MadeINchenzen2:

Ladies: Mid/late 20's & U're Still Dating A Guy For 5 Yrs, U Are On Your Own!

On a more serious note. It dosent make any sense!

MrBrownJay1:


by all means, tell us all how long should these babes date guys for?! or better yet, whats the timeline for dating? also, do tell us what the timeline would be for older women too....

2buffagain:
Speaking as a man who has a mum, aunty and sisters, A woman in her late 20s and up, especially in her 30s, has no business dating any man for more than 1 - 1.5 years with no progression if marriage is her goal.

Late teens to mid 20s, thats up to her to decide how she wants to live her life.

MrBrownJay1:


so you mean to say that late 20s women in r/ship must have a clear picture of where they are going with a man, after 1-1.5yrs, even when we all know that all r/ships are not the same (aka some are slow and others are more difficult to figure out)?
what if they need more time to evaluate what they desire/need? what if they still dont know each other fully within 1.5yr? should they throw away what they have? you are making it seem like there is a timeline for dating, while any person in a r/ship fully well know there aint really any.

the reason why so many people are failing in marriage is because they rush into things they are not fully able to master.... the minute anyone puts a timeline on such issues, they've already failed. you should only marry someone if you are 110% sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with them...and if you are not sure about it after 1.5yr, then you should take all the time you need until you figure that out (instead of dismissing that person)

the sad part in what you wrote is that, you seem to believe that all men are so predictable....

2buffagain:

I was thinking more early 30s with that response actually.

At early 30s a woman who wants to get married should not be dating past 1.5yrs because she should have a clear understanding of what she wants by that time.
This is particularly the case if she wants children and does not intend to give birth out of wedlock.

MrBrownJay1:


i am not dismissing the fact that women should know exactly what they want in life (and from men) in their late 20s early 30s, i have a problem when you believe that within 1,5yr they should know for certain if their man possesses it, and also that men should be dismissed if they havent shown it yet.

r/ship can be difficult to master, so men can take more time than others to open up, some men may need more time to make such drastic decisions... you make the whole dating process feel like work. how can it even feel natural? the babe would be on her calendar thinking that her man need to act a certain way by 18months, if not he will be deemed NO good. come on bro!

the above is what DESPERATE women would do....and we all know that desperation is a bad trait when thinking of r/ship

2buffagain:
I guess it depends on her dating style.
If she dates multiple guys (which will happen if a guy she wants is taking too long and she is in her 30s) then sure each guy can take however long he wants. He'll just call one day and realize that she clicked with some other guy quicker and faster and now has progressed with him. Nothing wrong with that, she just found her match and speed elsewhere.

If she's doing one by one, and she is over 30, there should def be steady progression by 1.5yrs. Progression need not be actual marriage. It could be a better understanding enough to know whether marriage will be a yay or nay with this person. You cannot know everyone complete before marrying them. You can only know enough to make an educated guess of which 1.5 years should be good enough to run all necessary diagnostics.

MrBrownJay1:


i am not dismissing the fact that women should know exactly what they want in life (and from men) in their late 20s early 30s, i have a problem when you believe that within 1,5yr they should know for certain if their man possesses it, and also that men should be dismissed if they havent shown it yet.

r/ship can be difficult to master, so men can take more time than others to open up, some men may need more time to make such drastic decisions... you make the whole dating process feel like work. how can it even feel natural? the babe would be on her calendar thinking that her man need to act a certain way by 18months, if not he will be deemed NO good. come on bro!

the above is what DESPERATE women would do....and we all know that desperation is a bad trait when thinking of r/ship

Michellekabod2:
I disagree,that is a woman knowing what she wants.
The problem with relationships is that people don't know what they want from it. They enter assuming their partner is in their mind to know their intentions. If a lady is decisive enough to know what she wants(marriage) how has she become desperate?
If a man has said nothing about marriage after 6-9 months then its best you move on with your life.

MrBrownJay1:


so you mean to say that late 20s women in r/ship must have a clear picture of where they are going with a man, after 1-1.5yrs, even when we all know that all r/ships are not the same (aka some are slow and others are more difficult to figure out)?
what if they need more time to evaluate what they desire/need? what if they still dont know each other fully within 1.5yr? should they throw away what they have? you are making it seem like there is a timeline for dating, while any person in a r/ship fully well know there aint really any.

the reason why so many people are failing in marriage is because they rush into things they are not fully able to master.... the minute anyone puts a timeline on such issues, they've already failed. you should only marry someone if you are 110% sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with them...and if you are not sure about it after 1.5yr, then you should take all the time you need until you figure that out (instead of dismissing that person)

the sad part in what you wrote is that, you seem to believe that all men are so predictable....

MadeINchenzen2:
I ll follow the topic with prismatic reasons.

Typing...

MadeINchenzen2:

Ladies: Mid/late 20's & U're Still Dating A Guy For 5 Yrs, U Are On Your Own!

On a more serious note. It dosent make any sense!

ubunja:
what does that even mean??

MadeINchenzen2:

Ladies: Mid/late 20's & U're Still Dating A Guy For 5 Yrs, U Are On Your Own!
On a more serious note. It dosent make any sense!

Omar09:


Why will I date a nigga longer than 12 months. I mean I don't have all the time durrh!

Hook him up. Make him spend on you... I think ubunja said it all.

Omar09:


Why will I date a nigga longer than 12 months. I mean I don't have all the time durrh!

Hook him up. Make him spend on you... I think ubunja said it all.

ubunja:
women's greatest enemy is TIME. They must make maximum use of it. Every year after 25 they lose value. A man a woman can get at 21 won't even look her at 31.

MadeINchenzen2:
PROTECT YOURSELF

This is very important.

Never ever, Never ever and never ever leave yourself hanging without an option.

Life is a risk, meaning there are no assurances... the signs can be good, he possibly could have told u how much he loves and wants to marry u... make no mistakes about that and do not be carried away by love(sentiment)... u av to connect ur brains with ur feeling...

@ ur early, mid or late 20s...Chances are, u have 5 guys asking u out every week... 2 is badly talking about marriage while 3 maybe talking about a relationship....

Now here s what u do!!!

Lead all 5 of them ON

dnt scare them away... let them all compete and kill themselves over u in the end u just have to pick the best out of the pack

2buffagain:


Speaking as a man who has a mum, aunty and sisters, A woman in her late 20s and up, especially in her 30s, has no business dating any man for more than 1 - 1.5 years with no progression if marriage is her goal.

Late teens to mid 20s, thats up to her to decide how she wants to live her life.

ubunja:
if I was a lady I would never date any guy for more than 5 months.

We start in January if by June you haven't proposed BYE!!!! OH, and no sex before marriage, to motivate you. Meanwhile I spend your cash like crazy to get you invested in me so before you drop me you'll think of all the moola you've spent on me.

P/S during those 5 months my relationship status will always say "Single". It can only move to "Married". No in-between.

Coolcalmcollect:

well you would have been passed around different guys for 5months each den....cos no guy will spend on any girl again in this generation with or without sex. sex is easy to get for a guy, money isn't easy to get for a girl so to equate the two as means of exchange is an error.

Omar09:


They fail to acknowledge this. Once they do, women will be landing commissioners, senators, men of higher status than locking up with small boys who won't improve their life. If I was a woman, I will be the best gold digger there is.

At age 19 I'm scanning for those rich dudes. @21 I'm either married to a senator's son or the senator himself.

ubunja:
if sex is easy to get for Guys porn and prostitutes wouldn't exist.


[s]Guys can spend. If you know how to trick them into spending[/s].

chinchonglee:

Send ur sister to me... Or if u re truely a female come to me and trick me to spend on you.

ubunja:
they should all learn from Regina Daniels
The younger and prettier you are, The higher the quality of man you will get.

Coolcalmcollect:
come and force us to propose na