jahchild34:
There's this girl I dated back in school 11 years ago, she had an argument and broke up then but sometimes we still get to see each other once in a while when she's around because she lives in Kaduna, so after I graduated in 2012 because I went to a polytechnic we never get so see each other much longer but sometimes we don chat and speak on the phone, so after my service I travelled out of the country and God so kind I was doing a bit OK, I really loved her and wanted to marry her if things worked out..

So last two years I came back December and called her she said she's in lagos and I was also in Lagos, she gave me excuses that she can't come because of one thing or the other, so I tried twice she didn't come to meet me so I left for my state in a week time, I called her when I got home and we spoke on the phone and I told her I want to have a baby, my intentions was to get her pregnant and do the normal rites by seeing her family but she insulted me and called me all manner of names.

To cut the story short I dated another girl and got her pregnant and now I have a baby boy of which she's aware of, my son is almost 8 months old.

Until recently she started showing much interest in me and pleading with me she wants to visit me and spend a month or two, I am curious because this is strange and I feel she has some ulterior motives on her visit, I need to know if something is fishy or maybe someone might have had this same experience.

Be aware my baby and his mom are in Nigeria but we are not yet married because we agreed we wanted a baby together and no strings attached, we didn't agree to get married we just agreed to have a baby together.

Please your contributions are needed

erimmy:
Rape allegations loading. Pls don't be a victim.

Halezis:
She doesn't deserve you. Cut her off completely and marry your baby mama.

SEGLIZ:
are married or not?
if not you still want her?
be careful not to father another man's child?

stefanweeks:
Wait let me call COZA landline

jahchild34:

Could that be the case ? Nothing of such has come to my mind but I won't be be so certain

jahchild34:
There's this girl I dated back in school 11 years ago, she had an argument and broke up then but sometimes we still get to see each other once in a while when she's around because she lives in Kaduna, so after I graduated in 2012 because I went to a polytechnic we never get so see each other much longer but sometimes we don chat and speak on the phone, so after my service I travelled out of the country and God so kind I was doing a bit OK, I really loved her and wanted to marry her if things worked out..

So last two years I came back December and called her she said she's in lagos and I was also in Lagos, she gave me excuses that she can't come because of one thing or the other, so I tried twice she didn't come to meet me so I left for my state in a week time, I called her when I got home and we spoke on the phone and I told her I want to have a baby, my intentions was to get her pregnant and do the normal rites by seeing her family but she insulted me and called me all manner of names.

To cut the story short I dated another girl and got her pregnant and now I have a baby boy of which she's aware of, my son is almost 8 months old.

Until recently she started showing much interest in me and pleading with me she wants to visit me and spend a month or two, I am curious because this is strange and I feel she has some ulterior motives on her visit, I need to know if something is fishy or maybe someone might have had this same experience.

Be aware my baby and his mom are in Nigeria but we are not yet married because we agreed we wanted a baby together and no strings attached, we didn't agree to get married we just agreed to have a baby together.

Please your contributions are needed

jahchild34:

Coza this coza that, this coza stuff will teach and open girls eye on how to milk mugu naija guys o but I trust real niggaz they always have a way around stuffs like allegations

barapistis:
This guy seems headless

jahchild34:

Do you care to give your reasons why you feel someone is headless ? You when get head

barapistis:


A baby needs the love of both parents to grow

And leave life the way it should be

From your story

You more interested In having a baby than having a wife

Children are for marriages not single parents
No matter how you want to argue this out

The principal plan of the creator is to have babies in marriage

Not co-habitation

If you just want a baby

Then you cannot give the full support the baby will need during the course of the babies life
As making babies is just above financial responsibilities

Think deep,you not yet a man,
Most men in our society thinks The ability to Bleep a woman and pay some bills is what makes you a man,

What makes you a man. Includes these four major things

Ability to

teach

Love

Provide

And protect

These are the cardinal things that makes up real men,

From your submissions

You are lacking in those areas therefore

You are yet to be a father

Forget the fact that you have a child

jahchild34:
There's this girl I dated back in school 11 years ago, she had an argument and broke up then but sometimes we still get to see each other once in a while when she's around because she lives in Kaduna, so after I graduated in 2012 because I went to a polytechnic we never get so see each other much longer but sometimes we don chat and speak on the phone, so after my service I travelled out of the country and God so kind I was doing a bit OK, I really loved her and wanted to marry her if things worked out..

So last two years I came back December and called her she said she's in lagos and I was also in Lagos, she gave me excuses that she can't come because of one thing or the other, so I tried twice she didn't come to meet me so I left for my state in a week time, I called her when I got home and we spoke on the phone and I told her I want to have a baby, my intentions was to get her pregnant and do the normal rites by seeing her family but she insulted me and called me all manner of names.

To cut the story short I dated another girl and got her pregnant and now I have a baby boy of which she's aware of, my son is almost 8 months old.

Until recently she started showing much interest in me and pleading with me she wants to visit me and spend a month or two, I am curious because this is strange and I feel she has some ulterior motives on her visit, I need to know if something is fishy or maybe someone might have had this same experience.

Be aware my baby and his mom are in Nigeria but we are not yet married because we agreed we wanted a baby together and no strings attached, we didn't agree to get married we just agreed to have a baby together.

Please your contributions are needed

jahchild34:

Thank you for your advice but everyone has their own way of life and you cannot dictate for everyone that those list are the criterias for being a real man, you don't have to judge everyone because you are living your life as to your best of knowledge, its my life and I can decide on how to live it, nothing makes me less a man because my child has my support and proper care has always been given to him, its my life and I chose to decide on how to live and not you

barapistis:


There are standard principles of living a good life

Your style as written by you is not one of those

NUJABEZ:


F. Cck off.

erimmy:
Rape allegations loading. Pls don't be a victim.

ogb5:


This your case is interesting.

You wanted her to have a baby for you. She insulted you when you told her of your plan. That was good on her part. Which normal girl wants to be a baby mama first before being a wife.

Next you got a willing baby mama and now have a 8 months old child. Marriage to this baba mama is not yet on the table.

Now your ex that rejected being your baby mama 2 years ago has suddenly seen the light and wants to fall in line.

Well what I can say is that she is coming for her own selfish interest. Either she has seen that men are scarce around her and prefers to go back to her vomit or she has some needs she is unable to meet and believe she can get you to help or she just need to retrace her routes and settle down and she chose you.

Whatever the reason, she is not coming for your interest.

But since you like baba mama syndrome, you can do trade by barter with her, you help her with her needs and she be your second baby mama. Sounds fair enough.

Before you guys commence the trade by barter, ensure both of you go for HIV, hepatitis B, hepatitis C and syphilis screening. I don't want you to open another thread of how you guys were sharing stds

izaray:
It's possible she was in another relationship then, but she shouldn't have insulted you though!

NUJABEZ:


F. Cck off.

stefanweeks:
Wait let me call COZA landline

stefanweeks:
Wait let me call COZA landline