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What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by yazga: 8:34am On Nov 21, 2019
On Monday I read a post asking women if they could marry a 29yr old man earning 60k a month which translates to 720k a year.

Whether the ladies were pretending with their replies or not, The responses were really interesting to read. Its nice to see that there are still reasonable women here who don't dance around in fantasyland and are keen on working together while looking ahead.

A woman who knows how to take a little and make it work is priceless. A trait I thought was lost with the generation of our mothers.

Apparently I was wrong and such women who are great at managing limited resources still exist

What caught my attention however, was the fact that more than half the women said the salary was ok but they couldn't marry any man under 33. I snooped around to try and see if anybody gave a logical reason for this conclusion but couldn't find any

So I want to ask officially. What's wrong with a man under 33?

If he makes you happy, and he is ready to spend the rest of his life with you what's the problem with his age that would be a hindrance?
Or could it be that you are older so like the typical

Nigerian woman you can't marry a younger man?
Is it possible that a man can tick all the right boxes on your list of an ideal man but you turn him down cuz of age?

Please ladies share your thoughts on this with us. We want to know oh

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Oluelese(m): 8:41am On Nov 21, 2019
Absolutely nothing

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by AfroKnight: 9:13am On Nov 21, 2019
If I say my mind now, they’ll call me a misogynist.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by kernniejay(m): 9:19am On Nov 21, 2019
I think any lady that says she cannot marry a man younger than 33yrs must be in her 30s.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Newguyhere: 9:26am On Nov 21, 2019
gbam! you just said it.
And the funny thing is even those women claiming 25 are in most cases lying about their age. All of them are old cargos, it's only make up and push up bras nah im dey hide the sorry state of their body grin
kernniejay:
I think any lady that says she cannot marry a man younger than 33yrs must be in her 30s.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Emily22(m): 9:52am On Nov 21, 2019
The age of the lady will determine the age-range of the partner she seeks

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by CreepyBlackpool: 9:55am On Nov 21, 2019
They're saying they can't marry a guy bellow 33 because them they're above 33 nah

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by yazga: 10:17am On Nov 21, 2019
No some like older men 25 yrs old girls dating a man of 36yrs
Emily22:
The age of the lady will determine the age-range of the partner she seeks for

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by yazga: 10:17am On Nov 21, 2019
Yes
CreepyBlackpool:
They're saying they can't marry a guy bellow 33 because then they're above 33 nah

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by vincentjk(m): 10:46am On Nov 21, 2019
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Emily22(m): 10:53am On Nov 21, 2019
yazga:
No some like older men 25 yrs old girls dating a man of 36yrs

Not far from the truth

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 10:58am On Nov 21, 2019
because they believe that he doesnt have the financial capability to take care of them, also he might not be ready for marriage

as a man grows in age so his financial capabilities and stability

many men younger than 33 in Nigeria are still finding their career and financial path, some are still exploring. some young men might see their finances improve at age 21 while most men will see their finances improves at age 33 and as they get older and mature

it is easier for women to date someone at 33 or above because she believes he is stable, serious for marriage and financially ready.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by midnighter(f): 11:12am On Nov 21, 2019
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 11:20am On Nov 21, 2019
midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

you are right, but seriously speaking he will have to marry a younger woman at least age 24-30 because seriously speaking i cant imagine a man at that marriageable age marrying a woman within the same age of 33-37.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by midnighter(f): 11:53am On Nov 21, 2019
lilwetdick:


you are right, but seriously speaking he will have to marry a younger woman at least age 24-30 because seriously speaking i cant imagine a man at that marriageable age marrying a woman within the same age of 33-37.

No problem with that, I was just stating the nicest age for a man to marry IMO.

Personally when I see 20-something year old guys marrying I find it strange or I think maybe they are doing it for religious reasons. A lot of the 20-somethings I know dont seem oriented towards marriage at all.

But of course age isnt the key factor but maturity and capability. I am just speaking in general.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by yazga: 8:33am On Nov 22, 2019
No oooooooooooooooo 27 is ideal
midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by yazga: 8:33am On Nov 22, 2019
lilwetdick:


you are right, but seriously speaking he will have to marry a younger woman at least age 24-30 because seriously speaking i cant imagine a man at that marriageable age marrying a woman within the same age of 33-37.
21-23

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by midnighter(f): 8:43am On Nov 22, 2019
yazga:
No oooooooooooooooo 27 is ideal

Too young

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by yazga: 9:07am On Nov 22, 2019
How? when you are 32 your kids is 5 yrs already, 37 ypur kids is 10 and 47 the kids is 20yrs
midnighter:


Too young

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by pocohantas(f): 9:07am On Nov 22, 2019
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most important attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do that makes the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, just carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation from their fellow younglings, thus acting like you both are in a power tussle. An older guy is a man all by himself, he would allow you- but never mistake this act for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts grin. I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around, talking about ASUU strike, sex and Nigerian girls.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

PLEASE, NO ONE SHOULD QUOTE ME TO TELL ME HOW THESE THINGS DON'T COME WITH AGE. READ THE ABOVE DISCLAIMER AND UNDERSTAND IT WELL!!

ONCE AGAIN, EXCEPTIONS APPLY!

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by midnighter(f): 9:09am On Nov 22, 2019
yazga:
How? when you are 32 your kids is 5 yrs already, 37 ypur kids is 10 and 47 the kids is 20yrs

Faulty reasoning, you're assuming they will start breeding in the wedding car or what

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Godtschild: 9:19am On Nov 22, 2019
midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

For a Nigerian man.

Economy and culture is a factor. Countries with good economy is 25-29. Once a man is through with school and gets a job immediately and has worked 2-5 years, what is he waiting for? In the US a 29 y/o man has already worked for 5-8 years, he has already bought his first house.

When the economy was better (60s and 70s) Nigerian men were getting married much more earlier. Also, in the US the age has increased as their economy worsened. It used to be 24.5.

If you’re matured enough to hold a steady job for 5+ years (in that time you would’ve been promoted once or twice to leadership roles), handle more responsibilities, manage your finances enough to buy a house, manage your debts (loans), maintain a steady relationship (probably live in) then you’re emotionally matured for a marriage, all that’s left is a signed document. Sweet spot, 29 years.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:20am On Nov 22, 2019
pocohantas:


2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. So, she has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid, even if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.



I know of a 40 year old married man that is not matured at all, not even small, na only book e get for head, nothing again, and people tell him that with instances o, but he wouldn't listen, I dey always pity the wife, that's why I tell people being intelligent is so much better than being brilliant.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by pocohantas(f): 9:22am On Nov 22, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



I know of a 40 year old married man that is not matured at all, not even small, na only book e get for head, nothing again, and people tell him that with instances o, but he wouldn't listen, I dey always pity the wife, that's why I tell people being intelligent is so much better than being brilliant.

I know many too, like I said... EXCEPTIONS APPLY.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by midnighter(f): 9:34am On Nov 22, 2019
Godtschild:


For a Nigerian man.

Economy and culture is a factor. Countries with good economy is 25-29. Once a man is through with school and gets a job immediately and has worked 2-5 years, what is he waiting for? In the US a 29 y/o man has already worked for 5-8 years, he has already bought his first house..

Yes, for a Nigerian man.

The condition here tends to scupper and delay people's plans so we gats to learn to fly without perching for a while

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 9:34am On Nov 22, 2019
Godtschild:


For a Nigerian man.

Economy and culture is a factor. Countries with good economy is 25-29. Once a man is through with school and gets a job immediately and has worked 2-5 years, what is he waiting for? In the US a 29 y/o man has already worked for 5-8 years, he has already bought his first house.

When the economy was better (60s and 70s) Nigerian men were getting married much more earlier. Also, in the US the age has increased as their economy worsened. It used to be 24.5.

If you’re matured enough to hold a steady job for 5+ years (in that time you would’ve been promoted once or twice to leadership roles), handle more responsibilities, manage your finances enough to buy a house, manage your debts (loans), maintain a steady relationship (probably live in) then you’re emotionally matured for a marriage, all that’s left is a signed document. Sweet spot, 29 years.

i agree completely with you but i also noticed people who get married between age 20-27, get divorce easily than those who married when older,let also not forget that countries with good economy do have higher divorce rate than countries with developing economies.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 9:39am On Nov 22, 2019
pocohantas:


I know many too, like I said... EXCEPTIONS APPLY.

but what is maturity of a man according to a woman?

i often hear how this word is thrown anyhow by women, you will hear woman say that man is matured maybe because he dresses in a certain way or does something in a certain way, to a guy that is just being him behaving like that at that moment.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 9:47am On Nov 22, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



I know of a 40 year old married man that is not matured at all, not even small, na only book e get for head, nothing again, and people tell him that with instances o, but he wouldn't listen, I dey always pity the wife, that's why I tell people being intelligent is so much better than being brilliant.

what is maturity for a woman?

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:48am On Nov 22, 2019
lilwetdick:


what is maturity for a woman?


Pls don't ask me a stupid question, I believe no one is a kid here.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by midnighter(f): 9:51am On Nov 22, 2019
lilwetdick:


i agree completely with you but i also noticed people who get married between age 20-27, get divorce easily than those who married when older,let also not forget that countries with good economy do have higher divorce rate than countries with developing economies.

Because divorce is not (as) stigmatised in developed countries unlike here where they will use marriage to insult people and people will suffer
In bad marriages until they slump and die

Plus women are less financially dependent on men and divorce laws try to provide for them to an extent. And there are government/welfare services to help people with domestic problems

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 9:52am On Nov 22, 2019
yazga:
How? when you are 32 your kids is 5 yrs already, 37 ypur kids is 10 and 47 the kids is 20yrs

when you start calculating your age and the age your children will be, i think it is a recipe for disaster, that is desperation.

i think a man need to prepare himself financially, mentally and emotionally and also select a good woman to have a good marriage instead of calculating his age and future kids age. nothing bad if as a man you get married at 50 years, if you take care of yourself, you will see the prime of your
future children.

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Re: What's Wrong With A Man Under 33? by Nobody: 9:55am On Nov 22, 2019
pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because if you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. So, she has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid, even if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. So, except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts grin. I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike and their ex-gfs who are now single/lonely.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Spot on, at that age you've understood life and know what you want to a large degree. Though there are still man child sha. But yeah very accurate

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