I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

Ashawo na money you pursue, now u dey find prick

You don't have good prick that'd why you craving for your ex. Inbox me joor.

It may be that the relationship ended without u getting closure, u know sometimes wen someone hurt us we will just cut them off completely without taking time to listen to the person thinking that it will work out fine in the end, that’s y it’s not good to jump into a serious relationship immediately after a breakup, fling is good but not a serious relationship because wen u are calm n no longer hurting that much u might want to reach out to that person for closure but now that u are already married it’s impossible to do that, now ur husband will suffer emotionally because of something he knows nothing about. A time will come during love making that u will mistakenly call the name of ur x.

Kill Him

You thought you could abandon your boyfriend just because of money, now the guilt is hunting you.

You know you never loved your husband but was just carried away because he has made it.
Or are you telling me that you loved your husband at the same time you loved your boyfriend (now ex)?

Metcheww

The ex probably did Remember Me Jazz on you

Women get problem o!!

Egungun be careful na Express you dey go!

I no go talk more than that

For people that don't want to read all that, let me give you a summary.

It's the same story with all gold diggers.
They marry for money
Then start craving for their past more attractive or better in bed ex.

You can now advice her.

Thank you.

shits happens in life. I was in a distant relationship for 5years,I remember there was a time we broke up and anytime I hang out with another guy,while the guy is sitting, drinking and trying to engage me in a discussion, my mind will be somewhere imagining that's its my ex that sat before me,so we just had to adjust and come together.
You mistook money for love,you can also choose to 4get your ex and move on,everything is in your hands. Tell that little mind of yours that your are married already, just move on.

At least your husband doesn't know .Keep it that way. Let the feeling remain inside of you

I know a guy whose girlfriend constantly taunts him with her ex doing this, ex supports her with money, ex is taking her out on a date, and stuffs like that. Everything he had planned for the lady he has cancelled. Plus car o.
So bottle up that feeling. Hopefully it will dissipate someday.

Oh no!!!! Brace yourself...the “virgin is the best” crew and “oloshooooo” gang are coming for u

Try and sleepover at your Ex place once , you have missed what you are craving for ni, You will be fine


Women sha!!

Stupid girl

SweetCunt97:
The ex probably did Remember Me Jazz on you

Lol.....
No one jazzed her jare, that’s what u get when u have sampled another d!ck(s) before “settling down”.......

Adesucess1, this is normal, it happens to guys aswell especially if u broke up with ur ex with no hard feelings....if you focus on ur husband, build new memories and learn to be contended....u’ll be fine last last

I don't have a practical advice to give, but you should know this, you need to, BY ALL MEANS get rid of this feeling. Your husband seems like a rational and emotional person, hence he had to make you reaffirm your love for him. He knows the seriousness of marriage, and wouldn't want you two to come apart at that stage. Now you're married, and this is happening, do you know the level of damage you'll cause for that man if he discovers this? So please, do all you can to curb this feeling.

SMH...
Now... there's something some of us don't understand and that is the difference between lust and love.
Lust is an erotic feeling or desire of sex for someone. which is what you feel for your ex reason he comes to mind whenever your hubby is making out with you and this is prolly because your ex knows how to handle you better in bed hence making you miss that aspect of him and not him as a person.

True Love is not erotic, not lustful but a commitment and determination to care, protect and be with someone unconditionally and despite their short comings and weaknesses. whether they are handsome, beautiful, rich or poor. And most of us lack this kind of love reason it is easy to break up, divorce or remember an ex at the slightest offence or mistake.
The earlier we understand this things the better our marriages and relationships will be.

Now, if you understood what true love means, that is...you were committed and determined to be with and care for him as a person despite all odds, it will be difficult for you to remember your ex because you made a decision to be with your hubby, good or bad. But I think your case was like one who was excited that she got herself a man after a breakup. So you went into the marriage with excitement which is short lived and not with true love. Now the excitement is worn out, nothing to fall back on cos you never took time to build/create a solid base for sustenance and now you're missing your ex.

My only advice, pray that God should help you to build the love you need to sustain your marriage and see your husband in a new light everyday. Try it, it works.

It is normal. That is how all women who marry as non virgins behave. Nothing you can do.


Aww I can't leave you with this problem without proferring a solution. Look, just go with the flow and don't get caught. If you start sleeping raw with your ex, make sure your husband doesn't think of DNA testing by connecting DNA test to mistrust and lack of love on his part and telling him that a real man would never do such. Make sure you delete all your whatsapp messages with your ex, but keep the rest. Don't ever forget to go to the whatsapp folder on your device to delete the media (to get rid of the nudes) and the archives/backup afterwards. Start coming home later with genuine confirmable excuses from now, so that he will believe you when you use those excuses for your rendezvous with your ex later. Above all, avoid doing anything together within your locality or in public, if you're going to meet, for heaven's sake don't go shopping together in shoprite.

That is a brief summary of the married woman's guide to still be in love with her ex.

IamDavids:
Women get problem o!!

Egungun be careful na Express you dey go!

I no go talk more than that

so make egungun no kon jam trailer?

I love myself so much I can’t even love another person that much so go figure I’m safe lmao

There is actually nothing serious wrong with you, it's basically human psychology.

It's not just possible to just forget someone you had memories with, you have had sex with your ex on several occasions with different styles and this pictures are still in your head. And I'm sure you had exciting memories with your ex and don't expect to forget all this in a hurry.

You just met your husband and memories fade with time and you also replace old memories with new memories. So concentrate your mind on creating memories with your husband.

The fact that you think of your ex doesn't mean you love him or he was a perfect partner for you, it's just human psychology playing out.

That's why it's advisable for ladies or men to try their best to have fewer partner before marriage because the more partners you have, the more memories you will have that will interfere with your love and acceptance of your husband.


Don't worry, time will heal you but don't make the mistake of going back to your ex for anything.

I pray God save your marriage

Adesucess1:
I met the man i married 2 years ago, it was like a joke, we started like a friend, i never knew we could even be together because he was always to joffier, he was a cool headed man, he is caring and loving and he is also very rich, though his money is not what i was looking for, i was looking for true love and what truly felt them was love.

He always say to me that he loves me and use to ask me that if am not in love with him, i should let him know that breaking a courtship is better than breaking a marriage. I dont even know maybe something was truly wrong with me then because i told him i do love him too, truly, i thought i did, because as at then, i dont usually remember my ex boyfriend, he was the only in my heart, so, i felt i love him.

Now, we are in the marriage, but the thought of my ex boyfriend keeps coming to the extend that when we make love, i always remember my ex boyfriend. i just dont understand all this, i had to reflect in my past that how did we started i remember that i had forgotten my ex boyfriend, now am so confused how his thought started coming again, and this bitters my heart.

My conscience is beginning to hunt me, i never knew i still love my ex until i got married, i dont want to hurt my man and i want to protect my marriage but all i use to remember is my ex and is affecting the marriage, its not as if my ex boyfriend called me, all these just started of a sudden, am so tired of all these nonsense . Please what should i do? I need serious help?

dis evening newspapers are always confused, reason y virgin is d best for marriage

You need to find closure. Try and forget your Ex. He is past. You must learn to deal with it. It a price for being flirtatious or promiscuous, whichever describes that attitude!
When them tell una no sex before marriage, una go say na old school method be that. Now, the other pie you tested makes the whole difference. Something you don't know does not hurt. Man made problems solve by humans. Adults decisions, adult consequences. Do I pity you? Not really. I just want to you deal with the errors you created in time too, and be the better for it. Good luck.

kestolove95:
Stupid girl

why call her stupid? let us hear your counsel

Katier00:
why call her stupid? let us hear your counsel

u having dsame feelings like d op? Chai!! Woman!!!

Easybela:
shits happens in life. I was in a distant relationship for 5years,I remember there was a time we broke up and anytime I hang out with another guy,while the guy is sitting, drinking and trying to engage me in a discussion, my mind will be somewhere imagining that's its my ex that sat before me,so we just had to adjust and come together.
You mistook money for love,you can also choose to 4get your ex and move on,everything is in your hands. Tell that little mind of yours that your are married already, just move on.

if u won't be shy make ur husband ur ex and kill ur ex in ur mind, assume he died in ghastly motor accident, something like the pic below, then
make your husband the porn star u admire in ur ex.

Administration1:
Ashawo na money you pursue, now u dey find prick

Is like she no hear. tell her again
Ashowo

this story and epistles would have being avoided if you had remained a virgin till you married your husband. God is wise telling us to avoid sex outside marriage.

zexy2030:

if u won't be shy make ur husband ur ex and kill ur ex in ur mind, assume he died in ghastly motor accident.
make your husband the porn star u admire in ur ex.

Gawd, this guy is mean. No be any how accident oo but a ghastly motor accident.. I swear u gat no chill at all I wan laugh scatter

PerfectMaster:
this story and epistles would have being avoided if you had remained a virgin till you married your husband. God is wise telling us to avoid sex outside marriage.

can somebori tell this guy to just go and sleep. instead of this nonsense just go and masturbate

Simply put, his money attracted you to him in the first place.

Now that you're married, you think about your ex even when making love with your man thinking the former would satisfy you better if you were still with him.

Wicked world.

What are things you are remembering that your ex boyfriend for?