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|I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 9:13pm On Sep 29, 2019|
I need help seriously to something that has been bothering me for a long time now. I am an extreme introvert that can't start or hold a conversation with anybody. Where ever I go I always see my self as a misfit due to my inability to communicate reasonably with people and this normally scares people away from me. Most people think I am a snub but the problem is that I find it very to communicate effectively. I think right now it has gotten worse and my self esteem has been affected drastically and it has also affected me mentally. Even at the place where I work everyone now ignores me and think that I am not mentally conscious. I no longer feel happy and safe with my job and life in general. Right now I feel like giving up with life because this kind of life is not worth living.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by chukwuibuipob: 9:28pm On Sep 29, 2019|
:- u wan kill urself for nothing.Who force u to dey talk/must you talk always. Talkative irritate me.Some pipu just talk anyhow/meaningless talk.Urs is to observe/ even nod ur head/laff.U pay attention to convo/talk less. Nobody will beat u for not making noise
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Kollyman: 9:39pm On Sep 29, 2019|
This doesn't call for you ending it.
You just have to develop the act of mingling with people. Start going to public places like viewing centre, shows, beach , parties and get involved in engaging acts in church like choir or Sun. Sch.
Whenever you find yourself in those places, always force yourself to contribute to whatever they are doing/ saying
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|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by AmericanDad: 9:44pm On Sep 29, 2019|
Wow this is so me. I tink u have depression anxiety, ADHD and brain fog. U need a stimulant drug. Pls lalasticlala move to front page
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|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by bid4rich(m): 9:46pm On Sep 29, 2019|
Nobody else can help you but YOU.
You gat to come and out of your shell and get your love and support.
My dad was like that and I inherited the same from him
I soon discovered that being introvert doesnt pay as many people always take advantage of my father for being an introvert.
I decided not to go my fathers way and to be vocal. I mix with people who talk so that I can talk. I move with funny people.
Today, I face crowd, I do professional training for youth and corporate bodies for a living.
I was able to do that because I decided to come out
You too can do it
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|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by flokii: 11:46pm On Sep 29, 2019|
You need to be confident always, especially at work.. chat with your colleagues and be free to express yourself
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|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by tommy40(m): 9:12am On Sep 30, 2019|
Listen. You are allowing mind to deceive yourself. Most of what you think people think about you are just your own assumptions and imaginations. Do you actually expect people to leave their jobs and sit down with you? Sometimes this is just a sign of over pampering by parents. Were you over pampered? If you were you had better grow up now because you are no longer a kid. You are now an adult. Face your life. Face your your job. Face your career. That is what everybody is doing. Nothing is wrong with you.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by tunjilee003(m): 3:52pm On Sep 30, 2019|
when I saw the headline i thought it was very serious....mtcheeee you want to kill yourself because you are not giving people enough attention.. you can start today, give people enough attention and as Time goes on you'll surely blend
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by AmericanDad: 3:59pm On Sep 30, 2019|
I dont really know what to talkabout in conversations. My mind just goes blank
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by tommy40(m): 4:36pm On Sep 30, 2019|
If you don't know what to talk about in any conversation just let other people do the talking and you can respond with "yes", "no", "I agree with you", "it's okay" etc. That's enough in a conversation.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by AmericanDad: 5:04pm On Sep 30, 2019|
Haha thats not. I wanna have a personality
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by tommy40(m): 5:11pm On Sep 30, 2019|
And what do you call personality? Being a talkertive? No. People of great personalities don't even talk much. Wise people and great counsellors listen more and talk less. They choose their words carefully.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by AmericanDad: 5:16pm On Sep 30, 2019|
Being a good talker attracts people to u. I feel alone with Lil friends most times. I wish i could express my self more
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pharaoh4rin(m): 5:35pm On Sep 30, 2019|
British scientist Steven Hawkins said: "Quiet people have d loudest mind". If u want to become lousy, just go to betnaija shop or football viewing centre or newspaper stand in d morning. I rest my case
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by tommy40(m): 6:22pm On Sep 30, 2019|
Then just keep trying and stop complaining and don't get so sad to the point of getting depressed.
Being a good talker doesn't happen in one day. It takes constant practice. You may even disappoint yourself a couple of times but don't worry. It's part of the learning process.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Katier00(f): 7:13pm On Sep 30, 2019|
Work on yourself, practice makes you a better person. Try to go to places alone especially public places. You will succeed
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by missjo(f): 9:49pm On Sep 30, 2019|
Pathokpo:You have no idea what death is
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by 9JAFULLBREED(m): 2:04am On Oct 01, 2019|
Go and learn how to smoke weed and thank me later.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by iLegendd: 3:58am On Oct 01, 2019|
Pathokpo:If you're a man, read the book FemaleSextapés. No, it's not about sex, but an acronym for men to hold conversation with women and never lack what to say. Google it and purchase it.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by frozen70g(f): 10:24am On Oct 01, 2019|
Every thing you complained of started with you and must be stopped by you
Talk to yourself, you own yourself not anyone
Tell your self that you want to start socialising and meeting people both in physically and on social media
This is the right time to start because if you get married,
Your wife might not blend with you that means she must seek for happiness anywhere
Your kids will be scared of you because you don't relate with them, which means they will get it from other kids and family, don't blame them when they start adopting something new in terms of character
If you don't change your style, people will blame you for things going wrong with your family even when it's actually not your fault
The next thing will be depression and frustration, all will start and boil in you
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Tumbulum: 10:49am On Oct 01, 2019|
You should be the happiest person on earth right now. The world is looking for people like you who can only talk when it's necessary.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 4:50pm On May 27, 2020|
9JAFULLBREED:I am very serious please I need help
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 4:51pm On May 27, 2020|
AmericanDad:please what is ADHD
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 4:53pm On May 27, 2020|
Tumbulum:The problem is that most people mock you with your situation when you tell them about it
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 4:57pm On May 27, 2020|
AmericanDad:My brother you truely understand what am trying to say
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Tumbulum: 5:42pm On May 27, 2020|
Pathokpo:Isaac newton was one man that you will call a misfit and in his lifetime,he only had one friend who eventually got fed up with him and separated from him. Newton having lost his only friend realized how helpful the guy has been to him but he never called him back and never made effort to reconcile. He died a money man yet the world remembers him till date.
Your behavior are hired wired in your gene and there is nothing you can do about it. The earlier you realise that peoples opinion has nothing to do with your life the better. Embrace your true and self,be happy for being an introvert and try and harvest the positive aspect of being an introvert.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by zedegit: 6:33pm On May 27, 2020|
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|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Shinny1: 12:02am On May 28, 2020|
Start by saying hi to your colleague at Your work place
Most times the things we face growing up makes us to build protective walls and keep things to ourselves...
He that wants a friend will show himself friendly.... show yourself as friendly forget all these temperaments stuff and breakout of your wall...
And please don't end your life
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by infogenius(m): 4:24am On May 28, 2020|
Are u a male or a female?
In what way have you found it difficult to communicate. Do u have speech issues?
If u can communicate with ur family members u can communicate with anyone.
Try to share, stay where people are, smile with them, share your thoughts, knowledge, feelings etc no matter how small.
More importantly, be confident in your self and don't stay to urself, lossen up and u should feel better.
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 4:20pm On May 28, 2020|
zedegit:my friend please be serious for ones not all situations are to be joked with
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Pathokpo: 4:22pm On May 28, 2020|
infogenius:I am a male
|Re: I Am Dying Slowly, I Need Help Seriously by Lordfranklin(m): 8:40pm On May 28, 2020|
I'd stay indoor for days. And when I come out eventually everything just looks odd and weird. The problem with introversion is that it tends to create a world of it's own; where introverts drown in their own thoughts and lose touch with reality.
It's all in your head Op
The simple remedy is to leave your comfort zone; do things that are hardly suited to your persona. Go out, meet new people, make friends and work on your conversational skills. Trust me, you need people! I'm not asking you to become an extrovert but be a better introvert.
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