Ganjafama:
You seem agitated or angry at something. Anyway, I don't have the time to exchange banters with people in a faceless forum. Have a nice day.

I thought I was the only one who noticed that she is agitated or angry

I just pray we don't end up dating such a person or even marrying them

Fountainofyouth:



Was the husband blind of that fact when he was busy flaunting and spending on her to have her to himself? He didn't think of alternatives in case the one he had finishes?

Show me a lady that you don't spend money on and she loves u just like that ,,,,,

If u have a sister like dat I don't mind putting a ring on her middle finger today ,,...

Pavore9:


Abandoning one's child/children be it the father or mother is not about gender equality but a case of a disordered mind because it is a heartless action but unfortunately, it is being rationalized and normalized by the day.

The children should be removed from that setting as they are been negatively exposed, if his mum is still alive he could take them to her while he sends her their upkeep.

My brother that man wife don move ahead,,

See runz girl na runz girl ,,it's just a matter of time before she goes back to business ,,

We4all:


Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them?

And what's wrong if a man takes care of his kids? Are you saying that raising children should be the sole responsibility of a woman? Peradventure a wife dies, is the husband not supposed to cater for their kids?

Look, the problem that man has is not because his wife left him, but rather because he wasn't proactive enough to figure out what he would do if his wife left him.

There is no reason why a man cannot raise his kids by himself when a woman can do so singlehandedly for years, and without any form of support.

I don't feel sorry for the man, and in his next world, he should learn that being a man isn't all about impregnating a woman, but also about learning the act of parenting.

Seriously ? Please, these things happen. You assumed he didn't help her out before she left . The lady is very bad but these things happen . He should be strong. Moral is be careful who you marry

proclinician:


Stupid woman. I wonder the sins your unborn kids must have committed or will commit that will make God send them a punishment like you as their mother. Nonsense

Men should raise their bloody kids becauee it is not you that bore them for 9 months.

These are the type of ladies some kids have as mother ,and at old age they start avoiding them ,,,before u know it they will start laying courses on the kid's life ,,,,I kw day pity woman oooo,,,,fuvk them

nahzyla:


I just tire

One frustrated man will just get up and tell lies to bash women and his fellow bitter men will jump in happily to release pent up hatred for women.


The way men are so quick to attack women online you'd think they are saints or something.

Are you trying to say these things don't happen?

Arsenate:

From experience and observations. I refuse to swallow that bullshiiit "sweet mother I no go forget you ...bla bla bla"

Literally none of the ladies here empathize with those kids.

Till the world ends that's the last song I will ever play ,,,hisssssss

greenmonk:


These are the type of females in our society now and when no man wants to marry her she'll resort to diabolical means to hook a man.

Yeah ,,winners and redeem church no day finish with anointing oil to spray on the guys food as holy love portion ,,,,

Fountainofyouth:



Was the husband blind of that fact when he was busy flaunting and spending on her to have her to himself? He didn't think of alternatives in case the one he had finishes?

People with low moral values are people with moral values period. Nobody is ment to be anybody's lifetime paycheck in the name of marriage. The only woman that has businesses getting married or worth marrying is a woman of virtue. Sm women hv no business with marriage they Shud stick to sugar daddies.

Sense will not kee you bro!!!!!
One of the most reasonable comment so far

Acidosis:


You get time sha. Why are you begging/pleading?

You have to develop yourself enough to throw a party when someone walks out of your life. It's an avenue to expand your experience and grow.

There are no regrets in my book and, more importantly, I don't suffer heartbreaks. The signs are always there for you to watch and prepare! So before you make the attempt to leave, I am already gone (in my mind).

Also, men need to learn to set their rules. Society shouldn't always tell us what to do. Today is Val and the typical man is out there running helter skelter from one cinema to another restaurant all in the attempt to impress the woman with our society's meaning of love.

Men stup!dly do this out of fear of neglect and heartbreak. Like Sango or Obatala, they fear their gods (women) will abandon them if they fail to perform the yearly ritual. We have turned women into smaller gods we must appease to avoid wrath and calamity. Real gods/God (like mothers and our heavenly father) do not unleash terror because we fail to praise them. Think of those times you failed to praise God. Think of those times you failed to celebrate your mother on "Mother's day". Did your mother abandon you?

Men now act out of fear of abandonment and loneliness, and love of pleasure and other mundane things that can't stand the test of time or lack. Even if you love to spend or cherish your spouse's beautiful face more than your life, create a dummy scenario like these things don't matter to you sometimes.

Leave it or take it, marriage is a dangerous venture. I have ceased advising any body to delve into it particularly with the kind of commercialised ladies we have now. Get your kid or kids somehow and move on.

CharlesCLloyd:




You are a fool. It’s people like you that guys pray every day not to meet. No read what you wrote

I am not a fool. You're the demented one. Go and seek for therapy before you die of depression. slowpoke.

chubbyswit:
are you saying that beautiful women are properties meant to be auctioned to the highest bidder? Are they not human beings created by God any longer?

I talk from observation. I'm a human being who have lived and seen. I've seen how guys treat the beautiful, average, and ugly.

Deepthoughts:
Aunty continue you hear,go de follow alhaji you hear,safe journey!.

Wasn't referring to myself oga.

Hisduchess:


Very big lies ooo

Which lies o. Life happens and shit happens. Mine is an example. My mom left my dad when i was 2 years and she was 3 months. He singlehandedly took care of us without remarrying. We are in our 30's now and both married with kids. He is still single. I dont joke with the old man.

It was tough. My experience has taught me how to be a great mother and wife. At 18, i went looking for her. She is living her wayward life and not ready to be my mom. She doesnt want to get involved. She has 3 grandchildren. She still doesnt want to get involved.
It is well.

Many people think my mom is dead. My 3 kids dont know her. Each time i have babies, i always look for who to care for me and my babies in the first 3 weeks.
I wonder how a woman will go through pregnancy for 9 months, pass through labour or delivery and post natal stress and you end up dumping the kids. Just because you want to live a free life of adultery and prostitution.
.

It beats me really.

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

Chaiii, they've destroyed this one's heart

chubbyswit:

This comment of yours is oozing with wisdom, may God bless you and keep you seperated from these bunch of confused feminist women. Anything good your heart desires, God will grant them to you.

Awwww! All these well wishes for me? I only stated the obvious, but thanks anyways. Amen to your prayers and I wish you the same.

We4all:


Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them?

And what's wrong if a man takes care of his kids? Are you saying that raising children should be the sole responsibility of a woman? Peradventure a wife dies, is the husband not supposed to cater for their kids?

Look, the problem that man has is not because his wife left him, but rather because he wasn't proactive enough to figure out what he would do if his wife left him.

There is no reason why a man cannot raise his kids by himself when a woman can do so singlehandedly for years, and without any form of support.

I don't feel sorry for the man, and in his next world, he should learn that being a man isn't all about impregnating a woman, but also about learning the act of parenting.

When you get married, you can abandon your kids you hear?
It's safer to be irresponsible as a Dad than a mum.
Those kids will hate you beyond life as a mother when you abandon them.
You know why?
You as the woman should have been their last hope of survival. You carried them for 9 months and created a bond that shouldn't ever be broken.
They didn't suck their father's breasts looking into his eyes all day. They didn't bond that much with him.
Am talking from experience here via a relation.
Try it and see what those kids will do to you when you try coming back at old age.
The kids can forgive their Dad if he tries such but may never forgive their mum completely!

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

Yeah like your mum was stupid to raise a bloody you!!!
Now look at her efforts wasted by raising a bloody brain female!!!

benratigan3:
why blame the woman only?
first scenario, both are adults and you should blame both.you are bias in your conclusion
second scenario, hmmmm I advice Nigerian guys ,if woman no like you don't influence her with money cos when it goes she goes with it.I blame both parties and op you are bias with your conclusion. at least the first scenario, you heard from both sides ,the second you didn't

On the contrary. Obviously a woman that loves her children more wouldn't l leave her kids in such situation. I am not separated with my wife but I sure can tell you most homes break up mainly because of money and especially the wife that becomes disrespectful and unfaithful, eventually she leaves. I dont know how God has kept my home this long but somehow I know it is only because of him my kids still have a mum.

For the married one here, observe when there's money how women (wives) sing and dance while carry out home chores vs when money no de God help

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

When I see some ladies nowadays, I just know that marriage isn't what it used to be.

When I read comments from you here, I pity that man you will end up with tomorrow.

Please don't get married no matter how much you are pressured.

I understand that guys are often obsessed with a lady's beauty without paying attention to her entrenched convictions and principles.

I will leave you with the words of a man full of wise words: "A Man is never successful until he makes a good choice of a wife."

I can tell: I don't need to meet you to know that any man you marry tomorrow is practically FINISHED

May your type never cross the paths of people I know...Amen!

ikennamadu1:

You can type rubbish.... Shame no dey catch u

The girl, fountain watever, is shameless. Its gonna destroy her or anyone around her. If its what she is.
I pity many gender war fighting girls on this forum.
What men should learn is as you read thru many statements of many of them here, you now begin to know there is something fundamentally wrong with many of them these days. Then , as a mattar of fact, you would know what you would do to avoid or repel these set of teaming Jezebels you observe these days, especially on this forum or social media, no matter how they pretend in real life. A test or two will expose them. And once you sense, don't think twice in taking a very fast decision without looking back.
Some girls these days are up to something...don't be deceived , they don't know where they are in a particular age, when its clear, the kind of shame then sef would not allow them say anything about where or what their stupidity had put them into.

Abomination

Mayor101010:
So many demons on Nairaland these days trying to lead women astray in the name of feminism.

I bet you

We4all:


Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them?

And what's wrong if a man takes care of his kids? Are you saying that raising children should be the sole responsibility of a woman? Peradventure a wife dies, is the husband not supposed to cater for their kids?

Look, the problem that man has is not because his wife left him, but rather because he wasn't proactive enough to figure out what he would do if his wife left him.

There is no reason why a man cannot raise his kids by himself when a woman can do so singlehandedly for years, and without any form of support.

I don't feel sorry for the man, and in his next world, he should learn that being a man isn't all about impregnating a woman, but also about learning the act of parenting.

What a heartless woman you are. I am sure that if the genders were reversed and a man abandoned his wife and kids, you would victimise the women and call the man a dead beat and pig.

Landnaira5:
This is a very stupid mentality. Just get a baby mama and call it a day.

just wake up and face reality.

Arsenate:

Women don't love their children like we were told. Obviously, if women have their way and things get rough like in this case, they'll abandon their kids without a second thought. I'm not angry or sad about that, I just want men to understand that and see women as the selfish and not-so empathetic gender that they are.

When you know someone is capable of disappointing you, you won't be heartbroken when they eventually do.

lol if we should take a cencus of cold hearted dead beat fathers I am sure you will be overwhelmed by the figures . You men just can't take what you dish. What else will you say again? Oh women are devils women are the reason the sun is too hot , women are the reason for Corona virus .

Las Las una go dey alright,this is the modern world ,if you want to continue with the old dynamics ,go sit in the grave with your forefathers ,ain't no more slave and master relationship,what is good for the goose is good for the gander .


Shey he will be the one to collect bride price in the future,well let him work for it now while they are young ,that "whole abandon kids come back when they are grown to reap where you did not sow and collect bride price" is so played out,I guess the lady wanted to change the narrative,

Juliearth:




Such level of paranoia won't help you at all in marriage. If only intending couples can focus on knowing each other(strengths and weaknesses) during courting, maybe some of these sad tales won't come up. A beautiful wife is pleasing to the Eyes, pleasing to the soul also if she has a good heart/character...and vice versa.

this is not paranoia of any kind, its the real actual fact, it does not keep you from loving your wife or treating her right, infact this mental knowledge keeps your focus clear and straight. When wify misbehaves it doesn't depress nor hurt you, like the guy that hanged himself over a babe he sponsored to school that later jilted him.

We4all:


Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them?

And what's wrong if a man takes care of his kids? Are you saying that raising children should be the sole responsibility of a woman? Peradventure a wife dies, is the husband not supposed to cater for their kids?

Look, the problem that man has is not because his wife left him, but rather because he wasn't proactive enough to figure out what he would do if his wife left him.

There is no reason why a man cannot raise his kids by himself when a woman can do so singlehandedly for years, and without any form of support.

I don't feel sorry for the man, and in his next world, he should learn that being a man isn't all about impregnating a woman, but also about learning the act of parenting.

He is parenting. And nowhere does the piece say only a woman can parent. I think you are reading things into this that arent there. The wife probably left the children with the man precisely because she knows he will put his all into it. Women rarely abandon their children to their fate. She may have someone keeping tabs on the situation. What the writer is bemoaning is the womans departure from the home because of greener pastures. Lack of resources is no reason to leave a marriage -"thats why we take those vows!

The man is doing ok. Where I suspect he is missing it is that he seems to be in stand by mode - probably waiting for some sort of reapproachment with his wife. My advice is to forget her, get on with his life and reconstitute his family team. There are tons of women who will come into this situation and do a lot better. He should stop feeling sorry for himself. He may have just dodged a bullet in old age. The idea that having had children condemns you to a life of loneliness is not true.