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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Deandean: 9:52pm On Feb 15
Mobree:


Wifebeater spotted... Better be careful who you "hit", so you don't find a knife in your neck in the middle of the night. Make you no reach heaven before you understand grin grin grin
Stupid man beater u mean to say...for the one who said the rubbish is a dîckless single man without an iota of experience. A stupid "after match referee".
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mobree: 10:37pm On Feb 15
Deandean:

Stupid man beater u mean to say...for the one who said the rubbish is a dîckless single man without an iota of experience. A stupid "after match referee".

Awwwwwwn...what a way to describe yourself cool grin

But why is "stupid" very constant in your expressions? Why do you always have to resort to insults to make a point?

P.s: I'm sure your response to this will include "stupid" or something similar lol

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Deandean: 10:47pm On Feb 15
Mobree:


Awwwwwwn...what a way to describe yourself cool grin

But why is "stupid" very constant in your expressions? Why do you always have to resort to insults to make a point?

P.s: I'm sure your response to this will include "stupid" or something similar lol

Loll...motherfucker like u grin
Ps...so obviously i av other vocabularies in my arsenal like motherfučker...i av each man size
Dnt quote me again o.unless u wanna talk business

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mobree: 6:51am On Feb 16
Deandean:


Loll...motherfucker like u grin
Ps...so obviously i av other vocabularies in my arsenal like motherfučker...i av each man size
Dnt quote me again o.unless u wanna talk business

Ohhhhhhh... Kudos to you grin

Having a whole arsenal of insults must have taken time and energy. Great job man.
Now put that level of time and effort into your use of English Language. I'll give you tips: capitalization, punctuation etc. If you really are a business man, you'll need these skills to write proposals and all...except if your business is selling popcorn grin

All the best bruv! I'll pray for you.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Affamefuna: 7:45am On Feb 16
After reading some of the comments here from our ladies, I now see y divorce rate and broken homes is on the increase! In as much as cheating is wrong and no gender should have the sole licence to cheat, it surprises me that no woman has condemned the act of the woman abandoning her children..what if the man decided to leave them too, what will become their fate?
The rate at which some women go after material things is so alarming, no one wants to experience hard time anymore forgetting that the table can turn tomorrow. What happens to for better or worst?
If you are experiencing hardship and ur husband still toils day and night to put food on the table, the least u can do as a wife is to support him! u are a devil if u choose to do otherwise
Like I always say, no woman is worth dying for all in the name of love. The amount of love and care u show to a woman should be commensurate with the amount of love and care she showers u. I don't believe in love at first sight, true love to me is built by two individuals who wants to make it work.
As for the young ladies out there forming feminist and believe they can't take shit, I say well-done to you, what most of u want is equal right but not equal responsibility. U apply gender equality only when it suits u
Young men, I mean the responsible ones should shine their eyes very well before going into marriage, the mindset of some of these ladies lately is quacked, they should keep an open mindset, eliminate anything love out of the relationship and should pray for a discerning Spirit, thesame advice also goes to the responsible single ladies too to avoid stories like this that touches the heart.
A word they say is enough for the wise. My two cents!

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by SBL28(f): 6:05pm On Feb 16
I'm a woman and I blame the mother of those kids. I'm not saying the man should not step up o but I don't understand why a woman would pack out of her husband's house and leave her children behind!

She obviously does not love the children. So she's eating and sleeping comfortably somewhere knowing she left her little children behind? That is a terrible terrible mother, she does not even deserve that title.

The one I hate the most is when women remarry and take the child(ren) from their previous marriage to live with aunties or grandparents. That is never happening with me, you love me, you must love my children too. Na package deal, buy one get two free!

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Shallypop(f): 6:38pm On Feb 16
Fountainofyouth:





Shut da fvck up!!! Look around you and see many single mothers every where taking care of more than five kids SINGLEHANDEDLY, heaven did not fall, nobody bat an eyelid on the deadbeat dad because the usual slang these days is that "the children will look for me their father when they are grown", this particular woman did something rare by leaving the kids this time, all you could swallow is women love only themselves, smh!!!

Like it or not, those kids will one day grow up and look for their mother, love her, and sing "sweet mother". If you all dont like it, start killing yourselves one by one, rada rada.
grin grin grin

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Shallypop(f): 6:40pm On Feb 16
SBL28:
I'm a woman and I blame the mother of those kids. I'm not saying the man should not step up o but I don't understand why a woman would pack out of her husband's house and leave her children behind!

She obviously does not love the children. So she's eating and sleeping comfortably somewhere knowing she left her little children behind? That is a terrible terrible mother, she does not even deserve that title.

The one I hate the most is when women remarry and take the child(ren) from their previous marriage to live with aunties or grandparents. That is never happening with me, you love me, you must love my children too. Na package deal, buy one get two free!
And when d kids grow up, they ask for their father as a thank u package for raising us alone.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by SBL28(f): 9:37pm On Feb 16
Shallypop:
And when d kids grow up, they ask for their father as a thank u package for raising us alone.

That's their business, it's completely up to them but I'm not going to leave my children behind for any reason. Children need both parents but they need their mother even more.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by yeyeosoronga: 10:00pm On Feb 16
Arsenate:

Women don't love their children like we were told. Obviously, if women have their way and things get rough like in this case, they'll abandon their kids without a second thought. I'm not angry or sad about that, I just want men to understand that and see women as the selfish and not-so empathetic gender that they are.

When you know someone is capable of disappointing you, you won't be heartbroken when they eventually do.

For every woman that abandons her child(ren), there are 10 men who have done the same. If we're going to talk about selfishness, remember you point an accusing finger at women, and all the other fingers on your hand are pointed at you.
We see such cases day after day on NL.
Until the family courts in Nigeria are truly serious about the welfare of children, the children will always suffer when their parents decide to be stupid.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by yeyeosoronga: 10:02pm On Feb 16
SBL28:
I'm a woman and I blame the mother of those kids. I'm not saying the man should not step up o but I don't understand why a woman would pack out of her husband's house and leave her children behind!

She obviously does not love the children. So she's eating and sleeping comfortably somewhere knowing she left her little children behind? That is a terrible terrible mother, she does not even deserve that title.

The one I hate the most is when women remarry and take the child(ren) from their previous marriage to live with aunties or grandparents. That is never happening with me, you love me, you must love my children too. Na package deal, buy one get two free!

Is the father going to eat his children? Why can't children be left with their fathers?
I don't support the woman, for not coming to check on her kids and sending money for their upkeep though, but there really is nothing wrong with a father looking after his children o, unless he's an irresponsible man.
Infact, I've seen a case abroad where a 3 week old child was given shared custody by the courts (they broke up when she was pregnant), and the man took fantastic care of the baby. Feeding times, nappy change times etc. It was not easy getting daycare and help when he was away at work, but he survived. That's what a true father does. Regardless of the challenges, he protects and cares for his children.
Usually, it's harder for single parent households. Much more challenging. Infact, some challenges are so unbelievable that one cant even talk about it. Even this case here sounds unbelievable, but it happens.
If the man had a better paying job, his struggles would have only been a fourth of what it is now. So at the end of the day , Poverty na bastard.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Bewisebenice18(m): 10:08pm On Feb 16
Your mates are counting money and you are there counting senario kwasiaaaaa fuo.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by yeyeosoronga: 10:13pm On Feb 16
Infact, who remembers the custody battle just recently resolved between Babangida's son and Indimi's daughter? Na fight to finish dem take am do.
The husband was battling to have custody, and so was the wife. If either of them was a poor man's child, the richer parent go gladly take custody of the children o, and the poor parent might even be banned/prevented from seeing them.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by obatan(m): 10:15pm On Feb 16
Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.
Some females can be so uncultured and mannerless, imagine how she talks without caution, zero reasoning, zero manners.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Skillsnigeria: 10:16pm On Feb 16
I'm not even a fans of Nigeria women,they don't interest me.i would love to marry a woman, certainly not a nigeria

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by chigoizie7(m): 10:17pm On Feb 16
The more reason why this marriage thing keeps scaring me

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Ladycewhy(f): 10:17pm On Feb 16
OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:

The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?
lol ,do you know the ratio of dead beat dads in this country? There is no written rule or constitution that states that only women are meant to take care of the kids in the event of a break up ,she felt the kids were better off with their father ,so let him do it after all if she had taken them and suffer for them he will still come in the future to collect bride price ,so let him work for the bride price he will eat in the future.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CharlesCLloyd(m): 10:18pm On Feb 16
Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.



Are you minding the lady who doesn’t know what she stands for

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by solasoulmusic(f): 10:19pm On Feb 16
Some women still have that quality of thick and thin but it really depends on you guys because you’ve been hurt by a woman doesn’t automatically mean a woman is going to hurt you and your integrity matters. If you want the best you must give your best everyday and keep trying towards it practice forgiveness and look out for effort

Sometimes we fall for the smoke and mirrors which is just what it is but real commitment takes faithfulness takes courage and unfortunately this is a trait that is more resonant in a woman especially after being hurt. Forgiving someone is easy it’s removing that scar that’s harder

You never develop courage putting people down but only by lifting people up. Being fine is different from being someone’s peace in love

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Orpe7(m): 10:19pm On Feb 16
Scenario ANSWER: ALWAYS LEARN TO MIND YOUR BUSINESS

scenario 2: YOU ONLY HEARD HALF THE STORY, DONT JUDGE

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by MrColdsweat: 10:20pm On Feb 16
OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:

The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?
Marrying these present day women is dangerous. I don't know why men can't see it.

From the beginning of the marriage, they are likely to trick you into raising another man's child.

Men should avoid romantic relationships with the modern women. Until we renegotiate our roles.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by xrayj(m): 10:21pm On Feb 16
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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Egosexy: 10:21pm On Feb 16
It is well they must have a reason for the lady to elope with another man was the man treating her well when he was working

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Lanruze: 10:23pm On Feb 16
Mrs. Electra,

Please are you married with children ?

If not this your opinion sounds feminist and may affect your psyche in marriage.

Nigeria of today is one of the toughest places to live anywhere in the World. Inflation, unemployment, inequity, bad leadership etc.

More than 60% of Nigerian families are going through a "Tough time" need not say "Hell".

So you mean all those Women should abandon thier homes and flee with the less than 20% average or rich Men.

Once a man is not lazy and has potential, hard times are just a test of true intentions and character. More Women are looking for husbands than the reverse.



Your submission sucks.




elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by NeoWanZaeed: 10:23pm On Feb 16
OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:

The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?


I feel your pain bro.

That's why its best to marry when you are poor..

When money comes.. Na money the girls go love.

May the Lord bless the guy hustling..

Make he send his kids go meet grandpa or grandma..

Make stress no kill him..

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by atoleybaba(m): 10:23pm On Feb 16
Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.
lol my brother, even a local fowl protects it eggs and chicks with it life.....I remember losing a fowl to a snake bite simply because it refused to stand up from her egg when the snake was coming....I dont blame d females of nowadays they have been influenced by Satan's world that they have abodoned God's arrangement.....they think God that made it for females to give birth and breastfeed instead of the males is a fool

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by YungJo207(m): 10:25pm On Feb 16
If you follow this thread today as a man/guy and you still wonder why so many Nigeria girls/ladies today are still single then you are also a problem Nigeria have....

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by SangoOlukosoOba(m): 10:26pm On Feb 16
Real life Bro....

House wives have been kpanshing since 200BC

If you want to die early, put your hopes in a woman.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by CharlesCLloyd(m): 10:26pm On Feb 16
Nooil:


Abeg leave that thing. When men see beautiful women, they throw their brain into the ocean.

But one thing they don't know is that to keep a beautiful woman you have to be prepared to work all the days of your life even at old age.

If you don't do your job, another man (alhaji) will carry them sharp sharp. Let him go and look for work, at least the face of the fine kids should encourage him.



You are a fool. It’s people like you that guys pray every day not to meet. No read what you wrote

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Juliearth(f): 10:26pm On Feb 16
OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:

The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?





The second scenario is what happens when ladies get married with the wrong mindset and being overly expectant. Marriage is like a virgin farmland. You cultivate it into what you'd like it to be. Funny how some dont have the patience to do so. I can only hope that help comes his way soon enough before that innocent girl is abused. A bar is not a place for kids.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Emarex: 10:27pm On Feb 16
bigiyaro:
when you know that among all your family members, its only your wife that is not your relative, your guards will be up automatically and you are better equipped to deal with betrayals.
abeg I no sabi book grin grin ;DExplain
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Marshalemmy(m): 10:27pm On Feb 16
Deandean:

I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid...if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...
u really vex oo. Take it easy

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