Magnoliaa:


They really are that small. Very rare (reason why they often report feeling like they are not part of this world, misunderstood by everyone, and just different from the rest of the people). The percentage varies--sometimes two, or three but never up to five. The ones within the 5-10% range are the Extroverted Types.

They are empaths, highly sensitive, altruistic and are self-sacrificing, believe the best about people--they don't only relate to things but absorb those things (feelings, events etc) as if they were really happening to them. Because of all these, Narcissists get attracted to them. People who can only give, and give and give (and they've got a lot give), neglect themselves, are only aware of others feelings and needs, tries to 'save' them. So, they tend to be very accepting and believing in goodness - a perfect prey for Narcs.

https://amp.businessinsider.com/why-empaths-and-narcissists-are-attracted-to-each-other-2018-1

https://www.yourtango.com/2018314308/toxic-relationship-between-empath-and-narcissist-attraction

CAPSLOCKED:


I DON'T KNOW WHAT ENFG OR ENKF OR WHAT MEANS BUT I IDENTIFY WITH SOME OF THESE TRAITS.

IT'S NOT BECAUSE THIS RESEARCH, JUST LIKE ASTROLOGY AND ZODIAC IS UP TO 2% TRUE, BUT BECAUSE HUMAN BEINGS ARE COMPLEX AND DO NOT BELONG TO ANY SINGLE GROUP OF CHARACTERS.

THE AQUARIUS TODAY WOULD'VE BELIEVED HE'S ARIES OR VIRGO IF THERE WAS A MISTAKE IN HIS BIRTH MONTH.

IT'S ALL BS, THESE PSYCHOLOGICAL CRAPS.




JUST LIST THE SAME ATTRIBUTES, BUT TWIST UP THE LANGUAGE LIKE THEY DO WITH ZODIAC SIGNS AND HUMAN BEINGS WILL BELIEVE THE RESEARCH AND THE CATEGORY THEY FALL IN IS HUNDRED PERCENT TRUE.

HUMANS ARE LIKE THAT.

Xavi2019:

Asides the fact I made a typo "can't", I don't see any problems with my English, I could pick faults in yours too if I want to.
Pick your fight somewhere else!

lowkeyguy:
Nice post. Good to know that we have people that have knowledge of MBTI on nairaland

Magnoliaa:





Diagnosed? You mean you were 'diagnosed with the INFJ personality type?' How is that possible?

And I disagree with you. I'm not a fan of arguments, discussions claiming this type is best, this type is this or that--all types have their good and bad sides.

The INFJ type isn't the worst (Gandhi, Mother Theresa, Jesus Christ and Martin Luther King Jr are of these types). Some of the greatest writers, artists, poets are INFJs. They are empaths, deeply insightful, altruistic, very complex--and seek to make the world better. I'd like to know why you think it's the worst though.

I love it, I'm proud to be one.

Other types are the ones that wish to be one, an INFJ or are obsessed with them. This is what I've seen on Facebook groups sha.

liberalchick:
Don’t all these personality test thingies occur on a spectrum? maybe she is the worst kind lol I guess she feels how she feels.

Magnoliaa:



It's draining. You know the Door slam?

traihit:
I guess you've also find yourself trying to be perfect to everyone in your life snd discovering it will frustrate and stress you out. These are things I have to deal with...

DavidEsq:

It's rarely possible being an INFj and at the time, be able to fit into any crowd. That's not true. Their sense of insecurity would get in th way and worse still, their ability to read persons would go against fitting into any crowd.

theButterfly:
I called it a diagnosis b/c upon discovering my MBTI, I was able to link my behavioral, thought patterns and difficulties to it - similar to how a healthcare provider links a group of symptoms to an illness. It wasn't a “diagnosis” in the literal sense of the word [which was why I stated that it's not an illness] but more like a “discovery” for me. I should've been more clear by saying “I discovered” rather than “I was diagnosed” to avoid confusion.

As to why I think it is the worst, I struggle with pretty much all the functions, esp. my auxillary and inferior functions: Fe and Se. If I say it's the worst I was referring to some of my struggles as an INFJ and how being an INFJ reinforces them and others I have. I will answer this question more extensively in my Diary soonest, along with my experiences with being an INFJ and why I think other types should be thankful. cc. GeniusWannabe

Yes, I'm very much aware that all types have their strengths and weaknesses. No type is better than another, but as an INFJ I would say it's the hardest personality type, perhaps b/c it's all I've ever known and INFJ depression is real.

Don't take offense to this but from your writing and response style, your statement that “I love it. I'm proud to be one” (INFJs don't toot their own horns) and you not understanding what I meant by it being the worst, I can tell you aren't an INFJ. I've studied the MBTI long enough to spot others easily. If I write on PersonalityCafe or INFJforums (both of which I'm a member of) that INFJs is the worst MBTI ever, other INFJs would understand me as well as show empathy. True INFJs struggle with many things, which other true INFJs can relate or at least, empathize with.

Smiles. I probably am.


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Magnoliaa:



They do. Like this MBTI test, for example, one can be typed as four different personalities on different websites. I've read that it changes though. With age, experience, some functions developing.

Maybe lol. That type particularly can be a blessing or a curse. It depends on the person.

GeniusWannabe:

Why do you think it's something to be thankful about?

theButterfly:
I called it a diagnosis b/c upon discovering my MBTI, I was able to link my behavioral, thought patterns and difficulties to it - similar to how a healthcare provider links a group of symptoms to an illness. It wasn't a “diagnosis” in the literal sense of the word [which was why I stated that it's not an illness] but more like a “discovery” for me. I should've been more clear by saying “I discovered” rather than “I was diagnosed” to avoid confusion.

As to why I think it is the worst, I struggle with pretty much all the functions, esp. my auxillary and inferior functions: Fe and Se. If I say it's the worst I was referring to some of my struggles as an INFJ and how being an INFJ reinforces them and others I have. I will answer this question more extensively in my Diary soonest, along with my experiences with being an INFJ and why I think other types should be thankful. cc. GeniusWannabe

Yes, I'm very much aware that all types have their strengths and weaknesses. No type is better than another, but as an INFJ I would say it's the hardest personality type, perhaps b/c it's all I've ever known and INFJ depression is real.

Don't take offense to this but from your writing and response style, your statement that “I love it. I'm proud to be one” (INFJs don't toot their own horns) and you not understanding what I meant by it being the worst, I can tell you aren't an INFJ. I've studied the MBTI long enough to spot others easily. If I write on PersonalityCafe or INFJforums (both of which I'm a member of) that INFJs is the worst MBTI ever, other INFJs would understand me as well as show empathy. True INFJs struggle with many things, which other true INFJs can relate or at least, empathize with.

Smiles. I probably am.


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lordskid:
NL_NATION



It’s not everyday that you’ll come across an INFJ, but when you do, you’ll never forget them.

People with INFJ personality type are some of the rarest people in the world. They have extremely unique characteristics that set them apart from the rest.

Do you feel like you are different from everyone you know? If so, don’t worry. There’s nothing wrong with you.

Below are several characteristics that will help determine if you, or someone you know, is an INFJ.

These diamonds in the rough are a real treasure, so if you find this type of personality type in your life, never let them go!

1. THEY LIKE TO WRITE

INFJs prefer to write than speak. They aren’t big talkers unless absolutely necessary. They find peace in writing because it allows them the creativity to express their thoughts.

2. THEY OVERTHINK A LOT

INFJs are the ultimate overthinker. They can’t let a social situation just play out. No, they have to go over it in their head like a jillion times before they can feel secure. And they almost never feel secure.

3. THEY HAVE TROUBLE PUTTING THOUGHTS INTO WORDS

It’s not always easy to put thoughts into words for an INFJ. Their thoughts are often so complex and jumbled that it’s hard to figure out what exactly they want to say.

4. THEY ARE LONERS

They can often be found wandering the park alone, drinking coffee by themselves at a cafe. However, don’t assume they are lonely. They choose to isolate themselves from the world in order to get in touch with their inner self and organize their thoughts.

5. THEY CAN FIT IN ANYWHERE

At the end of the day, they are extremely flexible people who can fit in with just about any crowd. They have no problem using this to their advantage.

6. THEY ARE EMPATHETIC AND SENSITIVE

Have you heard the word empath before? This perfectly describes the INFJs of the world. They are unbelievably caring and generous people.

They will always go out of their way to help those in need. They think about what would LIFE be in other people’s shoes. This is what makes them so sensitive to the feelings of others. They would never intentionally hurt someone.

7. THEY CAREFULLY SELECT THEIR FRIENDS

INFJs prefer the comfort of their own home and they value their privacy. They would much rather be alone than surrounded by bad company. They are very selective of who they surround themselves with.

They only want to hang out with people who share the same values as they do and also respect their alone time.

8. THEY SEEK THE TRUTH

INFJs are fascinated by the mysteries of our universe. They could spend the entire night just watching the stars drift by. They aren’t interested in ordinary things like who won this weeks sports game.

They prefer to delve deep into the true nature of things. Be prepared for some heavy conversations with an INFJ.

9. THEY TRUST THEIR INTUITION

Intuition. Intuition. Intuition. INFJs can easily sense when something isn’t right. This is one of their most important characteristics. Not only do they have a deep sense of intuition, but they listen to their gut feelings.

While most people ignore these feelings, INFJs have a keen sense about what is happening in their life. Their gut is almost never wrong.

10. THEY ARE FULL OF CONTRADICTIONS

INFJs might seem bipolar at times. They can go from happy to sad in a heartbeat. Their emotions are constantly changing, which can make them especially difficult to keep track of.

THEY CAN READ PEOPLE

This skill comes from their deep emotional intelligence. They can see right through people’s words and actions.

They can identify an manipulator very quickly. They use this trait to protect themselves by removing those negative people from their lives.

Higher Perspective

Hardrive:


This is an assumption. Anybody can fall prey to a narcissist personality at the initial stages of manipulation when you are still trying to understand the situation, but when you eventually arm yourself with the knowledge of who they are, the tide changes and you have power over them by giving them a dose of their own medicine.
Most important thing a human can do for himself in this life is to know how the world works by observing and reading books.

Gbadebo01:
i am an INFJ and i am thankful. I think the issue we have is accepting ourselves for who we are. Especially if you are a guy as people expect you to be strong. Overthinking that's the worst! You want make a decision and you are thinking about the future, present, past, of that decision so when i get like that, i just do it anyway but for very important decisions i ask for advice that helps me unburden. Dont get me started on the anxiety disorder associated with the thinking. I like the fact i am able to see patterns, i am a poet, i am a writer, sometimes i struggle to say what i mean but writing it down works a charm. Though sometimes it feels like i carry the world on my shoulders, sometimes everything looks so demoralising but sometimes its a blessing as i feel connection to almost everything. Sometimes i cry and break down to reset my system. I sleep alot too. I won't want to have it any other way though. I like who i am! An infj

mojibbz:

Lol exactly.. Trying to do right by every Tom dick and Harry but I recently learnt to not give a Bleep about people that don't give a Bleep about me too. Well until they find themselves in a dire situation then I start getting all empathetic again

GeniusWannabe:

I know how it feels. It gets worse when people just don't get you. Struggling to express your thoughts in words can be a burden. When this happens, people think you're just another bozo. But when you write, you feel like Albert Einstein, or (based on your poetic tendencies), William Shakespeare. Please tell me, do you think your difficulty in verbally expressing your thoughts could be a result of slow thinking? Are you a slow thinker?

Gbadebo01:
i like to think i am not. i am learning to think by asking myself questions rather than just allowing my thoughts run riot.

GeniusWannabe:

theButterfly:

Most online tests are unreliable and skewed. I wouldn't call myself an INFJ if I found out via online tests, but I've done actual MBTI tests outside the internet (a total of 4 different tests) all of which were administered by Psychologists. The first was when I was in the 12th grade, as I stated earlier, the last one was taken last year at my Uni) and my results was INFJ each time. While I think it's better to take an actual test, I understand that many people only have access to online tests and really, they aren't a bad starting point for anyone to use, so they're absolutely welcome to do so. A lot of people also answer MBTI questions not as they are but as how they want to be, which can also result in skewed results or mistyping. People should understand that no one type is better or more special than another. Some types are better at navigating this social world but nature relies on the existence of every type to sustain the maximum survival of the species.

The core properties of one's essential type often remains immutable, which Jung talks about in Psychological Types. Saying one's MBTI changes is saying it's acquired rather than inborn. People can adapt and grow more accustomed to their functions a lot better as they get older though. I know I'm not there yet and that I repress some of my functions, which is why I struggle with some things and why I'm always depressed and uncomfortable.

GeniusWannabe:

But that's basically slow thinking, isn't it?
I've been trying to adopt that method of thinking recently, but it tends to be overwhelming sometimes. I find myself questioning everything unnecessarily. I can't process my thoughts without asking the most basic questions.