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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by centilad(m): 5:33pm On Dec 15, 2019
I strongly support this:
daddytime:

However, I'd advise you never to keep the kids away from their father. How you intend to achieve that? I do not know...

Please, do not make the kids the dupe of daddy and mummy's failed relationship.

Stay safe and strong.

Else, your child(ren) would curse you too. It's just another fact one MUST NEVER FORGET.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by OcMichaels(m): 5:33pm On Dec 15, 2019
daddytime:
Judging by your narrative above, I support your moving on if it'd help restore your sanity, save you from further abuses, and eventual death, because, e better make person no get husband or wife than to get the one wey go make am dey fear to go house everyday.

However, I'd advise you never to keep the kids away from their father. How you intend to achieve that? I do not know...

Please, do not make the kids the dupe of daddy and mummy's failed relationship.

Stay safe and strong.

I'm a guy and growing up I've witnessed abusive marraiges..its not easy at all.

I once said a prayer..
If it happens that my life takes a dramatic turn to the point of becoming an abusive husband or father....Let God just take my life.

It Will spare my children and wife the emotional and psychological ordeal.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by IprintMONEY: 5:33pm On Dec 15, 2019
let your husband also come and write his part of the story, this is too one sided. it is either u have found a new and better preek or you money is biger as you said so u wanna leave.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by fk001(m): 5:34pm On Dec 15, 2019
That's very good I like your bold step.


He doesn't deserve you he is a jerk!!!!

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by bummyla(m): 5:34pm On Dec 15, 2019
Madam, if you want to move on, move on! but trying to teach your husband a hard lesson, might to your greatest undoing! We buried the mother of my very good friend some months back! All she ever lived for, was to pay her husband back in his own coins. And when she got that chance! She had been eaten up by bitterness and anger that she became diabetic & hypertensive! She had an accident and dead untimely! So move on if you want to, but don't do it to punish your husband! My Friend's father is getting married next year! https://www.bummyla.com

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Bigcowhorn: 5:35pm On Dec 15, 2019
IprintMONEY:
all of yu advicing her to go hiding are mere idots

Get in line and eat shit.

What would you have her do? Stick around till he pours her acid or butchers her with a cutlass? Or don't know the evils a dominating and abusive man is capable of doing to a wife who tries to be independent?

When he starts killing her I suppose you will show up?

This is Nigeria. No one intervenes when a man is beating his wife

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ableguy(m): 5:35pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kalixx:


U better dont mind that awkaetitibabe of a girl. The other one is that pocohontas abi wetin b their name? And that useless onyi22(f)

These expired feminists are w*tches in human form and their frustrations in life stinks from my monitor screen right up to my face. They form advisors online to their fellow women but if you read their writeups well, they can't hide their delight when a woman is going through marital stress and pains. They are so happy to welcome a woman into their kingdom of pains and trauma in the guise of 'many women stay in their homes until their husband commits homicide' bla bla bla.


Yet at the same time, they make so many comments online from Monday to Sunday, usually on front page, that one has to wonder if they have jobs or other forms of engagement. My guess is theyre advertising themselves online to have a false sense of appreciation in order to alleviate their plummeting depression, and at the same time, hope to find hookups from the same gender they bash day and night. I know their ploy.

No mind them jare.
I pity the gullible ones that listen to them

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by mechanics(m): 5:37pm On Dec 15, 2019
ednut1:
if monkey had money woman for still marry am
hahahah, this one strong o.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by OgaBuhari: 5:37pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!
you're a hoe, I really pity your kids who will emulate from you.
You're a disgrace to womanhood.
like do u think he'll be pained cos you left? NEVER! And hey don't fool yourself that any man would need you again.
You're an over used property and you're what we refer to in computer village as "Second Hand"
Nonsense

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 5:37pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude
Ma, good evening. I just Read your post. Well, as a victim of single parenting, I'll advise you don't make your poor kids suffer.
What were you thinking when taking your ''for better for worse' vow?
I advise you watch the movie 'war room' for it will teach you that God can solve all marital issues.
I have been abused a lot by my mom and sisters but that hasn't made me run honestly, I feel so touched by your story and wish you the best things in life.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Smartii(m): 5:37pm On Dec 15, 2019
we quite don't know the party b's story and would be foolish to dabble and draw a conclusion but quickly, don't bring in religion to your abusive marriage. A good, devoted christian would make a good partner once there is love, understanding, selflessness and respect. These days, you hardly find good Christians, many are just going to church, but in them, they have thoughts that would make devil even mock christendom. Sorry for your misadventure, but it is good to be happy but no damage is beyond repair. Once a spouse sees his/her partner as one with no value whatsoever, abuse is inevitable.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by IprintMONEY: 5:38pm On Dec 15, 2019
Bigcowhorn:


Get in line or eat shit.

What would you have her do? Stick around till he pours her acid or butchers her with a cutlass? Or don't know the evils a dominating and abusive man is capable of doing to a wife who tries to be independent?

When he starts killing her I suppose you will show up?
u dont just hear a story form one person and conclude. her actions are suspicious. didnt you hear when she was stressing that she os leaving because she now ends more than him? is sh not the same person that said that her husband also reads this? let us hear his side of the story before fools like u jump out to break peoples home. i just hate home breakers
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Bigcowhorn: 5:38pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
you're a hoe, I really pity your kids who will emulate from you.
You're a disgrace to womanhood.
like do u think he'll be pained cos you left? NEVER! And hey don't fool yourself that any man would need you again.
You're an over used property and you're what we refer to in computer village as "Second Hand"
Nonsense


He-olosho shut up

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ndindiatu: 5:39pm On Dec 15, 2019
I sorry though I dont follow ur full story. The best place for a woman to live is.in American. I suffered same abuse,.he almost killed me both spiritually and physically. He used to lock me inside the room physically after.fight and spiritually in dream. My dear abuse was too much After I left and now living my full life I yankee. Making my doe. I want to marry again. But na my binoculars go determine sha. One thing is.a lot of men dont go to church so not every one can marry Christians talkless of the one that is strong believer. Check his attitude and every other thing will follow

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by OgaBuhari: 5:39pm On Dec 15, 2019
Goodbloke:
God help us wey be single guys o.

How can a man behave like this?
never u believe a one sided story from a hoe.
it's good we also hear from the man cos this bitch might be fabricating this.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by daddytime(m): 5:39pm On Dec 15, 2019
AkhereOkaka:

What correlation does Christianity has with been responsible in marriage? What do you mean by being a casual Christian? Religion and been responsible are two different thing. Please keep your advise to yourself, if a person( Man or Woman) is irresponsible it has nothing to do with religion. Why do we Africans ascribe religion to everything?

Huh?

You miss road? grin
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 5:39pm On Dec 15, 2019
ableguy:

I pity the gullible ones that listen to them

Ur head dey there guy. U never see any advice on how the distressed women can talk to their husbands in humility, address the issues, and repair the broken bonds.

This complainant's issue is surprisingly not about infidelity of her husband because that is the only grounds I never support.

But this OP's case is more likely pointing to egotistic behaviours and displeasure, things that can easily get resolved. I just read this OP's former post and she claims she shouts back whenever her husband shouts. Just imagine 2 adults. A simple case of ego, not even infidelity, is what evil advisors have come here to aggravate... Nawa o

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ableguy(m): 5:40pm On Dec 15, 2019
Gim2001ym:
My advice for you is very simple. Don't listen to those guys on naira land that does not know what marriages is all about.
I understand your pain. I will first fault you on this. Most of you when you are dating a man, instead of you people to focus on the main thing that will come up in marriage, you will focus on buying me a phone, clothe, taking my to restaurants etc. There is a need for saying this . it is because of the young ladies that are not married yet so they can learn. I am a man. When you are dating a guy and you notice any character you don't like, tell him and don't overlook it because the guy is giving you something.
Then to solution
If his behaviour is truly a threat to your life, give him a break for now. Some men brain come to normal when you leave then for sometimes.
If he begs you and you come back and he does not change for some months , then you know that the man is not ready to change. Did you think raising kids as a single mother is easy?
Then as you take a break, prayerfully ask for God to touch him. There is nothing God can not do.
Don't rush into final decision. You are now emotionally beclouded. You can't think straight. take a break.
Best comment so far, even from her write up she seems to have ego wahala, to her it's all about proving she is better to the husband.
Even if the husband is no longer doing well like before and she feels she's better why make it a cause for rejoicing?
I just hope she get it right after all, no woman leaving the husband will ever say good things about him.
They will only amplify his bad side to gather sympathy.
They are always abused, insulted and beating yet they never did any wrong in while the relationship lasted.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nnemuka(m): 5:41pm On Dec 15, 2019
You see this marriage thing, shine your eyes before entering.
Nigerian marriages is a scam
you have to be very hardworking and have your own money plus enough savings.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by IprintMONEY: 5:41pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
you're a hoe, I really pity your kids who will emulate from you.
You're a disgrace to womanhood.
like do u think he'll be pained cos you left? NEVER! And hey don't fool yourself that any man would need you again.
You're an over used property and you're what we refer to in computer village as "Second Hand"
Nonsense
lol easy bro, i know her story get k leg but no bash am like that lol. this thing will have been resolved easily but she is choosing to run. i can bet you she has a guy outside that is luring her.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Bigcowhorn: 5:42pm On Dec 15, 2019
IprintMONEY:
u dont just hear a story form one person and conclude. her actions are suspicious. didnt you hear when she was stressing that she os leaving because she now ends more than him? is sh not the same person that said that her husband also reads this? let us hear his side of the story before fools like u jump out to break peoples home. i just hate home breakers


There are some kinds of emotion packed stories that can only be the product of long suffering and you just read one. Go someplace else and play Mr. Righteous i'm not interested.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 5:42pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
you're a hoe, I really pity your kids who will emulate from you.
You're a disgrace to womanhood.
like do u think he'll be pained cos you left? NEVER! And hey don't fool yourself that any man would need you again.
You're an over used property and you're what we refer to in computer village as "Second Hand"
Nonsense
Hey!! Are you her husband? If you aren't her husband then you're useless to yourself and Nigeria. I hate scums like you. I pray that God won't teach you a hard bitter lesson. I really really detest vipers like you. You're mindless and disgusting

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Bigcowhorn: 5:43pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
never u believe a one sided story from a hoe.
it's good we also hear from the man cos this bitch might be fabricating this.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by IprintMONEY: 5:44pm On Dec 15, 2019
Gim2001ym:
My advice for you is very simple. Don't listen to those guys on naira land that does not know what marriages is all about.
I understand your pain. I will first fault you on this. Most of you when you are dating a man, instead of you people to focus on the main thing that will come up in marriage, you will focus on buying me a phone, clothe, taking my to restaurants etc. There is a need for saying this . it is because of the young ladies that are not married yet so they can learn. I am a man. When you are dating a guy and you notice any character you don't like, tell him and don't overlook it because the guy is giving you something.
Then to solution
If his behaviour is truly a threat to your life, give him a break for now. Some men brain come to normal when you leave then for sometimes.
If he begs you and you come back and he does not change for some months , then you know that the man is not ready to change. Did you think raising kids as a single mother is easy?
Then as you take a break, prayerfully ask for God to touch him. There is nothing God can not do.
Don't rush into final decision. You are now emotionally beclouded. You can't think straight. take a break.
coerrect guy. no mind all these idiots and oloshos for here wey dey cheer am to leave. if she actually wants to leave for those reasons stated without trying to amend it, then she is being lured by another preek. simple
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ifiokjohn(m): 5:44pm On Dec 15, 2019
Congratulation Ma'am
but please keep in touch with your parents atleast and also after sometimes, establish contact with your ex hubby because the Children needs their father.
Don't deny your kids of their father's love pls!
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ifiokjohn(m): 5:44pm On Dec 15, 2019
Congratulation Ma'am
but please keep in touch with your parents atleast and also after sometimes, establish contact with your ex hubby because the Children needs their father.
Don't deny your kids of their father's love pls.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 5:45pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
you're a hoe, I really pity your kids who will emulate from you.
You're a disgrace to womanhood.
like do u think he'll be pained cos you left? NEVER! And hey don't fool yourself that any man would need you again.
You're an over used property and you're what we refer to in computer village as "Second Hand"
Nonsense

Bro, I dont think she's a hoe. Gentle with ur words.

I think her husband only thinks he granted her a serious merit by marrying her. It's up to her to change that notion and fight for her finances well which I think she was getting right for some time...

I think its a lesson for women who say they only want rich and successful men and cant go for anything less. Only few of these kind of men would overlook it and be humble still in marriage. For the rest, if you were not there when they were struggling, during the garri days, you just have to accept that sooner or later, they will rub it in ur face they they are completely aware u came to dig some gold.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 5:47pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

My dear, do what makes you happy. Man is not a source of happiness.
Thank God you have lovely kids who will keep you company and make you fulfilled In life.

I'm not married but I feel your pain cos I see the way men are behaving these days even in ordinary relationship and if you ask me the last thing on my list of prayer points, it marriage while the topmost thing is money and an established life. Men should always come last because they are most times a big set back in women's life, ive seen it severally.
What we have these days are sissies. We no longer have men.

Just enjoy your new found life dear.
Only you can make yourself happy.

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ifiokjohn(m): 5:47pm On Dec 15, 2019
Congratulation Ma'am.
but please keep in touch with your parents atleast and also after sometimes, establish contact with your ex hubby because the Children needs their father.
Don't deny your kids of their father's love pls.
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by DMerciful(m): 5:48pm On Dec 15, 2019
One sided fake story!
See the way people are buying a fake story hook line and sinker! You husband from nowhere just hated you. You will run away with your kids? How are they your kids alone? Yeye dey smell
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by OgaBuhari: 5:48pm On Dec 15, 2019
Kalixx:


Bro, I dont think she's a hoe. Gentle with ur words.

I think her husband only thinks he granted her a serious merit by marrying her. It's up to her to change that notion and fight for her finances well which I think she was getting right for some time...

I think its a lesson for women who say they only want rich and successful men and cant go for anything less. Only few of these kind of men would overlook it and be humble still in marriage. For the rest, if you were not there when they were struggling, during the garri days, you just have to accept that sooner or later, they will rub it in ur face they they are completely aware u came to dig some gold.


Blakewilli:
Hey!! Are you her husband? If you aren't her husband then you're useless to yourself and Nigeria. I hate scums like you. I pray that God won't teach you a hard bitter lesson. I really really detest vipers like you. You're mindless and disgusting

let's not believe a one sided story.
It's good we also hear from the man's story so we would be unbiased on our judgements.
let her summon her husband to this thread so he could create a thread on it and also relay to us his own narration

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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Bigcowhorn: 5:49pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
let's not believe a one sided story.
It's good we also hear from the man's story so we won't be unbiased on our judgements.
let her summon her husband to this thread so he could create a thread on it and also relay to us his own narration

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