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Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Orubebe01: 8:41pm On Feb 18
What's your reason (s) cos I know many of them, not that men are not coming but don't really know why. So ladies, this thread is for you. Why are you rejecting suitors?

Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by healthserve(m): 8:44pm On Feb 18
I think it's simply because women/ladies/females make the wrong choice/decision by default


Senses are mostly restored towards 40-45


The core underlying reason is the inability to dissociate fantasy from reality




The comment in the screenshot is the answer to this question after reading so many comments on the thread

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by ojun50(m): 9:02pm On Feb 18
He has small blikotous

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Lamanii22(f): 9:05pm On Feb 18
No reason per se... But if I'm not attracted to you, I wouldn't accept you.. Even if you have all the money... I believe in the law of attraction...

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by XhosaNostra(f): 9:05pm On Feb 18
Not every man is a right fit. Some of us are very picky. Personally, I take time to warm up to new people or to decide whether I like someone romantically or not, so if someone comes on too strong from the very beginning, that may scare me off. Thus, turning them down. Slow & steady usually wins the race for me because I'm a thinker. I rationalize everything, include my feelings. Usually I have to "think" myself into liking someone, which doesn't happen overnight. In summary, being too much, too early will lead to a rejection.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by AfroKnight: 9:08pm On Feb 18
Rejecting?

Lol.

Question should be are they getting any suitors at all.


Traditional women are increasingly in demand. These man-haters hiding under the umbrella of feminism don’t have suitors.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by healthserve(m): 9:09pm On Feb 18
Lamanii22:
No reason per se... But if I'm not attracted to you, I wouldn't accept you.. Even if you have all the money... I believe in the law of attraction...


Despite some remaining single between 25-32 and yet rejecting suitors for flimsy reasons. Are you sure you're the owner of this moniker or you're the hacker who stole this account angry

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by AfroKnight: 9:10pm On Feb 18
XhosaNostra:
Not every man is a right fit. Some of us are very picky. Personally, I take time to warm up to new people or to decide whether I like someone romantically or not, so if someone comes on too strong from the very beginning, that may scare me off. Thus, turning them down. Slow & steady usually wins the race for me because I'm a thinker. I rationalize everything, include my feelings. Usually I have to "think" myself into liking someone, which doesn't happen overnight. In summary, being too much, too early will lead to a rejection.


You’re South African. Your reality is quite different. It’s obvious.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by healthserve(m): 9:11pm On Feb 18
XhosaNostra:
Not every man is a right fit. Some of us are very picky. Personally, I take time to warm up to new people or to decide whether I like someone romantically or not, so if someone comes on too strong from the very beginning, that may scare me off. Thus, turning them down. Slow & steady usually wins the race for me because I'm a thinker. I rationalize everything, include my feelings. Usually I have to "think" myself into liking someone, which doesn't happen overnight. In summary, being too much, too early will lead to a rejection.


Doctor Mrs. Your comment clearly depicts you haven't rejected a suitor. Turning down a love interest and rejecting a suitor is two different things. Sorry your tale are just girly wishes dearie kiss Turning ddown suitors despite being of marriageable age is a worrisome thing that shouldn't be downplayed alleast without cogent reasons. I've seen 32/35 turn down what looked like good men. This is a personal experience. Each time I see the woman I feel like asking what's your problem. The face is gone, the teeth is turning yellow. Yet turning down interested parties. It doesn't make rational sense

How are you today. What chup? wink

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Lamanii22(f): 9:15pm On Feb 18
healthserve:



Despite some remaining single between 25-32 and yet rejecting suitors for flimsy reasons. Are you sure you're the owner of this moniker or you're the hacker who stole this account angry


I am the owner... To me, attraction matters. Y'all stop making marriage look like it is the ultimate.. Being single is not a curse..

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by stanliwise(m): 9:16pm On Feb 18
Lamanii22:
No reason per se... But if I'm not attracted to you, I wouldn't accept you.. Even if you have all the money... I believe in the law of attraction...
money is attraction smiley

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by stanliwise(m): 9:18pm On Feb 18
XhosaNostra:
Not every man is a right fit. Some of us are very picky. Personally, I take time to warm up to new people or to decide whether I like someone romantically or not, so if someone comes on too strong from the very beginning, that may scare me off. Thus, turning them down. Slow & steady usually wins the race for me because I'm a thinker. I rationalize everything, include my feelings. Usually I have to "think" myself into liking someone, which doesn't happen overnight. In summary, being too much, too early will lead to a rejection.
Until you meet the players. wink.
We know your type.

Slow and steady and end up in your friend Zone abi??
Hard and broke, una go tear race.
But come rich(sweet mouth) and hard, una go start to shine teeth, Logic will go out the window.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by healthserve(m): 9:18pm On Feb 18
Lamanii22:



I am the owner... To me, attraction matters. Y'all stop making marriage look like it is the ultimate.. Being single is not a curse..


You're age range. I get the drift now. Turning down love interest isn't wrong especially when there's no attraction or little. But when a lady hits 25, serially rejecting love interests is a different ball game . Rejecting suitors and turning down toasters isn't the same oh. And I'm sure you're between 22-24. Hence this is slightly in a different angle from the persons I feel the Op is trying to address


See don't talk too much. I know at least five ladies whom I know their sexual escapadeas the least being 26 that's turning down suitors unnecessarily. I've seen some of their suitors and got to know them over a while( I won't spill my investigative methods, don't ask me how ) Why have serial sexual encounters outside a relationship and continually turn down suitors. No be hypocrisy be day one.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by XhosaNostra(f): 9:31pm On Feb 18
AfroKnight:



You’re South African. Your reality is quite different. It’s obvious.

I'm sure there're ladies that like a slow burn pretty much, everywhere lol.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by AfroKnight: 9:37pm On Feb 18
XhosaNostra:


I'm sure there're ladies that like a slow burn pretty much, everywhere lol.

Me,

I’m like a consuming inferno. grin Romance is a sweeping conflagration. grin

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by biddostandard: 9:40pm On Feb 18
Lamanii22:



I am the owner... To me, attraction matters. Y'all stop making marriage look like it is the ultimate.. Being single is not a curse..
until you start crying for husband on social media

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Orubebe01: 9:43pm On Feb 18
ojun50:
He has small blikotous
Tell me more

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Nobody: 9:44pm On Feb 18
AfroKnight:
Rejecting?

Lol.

Question should be are they getting any suitors at all.


Traditional ladies are increasingly in demand. These man-haters hiding under the umbrella of feminism don’t have suitors.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by AfroKnight: 9:46pm On Feb 18
Michellekabod2:

This girl. It appears the truth offends you.

You will be fine.


Or not. grin

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Nobody: 9:48pm On Feb 18
1) not ready for commitment such as marriage. Let me try the dating world(even if its one year) to know how it feels like before marriage.
2)Fear!Fear!Fear! Fear of commitment.
3)I will be floating on contentment and I want an inferno of passion.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Nobody: 9:49pm On Feb 18
AfroKnight:


This girl. It appears the truth offends you.

You will be fine.


Or not. grin
you are the one ignorant here.

Feminine ladies are in demand not traditional.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by AfroKnight: 9:51pm On Feb 18
Michellekabod2:
you are the one ignorant here.

Feminine ladies are in demand not traditional.

Feminine women and not feminists.

That translates into traditional.

Joke’s on you.

Look Michelle, I’d rather not have a face off with you. I like your personality, even if I do not agree with most of your ideas.

Chill darling.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Feb 18
AfroKnight:


Feminine women and not feminists.

That translates into traditional.

Joke’s on you.

Look Michelle, I’d rather not have a face off with you. I like your personality, even if I do not agree with most of your ideas.

Chill darling.
how does traditional equals to feminine women?

Do you know what it takes to trigger attraction in a male? Do you know what makes up for feminine women?
Traditional women are not vulnerable and that's one of the attributes of femininity that triggers attraction in men.

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by missimelda01(f): 10:00pm On Feb 18
Some men still think like they're in the 80s, imagine showing up in my house one day saying you want to marry me.. excuse me sir, REJECTED.

So because we dated some time ago, you think when you're done playing around I am your last option, REJECTED. I don't go back to my vomit, not unless there's a good reason.

I am an overthinker, i don't like to be rushed especially when it comes to issues like marriage, so 2 days into the friendship and you're already announcing marriage up and down.. that's a NO NO for me.

Before you start mentioning age, please note that I am not scared of being single and happy, I'll take my time until I genuinely fall in love and I'm ready to spend forever with my prince charming wink

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by McStoic(m): 10:00pm On Feb 18
Lol....There are many but I know that top on the first 3 is lack of sexual know-how/satisfaction. Lack of money may not even be the first. In the olden days, when there was arrangee marriage, I wonder how their marriages still found a way to work though, notwithstanding that there was no pre marital sex (dick or pussy tasting).

Most times women make it seem as if it's only men that crave for premarital sex. I can seriously count about 4 to 5 different girls in the past who rejected me those days cos I told them no sex till we know where we are in the relationship. I was like, I needed a lady who can offer more me something more than sex, many of them chickened out later. I thank God for my God ordained wife who never toed that path. Many single ladies are the cause of their predicaments. FACT!

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by simplemach(m): 10:00pm On Feb 18
They want to slay some little more time maybe

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by XhosaNostra(f): 10:00pm On Feb 18
healthserve:



Doctor Mrs. Your comment clearly depicts you have rejected a suitor. Turning down a love interest and rejecting a suitor is two different things. Sorry your tale are just girly wishes dearie kiss Turning ddown suitors despite being of marriageable age is a worrisome thing that shouldn't be downplayed alleast without cogent reasons. I've seen 32/35 turn down what looked like good men. This is a personal experience. Each time I see the woman I feel like asking what's your problem. The face is gone, the teeth is turning yellow. Yet turning down interested parties. It doesn't make rational sense

How are you today. What chup? wink

Well, it depends on how one conducts their relationships. I don't like wasting my time, so it's not often that I'll enter a relationship with no future prospects. I play for keeps grin That's actually is part of my interrogation from the word go. If someone is out playing the field, it won't be MY time they will waste. Wrong number cheesy Anyway, I take relationships very seriously, so I like to know if we want the same things/are on the same page before I invest even a sigh into the relationship. Generating emotions is a task grin That's just me & my upside down view into relationships. Lol @ 32-35 year-olds turning down "good men". Maybe they weren't good fits like I said. Relationships in all its hues are a lot of work & can be very stressful, so if you're going to get into one, it better be with someone that's going to be worth the migraine. Personally, I'd rather be alone than be stressed the fùck out by someone else. If that's blasphemous, oh well. At least I won't be at my wits' end, waiting for death to finally do us part, so I can have my peace of mind back.

I'm doing great. You?

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Tajbol4splend(m): 10:01pm On Feb 18
Is that not Evans the gbomogbomo

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by dilodavid(m): 10:01pm On Feb 18
Lamanii22:
No reason per se... But if I'm not attracted to you, I wouldn't accept you.. Even if you have all the money... I believe in the law of attraction...
Is it not the same money that will make you get attracted to a man?

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by emeijeh(m): 10:01pm On Feb 18
Mostly bank account balance of course

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Re: Ladies, What's Your Reason for Rejecting Suitors? by Tajbol4splend(m): 10:03pm On Feb 18
Lamanii22:
No reason per se... But if I'm not attracted to you, I wouldn't accept you.. Even if you have all the money... I believe in the law of attraction...



Young love, no strings attached, just natural, kiss natural and everything wantintin

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