Onyinyechiakata:
WOW LOOK AT WHAT WE HAVE HERE !
THIS IS YOUR ONYINYECHI SWEET "AKATA " you speak of I am across the world and have stumbled upon
A whole forum bashing and judging me about making a better living for MYSELF IN MY country!
How could you tell me to MAKE DECISIONS for myself when I shared with you about my people accusing you of being a user and scam! Because you are from Nigeria! I didn't listen I followed my heart I made a decision to use my VERY OWN JUDGEMENT , I listened to what you said and respected your wishes all for you to turn around behind my back and do the very same as me except its from COMPLETE ICOMPENTENT and IGNORANT TROLLS , you value these opinions !?? YOU ARE ASKING ABOUT Finance , money and opportunity not once saying you love me .. the username Byron asked if you did IN FACT LOVE ME and YOU couldn't even answer! That is what marriage is about LOVE ! I fell in love because I thought you were so different ... not looking to use me but I see I was so wrong ! YOU ALL HAVE NO IDEA what its like to be an AMERICAN so really all your opinions do not matter. I have not committed a crime ! I simply did what was best for my future. If you all had the chance you would ! How do you think you can afford school here , YOU WOULD HAVE NOTHING MOVING HERE.I was willing to go after OUR DREAMS we talked about together! I DIGRESS I am appalled in this community. My family and friends were right after all I wont say this about all of NIGERIA but I FELL IN LOVE WITH A SCAM !
I could be so DIRTY and EXPOSE WHO YOU REALLY ARE! EXPOSE SECRETS AND FLAWS YOU WANTED ME TO ACCEPT AND I DID BECAUSE I LOVE YOU and still care.! AND YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT ME TAKING MONEY FROM YOU! PATHETIC! AS FOR ALL YOU STUPID JUDMENTAL PEOPLE I PRAY YOU GET A LIFE AND EDUCATE BEFORE JUDGING !

YOU KNOW WHO THIS IS!

AkataWoman:


The way Africans worship white people is so weird and strange to the rest of the world.

In any situation an African will insist white people are perfect but black Americans are the devil.

It’s funny and sad at the same time.

You obviously know NOTHING about white women especially in comparison to black American women.

I’ll just let you find out the hard way.

justwise:


You don't need to be rude and insulting, people have every right to air their views, yes some might have gone too far but this is what you get in public forum.

You have every right to be angry with the op for not declaring his love for you here and was more concern about his own gain but you can't blame people who gave their opinions based on or without experiences.

Onyinyechiakata:
Thank you so much

CanadaOrBust:


U r welcome and if u r going to be dumping that guy let me know

justwise:


You don't need to be rude and insulting, people have every right to air their views, yes some might have gone too far but this is what you get in public forum.

You have every right to be angry with the op for not declaring his love for you here and was more concern about his own gain but you can't blame people who gave their opinions based on or without experiences.

AngelicBeing:
Hian, Una go kill person with laugh for Nairaland.com, wetin person no go read for Nairaland.com, the hustle is real, know your way no be curse

CanadaOrBust:


U r welcome and if u r going to be dumping that guy let me know

CanadaOrBust:


Be easy on her, mod, she was pissed off and excited and justifiably so. She was even tame - if it were me you’d be seeing words like shithole, scammers, 419...

CanadaOrBust:


Stay there. I’m just being real. I can sense this is a decent person and I wouldn’t mind hooking up - has nothing to do with getting out of the shithole

CanadaOrBust:


Stay there. I’m just being real. I can sense this is a decent person and I wouldn’t mind hooking up - has nothing to do with getting out of the shithole

justwise:
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Your choice of ID disagreed with that.

justwise:
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You couldn't make your intentions any clearer. Stop apologizing on our behalf and go straight to the point.

rinzaugustine:
How I wish you are moderating the whole Nairaland ,instead of only the travel section.I know you would have censored all these kids off with their rubbish comments

justwise:
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Your choice of ID disagreed with that.

justwise:
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Your choice of ID disagreed with that.

CanadaOrBust:


My moniker is actually parody - I joined NL at a moment everybody and their illiterate uncle was talking about moving to Canada

Onyinyechiakata:
WOW LOOK AT WHAT WE HAVE HERE !
THIS IS YOUR ONYINYECHI SWEET "AKATA " you speak of I am across the world and have stumbled upon
A whole forum bashing and judging me about making a better living for MYSELF IN MY country!
How could you tell me to MAKE DECISIONS for myself when I shared with you about my people accusing you of being a user and scam! Because you are from Nigeria! I didn't listen I followed my heart I made a decision to use my VERY OWN JUDGEMENT , I listened to what you said and respected your wishes all for you to turn around behind my back and do the very same as me except its from COMPLETE ICOMPENTENT and IGNORANT TROLLS , you value these opinions !?? YOU ARE ASKING ABOUT Finance , money and opportunity not once saying you love me .. the username Byron asked if you did IN FACT LOVE ME and YOU couldn't even answer! That is what marriage is about LOVE ! I fell in love because I thought you were so different ... not looking to use me but I see I was so wrong ! YOU ALL HAVE NO IDEA what its like to be an AMERICAN so really all your opinions do not matter. I have not committed a crime ! I simply did what was best for my future. If you all had the chance you would ! How do you think you can afford school here , YOU WOULD HAVE NOTHING MOVING HERE.I was willing to go after OUR DREAMS we talked about together! I DIGRESS I am appalled in this community. My family and friends were right after all I wont say this about all of NIGERIA but I FELL IN LOVE WITH A SCAM !
I could be so DIRTY and EXPOSE WHO YOU REALLY ARE! EXPOSE SECRETS AND FLAWS YOU WANTED ME TO ACCEPT AND I DID BECAUSE I LOVE YOU and still care.! AND YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT ME TAKING MONEY FROM YOU! PATHETIC! AS FOR ALL YOU STUPID JUDMENTAL PEOPLE I PRAY YOU GET A LIFE AND EDUCATE BEFORE JUDGING !

YOU KNOW WHO THIS IS!

Madisonsqua:


Ok listen @Oyinyechiakata, I don’t know if u are the lady in question or not. But if u are, I will love to clear something for u and your lover. I don’t know u or your lover but I was once in his shoe. But now happily married to my partner for some years now.

Firstly this is a faceless forum and I will advise you to be a little bit more respectful of people’s opinions, either ‘good’ or ‘bad’ , not take critics too seriously and also generally direct your anger towards your lover if u have to do so.

People here don’t take side as u can see some have showed so much concern about you and even questioned his love for you. The question of if it’s ‘true’ or ‘not’ is between the two of you.

When it comes to making life decisions, people generally have worries and concerns. Some deal with this all by themselves while some seek for public opinions.

His concerns were more of money, life and migration. Ain’t saying this is right, but has bitter as this may sound, every intending migrant will ask about these three things before uprooting their own life for anyone. It’s not unusual for people in developed countries to quickly see themselves as the victims. So I will advise you stay calm for now.

think about it this way. he knows you are not rich but you are doing everything you could to have a better future. Which is the best thing and I must commend you for that.
In the course of this, you’ve incurred some personal debt and you still planning to have more. A potential partner is not wrong for having concerns about it. If anything, it shows he’s not planning to dump you so fast and he’s concerned that once you’re married, your problem becomes his. Which is generally true because you will end up sharing bills and other household expenses. And if u can’t afford a lot due to your repayment then he has to step up for you.

Nigerians are not so exposed to living on debt as we do in developed countries and our orientation about debt is completely different. Nigerians grow up being told to stay away from debts and we have no government or institutions financial support.
When I migrated myself, I will get mad at my partner for acquiring new loans or credit cards. I thought her about finances and how to live on a budget (not the easiest job anyway). But you know what? 2 years later I realised having debt is even a good thing for myself if I wanna go far in this countries. As long as they’re for the right reasons.

My Orientation changed even though I was still very careful with my finances. All over the world, Nigerians are making history and working their ass off to have a better life. Your partner is planning to migrate and also work his ass off but he’s concerned if he would be responsible for your loan. That’s for you to know he’s inexperience about how things works out there.

The same way your family is concerned about you falling in love with a scammer, he is also concerned about being used considering the news we’ve been told as African growing up that our men have been used and abused by foreign women just the same way some people around you think all Nigerians are scammers.

I’m not encouraging you to continue or end your relationship, but just telling you’ve got heaps to learn about each other if you truely wanna be together.

Backfornow:

No memes??. I was waiting on one from you.

Ugosample:


lmao

I see

but Canada is a good place to live tho
even tho I have not been there before

my relatives there have good things to say about the place

And thank Trudeau everyday for the opportunity express entry gave them to "flee that hopeless $hithole"

Ugosample:


lmao

I see

but Canada is a good place to live tho
even tho I have not been there before

my relatives there have good things to say about the place

And thank Trudeau everyday for the opportunity express entry gave them to "flee that hopeless $hithole"

CanadaOrBust:


Who knows which place is really “better”. Example, how come Canada has higher suicide rate than Nigeria (see below)

AngelicBeing:
Refrain from calling the biggest country in Africa a shithole, let's continue to pray for Nigeria, prayers works wonders, I believe in the power of prayers to change the fortune of Nigeria, l suggest that every member of Nairaland.com should start 700 days of fasting and prayers, break your fast with fruits by 6pm daily, avoid all manner of wickedness, sexual immoralities etc, pray for Buhari to be able to govern the nation, pray for good health care, roads, security, power, elimination of poverty, just pray and pray more for Nigeria and things will change in the next 6months, prayers is the solution to solve the problem in Nigeria

AngelicBeing:
Refrain from calling the biggest country in Africa a shithole, let's continue to pray for Nigeria, prayers works wonders, I believe in the power of prayers to change the fortune of Nigeria, l suggest that every member of Nairaland.com should start 700 days of fasting and prayers, break your fast with fruits by 6pm daily, avoid all manner of wickedness, sexual immoralities etc, pray for Buhari to be able to govern the nation, pray for good health care, roads, security, power, elimination of poverty, just pray and pray more for Nigeria and things will change in the next 6months, prayers is the solution to solve the problem in Nigeria

Ugosample:


the reason for suicides most of the time is not economic in Canada

however
many are killing themselves in NiggerArea because of the ECONOMIC hardship, frustration and hopelessness

imagine an orphaned breadwinner for siblings earning 85k in Lagos

can you imagine the pressure he is facing?

CanadaOrBust:


Sarcasm won’t kee u. But prayers do work wonders - scientifically proven, hence placebo effect.

Ugosample:


werey re o

I don laugh fall for ground for my shop now

Ugosample:


you sef sabi the brother

Ugosample:


the reason for suicides most of the time is not economic in Canada

however
many are killing themselves in NiggerArea because of the ECONOMIC hardship, frustration and hopelessness

imagine an orphaned breadwinner for siblings earning 85k in Lagos

can you imagine the pressure he is facing?

CanadaOrBust:


Notice how far more men commit suicide in all the countries except China and Nigeria. Wonder why that is ( though I don’t trust any numbers from China)

Blastedholligan:
There's this sweet Akata I met on fb, we are getting along well and she's thinking we could spend our lives together. She's a single mother of one, older than me with one year and a medical assistant.

Now the problem is, she doesn't really earn too much and she has accumulated alot of loans that could amount to 50k dols and she wants to acquire another to study at the University for 4years, calculating all these could amount to like 150k dols and I've not even talked about my own cos I'll have to sponsor myself through school.

Another issue is that I don't think I'm really ready to settle down cos I really need to hustle and make money to help my family if I eventually travel before marrying and I intend on doing a course here in Nigeria for Digital Marketing to help me secure a nice job.

My problem now is, I'm scared of marrying someone who has acquired these loans cos Las Las na me go still follow pay wetin I no sabi.

Please, I need a clear guide on what I should do cos I don't wanna be selfish here with her by using her to get to the USA, I'm very willing to let go of her if I have very good reasons to.

Pardon my scattered words.