khiaa:


Why number 4, intentionally making your partner miserable is not a good trait? Life and relationships are difficult enough without the need to purposely bring in strife. Be a good woman to your man by being honest and real with him, ie (leave the fakeness out *trouble*). He will appreciate you so much more.

noCAP:
wow, you have an amazing personality. unlike some girls that their own is just to be demanding money and be expecting the guy to do all the lovey dovey stuff. I see why he hasn't joined them yet

mumumugu:



research by me shows that you give him trouble when you feel neglected and you love make up sex...

Designerdollars:
he will join them soon ijn

Lonelypacifist6:
When a lady says they do 100 just know it's 25 the rest is over hyping.

CaptainMitch:
I like this I go share this with my next girl

Ariza:
Why not share your own and leave others alone, I've picked a thing or two from her. Share yours( what you want) and stop being an antagonist!

pocohantas:


Sweetie, I hope you will also be cool with doing things for her? Because I noticed many Naija guys are always in a dick-measuring contest with their woman. Don't know who ever taught them that.

Iamgrey5:
We are just as unique as women are

We don't all want exactly the same thing in a woman.

I don't think you actually can adapt to what every other guy wants

However, like Uncle Se un told someone earlier this week; Find out what the guy you fancy really want and try adapt to his wants.

Preshy561:
Ariza, I believe you are doing this out of boredom, if not, the opinion of these guys shoukdnt bother you cos it's a very different scenario in the real world. Btw, hope you are good?

Ariza:
Why not share your own and leave others alone, I've picked a thing or two from her. Share yours( what you want) and stop being an antagonist!

pocohantas:


Guys like that are programmed to nag and see the worst. I met one sometime ago and he was so guarded, throwing his ego everywhere. Now I was expected to show him I am different from the women that ruined him and turned him into the bitter-doubting-Thomas he is. I took my leave before it even started. The war should be outside, never inside. I can't expend my energy on such a man.

Ariza:
You are right, it's an individual thing however, relationship if well nurtured grows into family and family makes the society. When there is a common complain or resentment, it becomes a social problem. In reality a lot is happening, I see people just managing each other. You hear things like, find the lesser evil and learn to live with it. And I wonder why one would want to manage evil? is the world that bad?

Yes you can't be the woman every guy need, but then how many people care enough to know what their partner need?

pocohantas:


Guys like that are programmed to nag and see the worst. I met one sometime ago and he was so guarded, throwing his ego everywhere. Now I was expected to show him I am different from the women that ruined him and turned him into the bitter-doubting-Thomas he is. I took my leave before it even started. The war should be outside, never inside. I can't expend my energy on such a man.

Lonelypacifist6:
I've just started my Campaign of antagonism, As today is Sunday I've nowhere to go, y'all are about to get a taste of your own medicine.

Ariza:
Guy, you are on your own oooo.

Iamgrey5:
@ emboldened

This Is very true.

Ariza:
Ahahaha! Proving to be the right one! Like you must convince him you are worth it. To be candid, it's a safe thing to do but a very foolish thing to demand. You don't just tell somebody to proof they are worth your emotions or time, like it's demeaning.When I meet guys like that, the first thing that comes to my mind is "who you be? " then "he be like say Merci dey this one head" and lastly "Your papa!". It's in stages but one thing is I will never say this to them but let them find their square root. I am like that, very patient and silently dismissive.

I don't deal with men with over bloated ego, what is left to massage?

pocohantas:


Sweetie, I hope you will also be cool with doing things for her? Because I noticed many Naija guys are always in a dick-measuring contest with their woman. Don't know who ever taught them that.

lefulefu:
what i want? okay...
1:ukwu
2:know how to twerk the ukwu like like mercy or cardi b
3:sabi cook
4.sabi gbo gbo in za oza room
just these little tinzs and i will marry u and make u ma queen

Lonelypacifist6:
When a lady says they do 100 just know it's 25 the rest is over hyping.

Ariza:
If you know the depth of this, you will be scared! it's not even guy's thing , Men I mean Husbands do it more! Where I come from, it's the norm there both husband and wife compete over everything, sometimes ehn you will see them playing cat and rat game!

Biglittlelois:
Some of these guys lash out at ladies here just for the fun of it, one shouldn't break a sweat cos of their thought process and opinion.

Lonelypacifist6:
Some of us do it out if genuine disgust and anger, out of Experience with woemen. What say you about ladies the are unmarried That just lash out for the attention and fun of it?

pocohantas:


Yea, I hope the guys learn from him too. He has sense.

Biglittlelois:



I'd say same thing, people tend to vent their sad and depressed state of mind on others to ease whatever sickness they have inside, a personal experience shouldn't make one generalise and lash out with no control.

pocohantas:


Maybe you should mention the place, so I can be sure I am safe . Not like I can't play the game, but I am mentally lazy for that at this point in my life. Na normal Naija package be that sha. I don't think it will change anytime soon.

As for our thread, I didn't wanna say anything sensible at first, but then- it is you and you are bae. All the wailers are not here to say anything sensible either, they are only here to criticize and wish for the worst, the only thing they know how to do WELL. I am sure if this were a wailing thread, they can push it to 4pages without FP sef. Pay them no mind, it is who they are. Focus on the people that matter...

Lonelypacifist6:
You definitely have not been let down by someone you have the utmost respect and admiration for, As to say this when you experience true hurt you'll know.

Ariza:
Ah ah, I believe you are safe, I trust your sense of judgement and sensitivity, the traits can't be hidden they exhibit the characters in little things. I remember some years back , I met a guy who couldn't come to terms with the fact that I was a university undergraduate and he was an HND student, dude did everything possible to level up and tried to bring me down . He complained about everything, my English is too much, I'm too exposed, I'm proud, I don't mix well with his friends, there was a day he told me how he dated ladies with big boobs whose nipples are as big as my head. Babe! my loving loving self clear, logical reasoning enter and I picked race.! imagine settling down with that kind of guy! Nah die be that o!
I once let go a guy who "advised" me not to buy a pair of shoes but went ahead to get the same for his sister. When I asked why? he said they were flashy on me.Funny thing his sister and I are of same complexion. Some guys ehn.


I get it and I will do just that.

Lonelypacifist6:
You definitely have not been let down by someone you have the utmost respect and admiration for, As to say this when you experience true hurt you'll know.

Ariza:
I understand you, and I agree with your desire, that should be the basis of a relationship. And I hope your dream come true someday.

physical traits? what else if not boobs and bum? I maybe wrong though.

Boobs ko bumps ni...... Na fine, curvy woman I want abeg

BTW The way you write reminds me of.................. Whedone

pocohantas:


1. I don't beg him for money.
2. I cook good meals for him or send him pictures of cooked meals
2b. I have an A in home-management.
3. I send him VNs just so he remembers the voice that makes his prick rise.
4. I give him TROUBLE. Yes, once in a while I need to give him PLENTY TROUBLE.
5. I check on him. Work, health, his family...
6. I try to ask questions. If e no answer, e kuku know say na WW3 e wan start.
7. I make him laugh.
8. I write him notes, just for fun.
9. I am a good conversationist. The only exceptions should be when I am angry or sick.
10. I let him in on my plans. Allow him influence some of my decisions, even work related.
11. Sometimes I ask him stupid questions, like..."should I make shuku or all-back?"
12. I tell him my movements.
13. I could be a good listener, anti-depressant and motivator.
14. I am pretty frugal. I love the easy and cheap life.

After everything, I wear my heels to work on Monday. When he sees how I do things out there- makes him wonder how the same woman is his chick. They love shii like that.

I can't be every man's woman, I can only be one man's woman (i.e) I can only bend for one. The rest should fix themselves. That's why I said, till I see mine posting nonsense on here, I can just chill...