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Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 6:08am On Aug 15, 2019 |
J111333:because she wants her space and is defining her boundaries,it suddenly makes her proud? You may need to check the difference between pride and setting healthy boundaries |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 6:09am On Aug 15, 2019 |
gracegrace668:lol exactly And be saying why is your chair like this,why don't you put the table here etc |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by israelmao(m): 6:13am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Election campaigns are over |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 6:13am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Danwakae:yinmu.thats why you should be allowing any deek and Harry to enter your house till armed robbers enter Decency, decorum, self-respect and respect for others demand that you call before going.if they say I'm around, you can come, that's different. |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 6:19am On Aug 15, 2019 |
VRDroid:that is not pride that is taking charge of your space and setting boundaries.if you have scheduled what you will do today and someone came uninvited to interrupt your schedule, how will you feel? There was a Saturday a friend came to my house unexpectedly.i had plans going to the salon after doing the dishes,she met me cooking and when I asked her why she came she said she came to invite me to a wedding party.1st of all I don't know the couple who's getting married,you didn't inform me of your visit before Saturday and you expect me to follow you and live my own plans for the day.of course I told her that I will soon be going out and I will appreciate if she leaves.that was the last day she was in my house.she resents me for it till today but I don't give a fok because it's those who are offended when you set boundaries are exactly the people you don't need in your life.people that cannot respect the space of others |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 6:22am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Lugianostar:why are you upset she is telling you the rules of how coming to her home operates? |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 6:23am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Lmaoooo take it easy with the hate o Chekwube1989: |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by PSTEMMA1960(m): 6:26am On Aug 15, 2019 |
NiggasInParis:b4 family worship church, by ur right u go see where plenty cars packed, Na there.. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by carinmom(f): 6:38am On Aug 15, 2019 |
post=81264963:. Hahahah, quote me anywhere I'm Hausa and it's one of my favorite dishes. |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by nototribalist: 6:41am On Aug 15, 2019 |
abdeiz:she shouldn't worry, by the time they're out of office no single soul will come to visit them again |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by jamachi(m): 6:57am On Aug 15, 2019 |
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Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Nobody: 7:00am On Aug 15, 2019 |
dangotesmummy: True, Personally, it is the reason I motorized my Gate and no matter how anyone knocks and stands there, if I did not permit anyone coming and if the person did not call to say he or she is coming, I might just be looking at CCTV and ignoring, cos mostly I am not ready to sit down with anyone and discuss anything at all. Mostly reclusive here. But that being said; When one decides to become 'public' figure, then one has automatically ceased to remain private. Private Citizens can stop intrusions, but public citizens are what they are; Public. And must entertain all baggage associated with 'earning public money'. I just see the El Rufais as highly repugnant, egoistic and outrightly proud. From El-Rufai, to his Wife and of course his Son who insults people and make crazy utterances. Apple does not fall far from the tree. We must decide if to be Private or Public Citizens and set our boundaries based on that. Most importantly, irrespective of our feelings, we must remain diplomatic in utterances. We can not always tell people what we feel all the time. There is a better way to communicate it than stating if you are reading a book or eating, you will not entertain anyone who did not get an appointment for a visit. It will sound better saying 'Please get an appointment before showing up as you have so much visitors and even personal family issues to handle at certain times. It is called Allocation of Resources such as Time. 2 Likes |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Lugianostar(m): 7:24am On Aug 15, 2019 |
dangotesmummy: Will never have any second thought in planing to visit her after all. Thanks |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by brainhgeek(m): 7:27am On Aug 15, 2019 |
post=81264963: Don't try northerners when it comes to Amala o. It's only unfortunate they didn't invent it. they can travel miles to have a plate of abula |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by rkywfxv: 7:47am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Correct score |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Wande22(m): 9:20am On Aug 15, 2019 |
my guy for once we would be friends and not foes..... you are already making the worms in my stomach growl post=81264963: |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by iCauseTrouble: 9:22am On Aug 15, 2019 |
IamSoProlific:Not too far from Next Cash n Carry. Just ask for Amala Place, its very popular |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 9:53am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Lugianostar:basic courtesy and manners require you inform anybody WHETHER PRESIDENT OF THE WORLD OR AN OFFICE MESSENGER,PERIODT |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 10:00am On Aug 15, 2019 |
VRDroid:do you know how many times she will have warned people not to come to her house uninvited.even me that I'm not a politician or politicians wife I know how people still come to my house uninvited even after several kind warnings no to do that e.g kemi kemi,my friend my friend,thanks for coming but if you come like this again and you didn't tell me you might not meet me at home o.but still they won't hear word.but when you are firm about it, everybody will know their place Infact I usually find it funny and ridiculous when Nigerians get offended the moment you decide not to allow any garbage into your house,space or even at work.immediately it will be interpreted as PRIDE |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Nobody: 10:40am On Aug 15, 2019 |
dangotesmummy: You are not a public servant but a private host. But Rufai's wife is a Servant, a public servant and must serve the public as their servant. Nigerians have forgotten the meaning of words. She is a servant |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Danwakae(m): 10:49am On Aug 15, 2019 |
dangotesmummy: It's not about Dencency or self respect, its about prior notice. for somebody u know ....that's complete pride...we know the El Rufai's for that, it's runs in their blood...I pray not to have anything to do with such people...that's y some of u when your people come visiting without prior notice , u snub and lock them out...change please !!!!, welcoming them it's not a crime and doesn't mean it's an everyday issue, there are mature way of treating people even if u see dem as nothing and stands to gain nothing from them. If u don't treat them well, ur superior in general will also do the same to u...chikena!! |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 11:07am On Aug 15, 2019 |
Danwakae:here we go again.seems you haven't gotten my point.its extremely disrespectful to Go to someone's house without letting them know that you are coming.whoever they maybe.secondly for example assuming we were friends and you come to my house without letting me know you will go back to where you are coming from without regrets.if you like don't talk to me again.thats not my BUISNESS but if you tell me you are coming if you ask for meat I can give you cow head because even me myself call people on phone a week ahead that I'm coming to their house for abcd and it becomes their prerogative whether they're comfortable with me coming over to their house or we meet elsewhere. It's lousy behaviours like this that make in-laws have the audacity to come to your house uninvited and start dictating what goes on in your home |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 11:19am On Aug 15, 2019 |
VRDroid:.she is a human being first before a public servant.a public servant too deserve some space.meanwhile Nigerians seem to misconstrue the word public servant.a public servant is not there to entertain every of your whims and caprices.a distant relation of mine occupied a public post some time back.he was a chairman of xyz local government and when he finished his tenure as a chairman we met at a function (owanmbe) and then he was sharing his experience about how some people will come and knock at his door uninvited as early as 4am in the morning.no appointment,no call, nothing and when the househelp knocks on the bedroom door saying someone is asking after you and he decides to give that person audience, he will find out that the person came to beg for money for school fees for his son.imagine the irrational Behaviour.a person that had a stressful day at work and you won't let him rest in his house because he is a public official? Does that make sense? I understand what Mrs elrufai is saying and can relate. |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Nobody: 11:22am On Aug 15, 2019 |
dangotesmummy: As long as they serve the public and are paid for being servants of the public, they should not complain. But as a private citizen you are accountable to no one and can shut your gate at anyone, but a public servant is paid with public funds to serve the public. And it they do not serve well, they are forced to resign, so they deserve what they get. it is the reason many of us refuse to be public servants, it comes with baggages. |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Danwakae(m): 11:23am On Aug 15, 2019 |
dangotesmummy: You sound strict and mean... Nobody is saying someone should come dictate to u in your house...but atleast welcome them(People u know) without prior notice. There is always that question of " Ah!, You didn't inform me that you are coming, what happened" to ask them, that's where to starts and conclude....it's not a crime... If u r my friend and while driving by, I decided to say hi after some long time, and u snubbed me for no prior notice of visit...I will not take offense, but, I will never never visit u again, it would just be transit greetings and hello and if u come visit anytime, I will welcome u...NB: I don't mean for Opposite sex friends. |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by IamSoProlific: 11:24am On Aug 15, 2019 |
iCauseTrouble: That's towards that jahi na, along same road with banex junction? |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by iCauseTrouble: 12:40pm On Aug 15, 2019 |
IamSoProlific:yes |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by ChikaLann: 12:44pm On Aug 15, 2019 |
iCauseTrouble: |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by Zikora1000(f): 12:53pm On Aug 15, 2019 |
pcicero:tell that to hell rufai's wife |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 1:20pm On Aug 15, 2019 |
Danwakae:to each his own |
Re: I Don't Entertain Unexpected Visitors - Hadiza Isma'l El-Rifai, El-Rufai's Wife by dangotesmummy: 1:22pm On Aug 15, 2019 |
Are you for real? VRDroid: |
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