home.

Every young (and old) man, before getting involved in a long-term relationship, should spend time to understand the nature of women, especially in the current global war against men.

A good book to read is "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi
https://www.docdroid.net/xmhw/the-rational-male.pdf

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by CorperKola: 5:45pm On Jun 13
Macwrites:


Crazy Macho mentality.
What's the meaning of "Man of the house"?
Why can't he serve himself? Or even cook himself?
What's wrong with calling him by his name? Is his name not to be called?

This entitlement mentality is detrimental to some African men, and is destroying relationships.
I could say the opposite. Find the person that has what you want . Simple!
The Western mentality is detrimental to africam women and is ruining lots of relationships!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by AgreatMan: 5:46pm On Jun 13
OvaSabi1:
Mumu post. An adult that is not disabled cannot dish out food for himself.
Also, she calls him by his name? So, what should she call him? Daddy? Professor? Owner of my head and soul? When they're cuddling at night, she's supposed to say "move closer daddy" abi what?
You are nothing but an unexposed outsider who is jealous and gloating over the misfortune of another person.

Xisnin. AmazonTopaz,runwaymodel, sassysure

For example, a person's moniker is Ovasabi, but I can call that name in 5 different ways n they will each have 5 different meanings. Same way, a woman can say "go n fetch your food," politely or disrespectfully. What we say is not important at all, it is all about how we say it. I believe the OP is .matured enough to know this difference.

I believe in happiness, d man should get out of marriage n find someone his status.

A man needs to leave the house everyday even if it is to bring in 20k at d end of d month, at least, for some self dignity.

I have once been with someone miles above my social status. If she said she can't cook, well, is that news? I can cook better than her. If my laptop is faulty n she offered me her spare laptop, I will refuse. If I happen to be with her on her shopping spree and she ask me to pick something...no madam. Does she pick up some big bills? of course, yes, I cannot come and cripple my account. grin Does she raise her voice and try to boss it? Yes, but I usually react so calmly she immediately realize she crossed line. At the bedtime duties, 7 out of 10 times, I am usually on fire, at least, I get to be the real boss there. Can she leave? Of course she can, but she clearly understood that my life does not depend on her.

I understand that there is the issue that I am not yet married, hence my opinion. However, I don't think I can suddenly change my identify just because I signed on a paper n now wear a ring. I think couples should get to know each other at least 2 years before marriage. Whatever behavior they are covering, they would have let their guard down in that periods, it's left to the other partner whether or not he/she wants to be blind to those behaviors.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Pavarottii(m): 5:47pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
the man is a very quiet man the wife dnt see him as anybody but she respect men who are rich or literate yes she does it... It is bcoz she knows the genesis of the man? Had it been she met the man financially ok i dnt think she wil insult him
Wat are u saying? She met him not financially okay and she still sticked? There is nothing wrong in fishing ur food.. If she has good reasons for not entering d kitchen at that point in time.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Tchange1(m): 5:47pm On Jun 13
Their marriage is due to pressure its that simple

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by richie240: 5:48pm On Jun 13
sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

kevin25:
After eating ur husband wil wash his plate and clean anytn he finds in the sink chai dat guy must be ur puppet women get mind chai i know he must be washin ur cloth as well as cooking while u sat on ur sofa watching zee world... I cant take dat from any woman

Matthew 19:10-11 (KJV)
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
But he [Jesus] said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.


These are the words from the Bible. One day - one day d guys will wake up!
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Pavarottii(m): 5:49pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
Imagine if your friends came around and u instruct your wife to go and bring food for U and ur frd then she told you to go and do by urself how wil u feel? My girlfrd wont try dat talkles of wife
Check urself den... U might av done something to provoke her, but at least for the sake of ur friends presence she should go and dish the food ... Wen he is gone, u guys trash out ur differences. Himself no know who em marry ... If she has never done that through dating she won't wen she is married in front of ur friend.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by jaxxy(m): 5:49pm On Jun 13
ibkayee:

Screaming

Do u have a problem with what u bolded?
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Pavarottii(m): 5:50pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
The man is working now not broke he provides but stil the woman dnt respect him coz no matter any amount the man has she has it times two
Den why did he marry her if he provides knowing she law zero respect?

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ibkayee(f): 5:52pm On Jun 13
HBB1:


Sorry about the Bible reference...

Have you lead a team before, have you ever been a head of anything? Did it mean you were superior to your colleagues or you were the most "responsible'' for any happenings?

I have led teams of people older and younger and nothing changed. We were teammates, partners and we helped one another.

But whatever works for you luv, cheers! wink
Haha no problem at all smiley

Yeah I’ve led teams before, as far as that particular/task I led, the position I held suggested some manner of superiority as far as our goal at that point in time. Even if everyone’s opinion was considered, I’m the leader because I’m meant to be overseeing them in some way, no? Even if the people are my elders

Thank you smiley
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ibkayee(f): 5:53pm On Jun 13
ornicus:


Naija equivalent of swallowing I guess
grin

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