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Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by egopersonified(f): 7:02pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Whatever you decide to do, don't allow you or anyone to cage that boy. Only other suggestion apart from those above I can think of is to look for someone who is in his 30s or 40s and had this same behavior to mentor him. I envy your son, he is setting his own rules and living by them. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Donald3d(m): 7:09pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
You partially described me when I was little . Its sometimes common with smart kids . We are very imaginative that we get lost in our own imagination and forget to do basic things sometimes, and oo we are very playful too. But no one understands. Please be patient with him. As long as he is not dull. I am married now, and much more organized and disciplined. But I chop beating no be small , let me tell you the truth, those beatings made me more stubborn, and I didnt care, I was just scared.I wanted to do things on my own terms, not anyones. People like us(especially as kids) do things because we love them, not because we have to do them, so make him love those things, those chores, brushing his teeth, make it fun for him. Just keep reminding him and correct him with love, he would adjust. Put him in situations that would force him to be independent, it would help him adjust. I was just going through my primary and junior secondary school results . The teachers remarks were hilarious You see things like "Keep it up, Very very brilliant but too playful", "Very brilliant but sometimes forgetful", "Very brilliant but easily gets distracted" Even my dad then, never stopped hounding me about how much I "lose focus and easily get carried away" Focus on his strengths while you help him work on his weaknesses.Bond with him very well, and please NEVER EVER compare him with anyone, it makes it worse jess2019 He would adjust with time Sending him to Naija is like a suicide mission 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Ahmed0336(m): 7:45pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
jess2019: Don't stress yourself he will be fine. Send him to Naija to stay with his grandmother for just a year. Naija slap will return his brain to factory settings. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Mizwisdom(f): 7:48pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
olabrinks: Madam you are wise but why did you bring this issue here when you know what to do already? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Mizwisdom(f): 7:55pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Donald3d: Being described as playful, forgetful, distracted isn't something a mother in this era will appreciate. During your time, parents were not as knowledgeable as they are now, I know someone who spent years suffering from depression and self harm but he was dismissed by his parent and today he's not able to achieve anything because his problem wasn't given proper attention as a teenager. Let her handle the boy properly don't tell her to ignore him, if he learns to be organized and look after himself now he will be better in future. , 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by DavidEsq(m): 8:00pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
AntiWailer:That's wat I thought about my son, when he was 10. Now he is 14 and still the same. I fear he is even getting worse. Sh1t's driving me bonkers 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Came4amod: 8:15pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
jess2019:Buy the book for them .. And let them read it .. They don't have to impress you .. You can't learn keyboard in a day or a month sef 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by DeeMain(m): 8:29pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
It may not have been diagnosed yet but that your kid has a kind of learning development challenge is screaming at me. Memory, focus, distractedness, forgetfulness are all key pointers to something going on. That a child is brilliant and talented can mask these things or make parents overlook them. Your child needs understanding, unconditional love, support and a solution to his challenge not more pain or fear mongering from you. Verbal abuse, beating or withdrawing loving behaviour might mess your child up. Keep searching for different medical opinions till you find a doctor that understands his challenge and can help your boy. Meantime, accept and love your boy to bits. Never stop loving him and helping him believe in and have confidence in himself. Don't add to his problem. Be a solution. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by elektra(f): 8:43pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
babylonjah:My mom says this a lot, this is the first time I have seen someone else say it.. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by imnotconfused: 8:47pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Sounds like ADHD,the child should get assessed. Get reports from school about his behaviour and ask to be referred for ADHD assessment. If in Nigeria,go to paediatric psychiatrist or a psychiatrist for assessment. Op read up about it and see if it fits your child then push till you get referred . Children like this are not being naughty intentionally,they struggle with short attention span,lack of focus,easy distractibility,day dreaming,excess energy with brains whizzing so fast. It's not a their fault,of course there are behavioural interventions but most effective if combined with medication assuming it is ADHD. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Lefty500: 9:09pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
jess2019: Madam, the world is changing please help this boy, you said he is very athletic, why not help him on that path? Just make sure he can read and write, and you instil some words of God into his life. A doctor told you he is 18 months ahead of his level, that's an indication that the boy is special, and he has to be treated specially. He might be deliberately acting that way because he's doing what he doesn't love, to me it looks like you're forcing school on him, because everything you've said revolved round school. Reduce the time he spends on school gibberish, and let him spend more time on those things he loves, like that athleticism, and you turn on him like, if he doesn't brush his teeth or keep his room clean, no basketball game or no swimming for him, and you will see how he will change. He's trying to be forgetful when it comes to school because he has no passion for it. Sports is bringing a lot of money now, and that doesn't stop him from schooling, you're evening in a better environment that allows one to combine education and sport. Phil foden of Manchester City was still a college boy when he broke through Manchester City senior team, and he was being paid £90k per week, I'm sure a fresh medical or engineering graduate can't earn up to that. Love this boy, and pray for him, and support him at this early stage, because if you force your way on him, and kill his passion, he might hate you forever. I pray to God to give me smart kids and also help you train this boy. OMG at that young age, the boy is also setting and breaking records. God please I want smart kids, and shine your light on them, and help me see what's best for them. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by rex444(m): 10:18pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Let him be, he know better 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Pharaoh4rin(m): 10:19pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Send him to naija without any further delay. My niece was in almost the same situation as ur boy, but d mum having made some consultation, send her to Nigeria, enrolled her in Nigeria Air force Comprehensive. She has just written her Junior waec. I can't proudly say that she's in d best shape of behavior now: proactive, attentive, curious, neat and prayer-conscious. Nigeria may not be good but a child can still raised in a better than abroad. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by kellytuns(m): 11:10pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Madam,there is nothing wrong with your boy.send him to Nigeria and to a Catholic missionary school,not just any Catholic school,i mean a no nonsense Catholic missionary school.i happen to attend a Catholic missionary secondary school in the mid 90's and early 2000 with some folks similar to your boy sent from UK and US by there parents... Madam believe me those boys and girls are doing well in there various fields eg ugo okeke @the age of 32 is a professor in organic chemistry in US,Bobby is today a neurologist.just to mention a few .send him to Marist comprehensive academy uturu abia state. A Catholic missionary school run by Marist brothers. Am sure you can afford it.good luck 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Donald3d(m): 11:27pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Mizwisdom: I never said she should ignore him, kindly check, I made this statement towards the end : Focus on his strengths while you help him work on his weaknesses.Bond with him very well, and please NEVER EVER compare him with anyone, it makes it worse She has also taken him to the hospital and doctor said he is perfectly fine , the doctor also added that he is very smart . OP also stated that he is excelling in every other thing in life, include sports, he is even breaking records !! I think the boy is fine, he is just being a child, a smart child. She just has to nurture him, and do what I emboldened above, which I also stated in my first post 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by thorpido(m): 11:36pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
elektra:I think it was the comedy series of Frank Spencer that made this statement popular. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by CanadianNaija: 11:42pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Get a second and third opinion regarding his mental state...A child that can't get himself ready for school at 9 may have a problem..especially abroad where kids are even more independent. be sure that you've ruled all that out. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by CanadianNaija: 11:45pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
Donald3d: I don't think forgetting to brush everyday except reminded is part of just being a child. He's 9...she should get a 2nd and third opinion to rule developmental issues out. But me i don't support shipping him off to Nigeria she. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Nobody: 11:46pm On Aug 19, 2019 |
If he behaves that way but smart academically, You raising an Einstein. A pure genius. Genius are non-conformist so there you have one. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Nobody: 12:02am On Aug 20, 2019 |
DavidEsq: What is your long term plan David? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Donald3d(m): 1:39am On Aug 20, 2019 |
CanadianNaija: I am with you on getting a second and third opinion 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Estherosev2(f): 6:17am On Aug 20, 2019 |
I remember being sent to a missionary boarding sec school by my mum when I started misbehaving. That rev sister (God bless her) dealt with all the people wey no do hear...if you see all us now well behaved and doing well too. Just send him to a mission school, you will be ask "is this my son" ;DI remember being sent to a missionary boarding sec school by my mum when I started misbehaving. That rev sister (God bless her) dealt with all the people wey no do hear...if you see all us now well behaved and doing well too. Just send him to a mission school, you will be ask "is this my son" 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Theyoungmatron: 7:42am On Aug 20, 2019 |
Catholic mission to the rescue. But wait till he enters high school and can defend himself 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by ricki: 8:00am On Aug 20, 2019 |
He is super bored... take him to naija like sm1 suggested. Best thing my mum did for me. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by waleyp(m): 10:23am On Aug 20, 2019 |
no dont stop his shine........start thinking about writing a book about him cos he may laer turn to a superstar.....dont stop him from doing sport..do you know our many kids are looking for such opportunity to do sport? jess2019: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Ezeanna: 12:21pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
OP, As soon as you can, please get this Indian film and watch it: Taare Zameen Par (Like stars on earth). Pls get the one that is properly subtitled. Watching this movie will give you a fresh perspective on this issue, help you understand your son better and develop better ways of helping him excel academically and socially. I wish you guys the best. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by realtalk19: 8:52pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
jess2019: Enrol him into COMMAND secondary school(boarding),iyana ipaja, Lagos. His ways will surely improve. Be sure to have a trusted guardian you can entrust him with in Nigeria. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by larryking540: 10:13pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
jess2019: na em win am o, e go smart by force, u kw see say 9ja boys smart 1 Like |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by GeorgeTheCoder: 11:20pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
Mods always inventing sob stories and bringing them to front page just for traffic 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by shawnfamous(m): 11:21pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
majamajic:the guy go forget score o |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by Martinez39(m): 11:21pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
There is nothing wrong with your son. He is normal. Keep on reminding him and he will get used to doing the needful. I was worse than your son. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Worried About My Son's Behaviour. Is He Normal? by tstx(m): 11:22pm On Aug 20, 2019 |
jess2019: Your son may be 'special' Google symptoms of Autism Spectrum disorder... 1 Like 1 Share |
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