Godsonjolly:
You are blessed. Don't let your the evil thoughts in your mind rule you, take charge over them. There's nothing doomed about you. Just rule those evil thoughts out of your life and see the blessings and glory in you. Remain blessed.

omokoginimi:
Another episode of the Lamentations of a doomed child

ChildOfDoom:
Hmm... I'm repulsive because of what I just did. My mum started with her rants again. She insisted I give her the 1500 naira she used to buy fuel for 5 days for the IPassMyNeighbour . We've been experiencing power outage for 3 months now.


I ignored because I have nothing to give her. Although I promised to pay but couldn't meet up. She noticed I was using an earpiece and ignoring her. She pushed my new phone down (worth 30k). The screen cracked in the process. I was made with rage. She noticed and fled to her room. Without premeditation, I went after her and pushed her down. Hmm... The biggest mistake I made out of anger and due to the fact that I'm short-tempered.

I feel bad like the other time I blew her. I had made a decision to avoid her to avoid this situation but she keeps crossing my path. Phewww... Thank God nothing happened to her. I still care but I'm allergic to nagging.

budaatum:
You seem to not mind deceiving and exploiting others and having them rain down curses on you. Or do you think their cursing will not infect you? Please explain that to me.

ChildOfDoom:
not of my own volition. it's my addiction

LilMissFavvy:
Imprisonment will help you break the habit. Just one or two years imprisonment. If only one of those you are messing with would lock you up, it would be for your own good at the end. A cell environment will keep you far from that addiction, such that when you come out you will be a changed person.

Forward77:



No, you’re wrong; it will make it worse.
He’s hardened and almost has zero conscience.

The young man never talked about his father(only his mom), he sounds like a fugitive.
The young man needs love, attention and care. Probably, he had a terrible childhood.

He needs someone that can control and train him for a long period. Someone he can fear/respect, someone matured as well that is not judgmental.

I would have asked him to do a few things since he already knows his problem(60% solved), but he won’t adhere to that.

He should take my advise.

Good luck to him

LilMissFavvy:
He has a father, he once narrated how he used his fathers money, and had to leave home. If he needs love/or if love is the solution, how come he keeps hurting the people who have genuinely loved him? Eg. His mother, his friends? He is not a furgitive.

Forward77:


When you’re been deprived of love as a child, 7/10x it makes people go haywire when they become adults.
The story is not complete. Because there’s no smoke without fire.

That’s why i deduced from his actions, reactions in words that he needs love.

Love goes beyond give him food and taking care of him and all that. He needs to be understood and it’s obvious nobody is understanding him out there and that’s why he ran to Nairaland

budaatum:

You might be basing your opinion on this one thread. I suggest you read his other threads.

Forward77:
I might have done that, but what do you suggest he should do?

ChildOfDoom:
I was modest going into the higher institution at first. I wasn't happy with my poor status so I decided to try out alabi. I wanted to live large like other campus guys.


I probably didn't yield to mumsi's advice. she didn't have enough but did not joke with school fees. she sold some wrappers to raise 45k (I inflated what was needed) for the fees.

budaatum:

Go gamblers anonymous or church. Both will make him confess so everyone knows not to lend him money. When he becomes part of a community he'd learn to stop being selfish and begin to love himself.

Alternately, write "I am addicted to gambling" on a teeshirt and wear it in the neighbourhood for a month or so. Shame will cure him of his "volition", though, by his history, he'd probably just move on to where he's not known and yahoo all over again because there'd always be people who would say he needs love when what he needs is a kick up the ass. After all, he's seen the destruction gambling has already done to his gambling dad, himself, and poor mum whom he kicks around, and he did advice us to learn from his mistakes, so why isn't he trying to learn from his mistakes?

But that's me. I'm actually surprised at the amount of love op has continued getting in numerous threads on NL - I've below struck out an example him lying to himself. Go read some of his threads if you haven't. You'd be much better informed to maybe change his life.

Forward77:




There’s no doubt, you are right.

But I’m of the opinion that you can not have a temporary solution for a permanent problem (eg.addiction)

Confessing and Church and all that wouldn’t make any impact on him; it’s the same as using makeup to cover rashes when you actually need medication. He will still gain the trust of the supposed support group in the name of “born again” and get back to his old ways. He needs a mentor; someone to control him and teach a new lifestyle and that will take a long time to sink in.
It’s like a dumb child going to tell everyone that he doesn’t t learn and bla bla bla. But what the child actually needs is attention. Get the child a private tutor and you will see the magic.

I think he should heed to first comment which is my official advise.

Thanks!!

budaatum:
He did open a thread seeking an adoptee where I suggested he'd probably scam them too.

He's not a child. He'd get a mentor in gamblers anonymous and church too, who won't lend him money because they'd know what he's like, and he might eventually abhor the shame if he yahoos. But I hope he heeds your better advise, though I expect a new thread from him soon.

Forward77:



If he comes with something new on this again, I might not waste my time commenting on it.

My people have a saying that “too much words aren’t in an evening conversation”

I’ve given him enough advise already, likewise you.
That should be enough for him, if he really needs help.

ChildOfDoom:
It has been from one house to the other for refuge. I'm restless. I want a normal life. My addiction makes me miserable. Betting spirit seem hereditary. My dad and mum used to be pool agents. My dad moved over to bet9ja. I never meant to offend him. He sent me to retrieve his cash out of 2,800 and charge his phone. It was the charging of phone that caused my issue today. While waiting for his phone to charge, i staked with his winnings. Then what i did, dawned on me. I tried selling the small phone i am currently using to browse so i settle him, but no body was pricing it more than 500 naira. So i went back home. He rained curses on me like he used to do whenever i misused money. E.g "you crook". You will be like a withered tree". He asked me to go till i returned his money. It was the only money he had to feed for the weekend. I felt bad but what can i do?

The only 'good' news is that, mum and dad are separated, so we have alternative. I am currently at my mum's side. She sobbed and adviced me. I wish to change my addiction badly. Even if it's smoking or drinking

ChildOfDoom:
not of my own volition. it's my addiction

LilMissFavvy:
Imprisonment will help you break the habit. Just one or two years imprisonment. If only one of those you are messing with would lock you up, it would be for your own good at the end. A cell environment will keep you far from that addiction, such that when you come out you will be a changed person.