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My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:29pm On Jan 09, 2020
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Dididrumz(m): 5:29pm On Jan 09, 2020
If you're really serious with your said Lady, I think she has a lot to do to help you out.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:39pm On Jan 09, 2020
I am very serious with her and she is very open and ready to help. I just want to do the right thing before this ruins me permanently.
Dididrumz:
If you're really serious with your said Lady, I think she has a lot to do to help you out.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 5:47pm On Jan 09, 2020
You sound like a person that need attention and not help. It is obvious you already know what to do.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by tydi(m): 5:48pm On Jan 09, 2020
Hurry marry your damsel and have it to your satisfaction.. Na you go still come here say you no do again say na celibate you wan dey.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by soberdrunk(m): 5:50pm On Jan 09, 2020
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:56pm On Jan 09, 2020
If you have ever dealt with an addiction, you won't say this. No reasonable person will want to seek an attention with a demeaning life style like this.

I just want to get as much help as possible and find a way to get my thoughts in black and white. May be get enough motivation to pull myself out of my deplorable situation. Please don't judge .
justnock:
You sound like a person that need attention and not help. It is obvious you already know what to do.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 5:59pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks. Is a goal. Just that i want to be sure that i have conquered this habit. It can wreck marriage if left unconquered.
tydi:
Hurry marry your damsel and have it to your satisfaction..
Na you go still come here say you no do again say na celibate you wan dey.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Dididrumz(m): 6:01pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
I am very serious with her and she is very open and ready to help. I just want to do the right thing before this ruins me permanently.

Then I suggest you spend more time with her. Don't fight it, be free minded but know what you want.

But try to talk more with her when she's around.
Since you've already opened up to her about your urges, then I think spending more time with her would help you more than you think.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 6:06pm On Jan 09, 2020
Thanks
I will
Dididrumz:


Then I suggest you spend more time with her. Don't fight it, be free minded but know what you want.

But try to talk more with her when she's around.
Since you've already opened up to her about your urges, then I think spending more time with her would help you more than you think.
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Nobody: 6:07pm On Jan 09, 2020
OP chill. I have had my fair share of addictions in life. You sound like someone that already know what to do. There is nothing anyone else is going to say here that will impart your life if you ain't willing to change or act. It is a mental thing. Deal with it yourself.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 6:11pm On Jan 09, 2020
I have tried many times but failed.
I know a lot of things I can do. But I am still open to learning. May be to ensure that I don't relapse again.
justnock:
OP chill. I have had my fair share of addictions in life. You sound like someone that already know what to do. There is nothing anyone else is going to say here that will impart your life if you ain't willing to change or act. It is a mental thing. Deal with it yourself.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by tydi(m): 6:14pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Thanks. Is a goal. Just that i want to be sure that i have conquered this habit. It can wreck marriage if left unconquered.

You could also try out porn as a career.. You never Could know what is left for you on the other side. grin

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Roadtorecovery: 6:45pm On Jan 09, 2020
Blunt of you .

But there is no need beating a man on the ground. What I desperately need is help. Even porn stars are not the most happiest people.
tydi:


You could also try out porn as a career.. You never Could know what is left for you on the other side. grin

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by sisisioge: 7:26pm On Jan 09, 2020
So why not get married and have legal sex?

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by patani(m): 7:34pm On Jan 09, 2020
soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day...... angry

You av said it all my brother.. 10months without sex and you say ure addicted? Me, I can hardly do without sex for 2 weeks straight and I consider myself normal. The only thing is that i am married and my wife once said i am not a sex freak eventhough she knows ill start worying her if i dont av sex in 1 full week... My career is going great.. I do many other things excellently well.. So why create problem where there is none

The solution is get married.. Good enough you currently have someone you love.. Until then avoid prostitutes like plague.. Personally i feel most of them carry bad energy

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by fatymore(f): 9:07pm On Jan 09, 2020
Simple thing to do.

Fast everyday until what you can only think of is godliness and read your holy book constantly.

Also do away with things that might lure you into having sex... Delete all those oloshos number from your phone and change that route that takes you to the hotel you use.


And the best deal is to get married kiss
It works

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Mikelarteta(m): 9:20pm On Jan 09, 2020
It’s supposed to be a sweet thing. I think what you need is making concerted effort to discipline yourself.

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by toluleke(m): 9:21pm On Jan 09, 2020
Get busy I swear you won't think of sex at all but be idle I swear every secs na erection

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Goldenheart(m): 9:22pm On Jan 09, 2020
wink When I see what desire does to people, what it’s done to this country, I am very glad to have no part in it. Besides, the absence of desire leaves one free to pursue other things.

- Lord Varys


My advice.. Freeze your sperm and snip your balls... wink

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by ABCthings: 9:23pm On Jan 09, 2020
1) Avoid anything that will trigger it.
2) Pray, pray, pray and keep praying till eternity.

If all fail, This last one cannot
3)Anytime you commit, confess it during the Sunday service to the Church lipsrsealed

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Femich18(m): 9:23pm On Jan 09, 2020
This one serious. Let's wait for the council of elders

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Righteousness89(m): 9:23pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.









devil is a Bastard!

My Brother what you need now is to Surrender completely to JESUS..

I personally will put you in my Prayers...

That yoke Must Break!!

Only JESUS CAN deliver you

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by adewumiopeyemi(m): 9:23pm On Jan 09, 2020
Go for deliverance that is the best option

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Novaccines: 9:23pm On Jan 09, 2020
Wow

Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by Felixalex(m): 9:24pm On Jan 09, 2020
Hmmm
Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by leonard002(m): 9:24pm On Jan 09, 2020
I recommend you meet a counselor. I also recommend you get involved with so many activities that you have no time. Get soo busy.

I will recommend a book for you. 'How to stop worrying and start living' by Dale Carnegie.

Not a book on sex addiction but will help you immensely

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by ultimate77(m): 9:25pm On Jan 09, 2020
Roadtorecovery:
Good evening everyone.


I have struggled with sex addiction for the past 10 years with out permanent success especially with regards to visiting and sleeping with prostitutes and keeping my mind off sex.
Presently I cant seem to keep my mind of sex and focus on my life and career.

I have a good Job and a beautiful damsel whom i have promised marriage and I am afraid I might loose any if not both of this if I don't stop,think and act NOW.



Since is a habit I learnt over time, how do I unlearn this habit permanently.

Please has anyone been able to get over sex addiction successfully.


My recent relapse after 10 months of celibacy threw me off balance and presently I have lost touch with God, friends and family because of this demeaning lifestyle.


Today after 2 weeks of relapse and wallowing in self pity, I have decided to restart all over again with strong determination to take into consideration the lesson learnt from my last relapse as I plan to adopt a better approach to ensure I conquer this habit.

I have spoken with one of spiritual director who understands sex addiction above my expectations and he is very supportive.

I have also opened up to my younger Cousin brother who also understands what it feels to suffer addiction.

I also confessed to my lady about my relapse and strong determination to quit and she is helpful and supportive but with the condition that she may not cope if I should suffer another relapse.

My addiction and its resultant consequences have made close family and friends loose their respect and confidence in me.

Above all, i feel so separated by God who have done so much for me .

I want to pick my self up and fight because of

1.God
2.Myself
3. Family
4. My girl friend


At this point I need all the help I can get to snatch out my life out of satanic bait to ruin me forever


Any professional here can please save a frustrated brother. I have not give up.










what do you mean by "spiritual Director"?

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by multibalotel: 9:26pm On Jan 09, 2020
I think u just overly religious ... u are normal .. its just the guilt of sleeping with prostitutes that is disturbing your conscience

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Re: My Ten Year Struggle With Sex Addiction Is Ruining me. by ZombieTERROR: 9:26pm On Jan 09, 2020
Sex addiction kwa..

Just move to Lagos
The stress and hold up alone will reset your brain... It's a promise

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