Ifyjos:

She is not helping but mocking me and do you want me to clap my hands for her ?

Ifyjos:

Yes I’m not intelligent and you that is more intelligent why don’t you go there and give solutions for corona to stop so the world can be at peace again? Anyway call me whatever you like I don’t care. Your mates are there sleeping next to their husbands and you are here putting mouth on thing that doesn’t concern you. Go marry and leave me alone

Ginaz:


Nobody is mocking you. You the one who feels mocked cos you don’t understand and won’t understand what people are trying to make you see.

Goodnight . Don’t talk much... let’s settle for peace . Sorry if you felt mocked . Safe delivery.

Ifyjos:

She is not helping but mockingly. Tg me and do you want me to clap my hands for her ?

malvisguy212:
not at all. Don't you think a boy who care about the future will not repeat the same mistake of pregnancy?( am not saying the second pregnancy is a mistake, but at least you guys are not ready yet) Baby, I know he love you and you love him to, but the future matter. Secondly and the most important thing is to put more effort in making peace with your sister, this is were my concern is.
Please keep us informed of your relationship with your sister. This is important. Thank you

Ifyjos:

It’s not like we planned the pregnancy but it happened because of contraception fail and what do you want me to do to abort the pregnancy ? No I will not because this baby is a blessing and will brings so many blessings for us . My sister doesn’t want to make peace with me even before my dad passed I was there she didn’t even looked at me in the face she refuse to be near me even after he died same thing and why do I have to force her when she want nothing to do with me ? After all my life doesn’t depends on her m. The day she will be ready to talk to me I will be available for her if not that’s her own problem not mine

Ginaz:


Lol. this is so funny. Goodnight abeg . husband matter no Dey tire you sef?

malvisguy212:
my dear ifyjos, you are wrong, please don't find this offensive, your sister have the right to be angry, she lost everything including her husband and her job, went into depression. Am not saying she is right not to forgive you.. What am saying is that you should not given up in making peace with her cause it seems you have already given up in putting an effort for peace with your sister, the Bible says faith without work is dead, you must show the evidence of a savings faith. Likewise if you say you are a change woman you must show the evidence of change in you. Show her that you have changed for good. Please ifyjos, don't give up in making peace with her.


By the way, how is she? Has she been able to herself in perfect condition? How is her life going?

adeakin777:
I'd followed this topic from inception and initially, i'd wanted to reach out to the OP for a piece of advice. She seemed so young and dare i say inexperienced that she could pass for a baby sister or even a daughter.However, going by the way the whole situation has spiraled out of control, i decided to halt my initial action.

That being said, my only grouse is with the boyfriend who took advantage of a naive young woman(i bet she differs on this as she's in love) and has impregnated her for the second time, without a home to call theirs. Young woman, this is not an insult, but, your boyfriend, even though has a job washing cars and is fending for you and your baby, was irresponsible to impregnate you for the second time while still squatting. The reality of this will set in when the children starts growing, demands are mounting and maybe your boyfriend's friend wants to settle and would need his space.

I wouldn't say you are strong-willed to advice as you did take some step to confess to your sister which was the right thing to do and i commend you for that. However, when it comes to your boyfriend i guess you are all in. A ride or die chick. That is fine. People like you are so young and will only learn from experience. I just hope such experience is not so indelible that it mars you for the rest of your life. My parting advice for you is this: 'The true colors of a man is evident when he has money and not when he is broke'. Know this, the moment your boyfriend situation changes positively, if it does that is, there is a tendency he will leave you high and dry. You can take this to the bank.

I wish you Godspeed in your future endeavors and don't forget to equip yourself to fend for your children. They may be all you have at some point in life.




he will never leave me even if he becomes richer than dangote he will always be there for me and my kids. If that’s what you did to your baby mama or your girlfriend it doesn’t mean my guy will do the same thing as you. All our I know is our love is stronger and nothing I said nothing will separate us we will grow old together and jalous people like you and others will be in shame

Ifyjos:

Ok yes she has the right to be angry with me and me too I don’t have the patience to keep begging her because I have better things to do than to keep calling , texting to beg for her forgiveness. Even the bible said we should forgive for the fact that she refuse to forgive me even God will not her prayers or forgive her as long she is still holding grudges against me.

sisisioge:




You must think highly of your capacity to think the blockhead will decide to reason with you despite the attempts of others . Whoops! She's preggers again! Lawd! May God Himself be praised!

malvisguy212:
you must keep on begging, and hoping God will soften her heart, even if it take you to beg for 70 times 7 times, do it. Happy Sunday and have a blissful week ahead.

Ifyjos:

It’s not like we planned the pregnancy but it happened because of contraception fail and what do you want me to do to abort the pregnancy ? No I will not because this baby is a blessing and will brings so many blessings for us . My sister doesn’t want to make peace with me even before my dad passed I was there she didn’t even looked at me in the face she refuse to be near me even after he died same thing and why do I have to force her when she want nothing to do with me ? After all my life doesn’t depends on her m. The day she will be ready to talk to me I will be available for her if not that’s her own problem not mine

Ifyjos:
he will never leave me even if he becomes richer than dangote he will always be there for me and my kids. If that’s what you did to your baby mama or your girlfriend it doesn’t mean my guy will do the same thing as you. All our I know is our love is stronger and nothing I said nothing will separate us we will grow old together and jalous people like you and others will be in shame

faithfull18:
Nairaland association of advisers, Una weldone oo. Haven't you realised that some people are destined to learn about life the hard way. Even when they are, of course, you don't expect them to come public to tell you out of shame and not to be told 'I told you so'.

Let the girl be biko, you have all tried. Person wey go lost, go lost. It's life.

kingphilip:
I understand your point and would have stayed clear but I'm not just comfortable seeing her cruising like this, I cannot see my only sister going this way and still allow her to continue cruising it with reckless abandon knowing where the route will end her up in.

kingphilip:
sorry about the loss of your dad.

Blood they said is thicker than water and the family's bond is supposed to be so thick that nothing should be able to break that bond. A family is very important and very very dear.

To be a peace maker, you don't have to be the one who caused the trouble before seeking for the peace between you and another.

Continue apologizing and stretching out the olive branch until she sees the need to make up with you.

Ifyjos:

Pls I don’t have that time to keep begging her , my mum has already forgiven me she is the special person in my life about my sister I don’t even care whether she forgive me

Phelixblaq:
You are a stupid girl, last last the guy go still leave you and your Brain go reset. I spit on the day you were born chai!!! Evil

Ifyjos:


useless jobless fool is your mother who is a fool for carrying a useless thing like you it would have be better if she terminated you than bringing a shameless waste of space like u and I also spit on the day you were born too

Ghaniyul:


You no dey shame??

Ifyjos:

It’s your father who is a stupid lowlife , you are nothing but a jobless hopeless fool. Go suck your mother idiot

Ghaniyul:



I said it, only a lowlifer who is not well trained talk trash about peoples parent i dont blame you, what do you expect from an unreasonable fellow who ruined the life of her blood sister because of a jobless lowlifer like her?? do you even have a job>?? i notice you are always here 24/7 to check your shameful thread... and be ready to reap your fruit in 17 to 18 years time when your daughter will do the same to her kid sister career and all your children will be like a wall-nut seed.. Kama is a bitch, just watch it play out till you are doom

Ifyjos:


You that have a job how come you notice am always here 24/7 stupid idiot see how you are jobless and hopeless apart from being here all day chatting nonsense about things that doesn’t concern you what else do you do? My guy is 100000000 times better than you because he hustle hard for me and his princess to be well , he is not useless like you. Everything you said about my children that will be your useless children portion you will give birth to waste of space , children with disabilities celebral Palsy , Down syndrome and so on and nothing will be well for your stupid children they will start dying mysteriously one after an another that’s your portion and your 100th generations portions in Jesus name amen

Ifyjos:


useless jobless fool is your mother who is a fool for carrying a useless thing like you it would have be better if she terminated you than bringing a shameless waste of space like u and I also spit on the day you were born too