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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by cpmconsultingltd: 5:23pm On Apr 04, 2020
THREE ANCIENT DEMONS THAT STILL OPERATES TODAY
Watch the video and stay alert.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDjiEBKyNZU
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by hustla(m): 5:24pm On Apr 04, 2020
Omo Ase marry Omo Ase
grin

Omo Ase Marry No Testing
grin

The day your wife tastes dck outside una marriage, your own don finish
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by okedoyinolabisi(f): 5:25pm On Apr 04, 2020
@ op, there's a condition called vaginismus, go check it out. Then there's this group on Facebook, "EXTRAORDINARY MUMS-SINGLE LADIES".... let her join, chat the admin and request to be added to the sex class for married women. The founder is an expert in matters like this. Good luck

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by scoundrel(f): 5:25pm On Apr 04, 2020
This is the last write-up I want to read from this writer. Whichever moderator purchased this story wasted money. Anyway, sha, I’m sure it wasn’t expensive.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Blessedone26: 5:26pm On Apr 04, 2020
OChimex:



You wrote this story stupidly and in the process, many people may not understand clearly what the problem is.
why not write responsibly ..


Thanks that you noticed that sir. If I did, some people who attended our wedding will know, I already even see known faces here on the thread. Not quite happy it's on FP cos she's definitely going to see it...

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by smokeyupu(m): 5:26pm On Apr 04, 2020
Hisroyalbadmeat:
Your wife is abnormal, undecided
Some ladies don't have a hole. Its a medical condition I read about a beautiful Kenyan whose issue was corrected recently...
Google the name
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by SavageResponse(m): 5:27pm On Apr 04, 2020
Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. cheesy ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land grin . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

No sex before marriage?

In this day and age?

Go and carry your cross alone!
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by okpanachil: 5:27pm On Apr 04, 2020
Blessedone26:



Thanks for this. I also read this last week via google. Trying to confirm to be sure as the thing done dey enter quarter now. A little above the head done dey enter now. Will confirm if this is the issue in days. Infact this is what I am currently working on... So much appreciate your input...
Bro, don't listen to all this teens telling you thrash about your wife especially those claim in your wife is cheating or lied to you about her virginity,you don't owe everybody a response. Keep at what what you at doing and you will be through in no time.
If you are already achieving a quarter then there is every chance that with a few more days you will go the whole mile. Trust me she knows that the position you are in Is not ideal and she is also worried about it but the seed of fear that was sown in her mind has completely overwhelmed her. Even when you gain access it will take a while for you both to begin to enjoy the act. Just keep at it gently,everyday a lil improvement and the flood gates will open soon.

I salute you for your patience.You are a great guy

In the future, these struggles will serve as a bank of memories for you two,you will both laugh at your naivety and inexperience,you will tease her and she will tease you.

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Bignoze109(m): 5:27pm On Apr 04, 2020
Donald3d:
lipsrsealed

I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering. wink

Wow!
This is beautiful,your wife should be really proud of you.

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by GadgetInstinct: 5:28pm On Apr 04, 2020
Lamanii22:




It must be in his local dialect lol... If he is Yoruba he might say it like "sir, a ma ri kini yen shey, a fi si, fi si, ko wo le oo"... Lol I don't know how else he might have told them...
this is funny

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by omenka1: 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2020
Op u sure say u don really sabi where to lodge ur instrument?
Hope say no be her navel u point am oo....just asking. Else the miracle u r waiting for will be like that of US waiting for the vaccine to covid-19
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Fimbas001: 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2020
@donald3d..thanks for this elaborate and educative method.

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by CHARLOE(m): 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2020
@op u're d cause, u were trying to penetrate d wrong hole for good 3months! U put her they thru
alot of pains, now she has developed phobia for sex. U're obviously a novice; don't use any lubricant apart from water, after romancing her, wet ur cap n her vagina with water, insert ur cap gently n start thrusting gently at first n harder later, you'll definitely break thru. Took me 3 days to finally disvirgin my wife after marriage. Keep trying, go to YouTube n watch videos

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by adanny01(m): 5:30pm On Apr 04, 2020
Blessedone26:
Hi nairalanders,

I dated my wife for close to 8 years without sex, we went to same school. Though the decision of no sex before marriage was mine. Cos I am a very addictive person, I never wanted to be addicted to sex during my undergraduate days. She later told me she was a virgin then which I never believed and I told her I am not interested in her being a virgin or not.

Fast forward to our wedding night last year, naxo amaria begin they cry my daddy, my daddy, lets do this thing nah, nah tears full bed. So I took her to see her dad the next day and both of them were crying like a baby.

We got back to our location, we made several attempts with no sex, we've seen different pharmacists, we but different lubricants, but a touch of "pola" on the honeypot area, she will start crying of pains, she's so scared to the extreme. Confession: It was after 3 months that we've been trying that I was even also able to recognise the location of virginal, I had been putting the thing in a wrong place initially. cheesy ....sorry, ain't a bookworm but a bit spirikoko

I reported her to her parents , they came, brought diiferent lubricants, still we weren't able to reach the promise land grin . Now we've decided to go the way of sedative drugs .

Is there any side effects to the drugs?

Do I have to get her to sign a paper cos women ain't predictable, that she won't start shouting emotional trauma in the future that her husband drugged her to have the first sex with her. We need kids mehn.

Thanks..

Oga, the only thing amusing here is the fact that you could not locate the hole, yea it happens.

I met a girl before who told me that he hole is down down even before I went for it. Trust me, such women must be willing, else nothing will happen. It possible wifey is like that.

Secondly, for easy access, do plenty of pre-intimacy and before attempt, use fingers to find and hole and excite her towards receiving the rod.

I have been unsuccessful before and I know how it feels.

Lastly, your wife maybe too frightened being a virgin and not used to it. Try porn but dont use any drug.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by optimus106(m): 5:30pm On Apr 04, 2020
Nonsense stories and smelling tales by moon light on Nairaland everytime.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Tripitaka: 5:30pm On Apr 04, 2020
kurlz:


I'm sure you understand me no mater the pun.

Seriously you can't imagine the pain.

Yea, I can't. I've never done it. Maybe when I do, I would be able to relate.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by flokii: 5:31pm On Apr 04, 2020
crafteck:


No matter how blocked, hennessy, club night, vaseline who be ok... People are looking from one direction though... We de look as if na d woman dey tight, what if the man thing na gbola..... Like don jazzy own....

You don't get it.. there are impenetrable women too (like you can't sleep with them). Some who know their condition don't even bother getting married cos there is no assurance they can conceive and give birth. So they stay single and happy.

It's just like the case of an impotent man (who knows he can't get erection) getting married to an innocemt lady under the guise of 'being a virgin' or 'no sex before marriage'. baba nla scam!
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by pmoye(m): 5:31pm On Apr 04, 2020
I admit that you have tried with your submission but I must say it is a little theoretical. I had encountered at least a case like the Op's, and it wasn't a funny experience.
Donald3d:
lipsrsealed

I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering. wink


Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Donald3d(m): 5:32pm On Apr 04, 2020
Blessedone26:





Bros, no vex, I didn't update the thread.


We are making progress. Atleast 50% during this quarantine period. She's now much more corporative since many people started asking her " how far". Thanks for your help sir.....
grin
Blessedone26:





Bros, no vex, I didn't update the thread.


We are making progress. Atleast 50% during this quarantine period. She's now much more corporative since many people started asking her " how far". Thanks for your help sir.....
smiley
I am glad you are making progress.
My own be say I wan chop naming rice wink

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by TruthSpeaker: 5:32pm On Apr 04, 2020
Donald3d:
lipsrsealed

I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering. wink



THE EXPERT HAS SAID IT ALL. IS THIS A CASE OF 2 VIRGINS TRYING TO GET DE-VIRGINED? INCLUDE A PORN VIDEO WHILE YOU IMPLEMENT ALL HE SAID.

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by fatima8855(m): 5:33pm On Apr 04, 2020
Bro pls visit hospital meet a doctor gynecologist ur problem will be solve inn shaa Allah . I know of a lady with the same problem the surgery was done at Jos university teaching hospital( juth)

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by arcFM(m): 5:33pm On Apr 04, 2020
Oga....u see ursef laik dis. I had to login to give a candid advice on pre-intimacy. You can't just insert pola in promise land. She can be too scared that you can hang along the line due to her fear. I'm not discarding sedative.... But, try this way first. pre-intimacy ....I CAN'T LECTURE YOU ON THIS ONE, BUT THAT'S THE ONLY THING THAT CAN RELAX THE PROMISE LAND....EVEN IF SHE'S STILL NEVER. THE LORD BE WITB YOU FAH.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by DukeNija(m): 5:33pm On Apr 04, 2020
Blessedone26:




Thanks for this masterpiece. Seriously we are both tired, I have tried atleast 85% of this... The fear she has is involuntary. Once attempt is being made, you will see that fear written all over her face. We just both decided yesterday that the way out is sedative drug. The objective is to give birth, make enjoyment dey him dey for now.

Don’t do this, you’ll be making a grave mistake.

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Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Peezzy(f): 5:34pm On Apr 04, 2020
Donald3d:
lipsrsealed

I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering. wink


Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:34pm On Apr 04, 2020
Mod should ban all related sex thread making front page, atleast during this trying time, ur major corcern is to survive this period not sex.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by arcFM(m): 5:35pm On Apr 04, 2020
4re-play SIMPLE
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Emmasnoop(m): 5:36pm On Apr 04, 2020
Watin concern fish and raincoat, we dey talk about coro you dey talk about sex, you want sex for grave abi.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by PattyMike(m): 5:37pm On Apr 04, 2020
The solution is one word, Alci alci alcoholuuuuu. You two should drink, it'll help her relax. You take gin or whisky, Vodka, any strong stuff. And for her buy something sweet like best cream, the small bottle, it's sweet and she won't know when she finishes it. But you two should just talk, laugh, play, talk about old time memories. The ultimate goal is to help her relax and get drunk. When she is drunk, she will feel free but don't drink too much yourself so you don't fall asleep or suffer a semi hard d***. When she is drunk and u know she is high, then u can proceed. Farabale (calm down) and remove all the pant, make sure u rock-hard and use ur lubricant shove(small small) the cover inside her ponmo and pour it there and apply on your poron too. Don't just apply it on ur John Thomas and expect the journey to be smooth, then spread her legs, set your waste up and let the momentum while u come down sink your pencil straight inside her sharpener. She will try to push you off, hence why i said hold her two legs seperated, be firm and strong but not rough. Pound away or gently go in and out ,but i suggest pounding since she drunk. Fire am like say she thief money for market. Deflowering is very difficult and stressful for a man and a younger woman not to talk of older one. Your p***k go Don peel like mad LMAO.
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by Millenniumlady(f): 5:37pm On Apr 04, 2020
LadyBeee:
Both of u re so dumb! Yuck
Why you do him greezy like that cheesy
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by jaxxy(m): 5:38pm On Apr 04, 2020
I don't understand this kind of matter ooo! Is it sex we are talking about or smtnelse?
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by pentsystems(m): 5:38pm On Apr 04, 2020
I have been in your shoes before with an older virgin .. The more older a woman gets the more painful it will for her .. I believe your dick is too big or you have a curve dick that is another complication itself .. all you need to do
Step 1 : fun play with her by kissing and sucking her boobs . Kiss and lick all the sensible part in her body

Step 2 : start by trying to insert a pencil or a finger inside her private part first you have to assure her first that all the pain only happens in a a second that once your finger is in that all pains will be gone you may need to hook her down while trying to insert your finger inside her no matter what don’t pity her and make sure you are fast enough to be successful in your first attempt of doing that never allow her tell you that your finger is so painful that she prefers your dick just tell her there is no logic there that since your finger cannot enter how possible will it be for something as hard and big as your dick to enter when your finger cannot enter .. when successful with that .. you try to stroke the part with your finger gently till she is very relaxed while you are stroking with her private part with a finger

Step 3 : when you notice she is well relaxed introduce a second finger inside her private part without telling her about it you will need to hook her down and make sure she does not overpower you into removing your fingers from inside her private part just shook it in and hook her even if she is crying don’t remove your finger you will feel that you tearing something while inserting your second finger just continue till the second finger is fully inside her then keep it inside her because if you remove it you have to start again from step 1 another day then start stroking deep with the 2 finger till she is comfortable with it .. you may need to introduce a third finger if you have a bigger or a curve dick .. after that remove your fingers make sure you don’t let her rest ..

Step 4 : Try using lubricant i recommend olive oil and not Vaseline on your dick then try inserting it into her private part I pray it goes in but if it does not tell her to come up and try inserting it herself definitely it will go in if you have done your finger job well .. Then you stroke her with your dick slowly and gently till you cum ..

Note : make sure you don’t put on ac and even if are using fan make sure you switch it to lowest .. because breeze dry some pussy faster making it more painful for her .. You can also give her alcohol maybe Best Cream drink or night train it will help her a lot to beat the fear..

Hope small boys no Dey here no be me teach una bad thing ooo
Re: We Have Not Been Able To Have Sex Yet After 7 Months Of Marriage by James4bright(m): 5:38pm On Apr 04, 2020
Mizwisdom:
fake story

Why are girls especially, so pained by this thread. If you aren't a virgin again, don't feel bad. It's no one's fault but yours.

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