Philspace:
Hello my Nlanders, I sincerely need your advice.
My ignore my typo's.

So there was this lady i met (3) years ago during her cause of registration, then i use to operate a small cyber cafe in school. As time went on, we became friends, after awhile we both started developing some feelings for each other but as a real-G i was just waiting for her to make moves first but to no avail, so decided to ask her out.
She told me she loves me but we can't date because she already has a boyfriend whom she intends to get married to, that we can only be friends and wish i should respect her decision, the guy in question lives abroad. (9) months passed we were still friends until one fateful day one thing led to another and we both had sex, after everything she said hope I've succeeded in getting what i want and went as far as saying i shouldn't call her line and never come to her apartment again, that she doesn't want to ever see or have anything to do with me again then she left.
The next day i wanted to call but fear could not allow me, i later took up the challenge and called but she didn't pick my calls. Later that evening i decided to pay her a visit and behold immediately i got to her apartment she smiled and said "I thought i'll never come" that she's now convinced that i truly love her, finally she accepted and we start dating.
Everything was going-on smooth until some time last year, i started noticing some things about her, she longer frequent my house anymore, doesn't call, always on tight schedule. I'll ask her what's her problem but she'll wave it, mean while these lady was busy frustrating my efforts of loving her but i never gave-up. Locked her up in the room and told her to tell me whats wrong with her or she isn't going out, she said her guy is back though she still loves me but she doesn't want to double date, that she doesn't know how to put it to me that's why she has been acting-up, that she wants to settle down, i was so heartbroken but as a man i packaged myself and bid her farewell.
Last month she came back to beg for my forgiveness, and is still begging till date, i love this lady so much that i can't stand her tears.

Please i'm so confused, what should i do??

midolian:
If a woman can tell you she is in a relationship with someone else even though she loves you, it could mean she loves that person more than she loves you.

She told you she was dating him when you had sex with her. If she leaves you for him, she is not to blame..Yes, cos she told you.

Since you accepted to date her despite knowing she has a man, what I would expect you do is try winning her heart so much that you would become her first and last option...and not sounding entitled as you have sounded up there

Beosten:
She will leave again. She's back because the other guy is no longer in sight.

The same way abroad guy has someone warming his bed abroad is the same way you're warming the girl's bed in Naina here. We call it "abelejayan".

donbachi:
Just pipe low till her bobo go back...then u continue...but,u wey dey go love another guy girl,u been no know sey d guy go come back?

Philspace:


Bro but i really love this lady a lot, she even said i can go and see her people. But my fear is she has not quite the other guy

Philspace:


I thought i could win her heart before this guys return and i can proudly say i did my best, maybe it's because i base in Nigeria.

midolian:
You dey fvck another man woman, You come write like say na the girl wrong you. What if na the man dey sponsor the girl education?

If a woman can tell you she is in a relationship with someone else even though she loves you, it could mean she loves that person more than she loves you.

She told you she was dating him when you had sex with her. If she leaves you for him, she is not to blame..Yes, cos she told you.

Since you accepted to date her despite knowing she has a man, what I would expect you do is try winning her heart so much that you would become her first and last option... and not sound so entitled like you have sounded up there

Iloveu2:


W.O.M.E.N hmm........

Philspace:


I've done alot for her, What else should i do?

urchcoded:

Nothing like women, she told him she had a boyfriend he kept on with d chase, now the boy is back if she abandons d abroad guy for dis one and d abroad guy comes to nairaland to complain u people will still say women are wicked. Op u have bleeped her so u no lose. Cut d feelings and Bleep her anytime u have d opportunity.

9 months passed we were still friends until one fateful day one thing led to another and we both had sex, after everything she said hope I've succeeded in getting what I want and went as far as saying I shouldn't call her line and never come to her apartment again, that she doesn't want to ever see or have anything to do with me again then she left.