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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by MobilityExpress: 1:38pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Do you really want to solve your problem? You just have to do 1 thing: RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND. When a man acts the way he does, it's because he's tired of your disrespect. You might be doing it subconsciously, and unintentionally but still you have to change. Marriage is not boyfriend and girlfriend where a man pockets his ego just to woo. Marriage is when he demands his respect and you have to give it to him. When you talk to him, talk to him with respect, when you serve him food, serve him with respect, you might get playful with each other but do it with respect. Try this and watch how your marriage with turn around to be sweeter than honey. He will kill you will love . Respect is how you bring out the love in your husband. Respect him and he will love you dearly. goodgirl2409: 2 Likes |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by kenesh(f): 1:38pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Same thing I go through. But I don't care anymore. I have grown thick skin. If he likes he talks to me, if he doesn't like, he gives the silent bulshit treatment like we are quarrelling. One minute we gist, the next he is not eating my food. I dont let that get to me o. I have my kids, my business and work to keep me busy. I cannot come and fall into depression for one man that enjoys hurting me intentionally with his funny moods. OP be like me! 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 1:38pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
goodgirl2409: He may be having multi personality disorder or actually bi polar. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by proudly9ja(m): 1:38pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Quick question. Is he Pisces by any chance? Or born in September? This isn't a horoscope related question. I've asked the question for a reason and will respond based on your answer |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mywill2022(m): 1:39pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Just a few questions for you so please be sincere 1. Did he spend so much in your wedding ? 2. Did your parents cutoff his head during and within the wedding? 3. Any financial support from your end or your parents end ? Thanks |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by KanuSE: 1:39pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
SageMK: How did you come to this conclusion without questioning the string of events? Please learn to be objective in your views or opinions coz we all react differently to stuff and the young man's behaviour (however unpalatable) may be a reaction to some things even unrelated to the marriage. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Kenoxman(m): 1:39pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
u need something dat will make u leave the house every morning and come back in the evening. a job will do |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by MrSquint: 1:40pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
It's possible you've wronged him unknowingly or maybe he just got to know about something "not too cool" about your past. I think what you should do first is to have a deep thought of what could be the root cause of his sudden change. Pray about it for a day or two, call him afterwards for a chat. Don't involve a third party "family members" yet Don't be tired too quick, marriage is a full package you know. Everything will be fine. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by petitejolie(f): 1:40pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Ehhhh God. Me DAT don't like stress. Marriage is scary to me o... |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by osaweseforme(m): 1:41pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Firstly , we've not heard your husband's view. From what you said, he doesn't eat out, buy food stuffs and cook at home, my question is how is your cookings? If not always moody according to you, check within you if something that you are doing triggers it, probably He has talked about it and you refuse to change.........my own opinion is work on your self and commit your marriage to God , God help you guys |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by ngadaAwo: 1:41pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
[s] KanuSE:[/s] |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Mekenz(m): 1:42pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Mrsj89: my type of person, there are some period I might decide to go the line of solitude, ignoring me at that very moment will worsen the situations at hand,because i'm the type that enjoys my lonely moments, though I enjoys my dears one's company, but never you take my laxity and lenient attitude for granted, cause you might not see another chance. the best you can do for me at that very moment is search yourself, you will definitely see were you err,come up and tended your apology, after then give me sometime to claw out from my shell.....i hardly tell someone that they wrong me, rather I detach myself from him or her. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by incogni2o: 1:42pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
goodgirl2409: I am somewhat like Him, Let me give you this advice(The summary of it all is your attitude and ATTITUDE is what a woman is majorly). He also needs to Mature more(and he Knows that also). He truly Loves you but always wants you to sync with Him at all times. Getting a Hurt from you is really painful to HIM(reason for the mood swings, Learn I AM SINCERELY SORRY- Men like it). Firstly, He is not cheating. Secondly, He needs Respect, and when I mean respect........REAL, not superficial respect. Thirdly, Try to know things that offend Him, and don't take them or Him for granted. You have a ability to make this marriage as Happy as you can,I understand he may offend you at times, but at those times, speak gently to make Him understand how he has offended you. I know you also have some things you are not saying and I am not surprised as you are a Woman, You guys seem to see things from the current state, not the causative state(what really started the mood swing). This your Husband, It's either he is always very Happy with you or very Unhappy. You have to be a WIFE, Please read Proverbs 31. A Woman owns the Home, you are the rudder, so you have to paddle the House (and paddle Him) the way you want. Again,He Loves You. I believe he may be an introvert with not so may Friends and people like that most times are Faithful You are a Woman, not a MAN, Please let him feel his Manliness in your Humility, Gentle speaking and Respect,in time LOVE AND HAPPINESS flows in the Home 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by healthserve(m): 1:42pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by MrNipplesLover(m): 1:42pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Funkyswagzz: person wey say she don tire for the marriage, una dey tell her make she pay attention to the man? abi, Shey no be the attention she dey pay when she discovered the periods he is in happy and annoying moods? make the wife tell the truth of the story make NL judges give her perfect solutions joor. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mamajj17(f): 1:44pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
sapien: My dear don't be too JUDGEMENTAL, he might not married to his friend, Friendship is being built up before Love comes in! Best Secret that holds a HOME |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by DameB(f): 1:44pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
daddytime: You are so right about it being a mindgame sir... I ended my courtship with a narcissist because I later discovered I was a victim of gaslighting, projecting etc... Infact the whole shebang from a narcissist playbook.. God help the OP sir, it's really unfortunate that they are already married. 2 Likes |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Icon79(m): 1:44pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Please find out what's bothering him. Where there's smoke, there's fire … trust me on that one. There must be something causing those mood swings. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you're doing anything wrong but you're probably doing something, unbeknownst to you, that gets on his nerves. And that might not even be a big thing either. In fact, you might not even know that that's an issue. Hence, you need to find a way to communicate better with him. Communication is the key to any relationship but, talking from a personal experience, men suck in the communication department. Your husband is probably somebody like me … we tend to shutdown when we get really agitated. Just find a way to get through to him and you'll get yourself a loving and caring husband for life. Finally, try to stay submissive. Forget what you hear on TV, real men still love submissive wives. I am yet to see a man who doesn't love and care for a wife who respects and adores him. Problem is, the modern wives tends to respect everyone else but their husbands. O pari goodgirl2409: |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by ngadaAwo: 1:44pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by ngadaAwo: 1:45pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Lamasta(m): 1:45pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Majority has concluded even before hearing the other side of the story based on the premise you gave op. My take is a Men react in different ways and yours is displaying his to You in his own way. And from your last paragraph ''He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose'' From the above you really need to work on this may be this is the all that usually triggers him to act the way he does and usually takes him weeks to recover from before geling with You again. All in all you married him by this time you ought to have known his STRENGHT and WEAKNESS when he is in the HAPPY MOOD and the other way round. The bible says A WISE WOMAN BUILDS HER HOME....May God bless your union, may it be peaceful and multiply, may you come out best of friends.... |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by emmydsife(m): 1:46pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Please are you married? spongeisback: |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by XhosaNostra(f): 1:46pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
proudly9ja: Lol, does it matter? He sounds like a run-of-the-mill jerk, doesn't matter what his sign is. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Seunolad1(m): 1:48pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
Please check yourself in some important area e g hygine, cooking habit, Sex style or home financial involvement. Although he may not be the type that easily express his feelings. Some men are silent pistle. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by daddytime(m): 1:49pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
DameB: Glad you could figure out the tell tale signs. Na huge emotional and mental abuse to keep you forever on the back foot and guilt tripping 2 Likes |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by ngadaAwo: 1:52pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by powerblaze(m): 1:52pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
This is not the place to get the best counsel. 90% of people here don't know nothing about marriage. Everyone thinks they have an opinion because their leg is not the one on a coal of fire. I'll advise you seek proper counsel, your pastor or someone with a WORKING marriage you can trust. You'll find someone who's been where u are, and you'll get the best counsel from them. This thing is fixable. Don't listen to anyone telling you to quit. 2 Likes |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by ngadaAwo: 1:52pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by wellmax(m): 1:53pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
You are definitely so by something he doesn't like. Maybe something he didn't know about you before the marriage. Solution is keep doing good. Try to identify what is it that puts him off. Whenever he happens to be happy, tell him to tell you what he doesn't like about you. All the best in your marriage |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 1:54pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
MobilityExpress: This isn't always the case abeg, I have seen situations where the woman was very respectful but the husband only took advantage of that to bully and harass the wife more. 3 Likes |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Icon79(m): 1:55pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
KPOM! You've said it all. In fact, I wouldn't have bothered posting anything if I had read your post beforehand. Op, there's lots of wisdom in the post below …. read and apply. O pari incogni2o: 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by DameB(f): 1:57pm On Aug 13, 2019 |
daddytime:Sir it was horrible, I was reading a story on dailymailuk about coercive control and I was so shocked cos it was as if this lady was living my life... I was so shocked, I had to start reviewing all his past actions and words and noticed they were not just isolated events but had a pattern.... Irrespective of the years I had put into making the courtship and his biz work, I was more than happy to end the relationship. I'd rather lose that than bring kids into an emotionally toxic environment. If the OP is honest with herself , there must have been tell tale signs before they married like you stated but she may have overlooked them as mood swings 2 Likes |
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