Lamanii22:



How can she agree? You just want to ruin your family.. Over Angela... So these means you never really loved your wife?

MurderX:
Its like you are really serious about this ridiculous story.

Anyway my advice is that you come out of the closet and openly show your affection for her or declare your love for her openly to your wife and your family so that the full consequence/implications of your passions can come on you at once. 

Your reaction to the feedback from your wife, family and friends will tell you if its what you can handle or not. If you love her so much you will go ahead otherwise you will coward away.

shakmati:


I don't know about love but I understand compatibility. I am more comfortable with Angela.

Lamanii22:



Maybe I didn't complete your post... Why didn't you marry Angela in the first place?

Temmytayor90:
aye leee oooo, ibosi ooo...... I 4 say make u divorce your wife go marry "Angela" if that will make u happy but what if after 3-5 years, you now become bored of "Angela", shebi na to look 4 Samantha, then from Samantha u go see tosin, u go dey bored of tosin, u go go marry ngozi, from there u go land 4 halima side...... bro shebi marriage na 4 better 4 worse, spice up your marriage, if your wife ain't doing whatever made you attracted to her when you were dating, let her know so she can change, the other side is not always greener.........

shakmati:


Nope. You did not take note of the fact that I told you I have known 'Angela' for nearly as long as I have known my wife. I am not a love peddler. I am truly more compatible with Angela. It took me this long to find out.

shakmati:


I appreciate you but we have gone beyond the point of making things work. If you are advising me to take Angela as a second wife, I might consider...as long as you can advise me on how to do that too....because my wife would never ageee.

shakmati:


She was my brother inlaws fiancee.

shakmati:


I appreciate you but we have gone beyond the point of making things work. If you are advising me to take Angela as a second wife, I might consider...as long as you can advise me on how to do that too....because my wife would never ageee.

shakmati:


Mehn! It's like no one would help me here. We have only 1 life to live and I am no longer enjoying it here. Why do you guys keep insisting I remain?

Chanchit:


Bros, what if you now get bored of sister Angela too after five years? Lemme guess. You will return to your in-laws house to marry your mother in-law.
This advice might sound somehow. Maybe you should just start fvcking her, Na coded fvcking dey sweet pass. When you have her all to yourself, just like with your wife. You wii taya Las las.

chriskosherbal:
Don't make decisions from emotional point of view, the bolded above already shows you are not a Christian, you may think you are doing the right thing now,alongside Angela, but bro in no distance time you will

I wish you well.

shakmati:


I have never fvcked her before. I'm considering your advice...but I'm not sure if that's what I really want to do....

TheeDetective:
Another fake and made up story. Infact Tales by moonlight and a troll at its best

Take a look at the 2 two threads below.

https://www.nairaland.com/4866539/should-divorce-wife
(Check page 12 of the thread above to tell you that the story he opened this thread for was a bloggers story that he copied without even given credit for it as he was exposed in that page 12)

https://www.nairaland.com/4563915/need-female-friend-kaduna-no

It wasn't that difficult to tell it's a fake story.

This is a new decade mate, keep busy doing better things as against being a troll. ENOUGH SAID

MurderX:

I dont think he is fake, his profile seems consistent with that of a man that is unhappy in his marriage one of such pattern is that they often advertise themselves as single. He needs counseling and advice. If you look carefully, you will observe some consistencies in his posts.

shakmati:


I appreciate you but we have gone beyond the point of making things work. If you are advising me to take Angela as a second wife, I might consider...as long as you can advise me on how to do that too....because my wife would never ageee.

omoplaycool:

From these words, I don't think you really need an advice, you're simply looking for someone to validate something you already have in mind.. On the other hand, I think one of the reasons you yearn for Angela is because (like you said) you guys didn't get "intimate"
What do you think would happen when you guys eventually ****

There's the saying that goes. "it's always the same at end of the day, you'd always want what you haven't got"

shakmati:


Mehn! It's like no one would help me here. We have only 1 life to live and I am no longer enjoying it here. Why do you guys keep insisting I remain?

shakmati:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. She is a very nice woman who is not bossy and accepts situations the way they come. She is not the problem. The problem now is that I have become bored of the marriage. Maybe I would not be so bored of the marriage if not for the wife of my brother in law. That is my wife's brother.

I schooled in a university in the Northern part of Nigeria and the said lady was also a student of the same university though my junior. When I started dating my wife, I came to know the lady. Let's say her name is Angela. Angela was all I desired in a wife. Fierce, motivated, beautiful and to make matters most interesting, she was also attracted to me. Ever since we met in my inlaws place, Angela and I have always admired each other. Truth be told, we always steal the opportunity to be together on dates or other functions if the conditions permit. We have only managed to not have intimacy by unexplainable circumstances.

5 years down the road after marriage for me and 3years after Angela's marriage to my brother in law, we have both become bored of our spouses. I have a daughter and a son while Angela has a daughter. Since July 2019, Angela has let me know she is no longer interested in her marriage. I am also terribly bored of my marriage.

We are now seeking ways to amicably end our unfortunate unions to be with each other without causing too much pain to everyone involved in this situation. I am thinking of giving a house to my wife and telling her I want a seperation. Angela has stopped intimacy with her husband for more than a year now.

I need the advice of folks here on how best to do this so everyone involved can move on peacefully without much friction.

Only honest advice needed. No insults please.

shakmati:


I am really considering this. Thank you. I am sure I will be able to handle their responses!

TheeDetective:
The marital issue he opened a thread for previously turned out to be fake i.e he copied the story from a blog as mentioned in my last post.

Acting as if you are single when you have marital problems doesn't make any sense.

No one in their right senses will do what he intends to do in this current thread he has just opened by creating a dilemma that will affect his family in a terrible and negative way due to his selfish/greedy interest by longing for what does not belong to him; which is what made me conclude that the thread is one of Tales by moonlight and the acting of a troll at its best.

Ameboperoo:

If you were your brother-in-law and someone did what you were about to do to you, how will you feel?
If he's a wicked person, he would just pretend he has forgiven you but when you least expect, he would send a hired assassin to eliminate you.

ProfDview:
You are more stupid than buhari and Iran combined ...look at the rubbish you're spewing , selfish goat shit

MurderX:

I dont think he is fake, his profile seems consistent with that of a man that is unhappy in his marriage one of such pattern is that they often advertise themselves as single. He needs counseling and advice. If you look carefully, you will observe some consistencies in his posts.

shakmati:


He doesn't care about her any longer.

Temmytayor90:

Bro, I understand you, but what if after leaving your wife for Angela, you realise you being compatible with her was just for friendship and not marriage, I know two best friends who have been friends for 13-15 years but when they married, their marriage lasted not longer than 3 years, do you know why? because marriage and friendship are two different scenarios entirely...... my question to you,how will you feel if your wife told you she wants a divorce because she found someone more compatible to her than you? compatibility can be established between your wife and yourself, just work on it, the reason why am emphasising on you sticking to your wife is because "Angela" CAN also become INCOMPATIBLE to you. any moment......... SPICE UP your relationship with your wife more, and moreover THINK of your children...... All the best bro