I came down from port Harcourt to settle Lagos in 2006 and I met this lady. she was 27 years old, beautiful, educated and had a good job. I loved her with everything I had and i believed she loved me too. We dated for like six months and I remember thinking she could be the one.

One day, i was filling my tank at a Petrol station when a guy Ive never seen before walked up to her and greeted her like a long lost sister. she introduced the guy as an old friend. They exchanged numbers and we left.
After that day, i started noticing strange behaviours from my girl. She finds excuses not to come visit me, hides her cell phone, avoids intimacy with me most of the time and generally made things difficult.
I got fed up and challenged her. That was when she broke down and confessed that the guy we saw at that filling station on that day, was actually her first love. He it was who disvirgined her(when she was 17 years old) and she had sworn to marry only the person. Therefore, I should forgive her, but we cannot be together.
I was stunned! I invested so much into the relationship. and to lose everything all because of a promise she made when she was 17 years old? Unbelievable!!

Well, am now wiser. I won't be had so cheaply again. i've double locked my heart and surounded it with razor wire.

But i still wonder though, what is so special about this virginity and why is it so important to women?
After all, i was a virgin once too, and i lost my virginity didn't I? and i didn't make a song and dance about it, did I?

OP.
Eeyah  .  , .Sorry !!!
I can feel what you are going through . . .Just let it go . . .
Since you can't force her to marry you . . . .She has said her mind out . . .
Thank God this was not said after the marriage to her , , , .

And who is to say that that man will marry her?

Gilgamesh:

I came down from port Harcourt to settle Lagos in 2006 and I met this lady. she was 27 years old, beautiful, educated and had a good job. I loved her with everything I had and i believed she loved me too. We dated for like six months and I remember thinking she could be the one.

One day, i was filling my tank at a Petrol station when a guy Ive never seen before walked up to her and greeted her like a long lost sister. she introduced the guy as an old friend. They exchanged numbers and we left.
After that day, i started noticing strange behaviours from my girl. She finds excuses not to come visit me, hides her cell phone, avoids intimacy with me most of the time and generally made things difficult.
I got fed up and challenged her. That was when she broke down and confessed that the guy we saw at that filling station on that day, was actually her first love. He it was who disvirgined her(when she was 17 years old) and she had sworn to marry only the person. Therefore, I should forgive her, but we cannot be together.
I was stunned! I invested so much into the relationship. and to lose everything all because of a promise she made when she was 17 years old? Unbelievable!!

Well, am now wiser. I won't be had so cheaply again. i've double locked my heart and surounded it with razor wire.

But i still wonder though, what is so special about this virginity and why is it so important to women?
After all, i was a virgin once too, and i lost my virginity didn't I? and i didn't make a song and dance about it, did I?

Cry a river.  Build a darn bridge and get over it. Most men leave a woman for less. You are lucky you got an explanation. Loosing the virginity to a man is important to a woman, not to most men who think sex is nothing but a climax.

She is not over him plus she was looking for a way out of the relationship, i don't bite the bit about virginity, it doesn't make any sense. You'll be better off without her as i don't think she was so much into you and noone is happy with half measures.

Gilgamesh:

I came down from port Harcourt to settle Lagos in 2006 and I met this lady. she was 27 years old, beautiful, educated and had a good job. I loved her with everything I had and i believed she loved me too. We dated for like six months and I remember thinking she could be the one.

One day, i was filling my tank at a Petrol station when a guy Ive never seen before walked up to her and greeted her like a long lost sister. she introduced the guy as an old friend. They exchanged numbers and we left.
After that day, i started noticing strange behaviours from my girl. She finds excuses not to come visit me, hides her cell phone, avoids intimacy with me most of the time and generally made things difficult.
I got fed up and challenged her. That was when she broke down and confessed that the guy we saw at that filling station on that day, was actually her first love. He it was who disvirgined her(when she was 17 years old) and she had sworn to marry only the person. Therefore, I should forgive her, but we cannot be together.
I was stunned! I invested so much into the relationship. and to lose everything all because of a promise she made when she was 17 years old? Unbelievable!!

Well, am now wiser. I won't be had so cheaply again. i've double locked my heart and surounded it with razor wire.

But i still wonder though, what is so special about this virginity and why is it so important to women?
After all, i was a virgin once too, and i lost my virginity didn't I? and i didn't make a song and dance about it, did I?

U v just experienced one of the reasons why some guys prefer a virgin.Its definately  not because of the hymen.Some ladies finn it dificult dealing with the burden n bond of previous relationships

^^^^

Mehn,

How i wish i ve dis flowered a girl before.

I'm still crying for the poster.

Sowwie.

Well, I tell you what: Do be damned, do it not be goddamned! You can hardly win in this business especially in this 21st century.

Look, if you meet a girl when she's young and take her V-license, you go ride am for a while but she will most definitely want to explore other rods. She may wanna come back later but you can bet your bottom dollar on any girl who loses her virginity in her young age to want more dicks in the next couple of years. This is one of the reasons why there are lot of unmarried girls with walking around without any V-license.

On the other hand, if you don't take it or meet someone whose V-license has been plundered before you met her, she might still want the guy who plucked it or another guy, and not you, and the saga continues. So, in the final analysis, it is a vicious cycle! Your best bet as a guy is to ALWAYS balance your "accounting" books in the relationship. This way, when she struts away like a heifer tomorrow, you can put on a big smile and say NEXT! I tell you if you balance your books, she can never think or call you a loser 'cos she knows you are not. In the meantime, up your game, keep your lips tight on any "important" things that may jeopardize your chances of dumping some akamu in her again because she most likely will be back in the circumstance, if you play your game right! In a relationship, it is supposed to be a win-win with the right partner, but a lot of women set-up the win-lose model so you can always take the short end of the stick. The counter? Setup a lose-lose model for her a long time before she's had the chance to even think about the whole thing and only change that model after you have been very convinced she's the real deal.

Carolece:

Cry a river. Build a darn bridge and get over it. Most men leave a woman for less. You are lucky you got an explanation. Loosing the virginity to a man is important to a woman, not to most men who think sex is nothing but a climax.

He's lucky he got an explanation? . . . . .So this is how girls are!!! . . . .So the guy's heart means nothing to you than a biscuit you can barely break with you blunt teeth . . . . . . Grils sometimes sha

Akinagirl:

And who is to say that that man will marry her?

help me ask o

@D sence

He's darn lucky yes. How many women would leave not saying a thing, based on the fact that a man just leave a woman without even having any real cause, but just seeing another chik he need to be with. He's lucky he didnt have someone like me to deal with. He better cry enough tear and get himself a sail boat to get out of town if its affecting him that much.

PS. @ poster. If you need assistance, I can get you the nylon rope you need, then direct you to a big tree or the tallest bridge.

Guys on this thread. . .be careful the kind of posts you pay attention to 'cos some are just poison to your entire system. I plan to make some major revelations about women shortly so you can identify the sad, men-hating banzatards from a mile away!

If any guys wanna jump in, have you heard of something called Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)? Google is your friend but before I take the lid of this stinker, you may whet your appetite. For any lady who hates men, that is one less witch to worry about and guess what? They can not and will not be missed, the oyingbo market has no clue that someone (anyone) did not come to the market. Guys, hold on tight 'cos am gonna sweep them away with some revelations so we can unmask the hordes of masquerades called "single ladies" in this century!

I m still a virgin

I hear my name being yelled somewhere up in here.


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@poster, guy, you were messing up in the sex department, babe didnt know how to tell you, the same way many women are trapped in terrible sex lives. At least she came up with a reason, stupid as it may be to end the relationship. What silly talk about virginity, Forget that jist about girls can not forget their first, it does not apply to all women, many i know myself including will not touch the hymen breaker with a 10 foot pole,

@OP count your losses and move ahead that is life for you, you win some and lose some but come to think of it 10 years after she was dis virgin by the so call guy. This life na wa o

But is this thing common with naija babes or other african babes inclusive?

She wanted out of the relationship and this was her way out ---- I think her statement is an excuse.

what is special about virginity? omg!!! who's is asking? what are you? virginity is purity,

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If she was actually truthfull about the reason why she broke up with u, then i can only wonder, why the hell would she end a 4 year relationship just because she met her hymen breaker? Did this dude actually propose to her or what? from ur post, she was 27 when u met her, now she should be 31, what if this guy refuses to marry her, then she runs back to u, what happens then?

Simple Advice "Start to forget her now,if u dont and she eventually runs back to u, ur love for her wld cloud ur reasoning and u wld end up hit by a bullet u initially dodged by luck obviously".

@poster sorry u had to experience such! Now to 'WHAT's SPECIAL ABOUT VIRGINS' i think its a psycological impact individuals tagg themselves with,however the fact you remained a virgin till you met your spouse{husband or wife},is what's special,there r virgins @heart nd virgin for mouth, lol, i think its from the inside not just having your hymen as a girl unbroken!!