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Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Vyolet(f): 12:10pm On Oct 27, 2019
There's this question i have been meaning to ask, just to sample the opinion of a few people, mostly men.

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by holocron: 12:41pm On Oct 27, 2019
It means she is manipulating the man to be jealous in other to get her way. Women are constantly being approached by men from the age of adolescense and know how to handle such situations. No need to report to your man except you want to agitate him.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Vyolet(f): 1:34pm On Oct 27, 2019
Your opinion..
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by MedicH: 2:33pm On Oct 27, 2019
undecided
holocron:
It means she is manipulating the man to be jealous in other to get her way. Women are constantly being approached by men from the age of adolescense and know how to handle such situations. No need to report to your man except you want to agitate him.

U said it all. One thing is clear here. Manipulation

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by simonlee(m): 2:43pm On Oct 27, 2019
MedicH:
undecided

U said it all. One thing is clear here. Manipulation
manipulation is a Strong word.
lets just say she's leveraging on his insecurities!
no go make person beat him wife abeg cheesy

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Vyolet(f): 2:53pm On Oct 27, 2019
I really don't get what y'al mean by manipulation, i thought a guy should be glad his wife is hot enough for other man to still desire her but it is left for her to handle them and say No and mean it.

I also think its ok to tell each other everything, i mean it increases trust, Yes/No?

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by AfroKnight: 3:40pm On Oct 27, 2019
holocron:
It means she is manipulating the man to be jealous in other to get her way. Women are constantly being approached by men from the age of adolescense and know how to handle such situations. No need to report to your man except you want to agitate him.


True. Cos, I wonder what she wants her husband to do with that information.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Omojudy: 3:57pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:
I really don't get what y'al mean by manipulation, i thought a guy should be glad his wife is hot enough for other man to still desire her but it is left for her to handle them and say No and mean it.

I also think its ok to tell each other everything, i mean it increases trust, Yes/No?
Them don attack you finish! Sorry Sis. Just know that men are very jealous and the idea alone is already making them angry for an imaginary situation self! Hahaha. Happy Sunday dear.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Vyolet(f): 4:10pm On Oct 27, 2019
Omojudy:

Them don attack you finish! Sorry Sis. Just know that men are very jealous and the idea alone is already making them angry for an imaginary situation self! Hahaha. Happy Sunday dear.
Lol, now i see men can hardly take what they dish, i mean this is just an imaginary situation, i don't get what they mean by 'manipulation'. cheesy
Moreover, it only a question that requires, i will not like it, i don't mind, i will rather she keeps it to herself.

Do have a wonderful one dear.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Omojudy: 4:57pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:

Lol, now i see men can hardly take what they dish, i mean this is just an imaginary situation, i don't get what they mean by 'manipulation'. cheesy
Moreover, it only a question that requires, i will not like it, i don't mind, i will rather she keeps it to herself.

Do have a wonderful one dear.
I don’t even think a lady should tell her man everything. Do they tell their ladies when they toast or have flings outside?

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by frozen70g(f): 5:14pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:
There's this question i have been meaning to ask, just to sample the opinion of a few people, mostly men.

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.

Every woman must be admired, single or married

The ability to handle men is what makes her the complete woman that she is

Just do your best and take care of her she too will understand that you are trying in your own capacity

But not doing anything @ all is where your fear will come to reality

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Chapter1vs6(m): 5:29pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.
do you know the meaning of compromise in this context you have used it

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Omojudy: 6:18pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:

Lol, now i see men can hardly take what they dish, i mean this is just an imaginary situation, i don't get what they mean by 'manipulation'. cheesy
Moreover, it only a question that requires, i will not like it, i don't mind, i will rather she keeps it to herself.

Do have a wonderful one dear.
Me wan manipulate my husband this evening self. Eh get Wetin he no like to do for the oda room, I just show am small proof of toasting maybe he go arrange himself give me my dues! Lol

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by yeyeosoronga: 6:23pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:
I really don't get what y'al mean by manipulation, i thought a guy should be glad his wife is hot enough for other man to still desire her but it is left for her to handle them and say No and mean it.

I also think its ok to tell each other everything, i mean it increases trust, Yes/No?

There are some things better kept to yourself. Other men hitting on you is one of such. Not becasue of manipulation, but just to avoid putting distrust in the mind of your man. When he is alone, his imagination will run wild, and you will feel the effect of that. You dont want that at all.
Whether you chose to act on the different propositions coming your way is left for you to decide

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by saucecoder: 6:28pm On Oct 27, 2019
My baby mama doesn't even need to tell me. I see it with my own eyes every time when we go out sometimes. cheesy It just makes me feel like a boss for hitting that and getting my daughter out of it.

Let other men try their own luck. Woz my business

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by deltateam: 8:17pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:
I really don't get what y'al mean by manipulation, i thought a guy should be glad his wife is hot enough for other man to still desire her but it is left for her to handle them and say No and mean it.

I also think its ok to tell each other everything, i mean it increases trust, Yes/No?

No, it simply means she's hiding the marriage ring. No sane man would toast a woman knowing she's married. As a married woman you dress decently and carry yourself with dignity.

Any married woman that gets toasted on the road, somehow contributed to it and you know some women love that attention.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by deltateam: 8:21pm On Oct 27, 2019
saucecoder:
My baby mama doesn't even need to tell me. I see it with my own eyes every time when we go out sometimes. cheesy It just makes me feel like a boss for hitting that and getting my daughter out of it.

Let other men try their own luck. Woz my business

Why not marry her?
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Sanchez01: 9:25pm On Oct 27, 2019
Vyolet:
There's this question i have been meaning to ask, just to sample the opinion of a few people, mostly men.

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.
Anyone can hit on anyone and it is only natural. Should either partner tell the other, then it can only mean they are very close to the point where they share those kind of stuff.

My lady share these stuff on a regular basis; attentions and some supposed matchmaking and it doesn't bug either of us. I have noticed that she becomes uncomfortable when she doesn't even share them because we have worked our relationship to a level where we share whatever without attaching unnecessary headaches and interpretations to them.

And how does it make me feel? Superfly, if you ask me.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Femsyn(m): 9:33pm On Oct 27, 2019
I dont feel any sorts. In fact, I'm glad within me, someone else fancies my wife. Sometimes I ask her the calibre of person hitting on her.

Even pregnant women get wooed. No big deal, as long as you trust your spouse, and you have no reason for doubts.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by thorpido(m): 11:06pm On Oct 27, 2019
It depends on the kind of partner you have,the trust between you and his maturity.If you have spent enough time to know what he doesn't like,better keep it to yourself.
My wife tells me all the time,the men hitting on her.She still told me about a man on our street who made a comment about her figure today.
No big deal to me.I like the fact many still see her as adorable.I trust her enough that she isn't giving them that attention and like the fact that she tells me.
I'm cool with it.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by saucecoder: 6:07am On Oct 28, 2019
deltateam:


Why not marry her?
Why? undecided

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by tk4rd: 6:40am On Jan 23, 2020
Vyolet:
I really don't get what y'al mean by manipulation, i thought a guy should be glad his wife is hot enough for other man to still desire her but it is left for her to handle them and say No and mean it.

I also think its ok to tell each other everything, i mean it increases trust, Yes/No?
Can you turn the table around a bit?
How would you feel when your man feels good after eyeing another lady's fully endowed hips, went ahead to have a little chit-chat with her, and in the pretence of chit-chat told the lady that her hips are as delicious as fried plantain.. She smiled and told him she's married with 3 kids but thanks for the compliment.. He got back home and explained everything to you, including how succulent the lady was.. How would you see it? Be sincere in your reply.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by tk4rd: 6:51am On Jan 23, 2020
My answer is very simple.
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I have a very beautiful wife.
A lot of people admire her even in my own presence.
So, why would she be telling me stories about any of her chykers?
That would make me believe that this one has something special about it..
If not, why telling me then?

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by ZzZzzzzzzzzzzzz: 7:44am On Jan 23, 2020
Vyolet:

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.
for a wise woman, she knows it's unnecessary to tell her hubby other men are making passes at her. She intelligently turns such men down.

But the less-wise woman will tell her man about all the men making passes at her and how rich or broke they are.

Men don't tell their wives when girls makes passes at them.. The reason isn't far fetched
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by eyinjuege: 8:05am On Jan 23, 2020
It's not everything you have to let your partner know as it is unnecessary and only creates headache for you in the future.
One of such things includes telling him how many men are toasting you.
Second of such include telling him your family secrets- or negative things about your siblings, parents , cousins or whoever.
Third of which includes how much you spend on your parents/family (provided it's from your own money).
4. Your previous boyfriends/friends with benefits and their names/job/financial worth etc
5. Your body count or history of abortions if you've done any (of course, any serious health condition should be disclosed and any knowledge of infertility)
6. Etc - there are more scenarios and examples, but let's leave it at this for now
Only very few men are ready for such transparency. Even though it may be coming from a good place of 'sweet gist' between partners, it most often usually ends in tears
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by Chubhie: 8:13am On Jan 23, 2020
Just cover her in black like our muslima and enjoy peace of mind.....
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by eyinjuege: 8:17am On Jan 23, 2020
deltateam:


No, it simply means she's hiding the marriage ring. [/b]No sane man would toast a woman knowing she's married[b]. As a married woman you dress decently and carry yourself with dignity.

Any married woman that gets toasted on the road, somehow contributed to it and you know some women love that attention.

How many cheats are sane? yet I'm almost certain we have more cheats in the society than those who don't cheat on their spouses/partners.
Some married women get toasted more when married than as single ladies. As if the men's eye were blind till she got married.
Some men get off on knowing they have stolen another man's food, and that makes them feel superior to that man especially when they know the husband.
Some married men say its safer dating a fellow married woman because they both have something to lose, and nobody will call the other at odd hours, or post nonsense pictures on social media or try to blackmail the other. That's when they will shoot their shot if they see a ring on you.
Many Nigerians are decadent and so rotten, and have no respect for boundaries. It's a game to many.

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Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by poik(m): 9:22am On Jan 24, 2020
Vyolet:
There's this question i have been meaning to ask, just to sample the opinion of a few people, mostly men.

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.

Its normal. What she does in response is the issue.
Re: Men, I Need Your Opinion On This. by faithfull18(f): 10:39am On Jan 24, 2020
eyinjuege:
It's not everything you have to let your partner know as it is unnecessary and only creates headache for you in the future.
One of such things includes telling him how many men are toasting you.
Second of such include telling him your family secrets- or negative things about your siblings, parents , cousins or whoever.
Third of which includes how much you spend on your parents/family (provided it's from your own money).
4. Your previous boyfriends/friends with benefits and their names/job/financial worth etc
5. Your body count or history of abortions if you've done any (of course, any serious health condition should be disclosed and any knowledge of infertility)
6. Etc - there are more scenarios and examples, but let's leave it at this for now
Only very few men are ready for such transparency. Even though it may be coming from a good place of 'sweet gist' between partners, it most often usually ends in tears
Hmmn, speaking from experience, I couldn't agree less.

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