Career building takes a lifetime. It is only reasonable for one to have something tangible doing before embarking on the endless journey called marriage.

Those who wants to reach the zenith of their career before marriage should as well kick that aspect of life into oblivion.

Advice:

Career building should start early enough in life to avoid unnecessary delay of settling down with a lifetime partner.

Painfully, people see career building as just getting a white collar job and working hard enough to reach the top. The hard truth is that most graduate spend years learning tailoring and other hands on skills which could have been acquired in earlier in life

Lesson: Time is precious,irredeemable,and must be maximized

cipslim:
I understand that when it comes to sensitive topics like marriage and career especially for women, a lot of people have different opinions. Whatever your opinion is I do respect it; different things work for different people. Without much ado, let get into it.

Women who want to have kids should make it a high priority in their early twenties – late twenties to find a “partner”, (Note, I quote a partner, not a husband, as much as I am pro-marriage, it’s just not for everyone and not all women want a husband). According to statistics, it’s harder for women in their late thirties to get married.

Another big reason is because of the pressing issues facing Generation X: infertility. We are experiencing more women having issue with getting pregnant naturally and the cost of IUI or IVF is not getting any cheaper. Honestly, you have your whole life to get a career and you can even change career at any time in life. This is not true about having a baby.

If you are already in your 30s, single and want to have kids, you need to find a partner now. Take that career drive and direct it toward mating because your career skills will outlast your ovaries.

As much as I believe women should not be pressured into getting married as most African parents or families do, the reality is the woman’s biological clock is running. However, there is lots of evidence to show that a woman’s biological clock takes a nose-dive from age 35. A huge percentage of fertility statistics get bad at 35.

where will you find partner?

The Way you guys advocate for women to find partner, one would think men are just strolling past her father's house and she can pick from the line. Finding a partner is not as easy as it sounds, especially when you are trying to build yourself to ensure, whoever you end up with, will not curse the day he met you

There is no Golden rule to this...
Any can come first

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Miracle4Sure:
Hmmm

ladies, don’t allowed societal pressure getting you into wrong home.. marriage is not for everybody..

safarigirl:
Career

Once I have established myself, I can enter marriage knowing I have something to offer my partner. It is hard to find footing in your career after marriage.

I don't want to be anyone's liability, so, I would rather I have built myself to a reasonable extent, before joining forces with anyone

You are smart �

safarigirl:
Career

Once I have established myself, I can enter marriage knowing I have something to offer my partner. It is hard to find footing in your career after marriage.

I don't want to be anyone's liability, so, I would rather I have built myself to a reasonable extent, before joining forces with anyone

Lair Mohammed concubine

We all have different priorities. Some women value marriage morethan career and vice versa. So different strokes for different Folks. However, it doesnt matter which comes first. Also, a woman can have it all.

Ladies just say the truth its marriage...

If career delays their parents can provide the needful and for thoes who don't fear God their sugar daddies can..

But for marriage any slight delay na Shiloh ground or prayer mountains

For some ladies, career is marriage and marriage is career.

Berra paddle your own canoe yourself

Don't be deceived by these ones typing career their only career is to get a man that will provide for all their needs and wants without stress.

The guys are here to answer for us.

As usual...

no one comes first happiness and fufilment is what you define it to be , if it career or family so be it .
life is all about gamble, you might sacrifice for your kids and dem no send you tommorow, you might focus on your career , you end up been kicked out or your field of study becomes irrelevant eg publishing si what do you do?

the key is balance

safarigirl:
Career

Once I have established myself, I can enter marriage knowing I have something to offer my partner. It is hard to find footing in your career after marriage.

I don't want to be anyone's liability, so, I would rather I have built myself to a reasonable extent, before joining forces with anyone

Spoken like someone that understands partnership.

The only downside of being a successful career lady is that your choice of men will shrink drastically, you will only fancy men that are more successful than you.

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Whatever you decide, just remember that you are just a number in your career. As such, you are dispensable. It is silly to choose one over the other. Learn to combine both and be blissful in life.

Just like asking food or water? Well...you need both.
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Fvck marriage.
In this present day Naija?
Career comes first.

There isn't a big deal if you can have it all.

Marriage for me first...

Career is not a must. The koko is to have Money and you can still have money when married.

The mere fact that this question is asked over and over again shows that ladies are expected to make a choice. To each their own. I would never get married without being self-reliant.

I want my wife to support me and the home so career first but make she no go over do career come forget about me

fatymore:
There isn't a big deal if you can have it all.

Marriage for me first...

Career is not a must. The koko is to have Money and you can still have money when married.

It is not that easy to have it all unless we have a different idea of what having a career means.

Michael4725:
see below

una no Dy tire to spam Nairaland?

pryme:


Spoken like someone that understands partnership.

The only downside of being a successful career lady is that your choice of men will shrink drastically, you will only fancy men that are more successful than you.

Or equally/smilarly successful ... but yeah, you are right.

InvertedHammer:
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Whatever you decide, just remember that you are just a number in your career. As such, you are dispensable. It is silly to choose one over the other. Learn to combine both and be blissful in life.

Just like asking food or water? Well...you need both.
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For a woman to combine both is a big challenge that men don't have. Sometimes you have to make a choice.

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cipslim:
I understand that when it comes to sensitive topics like marriage and career especially for women, a lot of people have different opinions. Whatever your opinion is I do respect it; different things work for different people. Without much ado, let get into it.

Women who want to have kids should make it a high priority in their early twenties – late twenties to find a “partner”, (Note, I quote a partner, not a husband, as much as I am pro-marriage, it’s just not for everyone and not all women want a husband). According to statistics, it’s harder for women in their late thirties to get married.

Another big reason is because of the pressing issues facing Generation X: infertility. We are experiencing more women having issue with getting pregnant naturally and the cost of IUI or IVF is not getting any cheaper. Honestly, you have your whole life to get a career and you can even change career at any time in life. This is not true about having a baby.

If you are already in your 30s, single and want to have kids, you need to find a partner now. Take that career drive and direct it toward mating because your career skills will outlast your ovaries.

As much as I believe women should not be pressured into getting married as most African parents or families do, the reality is the woman’s biological clock is running. However, there is lots of evidence to show that a woman’s biological clock takes a nose-dive from age 35. A huge percentage of fertility statistics get bad at 35.

What is the definition of a marriage?
What is the definition of a career?

Let's start with that.

Career joor

Career

How many Nigerians actually have a career? Many are just working in any direction the employment comes.
Both can be combined especially if the woman is above 28yrs.

spiritedtete:
Your career should be first no matter what!..

The only thing that keeps marriage is personal growth... if you are not growing you will never be happy.

Note: your hubby's success is more like a compound success.. you will only benifit 1/3 of it. If he is a very nice man.

However your husband should be able to give full support to make your dream a top priorty...

At the end you would have been proud of whom you've become

Advice:

Don't bury yourself under a man's success. You'll end up spoiling your lips (mouth) by taking whatever is thrown at you

Trash