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Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by adaezeh126(f): 10:15pm On Jul 14, 2019
Cheating is an ever-present scourge on the dating and marriage culture we have here – and any other part of the world for that matter.

Such is the difficulty people apparently encounter in staying with one partner that the very concept of monogamy and its applicability to human beings has been called to question over and over again. But of course, that conversation is one best not had here. So, we’ll sidestep it and get to the gist of this piece.


What’s next when a partner cheats on you? Do you dump them and move on? Or do you look for a way to mend bridges and move on from that episode. Is there any reason to not send such partner packing?

Yes, there are. And while leaving a cheating partner remains a valid choice should you choose to do that, here are some three reasons why you may want to do the opposite of it; that is, forgive and keep the relationship going.

1. Genuine remorse

Cheating is not a mistake. That bit is undeniable. Anyone who cheats would have very likely thought it out and planned it before executing the heartbreaking action. Regardless, we can’t discount the truth in the fact that when someone does this, there is also the possibility that they would regret the action and seek out a way to fix what they have done.
What’s next when a partner cheats on you? What’s next when a partner cheats on you?

If your spouse has been committed to repairing your marriage or relationship, it’s worth forgiving them. They clearly want to make things work and understand the mistakes they’ve made. They’ll have to work really hard to regain your trust and make it right again. But if they are willing to walk down that long road, you should be willing to meet them halfway, with open arms and the gift of forgiveness

2. Is it worth saving?

Frankly, this may be the biggest of all the tips on fixing a relationship after one partner cheats. You know your partner more than anyone, and you have the details of your relationship and the work, effort and all that has been poured into it before the point when your partner decides to do something that would jeopardise and piss it all away.


Considering all of this, do you consider the relationship worth saving? Do they want to keep it, too, or is the cheating just emblematic of their decision to let go of everything? Is there enough left to salvage? Do you think there is a chance that the relationship could move beyond the cheating.

Forgiving isn’t just continuing the marriage holding on to anger and hurt, it’s actually letting go and actively practicing trust again. Your spouse will never be able to make you heal, even if they’re trying hard to regain your trust. Only you can decide to heal then pursue healing.

No matter how noble the idea is, if it translates to cheating, it is a bad idea No matter how noble the idea is, if it translates to cheating, it is a bad idea

3. A one-time thing

Some partners are serial cheats, and some are not. If the problem is an anomaly and not business as usual, it’s worth trying to work things out.

For instance, if a person messes up and they’ve never done this before, it’s worth working it through especially if your partner expresses remorse.

If we are being honest, there is nothing to say they won’t do it again, but then, if you are good with taking that chance on them, then show a little faith and give them a second chance to prove that they want the relationship with you.

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Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by brodalikeme(m): 10:33pm On Jul 14, 2019
I have a question.
Which is preferable, a cheating wife or a stubborn wife?
Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by dkronicle(m): 10:39pm On Jul 14, 2019
I dont have to read thia rubbish
Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:16pm On Jul 14, 2019
RUBBISH UPON RUBBISH FROM LOW SELF ESTEEM PEOPLE!!!
If a woman has the audacity to cheat on you... Meaning she has NO RESPECT for you or your r/ship, meaning she is UNTRUSTWORTHY and could do much more evil act, she is DECEITFUL therefore nothing coming out of her mouth is to be trusted, but most importantly, she has lost ALL HER VALUE by going to open her legs to another man with total disregard for the hurt/damage it will cause you/your relationship, then I am sorry but this demon must be dropped ASAP

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Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jul 14, 2019
Trash. This social media age is making majority lose their senses.[s]
adaezeh126:


Cheating is an ever-present scourge on the dating and marriage culture we have here – and any other part of the world for that matter.

Such is the difficulty people apparently encounter in staying with one partner that the very concept of monogamy and its applicability to human beings has been called to question over and over again. But of course, that conversation is one best not had here. So, we’ll sidestep it and get to the gist of this piece.


What’s next when a partner cheats on you? Do you dump them and move on? Or do you look for a way to mend bridges and move on from that episode. Is there any reason to not send such partner packing?

Yes, there are. And while leaving a cheating partner remains a valid choice should you choose to do that, here are some three reasons why you may want to do the opposite of it; that is, forgive and keep the relationship going.

1. Genuine remorse

Cheating is not a mistake. That bit is undeniable. Anyone who cheats would have very likely thought it out and planned it before executing the heartbreaking action. Regardless, we can’t discount the truth in the fact that when someone does this, there is also the possibility that they would regret the action and seek out a way to fix what they have done.
What’s next when a partner cheats on you? What’s next when a partner cheats on you?

If your spouse has been committed to repairing your marriage or relationship, it’s worth forgiving them. They clearly want to make things work and understand the mistakes they’ve made. They’ll have to work really hard to regain your trust and make it right again. But if they are willing to walk down that long road, you should be willing to meet them halfway, with open arms and the gift of forgiveness

2. Is it worth saving?

Frankly, this may be the biggest of all the tips on fixing a relationship after one partner cheats. You know your partner more than anyone, and you have the details of your relationship and the work, effort and all that has been poured into it before the point when your partner decides to do something that would jeopardise and piss it all away.


Considering all of this, do you consider the relationship worth saving? Do they want to keep it, too, or is the cheating just emblematic of their decision to let go of everything? Is there enough left to salvage? Do you think there is a chance that the relationship could move beyond the cheating.

Forgiving isn’t just continuing the marriage holding on to anger and hurt, it’s actually letting go and actively practicing trust again. Your spouse will never be able to make you heal, even if they’re trying hard to regain your trust. Only you can decide to heal then pursue healing.

No matter how noble the idea is, if it translates to cheating, it is a bad idea No matter how noble the idea is, if it translates to cheating, it is a bad idea

3. A one-time thing

Some partners are serial cheats, and some are not. If the problem is an anomaly and not business as usual, it’s worth trying to work things out.

For instance, if a person messes up and they’ve never done this before, it’s worth working it through especially if your partner expresses remorse.

If we are being honest, there is nothing to say they won’t do it again, but then, if you are good with taking that chance on them, then show a little faith and give them a second chance to prove that they want the relationship with you.
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Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by Fountainofyouth(f): 11:46pm On Jul 14, 2019
I will NEVER forgive a cheat and take him back because I have NEVER cheated in my life before, the moment I find out he cheated, we are done.

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Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by LilMissFavvy(f): 1:35am On Jul 15, 2019
It all depends on how remorseful the cheat is. Or maybe a cheat deserves to be cheated on as well......two should play the game tongue tongue tongue. Am I joking or serious? cool........... tongue
Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by babyfaceafrica: 6:42am On Jul 15, 2019
i disagree..cheating occurs when one partner betrays another emotionally,physically,spiritually and sexually.one a partner cheats,trust is broken and may never be mended.There is absolutely no tangible reason anybody should cheat on a partner,loyalty is sacred.

if you have an abusive partner,leave!!.if you have a nagging partner,manage her or leave,if you have a partner whose sexual orientation /strenght differs from yours ,try to meet up halfway...cheating does not solve anything.i have never cheated and will never do..i practise what some people call loyalty monogamy...satisfyung a woman is a work,where will i get time and strenght with two or many....my problem is not even forgiving a chear,but i can never forget her disloyalty,how then do you continue to live with someone like that
Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by babyfaceafrica: 7:02am On Jul 15, 2019
brodalikeme:
I have a question.
Which is preferable, a cheating wife or a stubborn wife?
a stubborn wife sir,a cheat can give you disease and can kill you...
Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 7:09am On Jul 15, 2019
Just passing
Re: Reason Why You Should Not Break Up If Your Partner Cheats On You by uthlaw: 8:32am On Jul 15, 2019
I should not break up because no women again in this life....

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