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10 things parent should teach their children to avoid family quarrels

60% of parents admitted that they’ve treated one child differently than the others. Favoritism can leave a mark from a very early age, psychologists say. This phenomenon is also called “trophy child” and it causes many problems between siblings.
There are many consequences of child favoritism and we want to share them with you so you can avoid some serious misunderstandings with your family in the future.
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There are many consequences such as-:

1. Reflection on child when grown up
Relationships with children have deep roots, according to psychology. There is always a reason why you connect with your child in different ways. If you were constantly showing less love to one kid, it may have a big impact on your communication in the future.

You can be ignored, as well, when your child becomes an adult. They just reflect their parents’ behavior. This can be a conscious or an unconscious choice.

2. Disunity between family members

Fights between children are a common thing. Very often it starts when children see a situation as unfair. When one kid gets less love and attention all the time, it can become a huge trigger for quarrels between the kids in a family.

Even when they become adults, they can’t find a common language and continue blaming, fighting, or ignoring each other.

3. Children and parents can feel guilty.

Feelings of guilt can torture all family members. First of all, parents understand by themselves that this is not the right way to raise children and that one shouldn’t be made to feel more important than the others. Second, the favorite child can feel guilty in the future that their brother or sister wasn’t loved that much. Third, the less-loved child may think that it’s their fault that their parents didn’t pay attention to them.

Healthy communication between family members can be lost. Relationships based on guilt may lead to fights and disconnections.

4. Possibility of psychological trauma.

Children want attention. It’s normal that when you push a child away, they try their best to get that attention back, researchers say. The problem is that they unconsciously pick the “wrong” type of behavior.

As a result, you may see aggression, tears, or too attached. Kids watch their parents, pick up on their mood easily, and inevitably become a reflection of them. Later on, this may lead to deep psychological trauma in adulthood.

5. narcissism

In case of obvious favoritism, one kid may not just feel self-confident, but they may become very narcissistic. There are some signs of narcissism in children. According to psychologists:

-The child asks for attention as their right, but there is no gratitude to the parents for being kind to them.
-The child believes that they are better than others.
-The child has high expectations from others.
-The child has difficulties in maintaining friendships.
Narcissism may lead to big problems in personal and professional life when you become an adult.

6. Affecting child development

Parents may decide to give one child more attention, not just in general, but during their exam period. And this always has an impact on the other children.

Neglectful parenting can wound a child, limit brain development, and create a decrease in the curiosity to explore, read, and learn in general, say researchers.

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https://hubpages.com/family/Coping-with-children-stress