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| past tense! by leisuretym: 11:21am On Nov 21, 2010 |
kikikikiki |
| Re: past tense! by ayh191: 11:41am On Nov 21, 2010 |
The fact dat she rejectd d offer doesn't mean she wuldn't accept it lata cos if her parents r disciplinarians, she myt go wit dem abroad. Dats cos if she eventully goes wit u, d pressure will b on u not hurtin her feelins lata on in lyf. So i wuld advice u mek "lng term decision" dat wuld favour both of u. |
| Re: past tense! by sleekch1c(f): 12:08pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
am so sorry,chit happens.just pray about it, it works like majic  |
| Re: past tense! by freecocoa(f): 12:17pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
Eyah!bros i feel your pain but are 100% sure you want to marry this girl?if yes why not try going to see her parents and explain your intentions towards their daughter,you can't tel,you may get lucky but before you go pray and keep praying about it.Buy her a bigger and cuter teddybear,make she know say no be for only jerusalem fine teddy dey(kidding)but it might work though.BEST OF LUCK,i'll be praying for you. |
| Re: past tense! by leisuretym: 12:34pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
Where do I start from? She's my world she's part of my day to day activities! How do I move on? She's all I have |
| Re: past tense! by fstranger: 12:38pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
leisuretym: I think you are a gold digger. How can she be your world when you've only known her for three years. The father made the right decision to cut you off, not sure why he waited this long. Ole, barawo bansa! |
| Re: past tense! by jaybee3(m): 12:41pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
thought this was a thing of the past and most def not common in Nigeria. Oh well, you are in a very difficult situation as u currently aren't buoyant enough to soldier her responsibilities and going against her parents at the moment would be a very dumb thing to do. |
| Re: past tense! by Specialist900(m): 1:55pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
leisuretym:ok o |
| Re: past tense! by leisuretym: 2:28pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
hahaha |
| Re: past tense! by Yorisb: 3:18pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
her dad said she must marry a friend son who is rich , that its was a nice offer, she said '' my Dad said its a nice offer'' but she rejected it OFFER? Why desecrate the sacrosanctity of matrimony wiv such derog terminology  At a moment I felt like I was shopping at M&S or Bluewater.  Offer ko, Sales ni!  |
| Re: past tense! by mediatrix8(f): 4:24pm On Nov 21, 2010 |
Arranged Marriage? hmmm In deed a difficult situation specially if you have someone you love so much.I know you love her and so with her.As evidence of her refusing the will of her parents.Keep you fingers crossed that She will stand on her principle and love to you.Meanwhile ,try to fight your love to her,do some good things to let her parents know your sincere intention to her.But expect the unexpected, Be prepared for whatever happened.I just hope everything will be well with you, wish a happy ending |
| Re: past tense! by leisuretym: 11:03am On Nov 28, 2010 |
Thanks everyone! Can you please send more advice in please! You have been helpful in so many ways , more comment pls. |
| Re: past tense! by fstranger: 11:15am On Nov 28, 2010 |
leisuretym: You are very welcome! I am glad I could help What are we e-friends for? Anyway, try to stop your golddigging attitude, ok? |
| Re: past tense! by Tinksh(f): 11:33am On Nov 28, 2010 |
fstranger: How on earth did you get that from his post. He feels he is losing the love of his life and thats what you tell him?? Wow!!! Harsh!! Poster, you have to fight for her but realistically if she chooses to go with this rich guy then she doesnt deserve your love. If she is considering it then it shows the type of girl she is. I am sorry you have put three years in and could loose it but a desicion hasnt been made yet. I agree with a previous comment to let yourself known to her parents and see what happens. I hope it works out for you. |
| Re: past tense! by bashr4: 6:11pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
dear poster ,u dont even have a job and cant take care of yourself talkless of her, abeg let her decide and be happy with her with what ever decision she makes.How are we even sure u wont become a billinare tomorrow and then dump her for other ladies u wil meet and will rush after u. if she were ur sister what will u do? Put that energy on getting a job or improving your career so u too can qualify. |
| Re: past tense! by Wislet(f): 6:36pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
JUST WONDERING. IS fstranger YOUR FIANCEE's SISTER? And if yes, why de hatred wen she doesn't know u, or u her? Smh |
| Re: past tense! by Wislet(f): 6:42pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
bashr4:Some people never take de time to read well b4 posting. He has a job young man, & bright prospects. . Just wondering, would you love to hear these words from YOUR OWN girlfriend if she found herself in dis situation? Hypocrisy full here. |
| Re: past tense! by snthesis(m): 6:46pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
Dating sum1 for d past 3yrs-metinks u r a waste of time |
| Re: past tense! by Wislet(f): 7:14pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
snthesis:Hello?! The girl is 22 years old, NOT 30. And how old is your own relationship? @OP, It's really amazing dat such things still happen. I mean 'NICE OFFER' was actually said? Smh. Incredible. All in all, de final decision lies with de young lady. Dis is de time 4 her to reason wit a clear head. I mean, if her dad sees her as ready 4 marriage, then she should definitely think and act like a MATURE lady NOW. Nobody is given de right to interfere wit our destinies, WE make de decisions as human beings, cos nobody will bear de brunt of our mistakes, but ourselves! She can either go wit de 'money bag' offer/stay where her heart is & fight against being sold (cos dat's exactly wat it is) like many ladies have done & re happy wit themselves for being brave. Marriage is a LIFETIME business. So if she allows herself to be 'fixed 4 life', she should also be ready NOT to regret later on. If u're truly in luv wit her & TRULY SERIOUS, then support her. Even if she gets thrown out, be wit her. And hey! try speed up & marry her jare. Get ur peeps in de know. |
| Re: past tense! by snthesis(m): 7:33pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
3yrs!!!- let me rephrase**bluidy waste of time** |
| Re: past tense! by emmatok(m): 8:46pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
leisuretym: MAN are you ready to marry her NOW. If YES go tell her parents and if NO i will advise u leave her alone. Because parents these day do not value all these boy friend/girl friend stuffs . They want serious relationship the will lead to marriage for their children. So make up mind and propose marriage to her as soon as possible. Or else she moves on . |
| Re: past tense! by Dsense(m): 8:55pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
OP, This situation is so tough that i will advise u to risk anything . . .But what's left as an option now is meeting her family and to expalin urself fully to them ,might be this will change things , they might just want their daughter to get married to anybody that is Okay''i mean comfortable''which u re qualified for . . .So just try meeting them nd hope for ''Magic''. |
| Re: past tense! by obowunmi(m): 11:33pm On Nov 28, 2010 |
Understand that marriage and relationships are a choice, if the girls family doesn't like you, I highly suggest that you MOVE on with your life. Life is too short, to waste it on some useless family drama. |
| Re: past tense! by IbrahimB: 12:28am On Nov 29, 2010 |
^^^ +1 |
| Re: past tense! by IbrahimB: 12:33am On Nov 29, 2010 |
I would strongly advise against going to see the girl's parents as some people have been suggesting. Very nasty things might happen. The only thing you can do is to ask the girl to let her parents know about you and why she thinks you're the right person for her. If they still won't budge, move on with your life. No one wants a family drama. |
| Re: past tense! by Nobody: 12:50am On Nov 29, 2010 |
fstranger: Lawd, your such a dumb animal. What the hell is wrong with. Leave this thread and the poster alone and go get some food from the Dumpster. @topic, like some other folks here said, think about it very good if you really love this girl and want to spend the rest of your life with her. Don't imply rush just because her parents are frustrating her. Make sure shes not tryna play some ladies game on you with this offer of a thing, If she really love you she will wave the so called offer to hell. But don't come back here in the future to tell us "i'm in-love with 2 girls" You know what I mean Good-luck |
| Re: past tense! by obowunmi(m): 1:06am On Nov 29, 2010 |
How can you let a woman be all that you have worked for in life ? What if you marry her and she cheats on you, will you kill yourself ? Living because of any human being might kill you. |
| Re: past tense! by MrsEve1: 1:10am On Nov 29, 2010 |
Yall still doing ARRANGED MARRIAGE IN NIGERIA?!!!!  NO WONDER MOBO ran to Uk! |
| Re: past tense! by redleich(m): 11:32am On Nov 29, 2010 |
i rily empathise wif u bro.  d truth is dat we shld learn to follow younger women far frm our age group cos of dis marriage thingy. Right nw , u dnt hav d resources to sustain her n d ods guy does.So its a no contest.  Secondly if u rily loved her as much as u say(3 years) , u shld have gone to make urself known to her family.dat way u wld hav cushioned d effect of wat has befallen d both of u. I wish u d best in ur sojourn for tru love, cos d road is laced wif lots of ups n dwns.Some of which u may never recover frm! |
| Re: past tense! by shithapuns: 11:38am On Nov 29, 2010 |
@poster, come n tell us how it ended |
| Re: past tense! by bashr4: 5:52am On Nov 30, 2010 |
Wislet:speak for yourself ,he mentioned busy graduate and that cud mean anything ,what kind of job is dat 25000 a month? well if it was a good job and he really had prospects then why didnt he marry or angage the girl or at least made himself known to the girl's family so that both families can have an understanding of what is. you cant hold on to someones daughter if u dont even have a plan other than" i love her". he should be specific what his plans for the girl is then maybe we might reason with him. Mrs. Eve:yes we do infact its not goin away even in the far future and if that will keep ensuring our divorce rate will be the lowest in the world and family culture is taken seriously then am personally not complaining. |
| Re: past tense! by leisuretym: 12:53pm On Dec 05, 2010 |
haha |
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