Fountainofyouth:



I know of a 40 year old married man that is not matured at all, not even small, na only book e get for head, nothing again, and people tell him that with instances o, but he wouldn't listen, I dey always pity the wife, that's why I tell people being intelligent is so much better than being brilliant.

stevmatt:
This post is for ladies alone, gentlemen back off gently

Ladies, is time.

Mart1994:
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Shatap

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

yazga:
On Monday I read a post asking women if they could marry a 29yr old man earning 60k a month which translates to 720k a year.

Whether the ladies were pretending with their replies or not, The responses were really interesting to read. Its nice to see that there are still reasonable women here who don't dance around in fantasyland and are keen on working together while looking ahead.

A woman who knows how to take a little and make it work is priceless. A trait I thought was lost with the generation of our mothers.

Apparently I was wrong and such women who are great at managing limited resources still exist

What caught my attention however, was the fact that more than half the women said the salary was ok but they couldn't marry any man under 33. I snooped around to try and see if anybody gave a logical reason for this conclusion but couldn't find any

So I want to ask officially. What's wrong with a man under 33?

If he makes you happy, and he is ready to spend the rest of his life with you what's the problem with his age that would be a hindrance?
Or could it be that you are older so like the typical

Nigerian woman you can't marry a younger man?
Is it possible that a man can tick all the right boxes on your list of an ideal man but you turn him down cuz of age?

Please ladies share your thoughts on this with us. We want to know oh

yazga:
On Monday I read a post asking women if they could marry a 29yr old man earning 60k a month which translates to 720k a year.

Whether the ladies were pretending with their replies or not, The responses were really interesting to read. Its nice to see that there are still reasonable women here who don't dance around in fantasyland and are keen on working together while looking ahead.

A woman who knows how to take a little and make it work is priceless. A trait I thought was lost with the generation of our mothers.

Apparently I was wrong and such women who are great at managing limited resources still exist

What caught my attention however, was the fact that more than half the women said the salary was ok but they couldn't marry any man under 33. I snooped around to try and see if anybody gave a logical reason for this conclusion but couldn't find any

So I want to ask officially. What's wrong with a man under 33?

If he makes you happy, and he is ready to spend the rest of his life with you what's the problem with his age that would be a hindrance?
Or could it be that you are older so like the typical

Nigerian woman you can't marry a younger man?
Is it possible that a man can tick all the right boxes on your list of an ideal man but you turn him down cuz of age?

Please ladies share your thoughts on this with us. We want to know oh

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

vincentjk:


She knows my feelings already and I can tell she feels same way as well but I'm not yet ready for marriage while she's (if she gets a serious suitor)

Btw how do one start asking his best friend out again

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

vincentjk:


She knows my feelings already and I can tell she feels same way as well but I'm not yet ready for marriage while she's (if she gets a serious suitor)

Btw how do one start asking his best friend out again

Alexaonfleek:
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In the first place who doesn't like money
Even you as a person,don't u like money

Anyways,that's not the only reason I go for older guys.They are more mature,just like that point pocohantas listed up there.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Grupo:


I hear about this maturity talk from you ladies a lot lately.

Please, can you list what it means for a man to be mature? I want to assess myself and know if I'm mature or not.

Craig24:



50yrs? How much more years do you think such person has left to live?

I for one, I don't care what the society thinks but our families makes up the society, we grew up in it, schooled in it Worshipped in it, which we draw our norms n values from. You have no idea what stigmatization the 50year old nuclear n extended family will go through, money or no money. The society doesn't care.

My uncle who was close to fifty before he got married has five children today
First,is gurl 26yrs with no plans of getting married anytime soon cos they practise holiness n righteousness at deeperlife, besides his wife's a devil's incarnate.

Second, a boy, 24, just graduated from
ANSU(igbariam campus) yet to be called up for NYSC.

Third, a boy, 20, yet to gain admission but has been sitting for exams.

Fourth, a gurl, 17, still doing her O'level.
Fifth, a gurl, 14, Jss1
Now tell me how he has to live n anticipate for grandchild while he has a family of seven(including himself n wife) from his monthly pensions at the FCT at the age of 74, hypertensive too?

lilwetdick:


hmm, i see...marriage is a do or die affairs in Nigeria, some see it as a poverty elevation program while some as a means to get respect and be among.

a big problem here among men in Nigeria is that once a man start earning salary the next thing he thinks about is marriage, to me it is strange because i believe once a man starts earning salary should be time to know more about himself and try to experiment with life, take risk, instead of finding any girl who wanna settle down and rush into marriage.. the desperation to marry among men and women here is real and has lead to lot of troubles..marriage is a long game decision and needs to be gotten into with caution.

truthsayer009:


Do you have money or not? That is what girls mean but mature.

mvem:
I think women not men that are marriage desperate. Most men are not marriage desperate compared to women which have obvious reasons

Craig24:



50yrs? How much more years do you think such person has left to live?

I for one, I don't care what the society thinks but our families makes up the society, we grew up in it, schooled in it Worshipped in it, which we draw our norms n values from. You have no idea what stigmatization the 50year old nuclear n extended family will go through, money or no money. The society doesn't care.

lilwetdick:
because they believe that he doesnt have the financial capability to take care of them, also he might not be ready for marriage

as a man grows in age so his financial capabilities and stability

many men younger than 33 in Nigeria are still finding their career and financial path, some are still exploring. some young men might see their finances improve at age 21 while most men will see their finances improves at age 33 and as they get older and mature

it is easier for women to date someone at 33 or above because she believes he is stable, serious for marriage and financially ready.

kernniejay:
I think any lady that says she cannot marry a man younger than 33yrs must be in her
late 30s.

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

Jhamzy:

Give me your reasons ma

Dimples0303:
I'm confused, are we celebrating limitations and poverty on this thread

Instead of looking for who can manage limited resources, why don't you look for financial independence before marriage?

You'll need to stop bringing innocent children into your poverty zoned lives, to be a parent is a privilege and not a right! Mho though

Modified:
now its about age... If he's broke under the age of 33, then he should chill and look for money before he looks for people to join his poverty. If he's able to take on the responsibility of fatherhood then... Np.

lilwetdick:


how is this a stupid question, i dont know how you guys think, everything is to show your aggressiveness and frustration instead of answering the question..maturity could mean different things to different women, write down your own view instead of the nonsense you typed.

simple question that requires simple answer, i dont understand how this is stupid. god damnit.

midnighter:


You really need to read the last sentence on that post you responded to.