The rate of infidelity in the society has indeed reached an alarming rate, so much so that it's now seen as a open secret. While I don't have the figures to state who does it more between men and women, I believe, from what goes on around, that men who go into extra marital affairs are more than women who do same.

So it makes me wonder, do we still have men who can boldly say in all truthfulness, that they have been 100% faithful to their marriages? Married women, if you're 100% certain about your husband's fidelity, you completely trust him, please, let's know.

Please this is just a show of worry and concern about our society. Only mature comments are welcome. No insults and/or gender attacks.

Thank you.

I beleive that there are still quite a number of men of integrity around. We usually tend to hear the bad stories more than the good ones.

So it makes me wonder, do we still have men who can boldly say in all truthfulness, that they have been 100% faithful to their marriages? Married women, if you're 100% certain about your husband's fidelity, you completely trust him, please, let's know.

Sorry.
I don't know any.
Not a requirement for my matrimony.
Not a prerequisite of African marriages.

But we are now. . . having done it all.
You have to do it all to be able to satisfy all righteousness.

It takes two to tango.
The laws of demand and supply too.

Infidelity and trust is now relative.In some quarters,so long as he/she remain married to the spouse,pay bills and fulfill all matrimonial duties . . .who cares abt what goes on outside while to some trust means for as long as i have not caught him/her . . .all is well.
Im signing in 100% faithful and trusting.

Signed

chaircover:

I beleive that there are still quite a number of men of integrity around. We usually tend to hear the bad stories more than the good ones.

Good to hear. The way it's going is as if no man is spared, especially when you see those you hold in high esteem doing it.

Blazay:

Sorry.
I don't know any.
Not a requirement for my matrimony.
Not a prerequisite of African marriages.

But we are now. . . having done it all.
You have to do it all to be able to satisfy all righteousness.

It takes two to tango.
The laws of demand and supply too.

You speak in parables. I don't quite understand you.

ifyalways:

Infidelity and trust is now relative.In some quarters,so long as he/she remain married to the spouse,pay bills and fulfill all matrimonial duties . . .who cares abt what goes on outside while to some trust means for as long as i have not caught him/her . . .all is well.
Im signing in 100% faithful and trusting.

Do you think this is good enough? Will couples in this kinds of situation be truly happy with themselves? Can such wife say then that her hubby is faithful?

Godalone:

Signed

Good for you.

64 views, 4 responses. Is it so pathetic that we don't even want to talk about it, even here?

How wld u classify faithfulness and unfaithfulness? Do you consider flirting with another person as being unfaithful even though it is just what it is, flirting? what about admiring someone other than ur partner? is that also considered as unfaithful?
I'm married (8+ years) and i have admired other men, being the recipient of flirts from other men but that's as far as it went. No touching, hugging or anything of that sort. My husband is the same way. He finds it seriously amusing when other women flirt with him. Does this make me a faithful wife? In my book and in the eyes of my husband, yes! to others i might not be.

zayhal:

Good to hear. The way it's going is as if no man is spared, especially when you see those you hold in high esteem doing it.
You speak in parables. I don't quite understand you.

Do you think this is good enough? Will couples in this kinds of situation be truly happy with themselves? Can such wife say then that her hubby is faithful?
Good for you.

ZayhaL,Im not in a position to say or decide if its right or wrong.I wud say whatever works for any couple.
Personally though,i dont think that is good enough,atleast for me.
Psalm23 explained in detail what im trying to say,faithfulness and trust is soooo very relative,at the end of the day,each couple knows the standards they have set for themselves and understands the benchmark for what they define as trust or fidelty.The good old rules applies but probably not as rigid and static as before . . .for everyone.
I know what I and mine have defined as fidelity and trust,we are both 100% true to that.

'/'/

Is it ignorance, or a simple inability to accept the truth that make people automatically connect infidelity with men?
Research after research has consistently found out that the variances  between male and female infidelity rates are so close as to be negligible - between 3 -5%

In fact, looking at Nigeria in isolation, the variances would probably be closer.
Just doing a limited sample this year, ALL the married women i asked, confirmed that at least 95-97% of their married friends have indulged in extra marital affairs at some point or the other. To make matter worse, they all affirmed that extra-marital affairs was the only way they they could survive in their messed up marriages.

The issue is that the habit of infidelity starts much earlier before marriage. A women who cheats on her boyfriend will almost certainly cheat on her husband - given the right conditions; and vice versa. My simple research (though not scientific) has concluded that infidelity has become a habit in Nigeria and it is now seen as the norm amongst those who practice it.

A faithful husband for 30-years.

Timmi:

A faithful husband for 30-years.

Well done sir. You have certainly proved the point that I was trying to make in my first post.

I pray that my Husband and I will have a similar testimony when we reach our 30 year anniversary Amen.

chaircover:

@pslm23 & Ify both make a good points.

What may be considered unfaithfulness for couple "A" may not be a big deal for couple "B".

Lets also not forget that there is sexual and non-sexual unfaithfulness.

@Bolded so true.
Spouses pausing to think when they get to the next of kin line especially when it comes to money matter.People staying glued in marriage and enduring it just cos of the damned pre-nup(either they cant afford to lose out everything or they are actually saving to pay-up and be free ).Wheres the trust gone to

Timmi:

A faithful husband for 30-years.

wow wow wow
Congrats.

Signing in as a faithful boyfriend.

Signing in as an unfaithful hubby within 2 years of marriage, now faithful but not sure of tomorrow.

zayhal:

You speak in parables. I don't quite understand you.

My first line says it all.
I don't know any.
Not an important factor in my marriage.
Most men are not faithful boyfriends, so why expect them to be faithful husbands?
Women and their issues I tellya.

I am here. signed in.

Timmi:

A faithful husband for 30-years.

So happy for you. It takes the grace of God, you know. Congrats to your wife too.

Specialist900:

Signing in as a faithful boyfriend.

keep it at that, and maintain same in marriage. Perhaps we can make a better world.

kokoye:

I am here. signed in.

Good for you.

ping pong:

Signing in as an unfaithful hubby within 2 years of marriage, now faithful but not sure of tomorrow.

Poor woman. Hope you don't put her in trouble.

faithful wife for 7yrs, but been dealing with my hubby's infidelity, Am getting tired.

zayhal:

64 views, 4 responses. Is it so pathetic that we don't even want to talk about it, even here?

Just wondering why start a topic if you cannot give us 'your' own side of the story huh? 

Only 8 replies and 270 views. . . (not counting the other 'echos')

I guess it means trust can only be defined within the boundaries of 'fidelity' if one chooses to eh?

I already know what she can do. . . that does not constitute a 'breach' of trust. . . . and vice versa.

The marriage is solid.

chaircover:

Well done sir. You have certainly proved the point that I was trying to make in my first post.

I pray that my Husband and I will have a similar testimony when we reach our 30 year anniversary Amen.

You have to show me more respect then, cos av been faithful for more than 40yrs

@topic
Am a faithful guy. I flirt once in a while sha, but nothing more than admiring other beauties of nature.

taj:

faithful wife for 7yrs, but been dealing with my hubby's infidelity, Am getting tired.

See what I'm saying?

^^^
Have you been faithful or not?

Poor woman. Hope you don't put her in trouble.

I pray I dont

Nobody knows tomorrow or do you?

zayhal:

See what I'm saying?

what are you saying