Avast:


The lady below want to have a taste I guess.

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The lady below want to have a taste I guess.

Sunisonflex39:

I don't plan breaking her reltationship,i only want to see her happy.

Sunisonflex39:
thanks man..
I never expected this many insults from people here like I planned for everything..it makes me depressed.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

Sunisonflex39:
i told her I wouldn't be sticking around anymore,but she was crying and begging that I shouldn't cut my self away from her.
she asked me to at least be her best friend which I agreed on. everything was going on well until recently she started this behavior.

MrBrownJay1:


bro...for the last time.... you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. all these lies you are bringing are making NO DAMN SENSE!

ok lets go back again:
A) you meet a girl, you like her, chat her up and want to be with her and make advances. then she tells you she has a boyfriend.
COMMON SENSE: any normal man with common sense would simply back down and let this woman be..... oh but not you! you instead decided to back down and "call her to check up on her as much as possible"
the important question IS: why exactly?! what were you checking? her temperature? the weather? or simply putting yourself in a strategic position where you will be able to attack the minute there is issue in her r/ship?!?!?!?!

B) her man notices you and asks you to back down, because you are in the way of his r/ship with the babe.
COMMON SENSE: any man with common sense would have back down for good... oh but NOT you. the minute babe called you, you instead ratted the dude out and further damage their r/ship.
the important question IS: what did you expect would happen when you ran your mouth to her ?!?!?!?!?

C) the babe now come to you and say that she wants you to be her bestfriend as before...and you agreed because " you wanted to make her happy".
COMMON SENSE: come on bro, come on!!!!! how old are you to be telling us that much BS. you have NEVER planned on leaving this babe and have been sticking to her (like glue) since day one expecting her to fall so you can be there to catch her on the rebound...which is exactly what is happening.
the important question IS: what kind of "friend" are you to prefer destroying her r/ship so that you can be happy together?

here is the main question that you need to answer: put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us all (with a straight face) that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your actions

Sunisonflex39:
aAs a gentleman, I told her I won't be sticking around. but she begged and cried that I should at least be her best friend that she can't stand the sight of loosing me totally..as friends, everything was going well until recently when she started this behavior.

harry2sexy:
Sunisonflex39: You're not up to 20years old, that's for a fact, therefore you're not saddled with responsibilities, I'm not going to deride you but you don't campaign after elections. Now that you've tactically gotten the girl, you'll have it good for at month 2months and then this attention and checking up u were doing, I, harrysofresh aka Heartbreaker will start giving her that very attention you gave her in 2017, Anu pama. You queened your pawn, even though you had to loose your knight, so get set, you can't kill us all, we're coming for you

I'm your karma, I'm not waiting for nature's own

MrBrownJay1:
you have to be honest with your own self.... IS THAT THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? a deceitful, disrespectful, dishonest person who is willing to sleep with you?!

remember, what you wish will be what you will get, and when she will be tired of you, she will play you the same way she has been playing this guy all along (and he was right to be suspicious about her). a woman who cheat on her man to be with you, will cheat on you to be with other men....FACT!!!!!

Sunisonflex39:
i told her I wouldn't be sticking around anymore,but she was crying and begging that I shouldn't cut my self away from her.
she asked me to at least be her best friend which I agreed on. everything was going on well until recently she started this behavior.

succri:
the bf was cool until you made him looked like a b*tch by SNITCHING , such low blow on the BF , now coming to play saint ...
that joy when she said all that ... u couldn't wait to Post it on NL , Waiting on that thumb up "BAD GUY" comment or whatever ... not like you want something serious with her anyway , you are in a survival's world i guess , make sure you know you got the blame , i wonder how guys take number off a girls phone and call ... seems weird to me , good thing she is dropping one idiot for another , just that this one says he's a gentleman

openmine:
Its a normal thing on a social media platform esp nairaland! You will get all sort of characters! Don't be depressed..just make the right decision for your peace of mind!

phemy36:


I really cherished this reply. It happen to me also. I met this girl that told me she is in a relationship, but due the fact that i'm a working class person and her boy friend is a student. She told me that we can still be friend despite be in relationship. I told her straight that i can't do it, and that anyhow anyhow we are going to have sex if we keep our friendship but kept calling me until i decided not to pick her call again. Protect your integrity. She respected mefor this singular act up till now. She will later hate you when she's not happy with you and also do same to you.

GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

lekonso:
You are a very responsible guy. Please tell the lady that you are not ready to play around, if she wants you she must do away with the other guy. She must make a decision on who she wants among the two of you.

correctyourself:


She is still a child and have not face the reality of life, that is why she could say these, and trying to start jumping from one place to another, maybe she would get her sense right when both of you dump her, then she would learn the hard-way.

Young lady running after unserious young guys who knew nothing but to keep pestering young ladies because phone has mad it possible to track ladies/guys, unlike when you have to send letter through post office, then one could easy cuff-off unserious guys/ladies and face the reality of life where you fined yourself and be more focus about life.

Sunisonflex39:

thanks for understanding me..
others were just insulting me from every corner without understanding issue like I planned for this all along.. problem didn't start when her bf chatted me up and after then I and the guy used to chat it was after 4 months the girl started behaving abnormal.when the guy first chatted me up, he didn't ask me to stop all communication with the girl and I told him to talk to his Gf too.. which he said he have talked to her times without numbers.

sweetonugbu:
You are just a fallback, oche ndabere