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|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by sndk1(m): 8:21am On Mar 20, 2020|
Thank you. Most people have nauseating mindset.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Skmoda360(m): 8:48am On Mar 20, 2020|
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Every women are the same, the difference between pretty women and the average beauty is that they receive a lot more
attention and as a result tend to shy away from guys, one thing is that most of them are single because guys see them as already taken, but they have hearts too so they feel, they crush and they love and there are also stupid ones among them like we have among average beauty.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Fisher007: 8:51am On Mar 20, 2020|
Now, both old or young lady/women their love for you as a man is transactional, provisional and conditional. No matter what any body tell you that is the truth. She can never love you unconditionally. She can never give you the type of love your mind is telling you.
For instance, Some men claim Alpha get free sex or beta men provide to get sex. At the end of the day both are transactional. There is a condition to both case before she decides to sleep with either. You must have met one condition or provided which makes it a transaction.
Even broke guys who still get girls are good in bed or giving head or making her cum. Or you think all so called Alpha and beta guys can make a lady attain orgasm. Lol She will keep going back to the poor guy even though he has nothing apart from orgasm. That is still a condition that the poor guy is good at meeting . No matter how you put it.
Women's love for you is conditional, emotional or transactional. Simple.
Accept the truth and stop stressing yourselves.
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|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Skmoda360(m): 8:52am On Mar 20, 2020|
Merciful77:this must be Cayman Island English
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by spik007: 8:53am On Mar 20, 2020|
My oga no vex oooo, you DN take am personal...Relax hennn,we are all learning and sharing experience, we are not arguing or competing to win here.
But here is my one cent.
You have no self-worth that is why you resort to using money to buy affection
How has that got to do with what the initial discussion . The topic is Attractive women don't love anymore. You are mentioning buying affection with money, if you don marry hennn bros,don't spend on your wife be hoping she will love you for being broke.
You are an embodiment of the Nigerian problem. You have no self-worth
How has this got to do with the main topic we are discussing, imagine and you said you won two scholarships, you can't decipher between the main topic of the thread and trash that you're talking.
I just rounded up school, I come from a very comfortable family, plus I was on 2 scholarships
Who ask you question now, you are so quick to show off fake achievements,this na evidence of low self esteem
I had girls following me for a while (their attraction window was averaging 3 months), I kept one girlfriend (biggest mistake), at some point they would offer to finance my personal endeavors and I would turn it down, I will feign ignorance of sexual interest because I had a focus of what I wanted.
This one na big lie, ,it's obvious guys like you worship gorgeous ladies. He dey lie say e dey turn down personal endeavours...see brother wey Mumu, na who u dey lie to sef....
rather used my little money for self development, investing in God's work, honouring my parents (they don't need my money, but its a key principle to honour our parents) and helping my guys out in my little way.
Bros,the money is not enough for you to spend on yourself not too talk of spending on women. You were only acting rational by spending the money on your self.
Don't lie here that you are sending money to your parents,you don't need to tell us, every responsible Nigeria man knows the right thing to do to their parents when they've started earning money.
Guys like you can't spend a dime on male friends,you will secretly spend it on a woman.
Everything you type here are all lies....no dey form one thing one thing for here,nobodys interested...
The guy went to post from his other nairaland account, just because you want to prove a point.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by marvinsync(m): 9:04am On Mar 20, 2020|
that is why we date college girls, still young and fresh
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by drnoel: 9:05am On Mar 20, 2020|
No vex, that has nothing to do with beauty but the lady's personality. Not every woman wants to stay under a man and society has always being cruel to single ladies.
I know many beautiful women that are married and staying with their husbands e.g Regina Askia, Stefanie Okereke, Chimamanda and my wifey to name a few.
We men should desist from stereotyping women cos we are usually wrong about them just like they are wrong about us.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by spik007: 9:05am On Mar 20, 2020|
You sha dey shout,I'm not your mate up and down...bros go sleep abeg
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 9:31am On Mar 20, 2020|
Yeah I understand, you have a point because I didn't conclude that they are all the same. I just spoke based on what I have noticed in the present Nigeria. To even support your theory, my mother who is very beautiful married my father when he was poor, it took him some time to make it in life and she stayed with him all through thick and thin, that was then... Even my mother still used to tell us that she had rich suitors then but she chose our father, whereas beautiful ladies like Bianca got married to very rich men like Ojukwu back then and more like that, which my mother often made reference to. I'm not saying all beautiful ladies are the same but I'm very sure many of them just want to be bought, many of them will use their beauties to try to get very rich men, it might not be green as they thought it would be eventually tho..
Why will a fine young girl like Regina Daniel marry Ned?.. We have heard on several occasions that Caroline Danjuma's husband has been cheating on her yet she stays, would she stay if he was an average man? Many of them(not all) prefer to be bought my brother. They might not want to admit to it tho. You're very lucky to have a wife as yours, such women are rare these days.. it is just what it is.
I met a girl recently through a friend, she feels she's beautiful, when we were talking abt marriage and all, she was like "If I don't marry into wealth, I'll make my own money and try as much as I can to be wealthy". Imagine that...
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by drnoel: 9:43am On Mar 20, 2020|
I don't need to imagine Ur last statement. It's a popular mindset in Nigeria. I think cos the few people that have little cash rob it in the faces of the rest and we know how many of the very rich treat the others with scorn. U don't have to take my word for it.
I remember a note my madam showed me from one of her suitors years back, this was before I wedded her.
The note said something about how the author was pained to hear she was wedding and how she couldn't wait for her real love to make money and marry her
I almost died laughing, not about the author's pain but the situation playing out itself. That is how life is.
Or another issue where another guy was outside her window singing I will always love u with her name and all. Beautiful women always see shit like that. I can understand why they tend to become woody and unfeeling after a time. But that doesn't mean one can't press their mumu-button.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 9:43am On Mar 20, 2020|
Exactly. Wa gbayi.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 9:53am On Mar 20, 2020|
Bro, you are lucky to have your woman and I know some men will also be lucky to marry beautiful ladies not driven by wealth but true love and potentials they see in their men.
I'm not saying it happens everywhere in the world tho because we have seen situations where rich beautiful ladies like Mariah Carey married an average Nick Cannon, Jennifer Lopez never married for money, most beautiful Hollywood actresses married their peers in the industry.
Nigeria is just a different ball game and many beautiful women think differently.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by drnoel: 10:01am On Mar 20, 2020|
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 10:05am On Mar 20, 2020|
Thank you o my brother, you hit the nail. You said it how it is. Beautiful girls will always go for rich guys, the sooner ppl realize this, the better, it's all connected. Everyone should work harder because that is how things are in this present world, in fact it has been happening for a very long time, this is Nigeria. Though there would be few exceptional ones that would marry average men because rich men aren't in abundance too.. You are correct. It is what it is.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 10:12am On Mar 20, 2020|
You are right. I already said it a long time ago that romance is dead in Nigeria. Especially for a struggling guy.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 10:19am On Mar 20, 2020|
Bro, you are reasoning like a normal human being should but it is not the reality of things in Nigeria anymore. Many beautiful ladies won't follow just an average Joe in this country. Everyone is supposed to date and marry who they truly love irrespective of the other's financial status, that is how it is suppose to be, but in Nigeria what spik007 is saying is the REALITY. There are few exceptional cases tho.. Sad but it is what it is.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Skepticus: 10:30am On Mar 20, 2020|
I was about to say this too.
Mannazgee, women are highly incapable of loving and expected to be loved back. Irrespective of whatever bullshît, the popular media and girls love to say, their attraction to men is conditional.
Only men are capable of showing love.
As for attractive women being cold to love, they are only keeping their options open trying to pick the best mate to fuel their vanity. It's called Hypergamy.
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|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Nobody: 10:32am On Mar 20, 2020|
It is not heartbreak that makes them to dominate men. It is men's behaviour. By the time a woman; especially one seen by her peers as attractive; has graduated high school, the number of dumb untrained simps who have grovelled before her, wept for her attention and stolen money from their father's pocket to buy her flowers are so many that she gets a hugely overblown idea of her own worth. Unfortunately, she will also tend to hold the belief that the unrealistic value she places on herself lasts forever. By the time reality hits her, she will first desperately try to hold on to the beauty which she believed gave her value; having neglected to nurture more lasting and valued qualities; before running from pillar to post in the quest for just any male to 'manage'. If she fails in the last step as well, that is when she starts subscribing to feminist ideologies and starts telling herself that she is happy to be 'single and successful', and that men are slimy beasts anyway.
For clarification, step one is arrogant misuse of her body, step 2 is photoshop, heavy make up and cosmetic surgery; step 3 is paying pastor to see dreams about brother x and brother y proposing to her, step 4 is joining the feminist bandwagon to make herself feel better about not having secured a man. And the way to emancipation of women from this path of self destruction is to stop treating them like angelic queens just because you want to get into their pants.
And for those men who slide into women's DM to praise them, you are part of the problem.
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|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Nobody: 10:45am On Mar 20, 2020|
RisenPhoenix:Lol,they bolded got me..
You never see most radical feminists looking fresh and attractive. Nkechi bianze(a blob) and Solomon buchi(a dwarf mangina who wears three t-shirts , a fedora hat and eat his parents food at 24).
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Nobody: 10:51am On Mar 20, 2020|
There are young feminists, but their own feminism is the copy-cat chinko version and they will not hesitate to dump all their ideals once they hook a productive man that will put them in a mansion with a jacuzzi.
The old cougars who have to pay someone without class to sleep with them are the real feminists.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Fisher007: 10:54am On Mar 20, 2020|
Hypergamy is the order of the day.
Now let me burst your head. Firstly a woman's love is conditional, provisional and transactional. The more young guys understand this the less heart break they will get.
Now, Older experienced pretty ladies from age 25-35 upwards can never lover you. They have seen it all. They are alpha widows. They have dated guys way far above your level or paygrades. Especially the pretty ones, do you know how men flatter then with gifts , phones , money all in the hope of getting into their panties from an early age ( some as far as age 16 yrs).
For instance alpha guys that understands her love is transactional, they will pay her tickets, trips etc. To anywhere because they know it is a transaction. In her mind at that age she is catching feeling and thinking they are making her feel special. They will eventually get the only thing she can offer them ( pvssy). They will use her then stylishly push her back to the road. And this will continue for her on a long run because she will keep changing and branching from one man to another. Instead of her to work on her life and financial freedom. She will keep getting used up and down.
After all that alpha experience from age 18-25 with different men do you think a pretty lady can really love you. She will just use you as a retirement plan. You will take her at the end of her peak years with lot of emotional truama and baggages from the old relationship. You will be her Adam after several time spent with the serpent.
Wish the OP luck in finding love from an Old experienced pretty lady.
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|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Nobody: 11:01am On Mar 20, 2020|
RisenPhoenix:I pity the young ones taking counsel from the old ones . They give vague hope to them because they have lost their chances. People mostly opt for movements that makes up for their excesses.
If dangote son proposed to all the radical feminists on the condition they submit to him,will they decline? No!
Money is the true test of a feminist,it is what you use to sieve out wannabe feminists from the real ones
That is how one hypocrite @sainntmary was talking about men being providers after declaring herself as a feminist.
Now the trending excuse for feminists are "feminism isn't about dropping gender roles,I am a feminists I still love men to take care of me,it doesn't stop me from being one..."
I however believe the younger feminists are more genuine because they have no experience and have not seen life. They create an utopia world in their mind,"I go to school,become a doctor,be popular,with no man beside me,I will be the boss lady,and marry a man that adores me" ,it is when they get older and experience reality they dilute their own feminism with "there is nothing wrong with a man being the head if it is mutually agreed on by the couple"
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|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Nobody: 11:11am On Mar 20, 2020|
Tell her again, sir
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 11:12am On Mar 20, 2020|
franchasng your opinion is needed here.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Nobody: 11:17am On Mar 20, 2020|
Fisher007:depend on her age. Naive young girls can love(I am speaking from experience). I know young of girls in the university that overflate school fees to give their broke lovers,they live with him,cook for him with their money,give him sex,wash his dresses,clean his house ,commit several abortions for him and damage their rectum due to excessive anal sex. It is after their first heartbreak they don't love .
ladies this age range are aiming for the rich responsible guys because they gave their virginity to rogues and hoodlums. They want to make up for the days of giving free sex and cheap sex to street urchins so they aim for the best now.
Alphas don't pay for sex
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 11:20am On Mar 20, 2020|
You are correct, I have always said all this. You just narrated the tales of failed beautiful women, they got carried away and reality came back to hunt them. Notwithstanding some beautiful ladies get married to rich men they crave for but sadly rich men aren't in abundance in the country, some will never get any rich man till they die.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Fisher007: 11:27am On Mar 20, 2020|
Hmm Alpha don't pay for sex directly, but they please women financial. Now i mean expensive date, trips and shopping. They take ladies out on treats and make them feel special to the extent the ladies become delusional. They mess with ladies emotion and play the game well. Except the alpha you are talking about his broke or a Bleep guy.
I have noticed most people confuse alpha males for fvck boys. A true Alpha is an alpha in most areas of life. Financially, mentally, business wise and successful. Spending money to make a lady feel right and happy ain't a problem to him.
But if the Alpha you are talking is a broke one or stingy one. Oga he is a broke guy or fvck boy simple.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Budline1(m): 11:29am On Mar 20, 2020|
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Fisher007: 11:31am On Mar 20, 2020|
You hit the nail hard on the head. I must admit, I learnt something new from this your comment.
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Skepticus: 11:33am On Mar 20, 2020|
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by Jim99: 12:00pm On Mar 20, 2020|
Same with rich guys or attractive guys.
Only broke or ugly women/men love unconditionally
|Re: Attractive Women Don't Love Anymore. by franchasng: 12:11pm On Mar 20, 2020|
Attractive ladies love but if and only if you are financially buoyant.....attractive ladies don't usually care about a man's handsome look because its useless to them....you know women love attention and hate competition, so attractive ladies love all the attention to be on them and them alone, and for this, naturally without knowing, they are naturally not attracted to handsome guys or men.......they are mostly pissed off or turned off by a handsome looking guy.....what usually turns them on in a man is his ability to provide all or most of their fantasy needs, care for them, pamper them and help them get all the attention they crave for from both male and fellow women.
So if you are struggling financially or haven't made it big enough, you will find it difficult to get a mature attractive lady to fall truly in *romantic love* for you.....the younger ones with less heartbreaks can fall deeply in love for you regardless of your financial standing, but the ones above 22yrs and mostly above 25yrs are more keen to falling in love with mature men who are financially well to do and are able to give them their fantasy life desires, if not, they will just be there for being there.
My wife is more than a beautiful woman, in fact, she be mami iwota and yet she is head over heels in love with me that I fear if I fuckup like the devil in me keep pushing me to, na suicide oh , and me no even trust myself not to fuckup, kai this life, e no easy for men walai
But generally, ladies stop loving after like 3 heartbreaks or failed relationships, which happens mostly from age 25yrs and above, and most of them now marry for marrying sake....while very few religious and good hearted ones try to love their horseband small for humanity sake.....but in general, sexually active pretty or ugly or average-looking ladies stop loving after like 3 - 5 heartbreaks and failed relationships......some keep loving, but very few of them do.
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