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How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Philspace(m): 8:52pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Hello my Nlanders, I sincerely need your advice. My ignore my typo's. So there was this lady I met (3) years ago during her course of registration, then I used to operate a small cyber cafe in school. As time went on, we became friends, after a while we both started developing some feelings for each other but as a real-G I was just waiting for her to make moves first but to no avail, so I decided to ask her out. She told me she loves me but we can't date because she already has a boyfriend whom she intends to get married to, that we can only be friends and wish I should respect her decision, the guy in question lives abroad. 9 months passed we were still friends until one fateful day one thing led to another and we both had sex, after everything she said hope I've succeeded in getting what I want and went as far as saying I shouldn't call her line and never come to her apartment again, that she doesn't want to ever see or have anything to do with me again then she left. The next day I wanted to call but fear could not allow me, I later took up the challenge and called but she didn't pick my calls. Later that evening I decided to pay her a visit and behold immediately I got to her apartment she smiled and said "I thought i'll never come" that she's now convinced that I truly love her, finally she accepted and we start dating. Everything was going on smooth until some time last year, I started noticing some things about her, she no longer frequent my house anymore, doesn't call, always on tight schedule. I'll ask her what's her problem but she'll wave it, meanwhile this lady was busy frustrating my efforts of loving her but I never gave-up. Locked her up in the room and told her to tell me whats wrong with her or she isn't going out, she said her guy is back though she still loves me but she doesn't want to double date, that she doesn't know how to put it to me that's why she has been acting-up, that she wants to settle down, I was so heartbroken but as a man i packaged myself and bid her farewell. Last month she came back to beg for my forgiveness, and is still begging till date, I love this lady so much that i can't stand her tears. Please i'm so confused, what should i do?? 22 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Beosten(m): 8:54pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
She will leave again. She's back because the other guy is no longer in sight. The same way abroad guy has someone warming his bed abroad is the same way you're warming the girl's bed in Naija here. We call it "abelejayan". 477 Likes 27 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Patented: 8:57pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
"The abroad" bf came and she exed u. Now that he has gone back to "the abroad" she probably needs someone to keep her warm. Be wise....... Define Ur relationship.....forming love will probably set u up for a fall . 159 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by donbachi(m): 9:01pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Just pipe low till her bobo go back...then u continue...but,u wey dey go love another guy girl,u been no know sey d guy go come back? 125 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Beosten(m): 9:05pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
From your words, you need to read some books so that woman won't play football on your emotion in this life. 99 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by midolian(m): 9:08pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
You dey fvck another man woman, You come write like say na the girl wrong you. What if na the man dey sponsor the girl education? ![]() ![]() If a woman can tell you she is in a relationship with someone else even though she loves you, it could mean she loves that person more than she loves you. She told you she was dating him when you had sex with her. If she leaves you for him, she is not to blame..Yes, cos she told you. Since you accepted to date her despite knowing she has a man, what I would expect you do is try winning her heart so much that you would become her first and last option... and not sound so entitled like you have sounded up there ![]() 326 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Nobody: 9:13pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Philspace: W.O.M.E.N hmm........ 12 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Nobody: 9:26pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
keep her as side chick fvck her good but have your main woman at the other hand so that anytime the bitch want to screw with you due to the fact that the other guy is back just let her go and if she comes back the cycle continues aurevoir 132 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Philspace(m): 9:30pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
midolian: I've done alot for her, What else should i do? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Philspace(m): 9:36pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Beosten: Bro but i really love this lady a lot, she even said i can go and see her people. But my fear is she has not quite the other guy 1 Like |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Philspace(m): 9:40pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
donbachi: I thought i could win her heart before this guys return and i can proudly say i did my best, maybe it's because i base in Nigeria. |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Nobody: 9:44pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Philspace: Na one chance you wan enter so. Even when it's all written on the wall. LOVE IS NOT BLIND MY DEAR BROTHER. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by donbachi(m): 9:51pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Philspace:but na una sey native fowl na em strong pass. 23 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Nicklaus619(m): 10:44pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Truth is, you have never been her boyfriend, she considers you fvck buddy or spare tyre or whatever, she like you. Women has a very brain and can be twisted in a snap of a finger, but in this case she is the one manipulating you and playing all manners of emotional games with you, better get yourself another girlfriend because she will soon dump your ass when she sees another person she fancies more than you, just as she dump her abroad guy for you and her type ain't wifeable, better count ya loss and move on or you regret it later. Merry Christmas and prosperous new. Year y'all Cheers 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by iTearHerToto: 1:08am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Hello my Nlanders, I sincerely need your advice. My ignore my typo's. What's that ![]() [img]https:///view/confused-wat-why-gif-5643942.gif[/img] Pukes ![]() 19 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Katier00(f): 1:19am On Dec 27, 2019 |
You operated a small cafe 3 years ago, I am kind of interested in knowing how well your finance has improved. That should be your major concern sef not dating a girl with a boyfriend abroad. She will hurt you o 49 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by zed7: 1:30am On Dec 27, 2019 |
What do you have to offer? Love is not enough. Women want security and she knows the abroad guy can provide that. Never talk of marriage without ensuring you are financially stable first. I repeat, love is never enough. Enjoy the sex if that's what you want or look for another woman if you crave a relationship. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Cholls(m): 1:38am On Dec 27, 2019 |
My brother's sit back and relax cuz its about to go down 5 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by spafu(m): 1:45am On Dec 27, 2019 |
What many of us fail to take advantage of is the leading of our hearts. If we could wait to listen to what our hearts are saying to us, we would save ourselves plenty heartaches. My advice?: Do as your heart leads you. You know this lady in question more than any of us, so we can't possibly give you better advice than your heart, that had real connection with her. Meanwhile, I need you guys support in hustle, you can support me by simply responding to my signature. Thanks. 4 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by NiklauseFred(m): 3:01am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Pls bro how do you like ur own thunder to be delivered to you? ![]() ![]() 10 Likes
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Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Untainted007: 5:33am On Dec 27, 2019 |
This ur story looks like a neighbour who stayed in one of the flats in a compound I was staying in Ilorin then, the said lady has decided to marry the naija guy, wedding date was closed by until the abroad guy returned. Women will always be women, the lady lied to Naija bobo that one of her uncle returned back to Naija cos of their wedding. To cut the long story short, babe told her Naija maga that her uncle will help them process their visa to abroad. Later on, abroad guy processed only the lady's didn't do the maga's own. Few days to wedding, babe eloped to US wit her abroad guy which was later known to Naija guy that he's not am uncle but a smarter dude. So fear ladies of now adays; dn't bliv wotever they tell u to be true 100% all time. 47 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by boxer022(m): 7:18am On Dec 27, 2019 |
I am sorry to say this but you are the cause of your problem. She told you already that she has a guy which she intended to get married to even before you started dating her. What do you expect her to do? From what I read you guys are in school, so see it as one of those things you must pass in life. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Nobody: 7:37am On Dec 27, 2019 |
midolian: Everything you said made sense until that last part...stop advising men to be weaklings... 25 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by shotin(m): 7:50am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Hmm... Guy just free that babe, abi you wan turn to second hand product? Focus on yourself I'm sure the right girl for you is on way... Shalom... 4 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by urchcoded(m): 9:42am On Dec 27, 2019 |
Iloveu2:Nothing like women, she told him she had a boyfriend he kept on with d chase, now the boy is back if she abandons d abroad guy for dis one and d abroad guy comes to nairaland to complain u people will still say women are wicked. Op u have bleeped her so u no lose. Cut d feelings and Bleep her anytime u have d opportunity. 9 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Depressed101: 12:04pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
Philspace:marry her na, she says she wants to settle down.. And was waiting for you to say you will marry her, instead you threw her out of the house to meet her boyfriend who disappointed her... Are you with your right senses, how can you claim to love someone and you still let them go, even when they told what they wanted... Keep fuckinh that pussy you will soon jam badluvk 6 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Nobody: 12:05pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
urchcoded: ![]() And then after opening her legs for him she turned around to make it seem as if she was doing him a favour, or that he was just being selfish, after her puss'y. It's all manipulation by women. Infact this lady is old in the game of manipulating men. She came back again begging, begging for what?! PLAYING TWO GUYS AT THE SAME TIME ![]() Well, She understands how to make a guy desperate for more by keeping him on hold, telling him that he has gotten the sex that he wants so that he would have to prove 'otherwise'. It is the same tactics used in a thread in which a lady says she wants something deeper in a lesbian affair. She for the first time had lesbian sex with her boyfriend's elder sister who told her it won't happen again, which automatically resulted in her hungry for more. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by ZiriMane(m): 1:00pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
I have only one Question for you Must you always be a SECOND CHOICE? 4 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by MANNABBQGRILLS: 2:26pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
9 months passed we were still friends until one fateful day one thing led to another and we both had sex, after everything she said hope I've succeeded in getting what I want and went as far as saying I shouldn't call her line and never come to her apartment again, that she doesn't want to ever see or have anything to do with me again then she left. Ehya! Say no more!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by MhizJoyce(f): 2:27pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
How much have you been spending on her? She wants you back because you pay her bills ![]() 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by EcoBrick: 2:27pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
Sorry Oga. But you will be alright. You are not the first nor the last that would be dumped or break up with their 'first love'. Life will continue and you will be OK. 5 Likes |
Re: How I Was Dumped By My First Love by Sweeetheart(m): 2:27pm On Dec 27, 2019 |
your post is incomplete. the lady told you she's dating prior to your meeting you exploited her seductively, the mumu girl allowed it and you didn't know ladies are flexible. any lady that give in for you after telling you she's in a date with someone, will equally give in for another person pressure. such ladies lack principles and self respect her guy came back she opened to you but you were heartbroken, as if you Dont know you will be when her guy returned now you're telling us to advise you without telling us why she's apologising, is she asking for forgiveness to return or forgiveness of telling you she's dating and you exploited her weakness to your advantage the kind of ladies we have nowadays ayemi 9 Likes 2 Shares |
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