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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by dustydee: 9:29am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.
Perhaps both of you should get married first since at the moment you are the one that married her.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 9:30am On Jun 29, 2019
Well investigate if she's lesbians you simply cut her loose it's her choice not yours life goes on

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Iyajelili(f): 9:30am On Jun 29, 2019
Marriage sef

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by chiwex(m): 9:31am On Jun 29, 2019
are you sure she is not infected

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by fergie001: 9:31am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22.....

I am not joking.........

Something is eating your wife up,and she doesn't want to tell you...

Or

Someone is playing music for her outside......

Trust me,am telling you the truth....
She is seeing someone else or getting emotionally attached to someone else......
Your story is 100% mine,am telling you......

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 9:32am On Jun 29, 2019
Her watching lesbian porn doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian. Most straight women watch lesbian porn because it’s more stimulating.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Wallade(m): 9:33am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
she isnt even good with sex, 15 mins of thrusting and she will complain of pains, she never satisfied me because i mostly pull out erected and wanting more, she herself is sad she does not satisfy me, secondly I do 99% percent of the work on her to get her in the mood without receiving any, thirdly did not marry her a virgin

I read all information above and my conclusion is that your wife is a lesbian. Her partner is probably that her friend that you know. She has only been tolerating sex with you and she has feelings for you, she wants the relationship with you but she also wants good sex from her lesbian partners.

STDs and STIs can be transmitted through the toilet, your doctor was not correct about his position but I think your doctor strongly believes that your wife is having sex with someone else or some other people.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Newguyhere: 9:34am On Jun 29, 2019
this is why I advise men to always test drive their partners before marriage undecided

never in your life try that no sex poo until marriage with a woman.. Never!!!

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Junkie1: 9:34am On Jun 29, 2019
YOUR WIFE'S A LESBIAN FIND OUT WHO HER PARTNER IS Y'ALL CAN HAVE A party

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by koolaid87: 9:34am On Jun 29, 2019
Your girl needs to be anointed


Try Coza wink

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Mizwisdom(f): 9:35am On Jun 29, 2019
You're not appealing any more sad
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Frankyboy1(m): 9:35am On Jun 29, 2019
Truth
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by dyze(m): 9:35am On Jun 29, 2019
liberalchick:
Op, it doesn’t mean your wife is cheating don’t let NL ruin your marriage. Most porn are geared towards a male viewer, so most times the only female friendly porn available are lesbian flicks. So some women that watch porn, watch lesbian porn. Straight women are not as turned off as straight men are to anything gay. Now you guys need to have a talk on why she started watching porn, I suspect she doesn’t feel sexually satisfied.

Her saying “you are not doing it well” just means she is not getting any satisfaction from the way you ‘do’ it. You don’t need to be getting ‘it’ elsewhere to know when you are not sexually satisfied. Again, talk to her, ask her what she wants and why lately she is no longer as excited as she used to be. I will look for the article about female friendly porn, will post it when I see it.

Modified
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a61995/straight-women-lesbian-porn/

You omitted the STD part

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by ufuosman(m): 9:36am On Jun 29, 2019
Dis one na serious matter
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Samakus(m): 9:36am On Jun 29, 2019
Nawao. Person go hustle money finish, marry woman put for house, everyday no rest. Na so so think think im go dey do.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 9:36am On Jun 29, 2019
Father Lord let my husband be open to us satisfying each other Amen

It is well find her love language try pre-intimacy not just straight to the do. I’m shy and I can’t beg someone for sex I can hint o but there’s always someone you love that you can Show love who can do you in the way we were made to be done o ...like the song by psquare

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by lilianofentse(f): 9:36am On Jun 29, 2019
Junkie1:
YOUR WIFE'S A LESBIAN FIND OUT WHO HER PARTNER IS Y'ALL CAN HAVE A party
this isn't a joke. Cmon
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by enemyofprogress: 9:37am On Jun 29, 2019
Take your wife to COZA, pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo knows how to deal with those kinds of women grin grin

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by samcus(m): 9:37am On Jun 29, 2019
so many problem in dis life,well make 3pm reach make I go drink beer jare,imagine married woman dey ask 4 head up nd down without thinking of cancer of d month yeye dey smell

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by DelilahMakinde(f): 9:38am On Jun 29, 2019
This marriage of a thing sha...

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Frankyboy1(m): 9:38am On Jun 29, 2019
Deepfeel:

No am not married but I have been close enough to a married lady in the past to know what is happening to your wife, especially if u married her as a virgin or u are the only man she knows sexually, that feeling of there is more to sex than what she's getting from you will always be there till she tries it with another man,
Initially she was always satisfied and reach orgasm with just penetrated sex right? But u see sex is a mind game in her mind she has a new taste for sex which goes beyond just kissing smooching fingering and penetrating
She's out to explore sex with someone else
If u still love your wife will advise u to study and get to know your wife more sexually the act of sex is a progressive one she has moved to another stage you are still on the same initial stage sexual understanding is important between couples


Please shut up in issues beyond your scope, his wife is seeing someone else and is sexually and emotionally committed to that person, that's why the emotional and sexual disconnections, if she wasn't,then she will be eager to work things out with him, now run back to ur jamb books

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by HitSong: 9:39am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos
You are your own problem...


You married a girl that you probably didn't deflower and you're still giving her head (technically sucking all other guys sperm that has been deposited in her)
SHE EVEN GAVE YOU STD MEANING THAT SHE'S CHEATING shocked
THE TRUTH IS THAT, YOU ARE OUT OF HER LEAGUE AND YOU NO LONGER SATISFY HER.
MOVE ON!
#DON'T MARRY A LEFTOVER

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by koyeni(m): 9:39am On Jun 29, 2019
Marriage. Chai

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by yankison(m): 9:40am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
Thanks for all your contributions

The issues is no matter how hard i try giving her head i cant seem to ratify her, her reactions toward my efforts is very discouraging and secondly since am not into it from onset i belive am not good in it.

The STD she tagged was toilet infection but i later found out it wasn't, after having disccuedwith my family doctor who told me STD cant be contacted from the toilet.


Stop been a weakling nah which one is cheating is not your stuff .. do you want to continue to be a sex slave to your so called wife .na wao ... Find another lady that can always satisfy you sexually . They are all over she is going to understand you got a wife .. there are some problem you don't treat with a gentle man sense .. which one is all this .... When you don't have her time anymore then her eyes would clear also don't forget to get evidence of her been a lesbian or outrightly cheating on you . Men you have to keep your head up . Do you want to give yourself HBP because of a woman if you get stroke she won't be home all day to take care of you to.... Wake up ..that's bullshit to your marriage

I just seem lost in this as all my effort to connect with her emotionally seems dead, secondly i dont wish to have a divorced home but then again i cant continue begging for sex always, i just feel bad doing that must times i just sleep with my urge, it's affecting me and cheating is not my stuff.
Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by yankison(m): 9:41am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
Thanks for all your contributions

The issues is no matter how hard i try giving her head i cant seem to ratify her, her reactions toward my efforts is very discouraging and secondly since am not into it from onset i belive am not good in it.

The STD she tagged was toilet infection but i later found out it wasn't, after having disccuedwith my family doctor who told me STD cant be contacted from the toilet.

I just seem lost in this as all my effort to connect with her emotionally seems dead, secondly i dont wish to have a divorced home but then again i cant continue begging for sex always, i just feel bad doing that must times i just sleep with my urge, it's affecting me and cheating is not my stuff.


Stop been a weakling nah which one is cheating is not your stuff .. do you want to continue to be a sex slave to your so called wife .na wao ... Find another lady that can always satisfy you sexually . They are all over she is going to understand you got a wife .. there are some problem you don't treat with a gentle man sense .. which one is all this .... When you don't have her time anymore then her eyes would clear also don't forget to get evidence of her been a lesbian or outrightly cheating on you . Men you have to keep your head up . Do you want to give yourself HBP because of a woman if you get stroke she won't be home all day to take care of you to.... Wake up ..that's bullshit to your marriage

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by Nobody: 9:42am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos

The only problems is that u are very faithful to a fault.

Have a nice day.

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by smarttm: 9:42am On Jun 29, 2019
Hyacenth22:
I married my wife 2 years ago, it was all rossy till last year when she had a family issue which was very fatal, we solved it half way so the issues still lingers and bothers her anyway.

Early this year i started noticing lack of sexual urge for me, i practically have to beg her or rather ask for sex was thinking it might be the family issues she was facing, am very faithful to a fault, the issues has lingered on for long now that i have to engage sexual lubricant in other to have sex with her as she is never Hot or sexually stimulated, doesn't miss me or even initiate any form of sexual act with me, does not ask for sex, even during any sex i succeed to imitate she never acts intrested, i just have to stroke till am tired and pull out, she just lay like a dead wood with little or no moan.

This was a lady who was actually always demanding we make love.

I have discussed with her on this issues alot and what seems to be the problem is giving head, when i meet my wife i was very conscious of our sexual orientations as at then MouthAction was something we both agreed to wave off because she complains my dick shocks her and myself never enjoy giving head.

The whole pre intimacy was boiled down to kissing, smooching and fingering which was what normally excites her the most.

She later confessed to me that her female friend talk her into how exciting receiving head seems and after i tried it once she now needs to receive head before she can get Hot, have seen lots of her searched histroy are on lesbian pussy sucking, just last month we both ended up treating an STD she gave me, the last time i tried giving her head she told me i wasn't doing it well, i was lost in thoughts because this was my second time giving her head and i improved as compared to the first time.

Am worried over all these because am begining to think she is cheating on me, the worst nightmare to me is being that any attempt to touch her down there is being resisted and she always says fingering now pains her, it's either i give her head or nothing, i haven't gotten much evidence as to her sleeping around because i haven't done much scoping on her.

Am just confused as i type this because i need clarity and opinions on these how possible can a lady sexual preferences change this fast , if she is actually cheating already is there any good way to find out am just confused.

Please pardon my typos


You should be grateful to have known the problem and I think solving it is not hard...if you are not ready to satisfy her someone else will...learn how to do it...

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Re: Sex Is Causing Problems In My Marriage, Help Me Save My Marriage by enny234: 9:43am On Jun 29, 2019
Wallade:


I read all information above and my conclusion is that your wife is a lesbian. Her partner is probably that her friend that you know. She has only been tolerating sex with you and she has feelings for you, she wants the relationship with you but she also wants good sex from her lesbian partners.

STDs and STIs can be transmitted through the toilet, your doctor was not correct about his position but I think your doctor strongly believes that your wife is having sex with someone else or some other people.
STDs or STIs are highly unlikely to be transmitted through the toilet. Be informed. Cheers

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