I just got unbanned by the powers that be. No love or understanding.

It is tolerance/understanding and not love.
Love may take you into marriage but tolerance/understanding sustains the marriage, this much i know from my 7yrs of marriage experience.

both go hand in hand, IMO.

like someone once said: MARRIAGE == The grace of GOD.

Love, Understanding, all of join, God's grace is the lubricant.

I think love itself needs understanding. Both are essential in a fruitful marriage.

Im not married yet but from studies I think it's held together by the power of God. Understanding is part, Love, Tolerance and all. I think Woman try to sustain home but some Men are carried away with the pleasure the outside world brings, they go about chasing young girls and feel the woman is there and can never leave forgetting that women are humans and have feelings, anyway not trying to be judgmental because some women also don't protect their home but in all Omo nah GOD get power to build and sustain

No, its based on hate and mis understanding. Wait until you get married Poster.

love is nt enough cos understdin is d only ting dat keeps marriage goin.e.g ur spouse is a talkative/has this bad habit dat u dislik:even lf u luv her/him u'll stil feel bad or pissd off each time she/he displys dat xter bt because u hav an understdin dat this person is like this,

@atampakoeg so ur own is based on hatred and misunderstanding abi

what about wealth? because obviously no woman wants to get married 2 garri in d morning, afternoon and eba @ night, so does wealth determine how long a marriage can last??

Well marriage should be based on both love & understanding cause without them it cant work

If both are present- Good. If you have to choose, go for understanding.
Love without understanding/tolerance wouldn't take you far.

OJ2010:

It is tolerance/understanding and not love.
Love may take you into marriage but tolerance/understanding sustains the marriage, this much i know from my 7yrs of marriage experience.

Touché

Orestik:

what about wealth? because obviously no woman wants to get married 2 garri in d morning, afternoon and eba @ night, so does wealth determine how long a marriage can last??

Nothing beats understanding and/or tolerance. That's the essential quality one has to possess in order to live amicably with another person. First understanding, then tolerance.
If there's not enough money and there's understanding and tolerance, there wouldn't be [much] problems.

More of understanding & tolerance IMO.

Marriage is based on love & understanding. However to really sustain the marriage they must have the fear of God in them & must be very prayerful. A woman or man that goes into marriage because of wealth only loves the money, & that is no love. The moment the wealthy partner loses the wealth, the marriage crumbles. That is why young couples should be prayerful before going into marriage. Court, get to know yourselves better, find out your likes & dislikes, that way, you build a very solid foundation once you get married. By courting you may still not be able to detect a deceptive partner. That is why you need fervent prayers to see you through the selection process. There was a young man who invited his fiancee to his house for the first time. Before her arrival, he had moved his posh furniture from his parlour, & left it poorly furnished. When the fiancee got to his house & saw the very poorly furnished parlour, her countenance changed & she was not at all happy. The man then later took her to the room where he put his posh furniture. The fiancee's face brightened up & she was smilling from ear to ear. However, unfortunately for her, the man made up his mind not to marry her. That of course was a wise decision because she was after his wealth. Be very prayerful, because you may even be unfortunate to get married to a demon. It has happened to so many. So my dear friends cling to God. He will never ever fail you.

Marriage is base on respect and understanding .There is nothing called love maybe lust.

almost everybody thinks understanding is more important n i'm nt disputing dat. but let me ask, is it possible 2 respect, tolerate n understand sum1 without loving dat person 1st.? methinks love is d ultimate!

Marriage is a lifetime of lots of experiences that have to be bore together. To talk of love taking you through them all to the end is to overrate it.
The normal lover or in love' wouldn't do. It takes a lot more than even love and understanding. I don't know why folks jump into marriage so quickly? Marriage life is no joke (I have seen many experiences before my eyes to know better) You gotta have love for you mate though, but if the
only driving force in your marriage is love, then you are living a fairytale lie.

The key is Love AND Understanding, slowpokes, and some paper too because on occasion you might have to make it rain to let the heffa know who is in control. ,
and don't forget the nizz, uts.

And why did attached your pic

Clutch the nizz, utz, lady ^^^^^^^^^^

If there's anything called HELL; It's when u married a wrong person. However in Marriage,where love stops,tolerance continues. This days most youths re lured into so called 'marriage' on mere frivolities,social status,religion,and marriage by proxy! Some couple even spend their energys planning 4 wedding instead of marriage. Methinks marriage depends largely on human ( the couple) and not God! , Man cast de deciding de vote . When a man proposes 2 a woman and she accepts, (pls let no one put assunder,not even the parents) that is 'Marriage made in heaven' church or mosque weddin is just marriage b4 God!

After Love and understanding (whatever that means), Marriage is WORK, you have to put in your best everyday to make it happen.

@ OJ2010- U said it all, Let he/she dat has eyes let him/her read and comprehend,

the secret of every successful mariage is love, respect and understanding. the lack of these qualities in some mariagies is the reason why most mariagies are unstable.

ALL MARRIAGE CAN WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!marriage or relationship(as the case may be) needs four BASIC things for real.They are LOVE, RESPECT,TRUST $ UNDERSTANDING.they are like pillars needed for a relationship to work.else, u guyz mit say u love each other but still divorce.one of these pillars will not stand the place of another.Each must be taken as very important.Love her,trust her,respect her,understand her and u have a blissfull marriage!see that!!!!!!!!!!!

@ andykarry, I really do feel your post , I loved respected and trusted my ex and she loved trusted and respected me also however the understanding aspect was lacking on both sides and that's why I refer to her as an ex today, 
The four are compulsory, leave one out and u r in for a bumpy ride and the others may fizzle out and both parties may have to go their separate ways.

love brings u guys together. but understanding keeps u guys together

God Almighty approves marriage, we are the bricklayers, love is the foundation, understanding is the roofing and endeourance is the finishing & furnishing

God Almighty approves marriage, we are the bricklayers, love is the foundation, understanding is the roofing and endeourance is the finishing & furnishing

Understanding is the key .

OJ2010

It is tolerance/understanding and not love.
Love may take you into marriage but tolerance/understanding sustains the marriage, this much i know from my 7yrs of marriage experience.



No two ways about it other than what above poster has said. The unmarried look towards that, and the married maintain that if you have been doing

so, if not start [color=#006600]"TOLERANCE AND UNDERSTANDING". Love plays it roll at bringing you together and once married you sustain the companionship

through tolerance and understanding. I give God the glory that is much I achieved from my 29yrs of marriage.[/color]