Marvieduke:
Let me not lie men have a whole lot to offer in a relationship. That is the nice and loving ones. The ones that have the fear of God. Same goes for the ladies because it is a 50/50 things.

God bless you jareh, don't mind all these pretenders forming women activist online but in real life, they know they offer nothing to men, NOTHING as in NOTHING!!!! Yet they will be pretending and telling wicked lies online

safarigirl:


They don't know what that makes them sound like. Perhaps if they were offering more than money, they would find women offering more than sex.

Very simple babe. I met one who kept asking for my account number, I wonder how much he could possibly send. 10k, maybe 20... then start disturbing my life with talks of how he fed me. All he kept harassing me with was mani, mani, mani!!

Yet he wanted me to fix his modafuckeen disorganised life. I jump and pass. When there are responsible men out there.

NiCurious:


Excellent. Both men and women should have higher expectations of each other, than a lot of what I've been seeing.

That said...if a woman is on her own feet financially, we return to the question...what does a man provide her in marriage?
Could it be companionship? Intellectual stimulation? Complementary skills? A listening ear? (Aside that whole parenting thing--talking about what the woman herself gains from marriage.) Can she not get these things without marrying? Is she guaranteed these things if she marries? Only if she chooses well.

This is one of the few comments that have caught my attention here.

Most of the guys here are yapping things related to money.

If a woman can treat herself and offer herself the world, then what does the man really have to offer?

I also like the conclusion....

A baby girl has to choose well for herself.

Riele:


An average girl can also offer atleast 3 of your list.

cant you see alot of your fellow lady avoiding this thread,stop making a fool out of yourself

bukatyne:

pocohantas:


The girls YOU HAVE MET in your life.

If I tell you all the men I have met in my life are all empty headed, wanting nothing but sex- won't you think there is something fundamentally wrong with me and my associations?

Well, if you don't- I will think so. I will enter my room and ask myself why I MEET those kinda men. It has to be me...at some point.

If people won't tell me the truth, I will tell myself the truth biko. Check yourself, Sir.

No say all black men you have met not the white dudes...

dazzlingd:




Just as expected, u will pick up that line to say its the ones I've met in my life.....I had to be honest, but even in research, a sample test is enough to gather data....
This obviously shows something is wrong... Don't hide being the finger, it is unnecessary. That's the way the society has been wired especially in this part of the world.
Don't forget we are still evolving from a society where they believe the girl child shouldn't even go to school but given out to marriages to a wealthy man who can provide for her needs.
Even till this age of civilisation, that culture is still predominant. Though the girl child now goes to school, the society believe a simple education and a simple job is sufficient and should be married, they tell the male child to go work and look for money to marry a wife, pay her bride price and set a family.
The society believes the man should work harder and earn more than his wife..

That's the society u live and u can't deny it....!! Or can you??

The society believes the woman must be married, and a woman with a career and without a marriage, is incomplete.

You cannot have it all, if you find a woman with a career, a man like you will probably be too scared to approach her because you will automatically think her arrogant and not 'submissive'

It is when women try to be submissive that you find them depending on men, if a woman does not depend on a man, a lot of men feel useless to her.

As for me, I cannot relate to anything you have said and I will not agree with you for lack of relatability.

NaijaOlosho:
Men have nothing to offer than 10minutes dicks

For sex dem no get strength

I make men enjoy sex.

You can't have me and then don't come back for me.

...marketers everywhere you go!

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NaijaOlosho:
Men have nothing to offer than 10minutes dicks

For sex dem no get strength

I make men enjoy sex.

You can't have me and then don't come back for me.

...marketers everywhere you go!!

jaxxy:
The way guys glorify this money thing in a relationship is nauseating, well it’s the gals i blame. Poverty mentality has finished Nigerian relationships. Everything money and yet u call it a relationship? Call it an escort service abeg.

Hahahahaha!

safarigirl:
you can't even write in simple, comprehensible English and you are calling someone saucy.

Are you in Secondary School? Someone who writes in this manner has no business being in a relationship with a woman that offers more than sex

No, I disagree with you! What I see in that write-up is an intellect and purposeful write-up. In as much as it is not not conventional, it's creative. Have you wonder how these words; it's kinda, ain't aren't, wanna ... come-about? Comprehending them isn't for primary school students or you wanna tell me you are still in primary school struggling to read ABCD

bluefilm:


Thank you for being truthful.

The whole world know that majority of Nigerian ladies offer nothing to their men.



Remove money, gifts, favor, and help, 99% of Nigerian ladies will never agree to date any man.


The only reason most Nigerian ladies go into a relationship is to have a man that will be spending money on them at will and on demand, to be getting free gifts (phones, cars, house rent, house, free vacation, etc), remove all these things, and 99% of Nigerian ladies; rich or poor will never go into a relationship with any man, truth is bitter

pocohantas:


You conveniently ignored my question.

Do those girls exist, of course they do.

Are they the majority? Maybe not, maybe they are a whole lot.

WHY DO YOU KEEP MEETING ONLY THEM?

That is where the problem lies. Once again, check yourself, your associations and standard.

It is just a bitter truth we all have to face.

The question if they are on the majority shouldn't have been asked...Obviously, they are on the majority because that's the norm here in Africa. It's in their DNA, it's a cultural thing..painful truth.

I haven't thrown any accusation at you here..yet u accuse me of sub standard associations....
Sorry, it's difficult here to meet such girls, very rare. And we really hope the situation can change because I'm not ready to settle for less...
By the way, all these online chest beating doesn't proof anything... I could predict your type, I've met girls who appear so confident and intelligent but once u get a little closer into them, they reset to factory setting of the typical "African leach" who have nothing to offer other than sex and demand. I don't know u, but if I get to, I won't be surprised u may not be any different

.

Brain

safarigirl:


The society believes the woman must be married, and a woman with a career and without a marriage, is incomplete.

You cannot have it all, if you find a woman with a career, a man like you will probably be too scared to approach her because you will automatically think her arrogant and not 'submissive'

It is when women try to be submissive that you find them depending on men, if a woman does not depend on a man, a lot of men feel useless to her.

As for me, I cannot relate to anything you have said and I will not agree with you for lack of relatability.

You just related and I'm glad u did...everything u just explained is responsible for the prevalence of dependent women offering nothing other than sex and demand

Listar:


No, I disagree with you! What I see in that write-up is an intellect and purposeful write-up. In as much as it is not not conventional, it's creative. Have you wonder how these words; it's kinda, ain't aren't, wanna ... come-about? Comprehending them isn't for primary school students or you wanna tell me you are still in primary school struggling to read ABCD

LOL

Go and write a job application like that and see if you get the job. Perhaps those responsible for recruiting are all in primary school

...is that a question ?

They *Offer heaven and earth* if you must know o. Abi, whose responsibility is it to provide *shelter* and *food* in the ( family ) house ?

Or why do you think God made man the head of the family ?

Iffa no talk now, e go be like say pesin no know anything...

And some ladies go even swear say dia money no go reach dia hubby hand no matter wetin wan happen.

Awon weyre gbogbo...

" WE have agree " and accepted the responsibility since *inception* so no need to epp.

Na man dey position woman ; if you new meet woman and she dey do one kind...just jeje go *factory reset* or download your own version of sense into her system #lobatan Cx na the one wey pesin *install* put you go meet there o and e fi no go well with you.

Any loose ball ?

Hit like if you think I'm a good player �

ornicus:


I would be interested in meeting your guy sha. I know a chick a lot like you. Very intellectual, masters degrees from uk. Was in PWC. She just cannot deal with naija guys. Completely different wavelength. Date na struggle. She's in abj now. Don't think she's married, but I could be wrong. Maybe I could introduce her to his brothers

I am very particular about who I date or associate with. Right from my university days, guys always called me "proud" "arrogant", because I didn't see the need for majority of those relationships that were just sexfests.

What the average Naija guy wields in a relationship is most times money and that money isn't even a lot (to me). The problem is, Nigerian girls are just too physically and mentally lazy to do better for themselves. Na why we dey see all this nonsense talk online.

pocohantas:


Your fiancee offers nothing to you?

Why do you talk so much and make little sense? Was the bone of comtention that these ladies exist or the fact that THEY ARE ALL HE HAS EVER MET IN HIS LIFE?

You talk so much nonsense, tbh. How does she cope? I am curious.

99% of Nigerian men marry just to give birth to babies in wedlock, not that they expect anything from their so called wives because Nigerian men are used to Nigerian women's wickedness, selfishness, stinginess and heartlessness towards men who aren't their relative, so they aren't complaining, but for a Nigerian lady to have the stupid gut to come online to ask what men offer to women reeks of hypocrisy, and worst off is that fellow ladies who were supposed to honestly correct her are here supporting the foolish assumption that men don't offer anything to women, like WTF is that




I can swear with anything you want, I have done so much for so many ladies who aren't my relative; have helped some travel out, get job, start a business, paid house rent, bought uncountable phones , bought a car of course to one and only one person.....and I have met lots of the so called ladies that can be classified as financially successful, working in top firms, yet they expect you to do everything for them......the truth is, 99% of Nigerian ladies are stingy!!


Their money hardly circulate, even the rich ladies like Alakija and co, you can hardly hear they helped anybody aside their family members. I have lots of them even from my community, they do nothing to help the community, it is still we men that do all the community development projects. You black ladies should improve that's all we are saying, stop arguing blindly and defending a lost cause

Still avoiding the question. In your quiet time, tell yourself the truth.

dazzlingd:


The question if they are on the majority shouldn't have been asked...Obviously, they are on the majority because that's the norm here in Africa. It's in their DNA, it's a cultural thing..painful truth.

I haven't thrown any accusation at you here..yet u accuse me of sub standard associations....
Sorry, it's difficult here to meet such girls, very rare.

dazzlingd:


You just related and I'm glad u did...everything u just explained is responsible for the prevalence of dependent women offering nothing other than sex and demand

I still can't relate

The sheet idea of expecting a man to pick up your bills is thankfully alien to me, because my mama was paying bills just as much, if not more than my dad. So, no, I don't relate. I know of the act, but it is not something I subscribe to.

Equal2DeTask:



And finally, She dumped u?

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Yeah... I ve moved on since.

Riele:


Do you want her to offer you protection ?

I for no mind ooo

Riele:


Lol

A man doesn't need attention?

And you think women don't feel uneasy with too much compliments?

Aunty just go and relax
Men provide everything
Women share everything

pocohantas:


I am very particular about who I date or associate with. Right from my university days, guys always called me "proud" "arrogant", because I didn't see the need for majority of those relationships that was just a sex fest.

What the average Naija guy wields in a relationship is most times money and that money isn't even a lot (to me). The problem is, Nigerian girls are just too physically and mentally lazy to do better for themselves. Na why we dey see all this nonsense talk online.

this is one of my struggles

I don't subscribe to the sexfest, I don't want the money, they can't understand either. The mere idea of a woman valuing sense over money is alien to a lot of Nigerian men.

At this point, I am tired of it all

franchasng:
God bless you jareh, don't mind all these pretenders forming women activist online but in real life, they know they offer nothing to men, NOTHING as in NOTHING!!!! Yet they will be pretending and telling wicked lies online

God bless you too. What do I gain if I don't speak the truth. Na long throat and pride dey worry some ladies that is why they won't speak the truth. Sincerely some men offer the most in a relationship, Example: Our fathers, husbands, and brothers that is those that have loving and caring heart.

franchasng:
As a lady, a sexy hot lady, let me be honest and shame the devil for once; we ladies offer nothing to men, i repeat, we ladies of nowadays offer nothing to men. Even the sex, we enjoy it most if we can be honest to ourselves, we are only selective with who we want to have sex with, but once we find the kind of guy we love to sex, we enjoy sex so much more than the guys.


During the so called sex, we ladies can cum more than 3 times if we are being dicked by our preferred man


But men offer:

1.) Money which happens to be the biggest or most important thing in the world today

2.) They offer job, career advice (lots of men help ladies secure jobs, how many ladies have helped a man who isn't their brother secure a job)

3.) Lots of Nigerian men for instance have helped thousands or millions of Nigerian ladies to travel abroad and even help them become citizens of top global nations through marrying them, but how many Nigerian ladies help guys travel abroad or help them become foreign citizens, very few ladies have done that, the rest will be saying they cannot do it so that the guy won't come over and dump them.

4.) Men buy cars for their ladies everyday, we all see it....how many ladies buy car for their man

5.) Men pay rent and build house for their women, how many women build or pay rent for their man

6.) Men date and marry brokeass ladies who have no job, no single dime except pussy, how many ladies date and marry broke men without a job, only their dick to offer Men de try oh no go there sis


My sister, men are wonderful, say the truth....maybe if you are not getting the right men, say it, maybe because you are too arrogant, prideful, pompous and always forming hard-to-get for guys, which makes the great guys abandon you, leaving you with brokeass quality-less guys who can chase a girl for one decade without shame, men of quality don't waste time begging a girl to accept them, they move on the minute you say no, so look inward and change some things and you will start attracting the best guys that will wow you

#real woman, ladies and gentlemen.

Juell:
1. Protection
2. Money
3. Emotional support
4. Family support
5. Intellectual support
6. Buying gifts
7. Taking them out........
The list is endless jarey.
And even the sex sef.... Who enjoys it more? The women

lol

pansophist:
Instead of asking directly "where have all the good men gone", you paraphrased it with "what do men offer in a relationship"? Lol.

Well, men are leaving their traditional duty of being providers, putting a woman first, being the expendable and sacrificial lamb, workhorse, and now, are treating women as an equal partner, not expect her to just show up, but show up with something. At least for me. Hi

If you want a rich man, you have to be rich too, educated if you want an educated man. Being a woman is not enough anymore, Afterall, women go for "real men", we also want "real women, not a woman-child that we should be responsible for.

This is epic, I almost cried

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