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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Princesscutes1(f): 6:36pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
All this hungry parents... I raise yash for them |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 6:41pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by bendazum: 6:51pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
joshjc: Typical African mentality. That they are friends does it mean they are intimate? Ask when Messi first met the wife. It was much more younger than this nah. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by joshjc(m): 7:31pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
bendazum:Mr typical European what will be your reaction if your 14 old sister introduced a 16 year old guy as her boyfriend to you |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by xendra: 7:57pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:there's always this type of (look the other way) people. horrible |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by folks4luv(f): 8:00pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:a man about to sell his 17 year old daughter obviously to the highest bidder and all you could say is how culture differ? Were you taught characteristics of culture in primary school? Were you taught culture is evolving and transitive? I bet parents of girls suffering from VVF for giving birth to early didn't mean to hurt them. I wish y'all will open your eyes and mind to see how you are destroying these girls. I don't support the relationship the op has with the girl but your response in justification of the Father is repulsive. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by folks4luv(f): 8:02pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Forced17:We obviously can't help you, but you can write to the ministry of women affair closest to you on this. Make it as quick as possible and as urgent as possible. I pray respite will come her way soon |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Bahddo(m): 8:13pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Davash222:he is worse than the girl's father? Because he started dating a minor while he himself was still a minor? He's worse than an adult who is blackmailing his own family that he should be protecting just so he can sell his daughter (a minor) to an old man? Your sense of right and wrong is skewed. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Bahddo(m): 8:19pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
k2money:hand him over to the police for starting a relationship with a child while still a child? Any police man that wastes his time one that case is even more stupid than the girls father. The tyrant doesn't even give a damn about his daughter or family. True scum! |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Bahddo(m): 8:23pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
DAVE5:child marriage is FAR worse. They aren't even comparable. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by k2money(m): 9:37pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Bahddo:The father is an animal but remember that stupid guy is now 19 years old, so saying that trash out of his mouth he deserve jail terms. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by tunize(m): 9:47pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:What is this uncle saying less forget the teenage relationship tin btn the girl and the boi here. So, u mean u ar in support of this stuff? Assuming the girl in question is ur family member, na this wan u get to talk? |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by tunize(m): 9:54pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
jeff1607:Bros all this tins u talk so only time go tell. Not that i'm supporting them dating at an early age, but there are some married couple that are still married today who met themselves at a very tender age. The man she's going to marry is an old man which is child abuse and besides might even going to be a second fido u nvr can tell. The girl has the right to her future not this by force marriage. Bros talk truth. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Rapmoney(m): 11:03pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20: You and this your outdated ideas! Tueh!!! |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by shakespere: 2:18am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Quality20: My friend shut up, you don't understand Islam. It is the likes of illitrates like you that paints everyone black. Your culture is not Islam, pls separate the two entities. In Islam, it is compulsory that the girl agree to the marriage, and she must not be forced. Without her agreement the solemnization is zero. Pls go and ask knowledgeable ustaz, read more, and stop dropping stupid archaic and violent cultures in the name of Islam |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Sarang(f): 2:24am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Mummymahdi: And yet he is still more reasonable than you At least he knows that a girl of 17 is too young for marriage.. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Sarang(f): 2:26am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Lovelyn451: People date at 17 and no they don’t marry at 17 Is this how Nigerians reason sef |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Sarang(f): 2:27am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Forced17: You may be 17 But you are a Mahn Better than those who claims to be adults on this forum but are really kids. You are a Mahn! |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Sarang(f): 2:28am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Quality20: This is the one thing I hate about Nigerian Muslim. Child Marriage |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Fourwinds: 4:03am On Feb 08, 2020 |
makydebbie:hmmmmm...... Once a small girl taste the forbidden fruit, she is never same again |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by CreativeLuvDoc: 5:22am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Forced17: I will start by saying that it is good asking for help when you don't have answers. I will also say that the road you're taking is one a lot of people have passed through. My candid advice as a relationship counselor is that you seek expert guidance. If you need my services and assistance I can offer them free of charge on the basis that you're a teenager and the young lady in question is a minor. That said, let me offer you some preambular advice: 1.) Nigeria is a signatory to international laws that protect the rights of women. Our Constitution also guarantees and protects the rights of women. The same Constitution (1999) also confers on all citizens rights to dignity of human person. To force a minor into marriage, amongst other things, is a violation of her fundamental human rights. Her father doesn't have that right to force or conscript her into marriage against her wish. 2.) Your "girlfriend" as you have defined your relationship with her, is presently undergoing so much emotional turmoil and disturbance. I understand. This is why she is contemplating taking her life. Suicide has never helped anyone and never will. As long as there's life, there's a way. Also, in life we're bound to face challenges. Challenges are part of human existence. What matters is how you respond to them. If you remain resolute, tactical and continue to think or look for a solution, you will eventually find one. The lives of many people who went through difficulties in life are testimonies and proofs of this all-time true reality of human sojourn on earth. Your female friend needs counselling from someone with experience in these matters. She needs to realize that what she's going through is but a phase of life. She will overcome it. Suicide isn't the way out. I have so much to say but I don't have all the time to say them here. 3.) On her father-- He's being manipulative and devious. He is using threat as a means to enforce obedience. Love isn't something you force on someone. She will most likely never enjoy that marriage. First, she is a minor. It is unlawful to force her into marriage against her will and consent. Second, she doesn't love the man they want her to get married to. Third, she is inexperienced in the ways of the world. If they force her into marrying that man, she will one day decide to come out of it when she is of age because by then she would have developed the maturity of will power and strength of purpose. Her father doesn't know all this. He is only playing a script based on his background and upbringing. If he wants to send her and her mum back to the village let him do it! Tell your female friend and her mum not to back down. No matter how remote and under developed that village may be it isn't a death sentence. Manipulators always resort to threats and forceful coercion in order to perpetrate their acts. Even if they end up in the streets, that isn't the end of the world. I am not saying they will end up there. 4.) For you-- I will advise that you tread carefully. Don't act in anyway that will make her parents know that you are a stumbling block or that you're interfering in their family affairs. Remember, you're not married to your female friend. Both of you are only friends. I will advise that you don't show up or be seen or heard from by them too often. Help her by advising her and telling her all I have written here because you care for her as a friend and not because you hope to get something from her in return tomorrow. Read that twice or even thrice. Never help someone because you're expecting something in return. Never help because you hope that tomorrow both of you will get married. Help her because she's a friend and it is the right thing to do. The help I mean here is ADVICE. Nothing else. Both of you may get married tomorrow or may not. Don't be too certain on this now. Face your future as a man now and help your friend now the much you can. 5.) Lastly, this needs to be reported to an NGO that protects the rights of the girl child. If you know any, do speak to them. Call their office or visit them and explain what is going on. They can help. They will most likely intervene. If you want me to recommend any for you do let me know too. Your friend is too young for such early marriage. She has a great future ahead of her. I wish her all the best. God bless you. THE CREATIVE LUV DOC. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Mummymahdi(f): 6:47am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Sarang: Its Nairaland u can say what ever u feel like. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 6:49am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Davash222: Nice posting Karanta Martanin Ƙaskanci Mai Zafi Da Nafisa Abdullahi Tayiwa wani Da Yace " Rufemana Bakinki Saura Naki videon Tsaraici A Fitar"
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by toplinetrtrend: 7:53am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Quality20: It's obvious the traditions of Islam is responsible for some of the backwardness of the north. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by toplinetrtrend: 7:55am On Feb 08, 2020 |
thorpido: Girls have no rights in Islam |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Boatswain: 8:48am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Then present yourself to her dad for marriage |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by calabardick(m): 8:55am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Forced17: I didn't expect this trash from an adult. Don't you think you're so foolish? At this age you should be thinking about you studies and career not an underage girl that has not even discovered herself to know wether you're her kinda man. Get a life boy |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 9:16am On Feb 08, 2020 |
CreativeLuvDoc:thank you very much sir I tired contacting one of the NGO's but they aren't responding is there any other NGO you know that can help the girl? This is not about what I'm going to gain, it's about her future that is about to be destroyed and I can't sit back and watch it happen |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Lovelyn451(f): 10:01am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Mariangeles:the dad already spoilt everything by forcing and threatening her. He should've allowed her mum do the talking with all the emotional drama the mum would play, she will accept the marriage willingly, if the man is good, she'll be happy at last. My friend married at that age, her husband was 27, today they're happy together with 3 kids and shes in the university too. This so called "man" might not even be up to 30. BT the father has spoilt everything sha |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by jatikun: 10:05am On Feb 08, 2020 |
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by frubben(m): 10:09am On Feb 08, 2020 |
Forced17:lwkmd, have a future together abeg should we tell him |
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