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Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 4:11am On Feb 20, 2020
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by cleish(m): 4:21am On Feb 20, 2020
okay..

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by libertyfather(m): 4:25am On Feb 20, 2020
You have really gone beyond what you need to know......the girl talk true, that's all I hv to say wait for more comments

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Mutemenot(m): 4:28am On Feb 20, 2020
You have time to build the relationship . You guys haven't really come together, prove to her you are willing and ready for the relationship . Women always have options most especially when dealing with men they think can t meet their demand .
..knowing that she has everything you want in a woman, I suggest you give her more room for repentance ...

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by fulaniHERDSman(m): 4:30am On Feb 20, 2020
You are dealing with an audacious whorre. Flee now and spare your future kids the agony of a harrlot mom. grin

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by fulaniHERDSman(m): 4:32am On Feb 20, 2020
Mutemenot:
You have time to build the relationship . You guys haven't really come together, prove to her you are willing and ready for the relationship . Women always have options most especially when dealing with men they think can t meet their demand .
..knowing that she has everything you want in a woman, I suggest you give her more room for repentance ...
Read their conversation and see that she has no plan for repentance. She has abused another's marriage and karma will surely descend on hers. While this guy will be the innocent collateral damage. An audacious slut indeed.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 4:42am On Feb 20, 2020
Mutemenot:
You have time to build the relationship . You guys haven't really come together, prove to her you are willing and ready for the relationship . Women always have options most especially when dealing with men they think can t meet their demand .
..knowing that she has everything you want in a woman, I suggest you give her more room for repentance ...

Yea. I have always done that . I am willing to stand by her and correct her . I sees it as her past.

I just realised it takes a second for someone to change . I wasn't expecting her to remain the same after I left .

My issue is, will things remain the same after I told her my findings ?

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Kevsmart88(m): 4:43am On Feb 20, 2020
If I were to understand you, you are feeling bad u snooped on ur girlfriends phone and discovered all this...wow! I would be damned if I find out my girlfriend ever dated a married man and didn't call it quits instantly....Little wonder why crazy things keep happening in this world now, we now do things our forefathers would frown at in disdain without remorse these days....imagine the effrontery telling U that U went too far, a girl u wanna marry and she knows u have good intentions. Young Man pick urself up and stop whining like a baby, what makes u think she will cut ties with this married man after marriage, she would just upgrade the oga to a family friend(benefactor) asap, leaving gullible U believing he's just a nice man...Our young men and woman have totally lost it, I'm scared what our progenies would become...

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by daewoorazer(m): 4:52am On Feb 20, 2020
a who’re doesn’t have a synonym, A WHO’RE

Please marry her, we nerds will be happy to read another long epistle of how you caught HIV and STD

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 4:53am On Feb 20, 2020
Kevsmart88:
If I were to understand you, you are feeling bad u snooped on ur girlfriends phone and discovered all this...wow! I would be damned if I find out my girlfriend ever dated a married man and didn't call it quits instantly....Little wonder why crazy things keep happening in this world now, we now do things our forefathers would frown at in disdain without remorse these days....imagine the effrontery telling U that U went too far, a girl u wanna marry and she knows u have good intentions. Young Man pick urself up and stop whining like a baby, what makes u think she will cut ties with this married man after marriage, she would just upgrade the oga to a family friend(benefactor) asap, leaving gullible U believing he's just a nice man...Our young men and woman have totally lost it, I'm scared what our progenies would become...
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 5:03am On Feb 20, 2020
fulaniHERDSman:

Read their conversation and see that she has no plan for repentance. She has abused another's marriage and karma will surely descend on hers. While this guy will be the innocent collateral damage. An audacious slut indeed.
.

If Karma really pay us all for our deeds, then we all be gone by now . There will be none left on this planet earth

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by chatinent(m): 5:20am On Feb 20, 2020
Permit me to call you a simp, why do you have to get angry and quarrel because you guys hung out and she didn't post some random 'me and boo' shit? Social media life doesn't really mean tis working.
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To be frank, that girl has w h o r e-some attributes. She should not justify her wrongs using her mom as subterfuge; she decided to do it herself!
She decided to sell her body for money!
.
I believe she's playing cool because she's seeing herself on the verge of walking down the aisle: girls don't fool around this period.
.
But does it change the fact that a hoe is a hoe?

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:45am On Feb 20, 2020
Let her get a job. Lack of funds could be the reason.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Kevsmart88(m): 5:46am On Feb 20, 2020
Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .
It's a past when U quit living in it and decide you wanna lead a better life in the present...What you call a past is ur girlfriend chatting with a married man she dated and tell you they are just friends? I'm beginning to think you're the one fighting for this relationship cos you're not doing something right or probably you goofed in the past and wanna make things right again.... Don't come back here and bore us with some epistle of how she cheated in marriage cos obviously u saw the signs...best of luck anyways

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Bestinstinct(m): 6:03am On Feb 20, 2020
Stop dodging reality bro. Possibility of her changing is slim, very very slim. You shouldn't have checked her phone to save yourself the heartbreak but now that you have, her response is disgusting and unacceptable. Don't die Young bro, move on if you can and love life

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by kenodrill: 6:11am On Feb 20, 2020
Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .








Then move on with your cheat of a girlfriend.your problem is your inability to dissociate fantasy from reality.

No worry na go ahead and marry your promiscuous girlfriend but no CM NL CM look for advice later ooo...

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by NACE13: 6:11am On Feb 20, 2020
What tha fvck did i just read?!
Is this guy for serious or he just felt like writing a fictional story. With all due respect, brother simp, your girl is a whorë. She literally and clearly showed you all the signs yet you foolíshly still lamenting you love her. Gaddammit!
Martinez, Ubunja get in here please!!

The only reason you should go back to your ex is to practice Okafors's Law with the strings cut off

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by femi4: 6:13am On Feb 20, 2020
Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake .

I think my relationship just ended . Something we both cherish .

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year , but I wasnt commited at all and she knew it and left . Back then in school she kept going to my phone and ofcourse she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart , I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down . She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it.
We finally met and resolve all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware . She fits perfectly to my ideal woman . Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect .

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out . What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past . She was forced to go into it after she left school . Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back . But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house . She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time , she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.
Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over . Didn't talk to her about it.
We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again . Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again . The she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us . That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that . This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring . I love this girl real good . Never loved anyone like this before .
But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.
I should have stayed away from her phone . But guys, is not my fault , I love this girl and I am serious about it
You think she's spending on you from her nysc allawee? Think aloud, you are probably spending from chief Daddy' money.
A runs girl deserves a wedding ring anyway

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Nobody: 6:18am On Feb 20, 2020
So a girl should just wake up and erase people she used to know whether good or bad from memory because she just reconnected with her ex.


You fvck up by keeping silent and not be definitive with your feelings other her shenanigans.
Give her a month ultimatum to cut all ties with her past or you are done.


Nothing Alexistaiwo no go see for nairaland!

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Nobody: 6:20am On Feb 20, 2020
Instead of killing anyone in future it better end now

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Drince: 6:33am On Feb 20, 2020
Honestly i have nothing to say.

Your answer lies in Olamide baado hands, listen to WONMA.
The truth is in that song.

Modified
Let me give you a hint of the lyrics..
Ole tobi lorun wonmado
To ba to bi lorun wonmado
Ole te ASHANA lorun
(it means you can be huge, muscular, but you can never satisfy a wh ore, they will still 4k her)
To ba gbe lo vacation WON MADO
Fi owo se renovation WONMADO
Ko fine bi ti rihanna WON MADO
Ki epon e dun bi banana
WON MADO
To ba mo jo bi chris brown WON MADO
(this part means, if you like take her on vacation, spend your money on renovation, so she can be beautiful as rihanna, your joystick and balls might be as sweet as banana, if you can dance like chris brown, at the end they will still 4ck her)

Hope you've learnt something from him..
Lastly
To ba wun e ko lo magun, won ma fun doggy ama lagun.
If you like use charms on her, they will 4ck her till she sweats..
Bro just kindly meet Ubunja and take your prescription in advance. Just one redpill.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by ImaIma1(f): 6:35am On Feb 20, 2020
Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .


Let me see if I get the facts right.

She has/had an affair with a married man; meaning she has no respect or regard for the institution of marriage. If she can sleep with a married man, would it be hard for her to sleep with someone else when you both are married?

She still communicates with him and he probably still sends her money. What does she do for him to get this money? Is she willing to let go of the monetary benefits?

She took a picture in your bedroom and sent to another guy? While you guys are dating?

She has no regard for you. You are the nice broke guy (she sent you money) that will be there for her to settle down with. She will probably be doing her runs and giving you money from it.

If you still want to go ahead, stop checking her phone because you will continue seeing things

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by DominusPrime: 6:40am On Feb 20, 2020
She's an unrepentant runs girl playing on your emotional weakness for her. The money she sent you is from her sugar daddy. Unfortunately you are tooblinded by your feelings for her. She's nurturing you like a maga. She has you where she wants and she's using the old trick girls use by claiming it's all in her past. The worst part is you are now blaming yourself for it all cos you checked her phone.
I can't tell u to marry or not marry her but be prepared for the consequences cos marriage is just a ceremony, it doesn't change a person's character. If she's got you under her pant right now, rest assured that this will continue in marriage.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 6:41am On Feb 20, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
Let her get a job. Lack of funds could be the reason.
.

She is serving

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Nobody: 6:42am On Feb 20, 2020
I was thinking of getting you one. She's very rare in nature. Very beautiful and intelligent. She's so precious that she's been protected by her squads. You dare not go close to her without the directives of her squads. You see - that's why she's rare in nature

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 6:44am On Feb 20, 2020
ImaIma1:


Let me see if I get the facts right.

She has/had an affair with a married man; meaning she has no respect or regard for the institution of marriage. If she can sleep with a married man, would it be hard for her to sleep with someone else when you both are married?

She still communicates with him and he probably still sends her money. What does she do for him to get this money? Is she willing to let go of the monetary benefits?

She took a picture in your bedroom and sent to another guy? While you guys are dating?

She has no regard for you. You are the nice broke guy (she sent you money) that will be there for her to settle down with. She will probably be doing her runs and giving you money from it.

If you still want to go ahead, stop checking her phone because you will continue seeing things

Okay, she doesn't send me money . I do the sending . She just sent that 6k after she received her allawee to help sort some stuff.

Well I get your point . I want to move past this, bit also want to make it right if is possible for her . Cos to me , everyone deserve a second chance

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by DominusPrime: 6:46am On Feb 20, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
Let her get a job. Lack of funds could be the reason.
As always girls will always defend themselves when they see rubbish. You obviously won't see where he mentioned she is serving. Deep down you know you can never allow your own brother marry such a who.re. but cos na NL and you ladies have this inborn instinct to pity girls or defend them cos it's what most of you already do you simply spew trash.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 6:48am On Feb 20, 2020
alexistaiwo:
So a girl should just wake up and erase people she used to know whether good or bad from memory because she just reconnected with her ex.


You fvck up by keeping silent and not be definitive with your feelings other her shenanigans.
Give her a month ultimatum to cut all ties with her past or you are done.


Nothing Alexistaiwo no go see for nairaland!

I also have ex's I have been with before going back to her . I cut it off immediately cos I don't want drama.

Nah, have never been silent . Have rebuked her openly when I started seeing those stuff. Though it was before we got back together.

But I was plain about the two she is still in touch when th especially the married guy . Which she promised to cut tiers .

For messed up when I saw she is still in touch.

I rebuked her again and she was like giving me her phone to end it if I believe she won't end it herself.

Our argument last nite really pissed me off. And right now , I feel is just over

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Nobody: 6:51am On Feb 20, 2020
Someone says you've really gone beyond what you need to know and youre still there singing the national anthem of 'i love her, I love her'. Mumu love.

Truth is, after you guys parted, she moved on big time. You are only trying to wake up a long dead relationship and seem to be the only one in it as it is obvious she only agreed to come back maybe due to age no longer on her side and she just wanting a husband figure but her mind is no longer with you hence her behavior.

Move on and stop deceiving yourself. I wonder how you could play detective with her phone and not being able to detect she's no longer in love with you.
Wake up!

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Biafrareform(m): 6:51am On Feb 20, 2020
FarFromAverage:
I was thinking of getting you one. She's very rare in nature. Very beautiful and intelligent. She's so precious that she's been protected by her squads. You dare not go close to her without the directives of her squads. You see - that's why she's rare in nature

I don't understand you Mr.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by XhosaNostra(f): 6:57am On Feb 20, 2020
Biafrareform:


Yea. I have always done that . I am willing to stand by her and correct her . I sees it as her past
I just realised it takes a second for someone to change . I wasn't expecting her to remain the same after I left .

My issue is, will things remain the same after I told her my findings ?

Your reasoning is clouded by emotions. How recent was the search history about her married lover? It's also not the past if she's still actively in communication with him. I don't care what convoluted story (Ahem...LIES) she's telling you to lull you back to sleep, but if she really treasured your relationship, she wouldn't be doing things that jeopardize it. I'm thinking you're her fallback guy, her safety net for when things don't work out the way she'd hoped with the person she truly cares about. You've promised her marriage after all, which the other guy can't give to her because he's all tied up.

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Re: Checking Her Phone Has Cost Us Our Beautiful Relationship by Nobody: 6:57am On Feb 20, 2020
You are weak. What is there to analyse again? She's having an affair, wrecking a marriage, yet you are the one to blame for not trusting her? She wants to turn you to mumu; trusting the untrustworthy. Nice girl my backside.

Any woman that you wany to marry should be <21 years old. Anything more than that and having passed through university, is bound to have an odorous history that will haunt her and whoever marries her for the rest of their lives. Be warned.

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