Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it... She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it , although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex,,, the man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues,,, she has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her,,, she is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met,,, she doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value

Lalasticlala, please help take these two this to front page

Are you trying to say it is "spiritually okay" to have sex with someone you are not married to, even unknowingly

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it... She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it , although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex,,, the man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues,,, she has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her,,, she is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met,,, she doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value

Lalasticlala, please help take these two this to front page

Just don't repeat same mistake again.

Jewessgratitude:


Why would she go about telling guys about her past? Are they pure themselves?
Let her not divulge it to any man again. It happened in the past, let it remain in the past. Its not any body's business!

She should simply go on her kneels to God in prayers and ask for forgiveness. Repent genuinely and never do it again.

As for whether it will haunt her in future, she has nothing to fear as Long as she's genuinely repented nothing will haunt her but she has to marry a genuine born again brother for such not to occur cos with a non born again, I can't vouch or say he won't cheat as that is the order of the day for non born again men.

Shalom

She said she didn't tell him but he found out through someone... And it ended up destroying their relationship

Oya, come here for penance, we all know your friend is actually you

Why is it difficult for people to believe what is not true... I said it's my friend and I promised to bring it up on nairaland... If it was me, I would have used another Moniker

Beverlyjean:



She said she didn't tell him but he found out through someone... And it ended up destroying their relationship

Oh..i see.

Let her not bother herself jare. She'll find the right person but she shouldn't bug hm with such.

She had sex with a married man... That was a sin between her and God.

if she repents, the sin is erased and that's where it ends.

That's the basic principle.

Although, some bad things may happen after someone has repented from sin and some people attribute that to be a consequence of the sin so they say, God may have forgiven someone but the person must still pay for the sin.

But that's not true.

Those bad occurrences would still have happened if that person never repented or even if the person never committed that sin in the first place if God so wills it.

Calamities are a part of life and they are inevitable; they happen to both the righteous and the evil ones alike.

So those bad deeds that happened after repenting from that sin should only be regarded as the person's share of calamity that God has decreed for him for whatever reasons He wills to do so and not because of that sin He committed.

Or have we not seen cases where righteous men also end up being tested with bad spouses despite their level of righteousness? Are we going to say it's because they deserve it too?

Once a person has repented, he is forgiven!

So your friend should repent and not worry about the future. And after repenting, She should be a good girl and should ensure she opens her mind and explore the right measures when seeking her next spouse so as not to fall in trap of a bad spouse.

After repenting, She should regard herself as having not committed that sin in the first place so now she should know that if she eventually ends up with a bad spouse, it's because of the mistakes that she made in the process of getting a spouse or a test from God on its own and not because of that sin. So she should pray and try hard in ensuring that she doesn't make mistakes in her choice and she makes a good choice of spouse.

As for the married man, she should flee completely from him.

Then also advise your friend to avoid spending time with a man alone who is not her spouse especially when she's emotional or heartbroken.

The reason for this is because that's what led to her sleeping with that married man. Men are very skilled in capitalising on such mood and situation with ladies because ladies are too emotionally swayed and their resolve is weakened at such moments so they feel too weak to resist the men until they have their way.

This also confirms the words of Prophet Muhammad where he said "Whenever a man is alone with a strange woman, the devil is their third party". some people may never understand the wisdom behind this until they fall into the trap just like your friend did.

So thats my piece! Sorry if it's too long. Beverlyjean

Return the money and have peace....

Karma will hit you back where it will pain you most. You aren't a kid are you? You ought to know now.

Not every situation hunts back.

Said that, either she had bleeped a married man or not, that doesn't stop her future husband to bleep away his sorry or not.

At one point or the other, every man would want to cheat. Only the grace of God largely and self respect and principle(lil) will halt that.

Live freely. And that you have reflected and sober about it, it is enough reason for God to cleanse you.

I know that it is you lol. So go sin no more!

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it... She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it , although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex,,, the man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues,,, she has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her,,, she is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met,,, she doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value

Lalasticlala, please help take these two this to front page

Your friend or you? You can't confuse God and karma.


Meanwhile, the whole thing is in the head. A coward does 1000 times b4 his death.

That Friend is you.

Most of the “A friend of mine...” stories are actually our stories.

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

That is Adultery so she should pray to GOD for forgiveness but if she decides to marry the man, she becomes his legitimate concubine and that is perfectly ok.

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

Nothing to worry about.......... Her only problem is, if he watched it flow out like a BOSS.....

2 tinz is involved...... Belle or STD.........

number5:
A friend??
I had to laugh

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Hmm so she feels she can now escape it.

My brothers from another mother, you see all she explained above is the characters of most naija women.

They are always confuse. Why because they are lazy. They want a man already made. She will just arrive and present herself (her Toto- nothing else ) to an higher male and all is fine.

That is why they Will always get used. No matter what. They oldman go.chop.go.back house to meet madam for.house (madam.too dey do it to another man oo). Dont let us fool ourselves.

It is just pure scam. But when we tell you all to be a free agent lifestyle with Redpill, Mgtow? Alphamale knowledge. You all will come here and be following virtue signalling sluts up and down.

Defending them (awon white knight with shinning armour) like the way.you were all programmed to do it based on societal norm. But I understand sha. I was once programmed like you all to be a male beta simp.

You need to.unplug and unlearn the.crap they told you and.accept reality for what it is.

Qoute me at your own peril. Enjoy.

it is always their friend

when you are ready for advise then come out and be honest to us..

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Hoes everywhere

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solmusdesigns:
it is always their friend

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Your friend or you?


Well Karma is a bit.ach.

Karma is a bitch.your future husband must eat another cookie outside.

Ordinary exchanging number with the man in the first instance gave her sure tickets to kama!

You know he's married and you collect money from him and you think he'll let you go like that...

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

Your friend or u

Sex is organically not a sin, never was, never is. Marriage was necessary when we had limited number of females, but now, it is no longer necessary, except you just don't wanna waste money on different non-committal females.

Fucck who ever when ever. It is a new world with new laws.

Agenda 21.

Beverlyjean:
A friend of mine is in desperate need of advice... She had unprotected sex with a married man... Her fear now is that she feels it might affect her in the future because she knew he was married before she did it...

She regrets her actions... She said she never planned it, although the man had always been disturbing her, but she felt she could control the situation when she visited him, but one thing led to another after a couple of drinks and they ended up having unprotected sex.

The man in question is old enough to be her father according to her but she still doesn't know why she did what she did because at that time she was having relationship issues. She has ended all ties with the man but her fear is that if what she did will affect her in the future because she doesn't want her future husband to ever cheat on her.

She is so broken now and confused... Again she doesn't know how her next boyfriend will think she's that type of person that sleeps with married men if he finds out what she did, because her boyfriend ended the relationship when she told him, although it happened before they met. She doesn't want her next boyfriend to treat her with disrespect if he finds out or make her loose her value.

I have this feeling that you're the one...kpele

Just tell yourself( sorry your friend) they will eat her husband's work in the eyes of carton........ its as simple as that...and if its about ur next boyfriend not dumping u becos of this...the solution is that u do not tell him....u r confusing someone sef, is it u or ur friend?

She's madh....

Na why if you dey talk to them� small girl go dey tell you say she don't do boy's...

DenreleDave:



That person is you... You shud know that my frnd my frnd doesn't work again... So it's u okay

Secondly you should nt tell ur next bf abt the incident again.. It has happened in the past,

Three, you are seriously mad.. U slept with a man old enough to be ur father... Ur toto don suffer ooo.. U r very mad

Jasen1:
Nothing like a friend

It's you ooo

And yes it will affect you in future

exactly what I wanted to say.
But no, it won't affect you since your remorse is from deep within
But pls try to not repeat such act again as you may not be so lucky.
With love
Blake