zyzxx:
please let me ask? Is white wedding the biblical standard or paying of bride price? ND consent of both parents?

AleAirHub:
Mental slavery will keep prevailing in Nigeria & Africa at large.

Why will a girl trick me into the traditions of another man country called White Wedding �?. I will never buy that idea �. No traditional marriage no marriage. Simple as ABCD.

I blame many Nigeria �� gentlemen for several failed marriages everywhere. Many of our men get carried away with the cheap fantasy in their relationship & invest heavily on their WHITE WEDDING.

Op stick to your agreement because none of NL members were there when both of made it

Guest007:


We're talking about the girl's wishes and you people are talking something else. None of what you said has anything to do with the op. Can you accept an agreement and then go back on your word?

I don't care if she's waiting for Mohammed to marry them... Op is wrong and you people want to chat about everything but this fact...

BarrElChapo:
It's not a white wedding, it's a church wedding
if she believes in the God that she worships in a church then I don't see why she should be coerced into doing otherwise besides she gave the OP due notice, he cannot say he didn't know or expect these developments.

West2019:
she get strong mind die where in the Bible that said after paying for pride Price and traditional white wedding must be done befor sex ,if you mistake married that girl u are on ur own ,collect the money yo have spend from her parent if dem can't be able to provide it let them give u the pride Price money .you have need to involved ur pastor or any family member that ur wife denying u sex after u have done the most important tin which the Bible said we should do She is hiding something

ufotty2001:
she is using a cream called virg.ina tightener.. the more days you wait the more the virg.ina become tight so she is using that white wedding to delay sex so that her virgin.a will be tight and look like a virgin... fear oweerri girls

TVSA:

I am not talking about the girl's wish. I am talking about what you wrote that
"If you're Christian then the church is the REAL marriage, the traditional isn't Christian. She's a born again so how does tradition become more important than her church?"

Church or white wedding is not a christian practice at all, it was invented into the christian practice by the Europeans. Someone even said the white dress symbolizes purity .

"The first documented instance of a princess who wore a white wedding gown for a royal wedding ceremony is that of Philippa of England, who wore a tunic with a cloak in white silk bordered with grey squirrel and ermine in 1406.

Mary, Queen of Scots, wore a white wedding gown in 1559 when she married her first husband, Francis Dauphin of France, because it was her favorite color, although white was then the color of mourning for French Queens.

This was not a widespread trend, however: prior to the Victorian era, a bride was married in any color, black being especially popular in Scandinavia.

White became a popular option in 1840, after the marriage of Queen Victoria to Albert of Saxe-Coburg, when Victoria wore a white gown to incorporate some lace she prized. The official wedding portrait photograph was widely published, and many brides opted for white in accordance with the Queen's choice.

Not a biblical practice at all .

What's more practiced in scriptures is today's traditional wedding .

We comply with the laws by going to registry even though the laws recognize proper customary wedding in Nigeria ."

Offpoint:

So if he no come get money for White man wedding for the next 2 years, na so him go dey?

She's just religious and know nothing about God stand on marriage.

There's nowhere in the Bible God commanded us to conduct wedding twice before we're officially married.

These religious minions know nothing about the Bible...

Yuneehk:
That's a disciplined and stubborn woman you've got. You had an agreement before the relationship even started and said she's a born again christian who appreciates the things of God. Finish what you started by wedding her in the church if that's what she wants and enjoy her as you'd want to. Whatever is worth doing at all, is worth doing well.

Martinez39:
Why are you disturbing Nairaland? The solution is simple. No sex, no white wedding. She is probably trying to perfect her bait and switch strategy. She probably thinks white wedding will secure her and trap you to herself so that you won't leave no matter what you find out on your wedding night.

Call a meeting with your in-laws and parents. She had better sit up or you end the marriage and collect your money.

midnighter:


No, traditional marriage rites are.

mignone:

You seem to know the lady in person sir.

kunleweb:



Chioma your head is there.

kunleweb:

May God help this generation have marriages that are free from public counsels and intrusion.

kunleweb:
Not when hubby or wives turn against one another creating threads to look for validations to backup their own selfish agenda

Martinez39:
They are already married. To deny him sex is to deprive him of his right. He is entitled to the pussy since he paid her bride price. If his wife won't do the needful, he should send her out ASAP and collect his money.

oscarhyno:
My brother I suggest you do d white marriage as promised, but with conditions, go to court n inform them that this marriage is on a trial stage, if any unwanted issues arise that the court should nullify your marriage without benefits, because bro my friend is a victim of such, he went n got married to a man instead of a woman, now they're busy adopting n the adopted children refuse to live, think n act wisely, most women don't worth it

Righteousness89:


You have a Good Point but u crumbled the Whole thing when you said she has a "Misconception " about pre-marital sex.

Any Real Bible Believing and Practicing Believer will not Not have any sex until the Church Wedding is Done..

Righteousness89:


You have a Good Point but u crumbled the Whole thing when you said she has a "Misconception " about pre-marital sex.

Any Real Bible Believing and Practicing Believer will not Not have any sex until the Church Wedding is Done..

mignone:

Wow!the better for the lady cos getting involved with smone who can't keep an agreement,doubts her claims (of being a virgin), capitalises on bride price, brings sacred matters of d home (a barely established one) to a public forum, etc is DANGEROUS!

ImaIma1:


That is a church rule/doctrine and not according to the Bible.

DeRay98:



You said it all.
It's our brainwashed mentality that says marriage is not contracted until going to church.
This is problem we're into now.
Why can't both be done within 2days if it must be done.
Traditional marriage where the bride's family has collected her dowry is the totality of the marriage. What we call white/church wedding is the Europeans' own traditional marriage that they sold to us through church.
The church wedding can't hold until the Pastor or priests confirms that the bride's family have collected her dowry.
Unless in a case where the family have accepted that church wedding is their total and no need for traditional marriage.
This long held system where we hold traditional marriage one day and wait for months to conduct church wedding is nonsense and wastage of lots of energy and resources.
Even churches are now conducting very low key and week day marriages in pastor's office with only parents as witnesses, not to keep young people suffering because of grandiose wedding plans.
Once the traditional marriage is done, God recognise bride's parents are the full responsibility for her bethrotal and therefore, conjugal responsibility can start.

kunleweb:


No they aren't as they both have not stood before God, but till now have only stood before tradition, parents and men. She wants God's blessings and wants to stand before Him unblemished.

He knew he was dealing with a born again from the onset and should stick by the rules of engagement even obatala,amadioha,sango,oya,yemoje,amadioha,ikenga,Buddha has rules


Don't get it twisted.

mechanics:
lolz, tell me what the Bible is saying?

ImaIma1:


Mention one marriage ceremony in the Bible that was done in the church/synagogue/temple?

As long as the traditional rights for marriage between the families have been done, everything don set.

A close relative of mine has not done white or court since 5years ago. And the interesting thing is that they got a visa to the US as a couple which I thought was impossible.

midnighter:


Haha a medal...hope it's gold?

iyke0280:

I'm guessing you are a Christian...please help me answer these questions
1)Do you think one becomes married after the church wedding or after the traditional wedding?
2) Do you believe a sin has been committed by a couple who engage in sex after their traditional wedding?
Bible quotes to back up your answers will be appreciated... Let's see if we can learn a thing or two

ImaIma1:


She might actually not be hiding anything but just upholding her principles and views stubbornly.

The bolded could be the best thing to do instead constantly smelling food that he cannot eat.

AwkaetitiBabe:
You both live in the same house since the traditional marriage and no action? Wow wow wow. As in she doesn't get turned on by seeing you up close? Hmmmmm wonderment.

Simply go do the white wedde

ImaIma1:


If her plan was going to work, she should have done the trad and white in one or two days instead doing traditional and moving in with him and then withholding sex.

It's better she remained in her parents house till the white wedding. It's good to have principles but it's also good to do it with wisdom.

Righteousness89:


I will answer your As a Bible Believing Christian..

1. Heb 13:4: Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.
As a Bible Believing Christian, at what point are you declared fully Married?

The Church is the Body of JESUS CHRIST.
As such a Bible Believing Christian is fully Married after the Pastor or Priest Blesses and pronounces the Couple Married in The Name of JESUS..

2. YES ! Without being Blessed and Declared Married by the Pastor or Priest I will Advice Couples to stay away.. As a Believer the Pronoucement and Blessing of The Church on my Marriage is what gives me the access to my wife...