Diligentnigga:


Thanks alot

Yes u are right shes preety and intelligent a 4pointer cgpa in school even at that

I have informed her family about this though
Her mum has always been d one advising me on how to treat her when shes angry that she knows her too

i shield some of her insults of my parents from my family so they won't hate her

Officialgarri:
Your girlfriend/potential killer only went to school but she isn't educated.

Stay by her till she delivers of the baby, then tell her why you can no longer stay in such an abusive relationship.

However, I doubt if you will be alive by the time she gives birth in jail

Diligentnigga:


She's very strong on not aborting o

That gurl get choco for head Sir,, if i tell her to abort she might go about telling people later on that i told her to abort the pregnancy,, shes scared and feeling ashamed and her parents opinion on d pregnancy... I only wish she could change her anger

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

Tim16:
This kid should just shut up. Must you comment?

EMMAUGOH:
Op pls to you, you think you have hit jackpot. Woman no be toy baby o. No matter how beautiful and inte'ligent she is .... She is still a woman full of emotions . You obviously derailing her life with this pregnancy and her plans are cut short. She doesnt think you are the ideal man for her and thisnpregnacy is forcing her to face the worst reality of her life.

One thing i have learnt about intelligent girls is that, you must be rich, very intelligent ( enough to counter their argument) before they can see you as equals..


Op this is a very bumpy ride. I pray God grant you the strenght.. The girls is not realy proud of you because she knows how the future is bleak having a child with an unmemployed father at church early age... Seems she doesnt want ýour opinon.

Am not adding the anger complaint...Seems you are a cool headed guy.... This one no Jackpot oh.... those your friend and mother inlaw that you are listening soon blame u.

Kylekent59:
I once advised people to stay away from GF. They are distraction, and they wouldn't let a man focus.

Now you cannot focus. If only you had listened to my advice, you would be huzzling now and saving your wealth, then when you see a lovely damsel with good manners, you go for her immediately.


You just have to carry your cross and be a man.

Don't hit her out of anger. I just love your idea on keeping the baby and staying calm when she acts so stupid and displays obnoxious characters.

At a time, she would change, remember she is pregnant.
Many more to come also especially at night.

Don't be surprised if she asks you to roast yam for her maybe at 2 a.m, it just shows your responsibility as a man just started.

Kylekent59:
I once advised people to stay away from GF. They are distraction, and they wouldn't let a man focus.

Now you cannot focus. If only you had listened to my advice, you would be huzzling now and saving your wealth, then when you see a lovely damsel with good manners, you go for her immediately.


You just have to carry your cross and be a man.

Don't hit her out of anger. I just love your idea on keeping the baby and staying calm when she acts so stupid and displays obnoxious characters.

At a time, she would change, remember she is pregnant.
Many more to come also especially at night.

Don't be surprised if she asks you to roast yam for her maybe at 2 a.m, it just shows your responsibility as a man just started.

You just said it all [quote author=Tlyon post=86733474]wait bro pls would the mother tell you she won't change? they say the devil you know is better than the angel you just meet, but devil wey persom don dey sure say fit kill person nah to run for am. Man up plan how to take care of your child when born.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

Diligentnigga:


Thanks alot

Yes u are right shes preety and intelligent a 4pointer cgpa in school even at that

I have informed her family about this though
Her mum has always been d one advising me on how to treat her when shes angry that she knows her too
Go ahead and marry her, but let us know when u are about to take sniper.God is still kind by reavelling 2mrw 4 u, u still they chuk head. U re not the kind of man to take her, she will get her kind of man

i shield some of her insults of my parents from my family so they won't hate her

Diligentnigga:


Marry wetin?? When am unemployed.. I just wish she could change cos she has apologized of changing and she would still go back on the same anger driven madness..

Dpharisee:
I was in a similar situation, though gainfully employed and as a gentleman I decided to get married to her.
I thought that marriage would help to change her but for the past several years I have not had peace of mind in the marriage. My family members hardly visit my house, she insults everyone and ready to fight me at anytime, nags me to hell.
I had to resort to a side chic who treats me like a king but I can't marry her, my attempt at seeking divorce brought about the intervention of my religious leaders to whom she promised to change but it didn't last long. The kids are growing and all I did was just to learn to ignore her antics, with hindsight, I would have had the baby (abortion is a NO for me) and damn whatever anyone would say and provide enough money for the baby's upkeep and we continue to nurture the baby as single parents.

Young man, you are on your way to experience the hell I have had to live with since I took the decision to marry my wife, but though I keep praying and hoping that she will change and become the kind of woman I sought

eni4real:
Intelligence made her to insult OP's parent and throw stones at him??
Really?? That is due to intelligence??

Diligentnigga:


Bro am just fedup,, her mum has even apologized her on her behalf and warned her to stop insulting my parents

Her mum complained several times about that she knows an coping and going through alot that i should be a man and be calm and understand her

Ardar:
Oga you've not told us what you did to that girl, nobody will just start screaming at you without been provoked. She's probably frustrated with the burden of school plus the pregnancy hormones.

We need to hear from the girl too.

BERNIMOORE:
Op, I want to believe that your story is True, but its very unfortunate the kind of advice I read here bleed my heart, Not all women with what you call Toxic are Evil, my own experience is that whenever my wife is pregnant, it's like war Yes I can't imagine some of the things she does to me, nothing I do she turns it to mallice insults and more, I nearly ran away, in fact I took a weeks break she didn't call in the first 4 days but later called, I came back she started again the second day, I went to seek advice from Elderly who are married and keep their marriage for long years, they Don't seek advice from selfish people who is mainly focused on himself So I was told to wait after she delivered, and God so good things became normal after delivery and I am happy today with kids and she support the family too with her salary, I thank those who advised me during those tumultuous times that when she acts like that show Love At times she reject things I bought for her and even warned me not to try and convinced her, I will stay alone and cry, and later like two days intervals she will wear what she rejected earlier.....the summary is that when some women are pregnant, Their hormones vary their behavior because their body is over stressing itself, so you have to wait and watch her, if you notice she's normal after delivery, then she is good, but if after like 6 months no changes then you have a decision to make After exhausting every kind avenues, relationship takes lots of sacrifice, but when you are committed and do your humanly possible part, there is a big gain..Never try to make her commit abortion... If she had her baby You will regret even thinking of abortion.. Its evil, Seek advise from those in healthy relationship, thanks

Diligentnigga:


Alright this is it,, we were having a discussion on how to break the news to her parents on the pregnancy cos we both have plans of keeping the pregnancy,her phone was with me, and during the discussion she got angry when i said if she cant bear the shame and pass through all dis when the baby bump hasnt show,,please how will she cope when we start facing tough tough issues later on and i immediately said and if she cant cope with it we cn go for abortion then and all this nags and insults will stop

Then she got angry immediately stood up and told me to give her back her phone i refused saying we need to really discuss this and she shouldn't be getting angered at everything and we shouldnt run away from this discussion as she has always been trying not to discuss the pregnancy thing

Before you know it she started shouting give me my phone and i refused infact the shouts was just too much but i refused cos i was having an important discussion with her and shes trying to walk away

Haba who does that

EMMAUGOH:
...... That not exactly what i mean. Am judging based on his sub post . Most of girls that are higly creative do have anger issues. A point between where they are crazy ( when they cant find a solution bothering them) and where they are bold and super creative. At the end if you as a man do not stand your ground they would end up controlling your life with their anger. Am speaking from experience.

Tim16:
Why are there more stupid and foolish people on Nairaland? Guy must you comment?

Diligentnigga:


Bro am just fedup,, her mum has even apologized her on her behalf and warned her to stop insulting my parents

Her mum complained several times about that she knows an coping and going through alot that i should be a man and be calm and understand her